More than 10 top qualities of a friend

Introduction

Could we live our lives without a friend? Would one true friend be enough? Do we need many friends? Answers to these questions differ depending on your understanding what friendship is and your need for social life. Some people sacrifice their need to communicate for religious purposes and lead a life of a hermit. Others close themselves from society due to psychological problems. Others search for friends and make friends on a daily basis. Understanding of friendship varies among different cultures and nations. Some people make friends easily, for others it takes years till they finally open up for friendship and more personal relationship. Anyway, it does not matter whether we cherish our need or try to hide it or even possibly destroy it we still all have a need for a friend.

A friend will always be there for you

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Solid foundation for becoming a true friend

Friendship is a something that does not come by chance. To make friends, keep them and deepen relationship with them one essential component should be present and that is trust. Friendships that are built on other foundations are usually short term and quite often very shallow. If you are a friend with somebody because you simply expect to benefit from the friendship that type of friendship will not last for a long time. You might as well call that simply ‘business relationship’ but not friendship. Friendship involves quite many things and it is tested very many times that is why trust should be present in any kind of friendship. When things go wrong, conflicts arise, gossip threatens to break up your friendship with your friend all you need is trust. In this way you will be able to make up after a row, reject gossip and rebuild relationship if it goes wrong for one reason or another.

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Forgiveness – essential quality that makes you a good friend

All of us do stupid things from time to time, all of us occasionally fail in keeping promises to our friends and we need forgiveness from the people who are close to us. We also need to forgive our friends when they fail us in some ways. When I read some articles about qualities that true friends must have I get an impression that your friend has to be a perfect one. And if you want to be a true friend you must have all possible positive qualities. Those ideals are nice, however we are not perfect and we will never be able to have all of them. Those qualities can be developed with time, but if you expect your friend to be perfect I have some bad news for you: you will be disappointed. At some point something will happen which will offend you and you will have to make a choice to forgive or get disappointed and quit your friendship. You decide which way you will go. I guess it would be honest on your part to be perfect if you expect perfect friends. Is that possible? You know the answer. So, if you want to preserve your friendship when things go wrong one essential quality which will save your relationship is forgiveness. It rebuilds relationship. It allows other people to make mistakes. It does not impose impossible requirements on other people.

A dangerous poison that could kill relationship between you and your friend

Demands

Friendship is a union, relationship between two or more people which is based on good will. People make their own choices whether they want to be friends with somebody or not. Demands destroy friendship. Why? Because demands belong to other kinds of relationships, but they cannot effectively be practiced among friends. Whatever we do for our friend or whatever our friend does for us, it has to be done without any pressure and it must be done willingly. Other motives do not contribute to the development of friendship but for its destruction.

I understand that there are many more good things that are necessary in friendship and many more bad ones that can break up relationship between friends, but I wanted to focus on the points which I find very important at the moment. I guess I will write more on the subject but as for this article, I think I have written enough. Let me finish it with a few quotes about friendship.

Interview about friendship

Self-sacrifice is a must to be a friend and have true friends

All of us humans tend to be egoistic and think only about our needs. We are too much self-focused. Egoism is probably the most difficult quality that must be uprooted and self-sacrifice is the one that has to be cherished but is the most difficult to develop. I genuinely believe that if we want to attract friends into our lives we have to learn to give. We have to learn to pay attention to the problems of the people we want to be friends with. I believe you have already heard the saying:” A friend in need is a friend in deed”. That’s how a true friendship is measured. A friend is there when you need him/her and you are there for you friend when he/she needs you. You might neglect your plans, pleasures, time in order to take care after your friend. It is your choice and decision because you want to keep close ties with that person. And in reality, we should not be afraid to give ourselves to other people. I know there are lots of people who would abuse kindness of others, but we should always remember eternal principal:”give and it shall be given unto you”. Whatever we give, we will get it back, be it kindness, time, attention or even material things. And don't forget to tell your friends that you love them. Words and communication of love are necessary to keep relationship going.

Other qualities a friend should have

1. He or she should share the same interests as you have. It is impossible to be friends with somebody who is not interested in things you are interested in.

2.Loyalty is a character feature that is obligatory in friendship. If you are not loyal to your friend and your friend is not loyal to you, what kind of friendship is it?

3. He/she must be an optimist. Maybe it is not a quality that you expect in a friend, but as I am deeply interested in positive thinking and positive attitude I believe your friend has to be an optimist. And you should cherish positive thinking too.

4. A friend should be a good listener. What's the point being friends with a person who always speaks and never listens. If somebody is not able to listen but speaks all the time that person thinks only about himself and does not care about you.

5. A true friend should not envy when you succeed. He should be happy about it.

6. A friend should be open with you and never lie. It's better a bitter truth than a sweet lie.

How to make friends tips:

1. Be friendly with others. You should not expect others approach you with a friendly offer. Be the first to break the ice. If you are not very sociable and shy you will have to work on the lines.

2. Try to get around with those who have similar interests as yours. It is natural to form relationships with people that share common interests. It will be easier to keep friendship with this kind of people as well.

3. Be who you really are. Being natural helps you to form natural and also true relationships. It is difficult to be somebody else for a long time. You want to be valued for who you are. So be yourself and allow others to be themselves. ‘Pretending’ in friendship does not work for a long time.

4. Invite people out. Ask them to go with you to the cinema, park, supermarket, café and etc. It would be a big step on your behalf to form friendly relationship with people.

Friendship quotes

“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world”

Brandy Snyder

A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.

Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.

And one more final thing: if you want to find out one very important thing that will help you to make friends and keep friendship I recommend you to read my article about attitude.

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Tomygun 6 years ago from Vilnius

Very good article. Thanx for writing, I am alredy waiting for some more good hubs from you.


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fibo777 6 years ago Author

Well. They are coming. I am determined to write more now.


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Erin LeFey 5 years ago from Maryland

This is a great article...I think you covered all the basics and presented them very well. Keep on writing, I look forward to reading more from you. Namaste.


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fibo777 5 years ago Author

Thanks Erin LeFey a lot for your comments. I am going to improve the article bit by bit. I hope it will look even better after that.


Mark 5 years ago

I enjoyed your tips how to make friends.


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fibo777 5 years ago Author

I hope they were useful Mark.


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darklin 5 years ago

I come from a world of hurt and pain but it was shared with my best friend, my only friend - my brother. We are in our sixties now and our friendship outlasted everything else that we garnered and lost. I only need one friend and I am blessed to have him. Our handicaps keep us in isolation, in different cities but we share several times a week. What I have read here has helped me to understand a lot............thank you.

darklin


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fibo777 5 years ago Author

Thanks darklin for your comment. I am happy that my hub helped you.


Ted 5 years ago

It is interesting that you start by talking about forgiveness. I quite agree with you on the point. You could add more points on how to make friends.


sadh 5 years ago

nice


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fibo777 5 years ago Author

Glad that you liked the article Ted and sadh. Thanks for reading it.


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marcoujor 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Fibo777~ Very well written~~ Voted UP & AWESOME~~ thank you!


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fibo777 5 years ago Author

Thanks marcoujor for vote up and reading the hub.


Trent 4 years ago

I found the article on Google and enjoyed it a lot. Waiting for more from you on the topic of friendship.


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fibo777 4 years ago Author

I am happy that you enjoyed my hub about qualities of a friend. Hope it will help you to have more true friends in life.

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