I Am a Marriageable Type

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My Third Marriage...from The Wedding album.
My Third Marriage...from The Wedding album.

Marriage information


My three marriages.

Following are some basic information about my three marriages; these include the dates or years that I was/am into it, my age, the life span or the length of time that such marriages existed/exist, the fruit of such marriages or the personal growth and advancements that such certain marriage attributed to me, my rating or evaluation of such marriage in a scale of 10 in which 10 is a perfect marriage while 0 is horrible marriage, and last but not least, the nature of dissolution or how the marriage ended.

Rating or evaluation here is based on my perception concerning my partner's (in the given period) love or emotional attachment with me.


Date/Years: My age: Life span: Fruit of such marriage: Rating Nature of dissolution


First marriage; 1975-1993: 20-38: 18 yrs.: 2 children/education/employment: 10: Separation


Second marriage; 1993-2003: 38-48: 10yrs.: Business skills/maturity in life: 10: Death


Third marriage; 2005-present: 56 to forever: a dream for now :10: xxxxxxx



First Marriage. It would have been perfect if not for...

A perfect family of four...
A perfect family of four...

My first marriage would have been perfect if...


My over-all evaluation for my first marriage.

Love and security

In terms of love or emotional relationship and security with my first husband, I had no doubt that he loved me 100%. His love for me though, was not enough to change his natural inclination for cheap women...

Love is different from his nature. He was a weakling when it comes to women, especially promiscuous women. He did everything to keep me from knowing what he had been doing at my back, in his absence. He had chosen a "mysterious business" that would make him spend most of his time away from me so that he will have freedom to flirt and make every available woman pregnant, a mistress, sex partners in all the time that he was away. He led a double standard life.


He was perfect as far as our family was concerned.

I was innocent in all his activities with other women because he was a perfect husband to me and a perfect father to our children; very loving and caring to the details of our concerns; perfectly attentive to our needs; very accommodating as to spending a week of family vacation in many places wherein we tag along our children into expensive hotels, beautiful scenery of the country, shopping spree together in malls, visiting relatives and giving away gifts to them, attending a week-long of religious conferences to a far away venue with our children in-tacked with us, because our family received recognitions and awards for being top in charity donations; grand birthday celebrations for our children which would run for a week and killing pigs, chicken, goats, etc. in these occasions for visiting pastors, church workers, missionaries, etc., from far away places who attended and who had partaken all the bounties we offered for our children's' birthday parties;he was a perfect provider, very generous not only to his own family but also to every one; he was very kind, very considerate, very logical, with very high spirituality having strong religious faith; name all the perfect personality, he was my husband, I married a "perfect" husband.


Who was he?

He was 13 years older than me; he was a secret national figure; an expert government upscale and high caliber secret agent; a top goon to top politicians in the national level,no less than the President himself and the senators at the time, sought him for strategic political plans and implementation; he was an extraordinarily successful businessman; very sociable, having a high level leadership quality; his word was law having such authoritative yet kind personality traits, such admirable and extraordinary personal qualities that any wife could be proud of. He was very active leader, adviser, consultant in any social functions where our family was a member such as the church, the associations of Pastors and missionaries. I was his wife and everyone in our social environment would feel and think that I was a very lucky wife and we were a lucky family. He was a major and regular donor to religious cause of his choice, to charity, to scholarship grants and many more social organizations.


The Dark Secret

But he had a dark secret; something that he kept from me until I accidentally found those "mission orders" direct from the Palace of no less than the President of the country. Long before we met (our meeting is another traumatic experience for me and a shocking story), he was a convicted national level top "Notorious Criminal" of all types; homicide, murder, big time bank robbery, gangsters leadership, etc until his capture and conviction; his days were numbered in the death row if not for the President of the country who got interested in him and uprooted him from the sure death. The President took him out from the death row and used him instead to be his trigger man to murder and massacre his political opponents. I intentionally withdraw names here because this is a delicate national issue.


Our eighteen years of seemingly perfect marriage to a perfect husband tumbled down because of prolonged and too much freedom

We were married for 18 years; it was bittersweet only because he was always absent from the family...spending at least two weeks away from home and staying for a couple of days then off again in his "business". The only good thing for me in this situation was that I accumulated my education as a scholar in MSU-IIT ( a state university) earning to myself three Master's degrees and then my job in the Philippine National Bank, a Lecturer in National Steel Corporation, and later as a Permanent Public High School Teacher.

I actually never had internalized my marriage or wifely responsibilities because I always had four or more housemaids to do house chores, nannies, and servants to even attend to my personal cares.

I left him secretly, taking along our two teen-age children when he would, consistently,not come home for extended periods such as three to six months. I would be the last person to know that he was keeping more than one mistresses, two of whom were pregnant of his bastards; the two women would almost kill each other to claim ownership of him.

Wise as he may thought especially in blocking me from any information of his loathsome womanizing, his secrets would find its way to my knowledge...a shocking knowledge to bear.

My second marriage

Marriage and business
Marriage and business

My second marriage,


Married to a foreigner

My first husband was not home when my two teen-age children and I left our house; we took the airplane going to the north.

I was 38 years old. My fiance, who had been my New Zealand-Australian pen pal for two years, met us in the airport in Manila. He then took us to join him in Angeles City. He was among the sixteen Australian shareholders who pooled together their resources to invest in three hotels in Angeles City. He was the Managing Director in the Australian Company to run the hotel business in the Philippines.

I became the Managing Director in the Philippine Corporation for the Australian Company. I am an Academician and this was the first time I was exposed to the real world of business...administering not only the hotel business itself but also the diversified cultures of those people surrounding the nature of the business, both as employees and clients at the same time.

Yet despite my duties and responsibilities in the business, I continued to teach in the academe where, within that marriage period I also became the first Dean in the BSBA Department in SPCC (Systems Plus Computer College).

Those were busy years not only for me but also for my children. My son married at age 18, suffered some financial setbacks but through constant guidance he became successful in his business as a computer analyst. My daughter was able to finish a degree and eventually married another professional.

I have had lots of temptations, given the condition of my position and more so that my late second husband was 26 years older than me...but I got integrity that is stronger than any idiotic flirty mentality. My husband died in my arms at the age of 81, and I was 48.


Third marriage.

Wedding day, October 5, 2011; with my colleagues and family as witnesses.
Wedding day, October 5, 2011; with my colleagues and family as witnesses.

Marriageable type


Still married, my last

I was 48 when my second husband died in 2003, April. From that time I never had thought that I would marry again. Flirting is not one of my priorities; promiscuity cannot enter my very high moral values. But I don't run short of suitors and offers of marriage. I don't marry for the sake of marriage. I don't make sex the top issue of my needs; there are much better and enjoyable things in life than subjecting myself to meaningless relationships. I don't belong to the least fortunate types of female personalities; I am aware of my wholesome qualities...sincerity, chaste, beauty, brain, noble profession, to mention a few.

I am not young but I got youthful looks and dispositions; yet it's no big deal for me...I just enjoy my successes in education, friends and colleagues, job, and most of all, my children and family.

Yet, deep in me I knew what I needed; I am a marriageable type of a woman...no, not motherly, nor sisterly...I mean marriageable; more on the romantic side rather than on the battered-prone personality. Age, after all is not a hindrance for me...After 8 years of being a widow, I married again...something I never thought could really happen, but surely did as I am now the happiest wife of my new husband...happiest in my own terms of happiness...regardless of anything else.

My husband and I married last year; I was 56, he was 54 and I can say he is my perfect match....Seriously.

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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Hi Globetrekkermel,

You're right Globe...I have 100% faith in love and this the very reason why love sticks with me, no matter what the circumstances.

Thanks for the inspiring comment and for dropping by. God Bless...or shall I say "Love" Bless.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Hi Globetrekkermel,

You're right Globe...I have 100% faith in love and this the very reason why love sticks with me, no matter what the circumstances.

Thanks for the inspiring comment and for dropping by. God Bless...or shall I say "Love" Bless.


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Globetrekkermel 3 years ago from CALIFORNIA

,Jynszly,Nice recount of what happens in a marriage.Even nicer that you have not been jaded by the circumstances of your marriages and inspite of it all, you have retained your faith in love. More power to you and good luck! as they say,better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.Love still makes to world go round, isn't it?


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Norma Teddy ,

I am not sure what to say about your story as I would never plead and beg for a lover who replace me for another. If such would happen to me, I will let go of him and bless him.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Norma Teddy ,

I am not sure what to say about your story as I would never plead and beg for a lover who replace me for another. If such would happen to me, I will let go of him and bless him.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

yssubramanyam,

Hmmm...maybe.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Escobana,

Actually I don't understand why I have to write a "reply" after I had written in a comment. It seems like I have a "double" in my account.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Escobana,

I am trying to see if I can find those steps. Actually I don't even know how to get paid here. I tried once but I got this phobia; I might get hacked again, if not yet, if I push harder; I don't want to lose Hubpages. I want it here regardless of some confusing situations here.


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yssubramanyam 4 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

Never suspect partner. always be honest to each other avoid cheating or dodging. do not argue, never discuss problems on dining table and bed room. be truthful. lead a life of heaven.


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia

That's so great of you! Facebook and Twitter is a past stage for me but I know it can attract a lot of readers.

Great of you to share my Hub up there. The linking part is really easy but I did have to find my way through Hubpages as well.

Don't worry...you'll get there step by step:-)

Love Escobana


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Escobana,

I read your hub and like it in facebook also twitted it...

It's a shame I don't know how to link...thank you for linking my hub and I so like to to link you too if only I know how to do it. I had not done it yet. Once Ilearn how to do it, I will linkyou and Lady_E.


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia

Dear Jynzly,

Isn't it wonderful to find beautiful spirits like Lady_E in this world of good writers?

I found your story exactly the accumulation of what you became in the end. A strong woman, capable of standing her ground.

I wish you only happiness!

I linked your Hub to mine as a reaction to our discussion in Lady_E's Hub. I enjoyed the discussion very much since it was a very respectful one. Thank you so much for that!

http://escobana.hubpages.com/hub/When-the-Older-Me...

If you'd like to, you can link my Hub to yours too:-)

Best wishes to you:-) Escobana


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Lady_E,

Thanks again for your encouraging words...I always appreciate heartily your visit to my hubs.

Yes, you actually inspired me to write this particular hub. Your questions are actually sensible and thought-provoking that they lead me to remember those past that should have been left untouched;but I realize that remembering what I had been and had been through actually helps me to see where I am now and what I can be, do, and have in the future. I am in my now because of where I had been. I am an accumulation of what I had been through; I am just following my own pathway in life while I am also directing myself as I follow through.

My basic principle in life is..."Be true to yourself." Nobody else can live my life for me.

Thank you once again and may God bless you as well.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK

Hello Jynzly, this is such a touching read. I know why you wrote the Hub and I feel that you put your heart and soul into your relationships and other things. It's a pity you seperated from your first husband BUT the beautiful thing is, you have 2 lovely kids from that marriage.

You must have been through a lot in life, but I am so happy for you that you are settled again. It pays to wait and not have "meaningless relationships" as you noted. That actually is one secret that makes women look younger than their age.

Thanks for sharing this intimate part of your life. I admire you for that and wish you lots of Happy Marriage Anniversaries to come.

Best Wishes. xx

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