whats the purpose of multiple boyfriends/girlfriends over the age of 30
Boyfriend /Girlfriend depicts a companion in a romantic or sexual relationship.
My question to those interested in a long term or marriage relationship - What is the point of having frequent boyfriends or girlfriends?
Thirty is the age of awakening. You understand who you are, the life you desire and gain an understanding of who you are as a person. You know what you desire from a potential long term partner and you are aware of what you have to offer as well. After the age of 30 you have a mental checklist of the qualities you desire, your deal breakers, and your "desires" but not required for the job qualities.
So why do some women and men have a new boyfriend or girlfriend every 3 months? Does that mean that every person you have a relationship with is a potential long term partner?
Let's address the elephant in the room. Is the real purpose some people frequently enter relationships is to their partner is not supposed to be intimate with anyone else while you two are committed to one another?
A committed relationship is an interpersonal relationship based upon a mutually agreed upon commitment to one another, involving exclusivity, honest, openness or some other agreed upon behavior -as defined by wikipedia.
What constitutes a potential partner? Is it the need to follow Patti Stanger's rule (Millionaire Matchmaker) "No sex before monogamy" rule?
Random facts states couples usually wait until 6-8 dates before they are willing to enter into an exclusive relationship. What do you really know about someone in 6-8 dates? Do you really know someone beyond some physical attraction and verbal presentation in such a short amount of time?
The 40 year old virgin (movie) was based on the main characters going on 20 dates before considering being intimate. Their dating is similar to dating in the early days when you not only went to dinner and movie but you sometimes prepared dinner together at home, rode bikes, or went rock climbing together. Dating and exclusivity does not seem logical after 6-8 dates.
So my question? What is the purpose of having a new boyfriend or girlfriend every month? Would you consider such a person to be someone who will enter countless relationships in the hope that one will stick -the hopeless romantic? Would you consider such a woman "loose" while attempting to cover up multiple lovers with a temporary label? Would you consider this person dilusionaly in love with everyone or someone who simply can't be a complete person on his/her own?
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