Is Technology Splitting You Up?

Staying Connected In the Digital Age

Clicking of keys echo throughout your bedroom. As you sit in bed almost touching shoulders with one another the illuminating glow of the computer lights up both of your faces. The screen set before each of you reflects in each others eyes. The only thing is, you both are on separate computers. An interesting blog on a couple that went to China for the first time has caught your eye. And the latest football scores and how Roethlisberger made a great play is displayed before his. You have not communicated with each other in over an hour. Do you even realize it? This can’t be healthy. Or is it?

Are we as a society becoming separated in our relationships by technology? Is it really that important to check your Facebook account when you should be spending quality time with your schnookums? Checking that latest Twitter should be the last thing on your mind before going to bed. Is technology disintergrating our closeness and tearing down our abilities to connect with our mate? Many households today have more than one computer in the home making for separate computer time and less face to face time with each other.

Or does this work for some? I mean, being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you’re all of a sudden joined at the hip and have to do everything together as a couple. Technically you are still doing something as a couple. There’s just no interaction with one another involved. Having the ability to do your own thing in your relationship is important in order to keep your sanity. If I had to do everything with my mate I’d go nuts! So what if you do find yourself doing separate things? Is it a crime against some unspoken law of how relationships are supposed to work? It’s really no different than one reading a book while the other watches television. He types away on his computer, you check out Flickr photos. As long as you set boundaries and make time for one another what does it matter?

But before you continue to separately peck away on your laptops take a step away from the keyboard and evaluate whether or not it is keeping you from communicating with your honey. Try limiting your time connecting with the outside world. Take a break and ask them how their day went. Before going to bed, draw a bath and take a romantic bubble filled soak together under the influence of a little wine. Or find something online that you can both share together. I’m not saying you have to completely cut out technology altogether. There are plenty of games online to where the two of you can be opponents or be teammates and play against other couples. Or perhaps, find each other in a chatroom and have a little role playing chat. There are still chatrooms right? Do whatever you can to stay more connected with your honey and less connected with your laptop. I mean, learning how to cook the perfect pot pie is not critical to your relationship.

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bulldogrocks 5 years ago from Colorado

I think in some instances it is hindering couples communication, however I think it really depends on the couple. I will play on my computer while my husband plays his PlayStation 3 and the only thing we do in bed outside of sleeping etc is watch a movie together. Usually I am so tired from the day that I crash once I hit the pillow but my husband is an insomniac so he reads or cleans the house but as long has he isn't to loud I'm ok with it.


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NiaG 5 years ago from Louisville, KY Author

You are exactly right bulldogrocks. It depends on the couple. As long as you find a way to stay close and connected with one another that's all that matters. Thanks for dropping a comment!

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