Am I Not Pretty Enough? - The Science of Attraction

Attraction equals one word, PHEROMONES – if they don’t match 100% then it doesn't matter how gorgeous, smart, talented, wealthy or good in bed you are. Bottom line; he/she will drop you and fall for the next mean, ugly and dumb person, only if their pheromones match.

Have you heard of this scenario? Boy meets gorgeous girl, girl has a high IQ, is funny, extremely generous and does everything to keep this boy happy. But all this girl seems to hear is, ‘I’m not ready for commitment,’ ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you,’ and after many tears and much heartache from the girls side, she hears this last sentence, ‘we need to see other people.’ A few months later as the girl is flipping through her local newspaper, there he is! The boy, the jerk that broke her heart. She can’t seem to take her eyes off the smiling A5 photo of him, in a tux. Next to him a women gleaming from cheek to cheek, and not to mention not even that hot. Hang on, just a few months ago he was giving her speeches about how marriage is just a piece of paper, and commitment was not for him. And here he is, more committed than a prison inmate. And then the girl cries, goes into months of depression and blames herself for not being good enough. But if only somebody told her and saved her from the self tormenting analysis. Then her ego could lay the blame on biology and simply accept that their pheromones just didn't match.

Pheromones all have to do with smell. And what determines that the potential partner standing in front of you possesses the right smell? Well that all has to do with science. The scent of axillary sweat, a micro smell that is detected through the vomeronasal organ in the nose. The pheromones travel through the nose and arouse an area of the brain that produces emotions and emotional responses. Sweat may be one of the least attractive body odors, and in today’s society we do wash away most of these scents. So does that mean that our natural pheromones are at times ignored, and this is why there are so many single people and dating sites around? I’m sure there is someone doing research on the topic of washing away natural smells as I type. Yet this does not cover the fact that so many people out there are not conscious about this matter and go to the extremes to be beautiful in order to win love. Gym memberships and muscle builders are fast sellers. More so, the amount of people that are going under the knife is phenomenal.

Sure beauty does sell, it does get people to turn their head and perhaps it does gain the attention of the opposite sex, if only for a short while. But at the end of it all; it’s not solid, lacks genuine feelings and will always be superficial. Sooner or later, your partner will realize that in addition to your superb figure and stunning face, there’s something missing (a smell). And then you may hear these dreadful words ‘I’m not ready to commit.’ But if you were only aware about the science of attraction, your injured ego may have been able to recover sooner and move on to search for its biological match.

By Rana Kordahi

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Bronson_Hub 5 years ago from San Francisco, CA

1. I see boobies. Thank you, this made my day.

2. Can we go as far as saying that good hygiene also wins out over, say, wearing sweaty clothes 3 days in a row? Smell is a factor so few overlook in the dating game yet its essential importance determines so much of our success. Thank you for writing this and reminding us to step back and smell the daisies, proverbially of course.


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Ranzi 5 years ago from All Over Author

hahahaha Bronson. I'm glad to know that you enjoyed the beautiful art work ;) and thanks for your comment.

Yes of course stinky people make most of us dizzy, but also people that are drenched in strong perfumes make me dizzy. Do they think that they're so dirty and it's some sort of sanitizer?

Do you know many women that wear sweaty clothes for three days?


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capncrunch 5 years ago from New Orleans

Ok. You may be on to something with this article. But don't our tastes in smells change. Well, maybe not all of us. Some people are still wearing fragrants from way back. And yes, there should be a balance. Too much perfume and uh, what is she trying to hide? A female who smells for no apparent reason, hmmm? I don't think so. I have wondered about these products with Pheromones in them. How can one fragrance cover it all? Maybe, this is why I receive compliments from certain females and not others. Again, hmmm? Great Hub!!


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Ranzi 5 years ago from All Over Author

@Capncrunch haha so true, when people put too much perfume, what are they trying to hide. Or maybe that they spent over a hundred bucks on a perfume bottle to smell good and don’t wanna waste their money.

That’s a good question. I’m sure our taste in smell changes, and that’s why out taste changes in food and at times also people. But chemistry is different. The smell of it is not so obvious, it's a micro smell that goes straight to the sub conscience or a part of the brain that produces emotions. That’s why sometime people wonder why they’re attracted to a particular type of person who they thought was not their type. Perhaps because their smell was so strong and aroused the part if the brain that produces emotions.

Thanks for stopping by and your comment!


Went_off_de_pill 5 years ago

After 20 years on the pill and having my poor uterus turn into a large rock by absorbing the excess hormones, I got to finally be free of it, and ... realized that my sense of smell had been supressed! All of a sudden I could close my eyes and recognize certain men across a room, mmmrrooowrr! If they left a coat on a chair, I was sneaking a sniff! And the man I was with, now pre-diabetic (read, getting fat), was now smelling horribly sickie-sweet, like a rotting canteloupe. Horrible to smell, even worse to taste. End of relationship. Beginning of an incredible new phase of my life, with the bedroom breaking several records!


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Kaltar 5 years ago from Gurgaon

Nice hub.


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Ranzi 5 years ago from All Over Author

Went_off_de_pill, wow thanks for sharing. very interesting, you must feel very liberated.

Thanks for stopping by Kaltar


rorshak sobchak 4 years ago

Hey great Hub!

I enjoyed reading about this topic. I have this hair jelly with pheromones in it. I don't know if it does anything for me but my girlfriend loves to smell my hair.


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eulawyatt 3 years ago from Palm coast, Florida

The word "pheromone" comes from the Greek word "pheran" which means to transfer and "horman" which means to excite. As humans we have our five senses and many of the things that excite these senses we are unaware of.

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Ranzi 3 years ago from All Over Author

Sorry been away from hubpages for a while now. Thanks for reading and your educational comments :)

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