5 Relationship Choices You Will Regret In 5 Years

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Your Relationship Matters

In this hub, I'm going to be talking about your intimate relationship, but I could just as easily be talking about any relationship you have in your life.

Relationships have a huge impact on the happiness and health you experience, and making good choices will ensure that you stay happy and healthy for years to come.

Following are 5 choices that you will regret in 5 years. It doesn't take long for regret to build up and impact your relationship in a negative way, so make sure you pay attention and take action on these poor choices!

1. Putting Your Partner Anywhere But First

Your partner is going to be with you for a long time to come, and next to yourself, they should always be your number one priority. If you put your relationship on the back-burner, then you may not tackle issues that need attention. If this happens, little issues can turn into huge problems, and down the road you may not be able to handle the monster that your once small issues has become.

For instance, if your partner is having a trust issue with you, and don't resolve it, then over the years that small trust issue can turn into a complete lack of trust. When the trust is gone, it can take a very long time to build it back up.

Therefore, put your partner first and take care of your relationship. Be mindful of the way they feel, and strive to always keep your relationship happy. Do that, and you won't have to deal with issues that may be too much to handle in the future, and the regret that comes with it.

2. Cheating Of Any Kind

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At the time, cheating may be a comfort. Emotional cheating can help you feel connected and loved, and physical cheating can do the same while satisfying other needs.

However, if you plan on staying with your partner for the long haul, then one poor choice can have a very negative affect on the rest of your relationship. Trust can be lost forever, anger, pain, and resentment may never go away, and even if it does, there will always be the thought of what happened in the back of your mind.

If you ever feel like cheating, you need to talk to your partner and fix the issue that is causing you to desire comfort outside of the relationship.

If you are scared to talk to your partner, remember this: Your relationship will be strong enough to overcome the conflict that may arise from the issue you are having, but it may not survive an affair.

3. Not Living Your Own Life

Yes, relationships are about two people coming together and sharing their life, but there are still two separate people in the relationship with different dreams and goal. If you decide to give up on your own dreams and goals to make your partner happy, then you will regret that later on in your relationship.

I am not saying that you should do things even if your partner doesn't agree, but I am saying that you and your partner should allow each other to explore your own paths and meet back together at the end of the day.

If you don't do this, you will not only regret not exploring your own path, but you will regret your partner not exploring theirs, because true happiness comes from living out your personal dreams and goals.

4. Getting Angry Over Little Things

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It is so silly what we can get angry over. Clothes on the floor, a difference of opinion, or even nothing! Anger causes us to say hurtful and pointless things, and it does nothing for the happiness of our relationship.

Hurtful words that are said can be remembered for years to come and our partner can be resentful of them when any similar issue arises. In addition, the hurt you cause your partner can make you feel like a bad person. Trust me, you will regret getting angry and making your partner feel bad one way or the other.

Instead of getting angry at your partner, trying seeing your relationship as a gift and a fun journey that you are on, and enjoy each moment.

Look at issues as challenges that will make you better and happier rather than pitfalls that are affecting your life negatively.

Be grateful for the life you have! And if your partner is good to you, then be VERY grateful for that too.

In other words, instead of yelling at your partner for leaving his/her clothes on the floor - be grateful that you have a partner to leave clothes on the floor.

My Vow

I can personally attest to failing to share happy moments with my husband.

  • If I look back at the moments that I spent my money on something wasteful when I had the chance to spend my money on a moment that I could have enjoyed with my husband, I feel regret.
  • When I look back at spying on Facebook friends rather than spending time with my husband when he is home, I feel regret.

From this moment forward, I vow to choose my husband over wasteful and meaningless moments.

What's your vow? Share in the comments below!

5. Failing To Share Happy Moments With Your Partner

You have so many chances to make your partner happy in your relationship and share happy moments, and I'm willing to bet that you pass a lot of them up.

It is interesting to note that the biggest regret people have is lost opportunities rather than things that they did [source: KellogInsight].

With the invention of the TV and Internet and cell phones, there are so many ways that we can get 'busy' doing something pointless - for hours and hours.

Don't let any opportunity to experience happiness with your partner pass you by, then you will never have to regret lost moments that you can never get back.

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

I had to stop and think about your poll. I would love to say I completely live in the moment, but I think anyone who says that is full of it. We all take a peek at the future in a variety of ways. Anyway, great list of things you should definitely not do in a relationship.


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Relationshipc 3 years ago from Alberta, Canada Author

Very true Billy. I meant it more as a 'doing things without caring about the consequences' which I find I have personally done often.


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Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

I think you have said it well. Cheating is the worst. That I think would be near impossible to forget, thus forgive.


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Relationshipc 3 years ago from Alberta, Canada Author

@ Jackie...so you would regret cheating then?


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Herb Hopkins 3 years ago from Clayton Alabama

My vow would be to never, ever let our "disagreements" into our bedroom!! I had to learn this the hard way but thank God we made it thru. Can you imagine if I would of lost the absolute love of my life just for the silliness of being mad or angry because of some stupid issue..Keep up the great Hubs. I enjoyed reading this...


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Relationshipc 3 years ago from Alberta, Canada Author

@Herb - I love your vow! I have seen one stupid issue cause the destruction of many relationships.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean

Great wisdom here. We major in so many minor parts of the relationship. Voted Up.


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Relationshipc 3 years ago from Alberta, Canada Author

@MsDora - Agreed!


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hawaiianodysseus 3 years ago from Southeast Washington state

Thank you for sharing a most useful and interesting article with us, my friend. Very sage advice, to be sure. Aloha, and have a great rest of the weekend!

~Joe


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savvydating 3 years ago

Fantastic advice! I especially like the part about being grateful for the things he does for you. When a woman fails to express her appreciation for her guy's sweet actions, she is making a big mistake. He will feel less inclined to be generous... and after all, everyone needs to feel appreciated. Secondly, I wholeheartedly agree that although we must put the partnership first, we also have to be careful not to lose our unique "spirit" in the process.

Up & useful.


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Relationshipc 3 years ago from Alberta, Canada Author

Thanks Savvy, I appreciate the comment and insight. I think expressing appreciation needs to become a habit for everyone...it is so easy to take everything for granted.

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