Why have young women turned into blow up dolls?

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Fake it to make it?

I went out this weekend with the girls from the Body Combat class I go to and thoroughly enjoyed myself. I was shocked though at what young women feel the need to look like nowadays. It felt like I was in the midst of a room full of porn stars!

Fake tans as orange as the oompa loompa's in Charlie and the chocolate factory! Foundation plastered thickly, possibly from a cement mixer. Eyelashes jutting arrogantly reminiscent of a haughty drag queen. Skin tight dresses so impossibly short you could almost see their vajazzles twinkling!

They precariously tottered on skyscraper stilettos, seductively sucking straws full of luminous cocktails, taking great pains not to smudge their viscous lip gloss.

I couldn't help thanking my lucky stars that i'm no longer in that age group where that is expected, (not that I ever dressed like that.) How the hell are normal girls meant to compete with these blow up dolls? It seems to me to send out a strong message, that they are an object, there to be looked at. It is all about how they look and not about what sort of person they are.

They all seemed to have fake nails, fake hair extensions and fake hair pieces. There was nothing natural about them, nothing to differentiate them from the next clone. They all looked like they'd been tangoed and worked part time as lady boys! Why on earth would anyone want to look like a lap dancer?

When you look at today's 'celebrities' (I use the term loosely) sadly, it all becomes clear. 'Katie Price aka 'Jordan', famous for getting her surgically enhanced boobs out, Cheryl Cole famous for looking like a doll but devoid of any talent, WAGS (Wives and Girlfriends of Footballers), many of whom live in Wilmslow, Cheshire where I had my night out! Perhaps the blow up dolls were trying to bag themselves a Manchester United footballer? Let's face it, they're the type footballer's universally seem to go for.

What the hell has happened to society to make young women feel that their only way of a future is by using their bodies? What ever happened to working hard and using their brains? Society it would seem places far more value on appearance than anything else. 'Celebrities' are famous for appearing on nauseating reality TV shows, or sleeping with a footballer/politician/pop star, not for any discernible talent.

I find this extremely depressing and rather sad. These girls seem to think that happiness equals bagging themselves a rich man. Do they not realise that by relying on others for their happiness leaves them vulnerable and ultimately with no independence? Admittedly, many of the attention seeking slappers on such reality shows have fallen on their feet or probably on the nearest sleaze ball's lap! The majority of these girls of which there are several, probably won't.

Interestingly, the hoards of men surveying the bimbo gallery seemed bored towards the end of the evening and flocked over to our corner of the dance floor. Our group's age ranged from 20 to 60 and every one of us was enjoying our night out and having a good time, more importantly, we were comfortable in our own skin and did not have to drip in a fake veneer to feel that we fitted in.

The inflatable dollies could barely walk never mind dance in those towering heels and the disdainful pouts didn't exactly make them look approachable either. After all that effort and money they must have put in to getting ready, they didn't actually look happy. I can't help feeling sorry for them that they feel that this is what they must do to get a man and to fit in.

Frankly, the sort of man that would expect a girl to go to all that effort and look like an object for him is definitely not worth bothering about. How tragic to be solely reliant on your looks and figure for happiness. What an insecure and chaotic way to live your life worrying constantly about the younger, prettier woman queueing to take your place and your man.

When their looks have gone and their self worth is zero what is left for them?

© Tara Carbery

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Redberry Sky 4 years ago

Too right! I stay away from the clubs and pubs the barbie dolls go to, but I pass them in the street walking from one place to the next - and towards the end of the night they're the ones fighting and screeching and making a holy show of themselves. Makes me really glad to be ordinary dull ol' me :)


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Red, Totally! I couldn't agree more! I've always looked how I want to look and if someone doesn't like it stuff them! I'm glad i've got my own mind too. x


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leroy64 4 years ago from Dallas, Texas (Oak Cliff)

Great Hub.

I think there is a version of those "blow up dolls" represented in every generation, at least the ones I can remember. There seem to be quite a few here in Dallas. I have never understood why one look dominates these groups, considering that men have such a range of what we consider attractive in women.

About the second to last paragraph, I feel the need to point out that most men don't know, or care to know, how much work goes into that look. (The men that do find out regret it.) We feel like women are rejecting us our date, or whatever, will not have fun because of their makeup, outfit, shoes, etc. (By have fun I mean: Dancing, roller coasters, convertibles, etc.)

I do believe that those "dolls" are not as empty as they appear. If you can get one of them to actually open up, she can be interesting. It's a lot of work. The doll won't believe she is interesting, unfortunately.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

leroy, thanks for reading and commenting. I find it hard to believe that men think that women come with hair extensions, huge eyelashes, fake tans and nails as standard! I'm sure that many of these girls have much more to them than their appearance but sadly, haven't met people that want to know about it. If they met more people like this, maybe they wouldn't feel the need to dress in such a way.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Peanut....I clearly hear you and would love to have an intelligent response,however, I am just as shocked and baffled as you are. I do have a difference of opinion from you, though.

I do not honestly believe these women transform themselves from head to toe, into Neo-Stepford-women, for men or "to appeal to men." I am firmly convinced it is a fierce competition with one another.....the female ego seeks to always be prettier, sexier, thinner, bustier and more glamorous than the next.....this is as much a competitive sport to women as any athletic sport is to men. It is obvious that, as you noted, it seems to have gone wild and off the charts-out-of-control....due to insisting upon OUT-doing one another....more make-up, longer lashes, shinier fingernails, shorter skirts and higher heels.......there could be no other reason for this. You need to think: "SHALLOW"....to see through their masks into their pea-sized brains........What's nice is, they make us feel so good about ourselves. Every group serves some purpose, peanut!!!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Effer, I agree with you. Many women see each other as rivals and will do anything it takes to look better than each other. It's a war zone out there!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

I also think it's about status, bragging to their friends about which swanky restaurants they've been to on a date or bagging themselves a footballer or such like. It's all about being prettier, thinner and richer than the next person. Me me me seems to be the mantra for today's society!


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Your last sentence, Tara, says it all...what is left when the physical attributes are gone? Where is the substance? The character? What defines them as human beings? It is all very sad and I have no answer; it comes down to a desperate need to improve image, and as you and I both know, image is highly overrated.

Great job my friend!


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ImKarn23 4 years ago

'The inflatable dollies'...(hehe..)..

i could not agree with your assessment more! Women are getting by on their tits and asses more and more - and then we demand respect!

The female singers wear next to nothing - ALL of them with very few exceptions - they look like clones of each other - and yet - the boys? Well - the boys get by on - OMG - talent alone..

it makes me sick and is one of many running themes i seem to keep hammering - women need to respect themselves, first and foremost - and have the self-confidence to say "HEY! I yam what i yam - and it's pretty damned special"..

sharing on - gonna get this more views!

It's an important message that needs to keep being said - even if it seems sometimes as if no one listens..


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Mazzy Bolero 4 years ago from the U.K.

You have put into sparky words what I have been thinking, too, for some time. Being serious, I think relationships are now formed on the basis of sex rather than taking the time to get to know one another as people, so girls feel they have to compete on that level. It's sad to see. Girls are degrading themselves, but they are influenced by programs like TOWIE to think this is what they have to do. The media has a lot to answer for!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Bill, where is the substance indeed! Most female singers writhe about like they're in the throes of an orgasm! The focus is on what they look like more than what they sound like. It probably explains why so many of them can't sing and have very little talent!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Im, I'm glad you agree with my view. Tit's and Ass seems to be the only way these days! So many of these female singers make out they're feisty and into 'girl power' when they are parading round like slappers! You are so right about men not feeling the need to change. They are recognised for talent or quirkiness not the fact that they look like they'd sleep with you at the drop of a hat! Thanks for sharing!


Charles Hilton 4 years ago

Excellent hub, with a much needed message.

The resemblance to blow-up dolls doesn't stop at the physique---it extends to the vapidness of these bimbos. And isn't it telling that N.O.W. has been conspicuously silent on the bimbo-ing of American women?

The National Organization for Women has become a one-issue organization---abortion. And when abortions are safe again for the time being, N.O.W. retreats back into the tall grass until the next time it is threatened.

What a shame! Where are the role models for American women? And I don't mean religious role models, either. What Americans of both sexes need is intellectual role models. But, unfortunately, American society is still besieged by its fear and distrust of intellectualism. And in that sense, America is still very backward.

Thanks for this much needed, well written hub. Way up!


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

Awesome hub! You have described it very well. I think these blow up dolls are seeking attention the wrong way. These types of women have little or no self-worth and they themselves feel that they have nothing else to offer besides their body. Are you kidding? Men can sense the desperation from afar and no matter how beautiful they are, these blow doll babies do not challenge men all that much, which is why they just walk away. Sex is no way the key to a man's heart so they have it all twisted. A one night stand is the only thing a guy would be after.


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

I wanted to add that fake eye lashes are super tacky. I was blessed with really long eye lashes so trust me I can tell fake ones from real ones instantly. Voted up!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Mazzy, I agree totally, it's all about sex. Do these girls only want one night stands? Surely, the sort of bloke that would go for them is after one thing only and it's not a long and meaningful relationship! Aren't programmes like TOWIE bloody awful! You can hardly believe that people would advertise the fact that they are so stupid. Even worse is the fact that many young girls aspire to being like that!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Charles, yes, I hate vaccuous bimbo's with nothing to say other than 'does my hair look alright' or 'has my nail varnish smudged!' Grrrrrrrrrrr! I'm really pleased that you liked my hub, thanks :)


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

lovedoctor, I agree, dressing like this will attract the sort of man who wants a one night stand then moves on to the next willing participant. You're lucky to have naturally long eyelashes, i'm jealous!


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bac2basics 4 years ago from Spain

Hi Peanut. I have just paid a visit to the UK and saw one of these horrors, on the bus in broad daylight. I have to confess I couldn´t stop staring at her because she looked so weird, no seriously, like an alien from another planet. My dad , who never minced words would have referred to her as a " Third rate hooker, with all the goods on display"

Later on I had a conversation with my daughter and her fella about this trend to look all things fake, apparently it´s becoming more and more the norm amongst young girls. Quite frankly I am of the opinion that men prefer less slap, this is made quite clear on an American programme I watch which is about getting out of the friends zone and into a relationship with a long term mate. Without fail, when a female friend asks her intended boyfriend his opinion on the " blind date" she is planning ( with him) for his advice, almost without fail he will tell her not to put too much make up on. My Daughters boyfriends comment on girls who fake it up is..Only fake men would be interested in fake women, and he much prefers the real thing !!

By the way peanut, have you seen the TV shows Jersey shore, Jordie shore and now Gandia shore, all on MTV. What an eye opener they are.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Morning bac2basics! Lovely to hear from you. Sadly yes, I have seen these dreadful shows. There are many of them; 'The only way is Essex', Desperate scousewives' and 'made in Chelsea'. They feature incredibly innane, vaccuous, spoilt individuals spending vast amounts of money to look like hookers! You have put so succinctly 'only fake men would be interested in fake women!' Your Dad was right!


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dashingscorpio 4 years ago

Oddly enough most of these women claim they don't go through all this beauty trouble for men. Maybe they are lying to themselves or maybe they are "competing" with (other women)!

After every awards show on television there is a recap of what the women wore on (the red carpet). Clearly this is not for the benefit of male viewers. Whenever People Magazine catches two women wearing the same outfit they feel the need to publish a side by side photo asking, "Who wore it best?" Women also tend to (put down other women) according to their dress and appearance. Rarely are you going to hear one guy say to another; "Did you see what he was wearing?" or "That is not his natural hair color." Men focus on women more than they do other men.

Maybe women in general have more of a desire to be the (center of attention). As little girls they dress up as princesses, prom dresses, or participate in beauty pageants.

When it comes to getting married you never hear the term “Groomzilla” it’s always the “Bridezilla” who is striving to have the “perfect wedding”. Speaking of weddings when the bride walks down the aisle everyone stands up! The groom is little more than a prop at most weddings. LOL!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Dashing, Women that claim that it takes no effort to look like this are doing women a disservice! The media is always commenting on what celebrities are wearing, who's been seen with who and who wore it best etc. I feel though that the media has a lot to answer for. Not all us ladies are obsessed with such friovolous details but have it forced upon us! It's as if you aren't good enough if you're not wearing the right label, have the right hair style, wear the right make up, have the right figure etc. The media plays on an individuals insecurity by telling them how they should be. It takes a strong minded person not to be swayed by that. I feel that many of these young girls are incredibly insecure and feel that to be happy they need to look like an impossibly perfect doll.


Charles Hilton 4 years ago

Peanut,

Your last comment brings to mind that many television networks and media outlets are owned by corporations, some of whom, I'm sure, have their hands in the fashion, cosmetics, and entertainment industries, et al.

Which would explain much of the media obsession with such frivolities---they're fattening us lambs for the fleecing.


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dashingscorpio 4 years ago

Peanutritious, You make many valid points. However I think the media only puts out there the things that garner them the most money or highest ratings!

Even in the U.S. many women are obsessed with Kate and Pippa Middleton's clothes and look. Magazines put people on their covers to (sell) their magazines. If the vast majority of women had no interest in these things and sales of such magazines plummeted we would see a change in magazine covers.

Every year People Magazine names "The Sexiest Man Alive" and it becomes their biggest seller. Our society can't get enough of living life vicarously through celebrities. If they can't be them they want to look like them. The media is simply cashing in on what the public is interested in. One man's opinion! :-)


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Charles, I agree 100%. A few fat cats are responsible for owning huge amounts of wealth which gives them massive influence over what is advertised and deemed to be important. Thanks so much for commenting again. The sheeple are being well and truly fleeced!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Dashing, thanks for coming back to comment. You are right in saying that 'our society can't get enough of living life vicariously through celebrities'. I also said though that 'not all us ladies are obsessed with such frivolous details but have it forced upon us' and that it takes a 'strong minded person not to be swayed by that'. Sadly, it seems the majority are easily swayed, DO buy these magazines and genuinely care what Kate and Pippa Middleton are wearing. I personally couldn't care less but doubt I fit into what society defines as 'easily swayed!' I loathe people who act like sheep, following the crowd because everyone else seems to. I always admire young people who dare to look different, often getting bullied for it by those with lesser imaginations. It takes guts to follow your own path rather than blend into the background like everyone else.


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suzettenaples 4 years ago from Taos, NM

Good question! This is quite a thought provoking article. I have begun to notice the same thing about the younger generation here in the U.S. also. I can't believe the short tight dresses they wear. I don't know how they breathe. Everyone wants to look attractive, but the extent they go to is mind boggling. I'm glad I'm the age and generation I am. I wouldn't want to be young today.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Suzette, great to hear from you. I wouldn't want to be young today either, there's so much pressure to be perfect in every way.


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Hi, Oh how I totally agree with you! lol! if theres one program that drives me to insanity its, towie, the only way is Essex! or as I call it, the only way is earache! what makes me laugh is the fact that they spend hours trying to look like this, and then end up looking like each other! I want to drop them in a bath and scrub the stupid tan stuff off! they look hideous!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Ha ha! Hi Nell, Imagine their horror if they were wrestled into a bath and scrubbed! Can you imagine the screeching and swearing? There was a brilliant tweet on twitter this morning by Phillip Schofield of all people this morning saying 'Am I watching prometheus or TOWIE as I can't tell the difference!' Ha! They really do look like aliens! Thanks for the visit Nell.


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bravewarrior 4 years ago from Central Florida

Amen, Peanut! The proof is in the puddin'. When all is said and done, they're gonna see what you look like under that mask, anyway! Recently, I had a romantic relationship at the tender age of fifty-something. My man was two years older than I. He was absolutely in love with my breasts (that have a growing relationship with gravity!) because they were the first natural mammory parts he'd seen! Are you kidding me? Wow. You are what you are and should be proud.

When you dress to the extreme in order to attract, yeah, you achieve your goal - but for a night. You ask any man who wants a mate and he'll tell you he wants someone who is real. Little to no makeup, sexy but intriguing dress, natural hair and original body parts are what men who are seeking a long term relationship want. Yeah, be a whore in the bedroom - that's a secret you can both share, but be a woman you honestly like when you look in the mirror. Beauty comes from within. You can be beautiful to someone who really loves you whether you're wearing sweats or a little black dress.

The key is to be real. Give them a reason to come back, not just have you for the night. Give them someone they can respect. Give them someone YOU respect.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Brave! Lovely to hear from you. I'm glad you see where i'm coming from. There are less and less people who are au natural these days and I think it's wrong that people feel pressurised to have plastic surgery. It's such a shallow world we live in. I honestly think that more young people would prefer to be 'good looking' than 'intelligent' these days which is a shame. Looks are valued above brains in our society. We are who we are and if someone doesn't like it then they're not worth bothering with!


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

Quite an interesting phenomena. I enjoyed reading your views.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Vinaya, How's life in Nepal? I don't know if you read my hub about my plane journey there. 'Tara's travels' I didn't remember much about it after consuming rather a lot of wine! Thanks for reading and commenting.


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riotgrrrl 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK

great hub, i'm glad to see this particular issue being discussed.


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Sheri Faye 3 years ago from Chemainus. BC, Canada

Hi Peanutritious, I agree with you, but in a way I feel sorry for young women today. There is so much pressure on them to look a certain way, wiegh a certain amout. I think a lot of this is the celeb culture where they are all enchanced and photoshopped. And show like Toddelers in Tieras are just scary. Telling three year old girls their value is in their T an A...good grief! Thanks for this.


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

riotgrrl, thanks for reading :)


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DREAM ON 3 years ago

It is only a matter of time when you see these same woman ten years later and people say what were you thinking?????Now even the make up doesn't help.When I think of these woman as being mothers of young children growing up and are teaching them values I shudder to think what they will say.Great hub and wake up fake woman be real.


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Sheri, I know what you mean. I would hate to be a teenager now, there's so much pressure to be perfect with the right hair, make up, skin, weight etc.

Their idols like Rhianna for example writhe around on stage like they're shooting a porno! What sort of example is that?

My niece is 14 and I do worry about her. She's got her head screwed on but watches crap like 'keeping up with the kardashions'. Still, there's nothing worse for a teenager than being told by your elders 'you shouldn't watch that'. It would make me do it even more to rebel! I must have been a nightmare as a teenager!


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Dream,

It almost seems to be cool to be stupid. How ridiculous! How can intelligence ever be perceived as a negative trait? I'm sure many of these young girls have a decent brain but desperately want to fit in with their peers. I've always been quite happy looking individual and dressing exactly how I want.

As you say, there's a worrying trend for some to bring up their children to be dressed in pink, sparkly tatt and to have false nails, fake tans etc. Katie Price (Jordan) does this with her daughter ('Princess' - that child doesn't stand a chance!)

Thanks for reading :)

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