Reasons to stay in a relationship: 3 things you should never break-up over

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What are some things you should never end your relationship over?

What are some definite relationship issues that can be worked on, dealt with or fixed in any relationship? What are some issues you should never break-up over?

All relationships have their ups and downs. There are certain things that have the potential to tear your relationship apart and others that can be worked through if you’re both dedicated to keeping your relationship going. This article describes the top three things you should never just end your relationship over. Of course there is the occasional ‘exception to the rule’ but in most cases the following can be worked through if you both love each other and want to be together.


1. Race or cultural differences

Race or cultural differences should be one of the most obvious things you should NEVER end a relationship over. Yes it will make your relationship a bit harder to deal with (if you have major differences in beliefs or understandings leading to arguments or misunderstandings) but you should never make it the core reason for ending your relationship.

Please read here for more information and useful tips on how to handle and maintain an interracial or intercultural relationship.

If you can address the problems you may be experiencing in your relationship due to the differences and reach a compromise, your relationship will be able to thrive and everything should work out perfectly. An interracial or intercultural relationship is just like any other. All relationships involve TWO DIFFERENT individuals so see your relationship just like any other and you will have a successful one.


2. Misunderstandings or irrationality

As has been mentioned in the previous point, all relationships have arguments and disagreements and most of these are caused by misunderstandings. Misunderstandings arise for a number of reasons, the most common or obvious being the fact that you are two different people. Besides the fact that males and females often see a whole lot of things differently, you’re also two comletely different individuals: you’re from different families, different environments, have different personalities and ultimately are two unique humanbeings.

When approaching arguments due to misunderstandings, be sure to deal with the issue head on. Acknowledge the fact that you’re not always going to see everything in exactly the same way and explain your way of seeing things to your partner. Allow your partner to see the situation through your eyes and in turn see the situation through his or hers.


3. Rumours

This is a definite ‘no-no’ when it comes to reasons to end your relationship. Rumours are a bunch of unsubstantiated points which you basically cannot trust. It doesn’t matter whether the source is someone you know or something someone you know heard from someone else. You shouldn’t trust anything you have no proof of or have not witnessed yourself.This doesn’t mean that you should be completely naïve and oblivious to the world around you, but you should keep an open mind when it comes to things like rumours. Keep it in the back of your mind and allow it to remain there as you find out more information or become more observant. Don’t make a decision as important as whether or not you should end your relationship based on hearsay or rumours.

People start rumours for various reasons: they’re jealous, they misinterpret things and thus actually believe the rumour they’re making is the truth or they're just really bored or seeking attention. A lot of times the rumours are false. You wouldn’t want to end your relationship over something false or something that you aren’t sure of and find out after your break-up that the romour was not true - so rather be safe than sorry. Make sure you have your facts straight before ending your relationship.

Relationships take time, hard work and dedication from both individuals. It’s a major achievement to have a healthy relationship and even more of an achievement to be able to keep that relationship going. After all the effort and hard work it really would not be worth it to end your relationship over something worthless. A break-up is a major decision to make so make sure you think things out carefully first. Be sure of yourself.

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Jade89 3 years ago from Johannesburg - South Africa Author

I'm glad you agree :)

Thanks for commenting!!!


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Express10 3 years ago from East Coast

These are definitely not reasons to break up over nevertheless many people do. A fair number will regret it. You hit the nail on the head here, there are many reasons to break up but these are not reasons to do so. Thanks for sharing.


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Jade89 3 years ago from Johannesburg - South Africa Author

Hey Ellesvoice!

Thanks a lot for the comment.

You are dead right with regards to communication. It is crucially important in any relationship especially inter-racial or cross-cultural ones.

Everything of the best to you and your boyfriend! Keep going strong :)


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ellesvoice 3 years ago from Queen Creek

I can totally get behind never breaking up over these three things! If I'd have followed my irrational gut and broken up with my boyfriend every time we disagreed due to cultural differences (he's Hispanic and from the Dominican Republic while I'm a caucasian born and bred in the US), we would have broken up a hundred times in the last year alone!

Keeping the lines of communication open in a relationship really helps with all of these three issues getting in the way. It's easy to get upset when you don't understand a behavior or situation, but it's almost always better to express your misunderstanding and ask them to clear things up for you.

Great post! Thanks for the insight and awesome advice!

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