Who Should I Marry?

The stage you are as a

single is very delicate stage

in your life. You still have a

choice. If you are

privileged to stand

between married people

and single people, you will

observe that what one

group is complaining about

is exactly the opposite of

what the other group is

complaining. When you talk

to some single they usually

tell you that they cant wait

to get married while those

that are married wish they

had waited before getting

married. May be they

should go and counsel each

other. Marriage is like a

catalyst and a catalyst is

something that can add or

quicken change. Marriage

is something that can create

change inside of a person.

There are three things that

can change ones life

beyond recognition; the

first is when you get born

again, the second is when

you discover the reason for

your existence, when you

discover your purpose on

earth.. The moment you

discover why you are here

on earth, everything about

you will automatically

begin to change. The third

thing that have the power

to change your life is who

you marry.
And the Lord God said it

is not good for a man to be

alone: i will make him an

help meet for him. This

was the first marriage.

Sometimes we believe that

it is the government that

will change the world, they

also have their own part to

play. Sometimes we believe

that it is war(fighting will

never bring change in the

world) Some other people

believe its the church but

its interesting to know that

after God created Adam

and gave him a job to keep

the garden, God then made

him a husband and a

father. For the world to

become a better place, we

must concentrate on the

families. If God thought it

was the government, he

would have made Adam a

governor or a president. If

it was war that will change

the world, He would have

made him a general. If it

was education,He would

have made him a

professor. If it was the

church, He would have

made him a Bishop. He

made Adam a father. One

of the qualities to be a

good pastor from the

scriptures is to be a good

husband and father. Be

good at home then you will

be good in church.
Who you marry will affect

your life either positively

or negatively. God said that

the reason he brought two

together is so that He can

have godly seed.Marriage

can either make you or it

brakes you. A man shared a

story and he said that he

was driving with his wife in

their car and when they got

to the major road they saw

a car suarving like the one

that happen in James bond

movies and they thought it

was one of the bad boys

playing around but when

they got close, they looked

into the car and saw that it

was a couple. Two of them

were fighting in the car. Its

not funny at all. This was

happenning in the middle

of the road. They were in

motion, nodding and

punching each other. And

they followed them and

aslo found out that there

was a child in that car. This

baby did not choose his

parents but the parents are

doing things that could

endanger the babies life. In

life you dont choose your

relatives, brothers, and

sisters, auntys and uncles

but the only one you have

the right to choose is who

you marry. So you should

make that decision to be

the right and best decision.
The fist thing you should

look out for in the person

you want to marry is that

the person must be in

Christ. If you are a born

again child of God its very

important that you marry a

child of God as well. Some

people say 'what if hes

nice, what if hes a good

guy, the issue is not about

niceness. The issue is

about nature. The scripture

said that we were by nature

the children of wrath.

When youn get born again,

its not just your action that

will be changed but your

nature. When you are born

again and you make a

mistake, you will feel bad

but when you are not born

again, sin is your nature.

To such person, sin is not

just an action but a nature.

You cant be unequally

yoked with unbeliever.

Dont marry someone you

will force to go to church

and to love the things of

God. The person must be in

christ.
The next thing to look out

for is character. What is

the persons behaviour like.

Most people look at the

outward appearance alone

when they want to choose

their life partner. A lady

was asked the kind of man

she wants to marry and she

said 'i will like to marry a

fair and tall guy' thats

funny cos i also know

kidnappers that are fair

and tall. Height and

compelexion shouldnt be

the first thing to mention.

A lady had a broken

relationship and another

guy walked up to her and

she refused him because

he is short but i know very

well that the one that broke

her heart was tall. Peoplen

want to build their

marriage on the factors

and they wonder why

things are not working out

the way they had expected.

Dont just marry someone

that is fair, beautiful and

tall, what could be said

about their character. The

bible said that a faithful

man who can find and not a

handsome man. A virteous

woman who can find not a

beautiful woman. The

world is filled with rich

and handsome men but not

with faithfull men and also

filled with pretty and

beautiful women and not

with virteous woman.

Check out for character. Its

not everybody that is in

church that is eligible for

marriage. There are women

whose maker is their

husband. Attending to

church doesnt mean you

are a born again just like

standing in the garage does

not turn you to a car. There

are all kinds of people in

church cos its like a

hospital. The person lying

to you today will definately

lie to you tomorrow and

the person threatning to

beat you today will execute

it someday. Is he or she an

impatient person. People

that are in a haste to get

married will also run out of

it because they cant wait.
I discovered that whatever

God asked us to do as a

single will certainly be of

help to us when we are

married. Start living your

life the God way and dont

wait until you are married.

If God ask you to forgive,

please do. If you forgive

people you dont know, why

will it be difficult to

forgive your wife that you

love. Learn to speak kind

words to people.
A brother had a problem

with his wife and he went

for counselling. The pastor

asked him why he is not

talking to your wife the

word says we should love

our wife and he said 'shes

my enemy'. The person

also told him that God said

we should love our enemy.

He went on to say that they

don't sleep in the same

room that she stays in a

different room and the

pastor said that God asked

us to love our neigbhour.

Theres no way out, you

just have to act on the

word. Check for character.

The lady that fights her

boss, elder brother and

pastor, she certainly hates

authority and she will also

fight the husband.
Another thing you should

check out for is

compactibility. This is very

important. Amos 3:3 says

that can two work together

except they agree. A house

divided against itself is

brought to desolation and

such house cannot stand. If

you can settle the issue of

compactibility, things will

flow easily. It means the

ability for two people or

two things to get along.

They don't have to be

similar, they just have to

get along. It doesn't mean

that the two of you must

love to talk,no. One person

may like to do the talking

while the other do the

listening. That means you

have certain things that

complements each other.

Just like the pen and its

cover are very compactible.

When you are not making

use of the pen, the pen

cover will cover the

writting side and when thje

pen is in use, you can put it

on the top and it still fits

it. They are not similar but

they are compactible.

Check if you have the same

views and believe about

life. If you worship in a

place that dont allow

women to put on earrings

and you are to marry a

person that their men put

on earring, where will you

wed?.
Get to know your purpose

for life. When you must

have discovered who you

are, you ought to marry

someone that suits into

that purpose. Someone that

can add some meaningful

things to that purpose.

Know your purpose before

choosing your partner for

life. Where you are going in

life will determin the

person you will go with.

There must be

compactibility in terms of

purpose. Its not everybody

that should marry a pastor

or a business man.
Let's assume your name is

Jane and your vision is to

be a world class singer and

two guys are asking for

your hand in marriage. One

is Micheal Jackson and the

other is mickiuhgh.

Between this two guys who

will you marry. Ofcourse

you will go for micheal

jackson. You may not even

pray about it. Imagine you

marry Micheal Jackson,

with his name alone, JANE

JACKSON, you will sale.

The moment he is featured

in your song, it will

automatically sale and you

will become a world class.

But what if your vision is to

get rid of the bad boys in

the hood. I think you

should marry Micheal

THyjj. They will say "

becareful, this is thyjjs

wife".
Your purpose for life

determines who you will

marry. Compactibility is

very important. There are

many people that has

gotten married and they

dreams and visions for life

died. Make sure you marry

someone that can

accomodate your vision.

Someone that will

appreciate what you are

called to do. You must have

the ability to get along.
Another factor you should

put into consideration is

companionship. Many

people have refused to

marry because the ones

coming are their friends

and i ask, is it your enemy

that you want to marry?

Have it in mind that part of

the things you will do in

marriage is

companionship. Many

people wonder what

married people do. They

talk. If there are 24hours in

a day and they use 1hour

to have sex and use

another hour to pray, what

will they be doing with the

rest. Many people do

marriage as if its a

government work. They

think its a duty. You justb

marry and you tell your

wife " you are the wife and

am the husband, i bring

money, you give birth and

train the children" No form

of relationship. Dont say

somebody is too close

because its that close

person that can understand

you. Dont try to make your

wife your friend but out of

your friends choose a wife.

Marry your friend because

the main thing you do in

marriage is

companionship.

The pastor asked him why he is not talking to your wife the
word says we should love our wife and he said 'she’s my enemy'. The person also told him that God said we should love our enemy. He went on to say that they don't sleep in the same room that she stays in a different room and the pastor said that God asked us to love our neighbor. There’s no way out; you just have to act on the word. Check for character. The lady that fights her boss, elder brother and pastor, she certainly hates authority and she will also fight the husband.
Another thing you should check out for is compatibility. This is very important. Amos 3:3 says that can two work together except they agree. A house divided against itself is brought to desolation and such house cannot stand. If you can settle the issue of compatibility, things will flow easily. It means the
ability for two people or two things to get along.
They don't have to be similar; they just have to get along. It doesn't mean that the two of you must love to talk, no. One person may like to do the talking while the other do the listening. That means you have certain things that complements each other. Just like the pen and its cover are very compatible. When you are not making use of the pen, the pen cover will cover the writing side and when the pen is in use, you can put it on the top and it still fits it. They are not similar but they are compatible. Check if you have the same views and believe about life. If you worship in a place that don’t allow women to put on earrings and you are to marry a person that their men put on earring, where will you wed?. Get to know your purpose for life. When you must have discovered who you
are, you ought to marry someone that suits into that purpose. Someone that can add some meaningful things to that purpose.
Know your purpose before choosing your partner for life. Where you are going in life will determine the person you will go with. There must be compatibility in terms of purpose. Its not everybody that should marry a pastor or a business man.
Let's assume your name is Jane and your vision is to be a world class singer and two guys are asking for your hand in marriage. One is Michael Jackson and the other is mike tyson.
Between this two guys who will you marry, Of course you will go for Michael Jackson. You may not even pray about it. Imagine you marry Michael Jackson, with his name alone, JANE JACKSON, you will sale. The moment he is featured in your song, it will automatically sale and you will become a world class. But what if your vision is to get rid of the bad boys in the hood. I think you should marry Michael tyson. They will say " be careful, this is tyson wife". Your purpose for life determines who you will marry. Compatibility is very important. There are many people that have gotten married and they dreams and visions for life died. Make sure you marry someone that can accommodate your vision. Someone that will appreciate what you are called to do. You must have the ability to get along.

Another factor you should put into consideration is companionship. Many people have refused to marry because the ones coming are their friends and i ask, is it your enemy that you want to marry? Have it in mind that part of the things you will do in marriage is companionship. Many people wonder what married people do. They talk. If there are 24hours in a day and they use 1hour to have sex and use another hour to pray, what will they be doing with the rest? Many people do marriage as if it’s a government work. They think its a duty. You just marry and you tell your wife “you are the wife and am the husband, I bring money, you give birth and train the children" No form of relationship. Don’t say somebody is too close because it’s that close person that can understand you. Don’t try to make your wife your friend but out of your friends choose a wife. Marry your friend because the main thing you do in marriage is companionship.

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