Deadly Poison Bitterness

Hello I am going to write on bitterness and how deadly it is.How if it is allowed to run full course it can and will destroy the one that keeps it's deadly poison deep inside their heart.

How can I describe bitterness to you? It just doesn't appear all of a sudden, it happens over time. I hate how it makes me feel. I don't feel like myself when I listen to it's never ending record of remembrance of the wrongs I have experienced. I don't like how it can cause me to dwell in the past stirring up emotions that are better off dead. But there not dead! If I still have bad hateful feelings about it after so long than I haven't dealt with it, or rooted it out because it is springing up.

For me to disconnect through I guess change of focus and just to pretend it didn't happen isn't away to get rid of the offense. To bury any problem, even if it's not on purpose will never make it go away. This may appear to be a form of coping with life in order to survive, but it later comes to destroy your peace and dreams even if not invited.

This bitterness causes resentment, hate, unforgiveness, harshness, numbness, lashing out, it turns a person into something they never ever wanted to be. It will suck the very joy, life, and sanity out of anyone it can control.

It will not go silently or with just one prayer. It runs through my veins, it is inside my very being, it tries to take over my existence. It is so deeply rooted that it will not feel good to have this purged out of my heart. My heart pumps this poison to my whole body, the whole body of my life and bitterness laughs at the pain it causes me at my very own expense.

Can I just snap my fingers and make it go away, or say get out now this is not who I am? This is the enemy of my progress. It's not like I am hateful or bitter about everything but it is just enough to cause me to say I can't take this anymore.

The heart knoweth his own bitterness; and a stranger doth not intermeddle with his joy. Prov 14:10

The heart knows and (and is), (acquainted with, recognizes, is instructed by) it's own (personal, individual, very own) bitterness (harshness, sourness, hardness), and a stranger (external, alien, unacquainted), does not share (experience, or have a portion of, or receive) it's joy (delight, pleasure).

Only a person with a heart of bitterness knows the pain and hardship of having a hard bitter heart. A stranger not sharing the same heart of stone/ bitterness can't even begin to know what that individual is experiencing. Or how they feel. Only the person with a heart of bitterness can make a choice to no longer be in that state of illness. Because they know the pain of it and they want it to leave. They have to seek freedom. We can not see the complete state of a person's heart unless we are them or God.

Bitterness:

Definition: Holding on to or showing feelings of intense [strong] animosity [hatred, anger], resentment or vindictiveness [wanting to get back at someone]. -- Other words that describe bitterness are: merciless, unforgiving, holding a grudge. Bitterness is also described as feelings resulting from something that is difficult to accept.

Turned Bitter How??

DEALING WITH BITTERNESS - Bitterness is a hurt that will not heal, a wound in the spirit (Prov. 18:14). It comes into a life because of a failure to appropriate God's grace (Heb. 12:15); by refusing to forgive others (Matt. 6:14-15; 7:1-2; 18:21-35); or refusing to thank God for all things Eph. 5:20; Phil. 4:6.

Forgiveness is the most important thing that God has taught us about DELIVERANCE!

However, each time we remember the things which happened, we are suddenly flooded with hurt and/or anger again. This indicates unhealed bitterness.

"Vengeance is mine, I will repay, saith the Lord" (Heb. 10:30). It is too heavy for us to carry and besides it belongs to God .Forgive eagerly (Matt. 18:12), remembering that unforgiveness is torture (Matt. 18:34-35).

If you have been foolish in exalting yourself, or if you have devised evil, put your hand on your mouth. Prov 30:32

Understand this- this is not how I should act. This is example of the past, bitterness, anger, pride and unforgiveness from me that at that moment of writing came to my mind on my feelings on the matter if I'm not be forgiving. Also proof it's still in my heart if it still makes me upset. So lack of forgiveness causes bitterness, anger, hatred, pride, murder, rage, misery and torment.

Though you probe my heart and examine me at night, though you test me, you will find nothing; I have resolved that my mouth will not sin. Psalms 17:3

  • "Come, eat of my bread and drink of the wine I have mixed.Forsake foolishness and live, and go in the way of understanding."He who corrects a scoffer gets shame for himself, and he who rebukes a wicked man only harms himself. Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you Proverbs 9:5-8

  • What shall I say? He hath both spoken unto me, and Himself hath done it: I shall go softly all my years in the bitterness of my soul. 16 O Lord, by these things men live, and in all these things is the life of my spirit: [then Hezekiah begins to speak faith:] so wilt Thou recover me, and make me to live.

  • "Behold, bitterness became deliverance to me. In Your love You have delivered my soul out of the pit of destruction; for You have cast all my sins behind my back." ISA 38:15-17

Bitterness Is Deadly

Keeping entertaining,and thinking on these offenses proves and shows me guilty for not forgiving and bitterness. Bitterness leads to early death, sicknesses and broken lives.

Hypocritical, judgmental self-righteousness can cause us to harbor bitterness, while feeling justified for doing so, yet it ends up bringing God's punishments upon ourselves.

Therefore thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest: for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest doest the same things.

But we are sure that the judgment of God is according to truth against them which commit such things. And thinkest thou this, O man, that judgest them which do such things, and doest the same, that thou shalt escape the judgment of God? Or despisest thou the riches of His goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance?

But after thy hardness and impenitent heart treasurest up unto thyself wrath you are saving up terrible punishment for yourselves against the Day of Wrath and revelation of the righteous judgment of God; Who will render to every man according to his deeds.Rom 2:1-6

He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but whoever walks wisely will be delivered. Prov 28:26

Leviticus 19:18 Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear [carry or keep] any grudge [bitterness] against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the Lord.

Love can overcome bitterness, but watch out about opening up old hurts felt from others. Better to forgive and go on.He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth [harps about] a matter separateth very (true)friends.Prov 17:9 ,10:12.

Going to bed in anger is an avenue for the Devil to work. Let not the sun go down upon your wrath; Neither give place to the Devil. Eph 4:26b,27

Read the Bible, pray to God in Jesus name to help you forgive the offense, and then chose to do it even if your feelings don't match up.Think about what God has forgiven you for and that should soften your heart from the start.

Do what is right to honor God, not yourself. You will reap life, and your way will be prosperous if you obey God. These things help me calm down and regain my peace if I am angry or for many other things too. The word of God can and will heal your whole life and you will have a good end.

Bitterness is also caused by holding on to bad or angry feelings about someone or something that happened, but the Lord tells us to forget the things that are past.

Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.> Phil 3:13
Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.Col 3:13

And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. James 3:6

A fool’s lips enter into contention, and his mouth calls for blows. A fool’s mouth is his destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul. > Pro 18:6-7

As righteousness tendeth to life; so he that pursueth evil, pursueth it to his own death. Prov 11:14

So I don't want all this stuff to come back up and take my peace. I just want to wait on God and be patient. I don't want to be harassed by the past.

Bitterness is very deceiving. It's deceives you into not seeing or remembering what God has done, and has promised already. It changes your perception..

Bitterness steals our peace. Feelings represent matters of the heart, we must continue to forgive every time the memory comeback up to interfere with God's plan.

Never forget what you have been forgiven of. I must turn and give always forgiveness because of God's grace, mercy and forgiveness in my life. It is a lie from satan that you have to stay mad, and that everyone should automatically the perfect mate. Everyone is going to have some issues in there lives. It is unavoidable. Only God can show us and teach us the best way to succeed. It is rooted in love, forgiveness, mercy, a vow to God.

There always seems to be an uproar of some type before I have been delivered and healed of different things. I think it is so I will know what to weed out of me, and allow God to purge that weight, sin, and snare from my life.

God wants me to succeed and do well. It may feel like hell at moments but isn't that how strength is built . You have to put your body through stress and pain in order to build muscles.

Forgiveness Is The Cure

God's Word warns us against the dangers of bitterness

When we allow ourselves to become bitter against others, we create walls difficult to overcome, which isolates us from others.

  • A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle. Prov 18:19
  • Bitterness is a sin to be repented of.
  • Repent therefore of this thy wickedness, and pray God if perhaps the thought of thine heart may be forgiven thee. 23 For I perceive that thou art in the gall [poison] of bitterness, and in the bond of iniquity. Acts 8:22,23
  • Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Col 3:19
  • Be on guard against it, because even a little root of bitterness can do much harm to you and others.Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled. Heb 12:15 (Deut 29:18)
  • James 3:14 If ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not [don't brag about it.], and lie not against the truth.


But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Col 3:8

“Blows that hurt cleanse away evil, as do stripes the inner depths of the heart.” (Proverbs 20:30)

Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. 1 Peter 2:24

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;I Cor 13:1-13

I believe forgiveness is a choice we make through a decision of our will, motivated by obedience to God and his command to forgive.

The Bible instructs us to forgive as the Lord forgave us: Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Col 3:13

We will know the work of forgiveness is complete when we experience the freedom that comes as a result. We are the ones who suffer most when we choose not to forgive. When we do forgive, the Lord sets our hearts free from the anger, bitterness, resentment and hurt that previously imprisoned us.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy

- think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me -- put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. Phil 4:8-9

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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thank you Heavenbound, that was such a powerful and thought provoking hub on Bitterness, and poison. I remember when my husband cheated on me two times and had two other children outside, that almost killed me. It took a lot to forgive and forget. I don't think you ever forget but you learn to live with it. Bitterness and poison, can and will destroy you and relationships. We have to not only forgive, but learn how to release it to God. Thank you for a very enlightening hub. God bless you.creativeone59


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Dian'swords4u 5 years ago from North Carolina

Forgiveness is hard sometimes, but it is a cathartic the frees the soul so that God can come in bathe your soul in his love and heal all the wounds. Thanks for the hub


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Jamie Brock 5 years ago from Texas

Heavenbound, I so relate to this hub about bitterness- I have had bitterness for my husband for quite some time now. I used to want to try to work on our relationship and now I wonder if there is really any hope. It scares me that I find it hard to picture us growing old together and I almost don't want to picture it.. but I do know that God is the answer and you've written so me beautiful things about forgiveness here. I DO believe it is possible for our relationship to get better but ONLY if we both line up our wills with God and that is the tricky part... when it comes to love we both believe two totally different things.. I am going to write a hub on this soon- writing helps me sort through things all piled up in my mind- and it's almost like God talks to me when I get this stuff out. I bet you feel like that too.

Thank you for sharing this, Heavenbound. It feels so good to know I'm not alone and others feel the way I do in their marriage- and are working through it toward success. I belive we can be a source of strength for each other. Take Care!


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heavenbound5511 5 years ago from Under the shadow of the Almighty God! Author

Hi Creative One. Dian, and Jamie!

Thanks a lot for your time in reading and commenting.

I didn't want you all to think I was ignoring you! I have been dealing with a ton of stuff, moving and other things.

It is so important to forgive others most importantly so we to not internalize it. Even if we don't know how to give it to God we must let Him know that we have these feelings and such- and that we don't want them and His mercy and grace will step in with the strength we need to hold on for our next breakthrough! After all God wants us to glorify Him with our lives, in our hearts so He will meet us where we are, but we must always be honest with God and let him take us through what is painful. Trading in the unforgiveness, bitterness is worth it when we no longer have to deal with it's torment.

God bless you and talk to you all later!:)


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Enlydia Listener 3 years ago from trailer in the country

I'm glad that I found this today, since I have been dealing with years of bitterness...but realizing that it is time to be cleansed of it.

I found it interesting that you said bitterness coursed through your blood...since scientists have proven that our thoughts and emotions are stored in the cells of our body...not only our mind needs to be cleansed, but the very cells of our body of the poison that bitterness causes. Blessings and thanks for the scripture and sharing.

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