Cheating and Breakups: Betrayal and Getting Over it...
Cheating, Crying and Breakups
Let’s set the tone. You’re sitting in front of the television, crying your eyes out over a really depressing movie. Your eyes are bloodshot, you’ve got your paper towels and every time something really sappy comes onscreen you scream at the TV that love should die and men should follow. About a day or two before, you found out some horrible devastating news…that the little bubble you have been in for the past couple of months (or years depending on the relationship) have all been a lie. Your boyfriend (ex) has been cheating on you left and right. What do you do? You get mad and wreck his new car (I don’t recommend doing this, legal reasons and such)…Revenge is most certainly sweet, but did that really make the hurt go away?
The betrayal is the hardest part to get over in a relationship where a spouse or significant other has cheated. I would know. You either blame yourself for whatever insecurity you might have or you become this women (or man) bent on the destruction of anything to do with the hated word Love. Now I don’t blame you. It’s ok to feel this way. It’s normal. Just don’t stay that way forever. Why? Well because you could end up projecting some seriously wrongful feelings on to the next perfectly available (non-cheating) male or female, especially when they have nothing to do with the previous evil doer.
Now, what can you do to at least try to get over a broken heart? That really cheesy and over used phrase “Time heals all wounds”, yea that does work in the long run, but we are looking for some more fast acting solutions.
1. It’s over, realize it, and remember it.
Ok so you’ve broken up and your 60ft deep in your own tears. You are allowed to be sad. Just make sure you realize that there was a reason for the break up and that trying to contact your ex is a very big no-no. Enjoy the good times but remember the bad (mainly the deception) and turn the page on that chapter in your life.
2. Get some ice cream and pig out.
Ok don’t really get the ice cream (or do). Depends on how you handle sadness. Because that’s a lot of what you’re going to be feeling for a little while. If you have a good support system, you might get over the break up a little faster. I say go out and enjoy a beer if you’re a dude and a night out with the girls if you’re a chick. Getting your mind off your problems is always a good thing.
3. Communication with your ex? OFF LIMITS
Now I know you might feel these urges to speak to your ex. Don’t do it. You will undo most if not all the progress you have made. They contact you? You don’t answer. Now I know that not all cheating situations are the same and you might want to give your significant other another chance to prove themselves. That’s up to you. Remember, once a cheater always a cheater.
4. If this doesn't work….rebound.
I don’t recommend this unless the other person realizes that, yes they are a rebound and that you aren’t looking for real commitment. You have a good time and you go on your way. Or who knows you might meet someone that is a complete upgrade from your ex and fall in love again.
All you can really do to get over a break up is to remember why it happened and keep that in mind. Go out. Have fun. Bring friends. Leave that chapter in your life behind and begin to write a new one…So what are you doing screaming obscenities at the poor television? Get out there and MINGLE!
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