Single for the Holidays
Do you feel alone and/or depressed when single for the holidays?See results without voting
The Holidays for Singles
Spend time around your family and friends.
Try another avenue for dating.
Have hope for the future.
So it's the holidays. Thanksgiving and Christmas. The time of season when your family can't help but ask why you are showing up alone for the holidays yet again. The time of year when you try to remain calm while explaining why you are alone for the holidays or why the last woman/man you dated is gone. The time of year when your mother looks at you and reminds you that your clock is ticking. The time of year when your father wants to have a talk with his son about settling down and the importance of raising a family. Often people feel depressed during the holiday season but this is the wrong way to enjoy the holiday seasons. You are most likely not the only person who feels this way but you can turn these feelings around.
Spending time with your family renews your spirit and feelings of family.
It reminds you of what is important in life. Your nieces and nephews are growing up, your parents are getting older, and you enjoy the old stories about what happened decades ago. It's a time when the people around you, no matter how crazy they might be, love you for who you are:unconditionally. You should gain confidence in who you are as a person. If you have family members that have been happily married for years; you get the opportunity to witness their perfectly choreographed dance. You watch how they accommodate and make allowances for one another. You also see the way their love has transformed over the years. It's a love and quality of life that a single person can never achieve by rotating from person to person. Learn from that love and celebrate the beauty of what makes their marriage work so you can experience a different level of love once you do encounter the one.
This is a great time to meet other people who are out of town spending time with families. If you are in a different state or perhaps in your home state, it's cool to mix with other people who may have a different vibe other than the normal inhabitants in your state. If they are visiting family then they have some type of value to their family in their lives and that's a good quality to have rather than those who choose to stay alone rather than being with their family during the holidays. Plus, it might help to dance and burn off those calories accumulated as a result of inhaling numerous portions of dressing, potatoes, turkey, ham, and the ever so fattening macaroni and cheese.
Try another avenue for dating.
Yes, you have been putting off dating online because you don't believe in it. How's your dating prospects working otherwise? If you need help determining what site works best for you check out http://www.datingadvice.com/reviews. Datingadvice.com gives great feedback on the best websites. Check out Steve Ward, Patti Stanger, or Dr. Phil to gain insight and advice regarding your decisions in love and how to be more successful in the dating arena. What do you have to lose?
Crash Course in Love by Steven Ward and JoAnn Ward OR Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate by Patti Stanger and Lisa Johnson Mandell.
During the holidays, take the time to feel independent, single, and appreciate the love that is present everywhere. Instead of feeling incomplete when you see someone with their husband and kids out shopping; know that one day that will be you. When you see couples holding hands, hugging, and in love revel in the love that you see rather than acknowledging what you don't have at home.
Keep a positive and loving spirit. Take time to volunteer your time and give back to others. Trust me volunteering your time is a great way to enrich your life by giving to others. Giving back takes the focus off of you and allows you to benefit by receiving good vibes from helping others. Start out by volunteering for one day events that request a few hours of your time.
Hope for the future!
Cuddling in front the fireplace. New Year's Eve kisses. Kisses under Mistletoe. It's coming. Just keep a positive spirit, love in your heart, and a good positive energy. Celebrate yourself rather than living in regret. Love yourself and instead of focusing on what's missing in your life remember these things:
Celebrate the holiday season and put a smile on your face for the love you experience through others everyday.
Give your time to a cause or organization. Putting your time and focus on others will allow you to feel good vibes and take the focus off any feelings of sadness or loneliness you might be feeling during the holidays.
If you have baby fever, take a day and pick up your niece/nephew and spend time taking them to the aquarium or attend a childrens reading event at a library.
Spend time with your friends. People love you and it's great to spend time with those who care for you; they will lift your spirits.
Know that love is just around the corner and be positive that your love is coming.
Leave the past in your past. No conjuring up old boyfriends/girlfriends or spending time with idiots that you let go in the past. They are in the past for a reason.
Remember you have one life and you have a message and purpose that is not defined by the presence of another. This realization makes you a whole person within yourself, not looking for someone to define who you are as a person. Only in this state are you even prepared for a healthy long-term relationship.
Enjoy every moment and season of your life. Tomorrow is not promised and you are surrounded by friends and family that love you so don't disregard that by focusing only on the immediate family that you don't have; yet. That special person is just around the corner; but until then spread and enjoy love.
Happy Holidays Single People!
P.S. If you are seriously depressed during the holiday please follow suggestions from the mayoclinic and webmd for help.
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