How to get a life of your own separate from your relationship with your partner, spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend
Do you think you may be losing yourself in your relationship? Are you more concerned about your partner’s life than you are about yours? Constantly worrying about their thoughts, whereabouts and what makes them happy without necessarily it making you happy? If so, than it may be time to put the focus back on you and find positive ways of building a life of your own.
The reasons why you need to put the focus on your life, is that sooner or later you might become resentful toward your partner, you will start experiencing feelings of depression because you are not feeling fulfilled within yourself, and eventually your relationship will suffer and more importantly so will you.
5 ways to live life for you!
Here are 5 ways that can help you to begin the process of living life for you.
1- Put some healthy space between you and your significant other.
2- Do not isolate. Re-establish your relationships with your friends and family, you probably have lost touch since becoming consumed with your significant other.
3- Get involved in activities that will empower you such as taking a class on a subject that interest you, exercising (join a gym), volunteer for a good cause. Finding a hobby also helps a great deal, try crafting or painting.
4- Find some quiet time to do some soul searching, meditating, and perhaps even a journal.
5- If you are caught in the grips of confusion and find it difficult to implement positive behaviors in your life, it may help to speak with a trained therapist or maybe even consider joining a support group.
Who we are
It is important to have a healthy life of your own separate from the life with your partner. Along with the interest and common ground you have with your mate, an individual should also have there own thoughts, likes, dislikes, interest, values, opinions, etc. It’s what makes us who we are and helps build our self esteem.
Our individual traits bring to the table the other part of what makes a relationship a whole. Allowing us to learn from one another and be amazed while at the same time being fulfilled with who we are as one.
Not into each others keeping
“Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each others keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each others shadow”.