A Commentary and Review on "Prayers for Bobby" on YouTube, God's Loving Mercy and the Power of Prayers

In God's words in Christ, may we find truth as we seek his light.

Prayers for Bobby trailer (watch separately the movie itself, a powerful video for those struggling with gay children and see the greater wisdom in heeding to G

Prayers for Bobby - and Christ's Loving Mercy


To where is our preferred path going: "To follow our own path, or our will, or will it be to follow the path of righteousness in Christ Jesus, or God's will in us," this is the challenge you want to participate in and click on your most appropriate answer below, after you may have finished reading this hub while we take this short but exciting journey towards, would you say, 'real or eternal home?'


Watching"Prayers for Bobby" on hotmovies25.com (replacement link for free download? - originally watched on YouTube now unavailable) has given me one insight of a young confused gay teen's life in Bobby, one who was brought up in a religious family, and an equally confused mother in her faith as she tries to save her son from what she perceived as an 'abomination,' or a shameful or detestable state for which a homosexual may be aptly described in the bible, after finding out that her son was gay.

Before you may go on reading, please read this hub with an open mind, as I pray with you for guidance, enlightenment and discernment, that we all may be guided in the Holy Spirit in our better understanding of this hub, filled with one's love, forgiveness and openness, and deep in our hearts, along the way, in God's time, we may learn to choose the path to renewal in the light of Christ Jesus.

Do not get me wrong as I myself have learned to accept my gay friends as they are, some being my badminton buddies and we do have fun together, but while I refrain from judging them, deep in my heart I continue to pray that they may continue to use their talents in ways that are helpful to many and that they may progress in their path towards humbling themselves in obedience to God.


Based on a true story, in our featured video above, the mother refuses to accept her son's difficulty to change as he is resigned to his perceived irreversible status of being gay and his hope of being understood and to be accepted by his family to what he feels he is has become futile until he decides to take his own life.


For me, peer pressure, as it is among many gay men and women, this may have added much to influence Bobby's seemingly firm belief that he can never be changed. I know of some effeminate men and gay women who have learned to change and lived as happily married people with families of their own, with a few being, nevertheless, unsuccessful as this may come out a real tough challenge for anyone just to change from being gay, as it can be a real tough challenge to change from being agnostic or atheist to being God fearing or religiously attached and strong in faith, or from being a smoker to becoming totally freed from smoking.



Perseverance in Faith, in Prayer and Humility to Change


When I was around 5 years old, I remember my elder sister successfully convincing me that I look beautiful wearing her dress and we were playing with dolls and lady stuff back then. My mother eventually guided me out of it and I remember telling myself to get over that feeling of playing with lady stuff or my Dad will get mad at me, and boy, did I fear those belt lashing when we were young as we misbehaved.

Growing with two other boys that came next to me, before having another two sisters as our two youngest siblings in the family, I have, thank God, overcome that hurdle that may have turned me into a gay, and may have lead me too, just like other gays, into believing that they were gay since they were born.

For me, since God has gifted us with 'free will.' I have come to realize how we can mold ourselves the way we want to make of ourselves. And along the way, our environment, our family, our peers, and things that happen around us as we may grow, all these can or may influence our way of thinking and our way of life, as culture has made many people accustomed to, and as habits, good or bad, has formed men and women in their present state.

Change becomes difficult especially when we are less interested in doing it or we fail to exert the right efforts to effect change. And if we only believe we can do change ourselves, however difficult it may be, it is in the humility of our heart to change, more than our ego, that we may see ourselves succeed in our goal to change, coupled with prayers and with faith in our hearts, God may lead us through this change. Yes, indeed, again, with God and prayers, all things are possible.

I so believe that truly, 'prayers can move mountains.'


And as God moves in mysterious ways, he is here to test us in every way possible, we can never tell what his next move may be and in our great love and faith in him, you can be assured he is there listening, watching over our shoulders, as we may live trusting in his ways, living in his plan for us based on choices that we may make, knowing all along that he is there for us while he knows and understands what is in our hearts.


The more we may see ourselves closer to God, the more temptations, trials and hurts may come to challenge our faith.

And many times, it is in one's perseverance in his faith and in relentless prayer, that one may see himself succeed in whatever endeavor he may chose to undertake.

In whatever situation we may see ourselves in, it is when we show our love for God that we may learn to rise from all our worries, anxieties and inequities lifting all these up to his holy name, that we may at any time be more strong against the temptations of the flesh, be it sexual or physical, emotional or psychological, or be it spiritual, God allows us to make mistakes as we may sin, but in our sinfulness, may we remain open to renewal, and humbly accept God's will in us, not our will, that we may see God glorified as we see ourselves way above far from our evil ways, and be blessed with our love ones, as we may see the power of God in us grow and learn to live beyond the prodding of our mind, of our ego, of our 'self.'


It is not easy to die to our 'self' where one may forego all his material wants, desires or possessions, or his or her attraction to another, be it the same sex or not, it may matter not, but what may matter is our love for God, as it is in our love, understanding and forgiveness on those who may go astray, for at one time or the other, we may have also gone astray, for in this life, as we live in the flesh, we may always sin in our flesh.

Jesus' painful passion and death on the cross shows God's love for man and this love can be returned by our own death to 'self,' that in choosing to die for his sake, we may find what 'true life' really is, onto life eternal.

In Matthew 16:25, Jesus made it clear as he said, "For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it."

That is why Jesus reminds us, that "man shall not live on bread alone but by every word of God," as in Luke 4:4.

[Read on more enlightenment in God's words: Gay Christian101.com/Romans]


This being said, may we open our eyes more to how we may add 'eternity' to our short period of life that God has lent to us. Allow me to call it the 'test of our faith.'

Jesus is telling us to put more weight on God's words.



Perseverance in Faith, in Prayer and Humility to Change


When I was around 5 years old, I remember my elder sister successfully convincing me that I look beautiful wearing her dress and we were playing with dolls and lady stuff back then. My mother eventually guided me out of it and I remember telling myself to get over that feeling of playing with lady stuff or my Dad will get mad at me, and boy, did I fear those belt lashing when we were young as we misbehaved.

Growing with two other boys that came next to me, before having another two sisters as our two youngest siblings in the family, I have, thank God, overcome that hurdle that may have turned me into a gay, and may have lead me too, just like other gays, into believing that 'they were gay since they were born.'

For me, since God has gifted us with 'free will.' I have come to realize how we 'can mold ourselves the way we want to make of ourselves. And along the way, our environment, our family, our peers, and things that happen around us as we may grow, all these can or may influence our way of thinking and our way of life, as culture has made many people accustomed to, and as habits, good or bad, may have formed some men and women in their present state.

Is it difficult to change then?

Absolutely not.

As the cliché goes, "there is nothing permanent in this world except change."

Change may become difficult for those who do not wish to change and are comfortable in what and who they perceive they are and in how they want to do things as they may have been accustomed to do.

Quick question comes, "how far are you willing to change from within your comfort zones?"

And if we only believe we can do change ourselves for the better, to achieve our goals and dreams in life, we can, right?

But why is it so difficult then to change? Is it not our pride that makes this so?

Human knowledge passed on through education and from one person to the other can easily influence a person who depends on his teachers, his parents, his brother or sister, another relative, his peers, his closest friend, his boss, his priest, pastor, his counselor, his doctor, a new found acquiantance or whoever one may want to trust or find the need to trust.

Anybody can influence somebody to his or her way of thinking, or an event that may change a person's life, right?

Accepting an event or another person's counsel or suggestion can be humbling, but it is this reality that can make or break a man, do you agree?

Whatever the consequences, in the decisions that we may make, in the chosen path that we may take, be it right or wrong, be it light or darkness, we are responsible for our actions.

We can always try passing the blame but is it wise, is it smart, or is it wrong?

The more we may overcome the habit of 'passing the buck,' that more we may be freed from lies and deception from within us, and the more we become more confident and stronger as a person.

One who is able to accept full responsibility for his actions deserves respect and honor just like a person who humbles himself to the truth, for he who comes in the open and takes the burden of his actions is humble enough to face the truth and reality of it all in this life, ever confident and never butting an eyelash when it comes to defending his truth.

But what if his truth is based on other people's truth, or copied truth, a retweeted version if you may say? The same way, he should be able to defend his position, right, and not just become a copycat who stands on soft soil or worst, on quicksand that buries him to embarrassment or failure?

Compare this to one who can hold his ground for he has done his homework, has failed many times but never stopped searching for the truth while doing related researches as to make his position more convincingly acceptable that he now becomes more confident than the other in defending his position to the hilt, a position that is made true and believable in conviction and in all angles of an argument or dissertation.

What makes the copycat weaker than the confident researcher? Is it not taking a step further that makes one better positioned.

The longer term it can hold through, the better, right?

Who is likely to see the truth, the one who depends on others' opinions and see further efforts as futile and meaningless in one's pride with short term vision of success, or the one who makes extra efforts in achieving higher goals in life, making good use of his talents in the humility of his mind and spirit, ever willing to turn each defeat or failure into victory in the long term, selflessly in search of truth and new ways of making life better not only for his own, but for his family and more people as well?

Why do you think made more laudable inventions? Is it not from people who were self motivated, who were willing to listen not to copy but to see what can be improved, be their inventions or themselves in their attitudes? Is it not those willing to humble themselves to accepting failures, their faults and their weaknesses, and have opened themselves to changes in search of truth, selflessly sharing with others their great ideas, being inspirations to many, not the ones worthy of praise, honor and respect?

Evil in our ego and pride can derail our search for truth, while humility in striving to overcome our faults, learning to accept what is true from inside out, and cleansing ourselves in both body and spirit, in deep prayer while we do our best to share our talent as we live in the lighted path never stopping to be derailed in our effort to share this truth with others, then, we may see how living in harmony with God can help make our life and others too more peaceful, healthy and joyful.

I so believe that truly, 'prayers can move mountains.'


And as God moves in mysterious ways, He is here to test us in every way possible, we can never tell what His next move may be and in our great love and faith in Him, but rest be assured He is there listening, watching over our shoulders, as we may live trusting in His ways, living in His plan for us based on choices that we may make in His lighted path, knowing all along that He is there for us, for He knows and understands perfectly what is in our hearts.


The more we may see ourselves closer to God, the more temptations, trials and hurts may come to challenge our faith.

And many times, it is in one's perseverance in one's faith and in relentless prayer, that one may see himself succeed in whatever endeavor he may chose to undertake.

In whatever situation we may see ourselves in, it is when we show our love for God that we may learn to rise from all our worries, anxieties and inequities lifting all these up to his holy name, that we may at any time be more strong against the temptations of the flesh, be it sexual or physical, emotional or psychological, or be it spiritual, God allows us to make mistakes as we may sin, but in our sinfulness, may we remain open to renewal, and humbly accept God's will in us, not our will, that we may see God glorified as we see ourselves way above far from our evil ways, and be blessed with our love ones, as we may see the power of God in us grow and learn to live beyond the prodding of our mind, of our ego, of our 'self.'


It is not easy to die to our 'self' where one may forego all his material wants, desires or possessions, or his or her attraction to another, be it the same sex or not, it may matter not, but what may matter is our love for God, as it is in our love, understanding and forgiveness on those who may go astray, for at one time or the other, we may have also gone astray, for in this life, as we live in the flesh, we may always sin in our flesh.

Jesus' painful passion and death on the cross shows God's love for man and this love can be returned by our own death to 'self,' that in choosing to die for his sake, we may find what 'true life' really is, onto life eternal.

In Matthew 16:25, Jesus made it clear as he said, "For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it."

That is why Jesus reminds us, that "man shall not live on bread alone but by every word of God," as in Luke 4:4.


This being said, may we open our eyes more to how we may add 'eternity' to our short period of life that God has lent to us. Allow me to call it the 'test of our faith.'

Jesus is telling us to put more weight on God's words.


Christ's Loving Mercy


Now, reflecting back on the movie, I see in Bobby a perplexed individual, in a greater degree, perhaps, than his mother. Being very young, I see him very vulnerable to changes in his surroundings at the age of seventeen, with most of his time spent with his peers more than with his family, while growing his way through home and school, with family and friends and into his own community.


And at this very young age, one may see the influence from peers being greater than that of his family, although along the way, his sexuality may have been influenced in all areas of exposure in his growth. As it is, the need for this growing child in his adolescent life and within that delicate stage of formation, that greater need for understanding as it is to love with empathy becomes paramount if one's purpose is to convince him and win him while, perhaps, guiding him to your side.

Unfortunately, upon learning of her son's predicament of being gay, in her eagerness to guide her son back to God, she comes out rushing to his rescue oozing with much confidence in her faith. A noble attempt it truly is.

Instead, she finds herself in a difficult situation forcing the issue of faith into her son. On the other hand, we find the defensive Bobby confused and bewildered, yet, wanting to convince his mother that he was gay and he needs more of her understanding and acceptance than anything else. He strongly feels about his present state of sexuality.

Regardless of how she may have felt having been given a deaf ear by her son, in her urgency to save him from the hazards of evil presented in homosexuality, she refuses to give in to her son's plea of acceptance.

Many 'what if' situations may be derived from this experience but this may come out more of being speculations than giving out some probable helpful suggestions to a seemingly complex situation, especially when I am not privy to the whole background and to the other details behind the story. What is presented in the movie is what we get.

For the purpose of discussion, nevertheless, one may ask, and in the process of trying to analyze the given situation, could things have changed if the mother gave more importance to the essence of love, trust, forgiveness, and a deeper understanding of her son's situation, and the fruits of just letting go and letting God as one may kneel down and bow down in deep prayer for God's guidance and enlightenment in the Holy Spirit?

In the movie, her over anxiety seemed to have caught her in some confrontations with her son in her futile attempt and efforts to convince him of that wonderful feeling of being with God and in learning to surrender oneself to Him, in Jesus, our Lord and Savior, reminding her son the wrath that may come along in disobedience.

Alas, Bobby's greater exposure to his peers with whom he may have found more empathy in his state of confusion, the feeling of being loved and more understood by them has weighed more than that feeling of rejection at home. And we find along the way that the company of those whom he felt understood him better have become the heroes in his life while in his mother, he has found an adversary instead of a shoulder to lean on.

The weight of self satisfaction seems to be growing day by day as he sees his self esteem rise being with those close to him and in full acceptance of his being gay, more than accepting the meaning of God in his being, in his life and the life after as so believed by his God fearing mother, who greatly fears the possible loss of her son's soul. We are witnessing here a child with a mind of his own pitted against the love of a mother of faith in a battle of wills.

Eventually, the empathy and sympathy from his peers and the perceived compassion and affection that goes along with it may have been too much to render powerless the efforts of a loving, however, imposing yet beleaguered mother.

[Read on related post: Let's Pray for our Pope, Bishops, Nuns, Pastors and Priests that they may become True Witnesses to God's words]


I find this a very interesting and challenging movie to see with superb acting coming from Academy Award Nominee, Sigourney Weaver, as we may learn from it all how we may better equip ourselves in the face of similar stimulating and thought provoking situations while we may live our faith in our family, that if all else fail, the love of God in Jesus never fails as He is always there, ready to save us in all circumstances.

Feelings, while being neither right nor wrong, they may go overboard as they become tainted with malice, selfishness, dishonesty and pride in oneself.

Is the feeling of being gay or lesbian tantamount to being born gay or so?

If there is no scientific proof to this, will that feeling stay then as a mere feeling subject to one's belief or perception until proven otherwise?

And entertaining this statement of being born gay as truth, will this not be equivalent to being subject to one's own emotions than being truthful and honest to one's self?

Do we have to accept what is described as scientifically probable - as science may attempt to explain through defined genes - or better pray for discernment in the guidance of the Holy Spirit, which encompasses our minds, for is it not our spirit that can better connect to God, who is also in spirit? And that we may be enlightened to what is true in our faith, attuned to what is true in God's words, the divine words of wisdom passed on to man that is greater than this life for it is eternal, as presented to us in the Holy Bible and in the Holy Scriptures?

Many times because of our fears, our insecurities and anxieties we may cling to our own definition of things that happen around us through our own minds or human wisdom, that may bring to fore our ego and our pride, forgetting our True Master and Savior in Jesus, 'in whom all things were made' and 'from whom all good things come,' then, do we not see ourselves fall, we rise up and may fall again in our pride, twice, three times or so, and each time we fall, we may not realize it, it is the evil one who leaves us as we crash from our defeat?

Yet, in the stillness of the day and the night, as we pause and reflect, it has been Jesus who has been carrying us, taking the heavier load, the same way He had carried His cross for us; we may remain numb in all these, carelessly inflicting pain in His heart because evil in our ego tells us and blocks our sight from Him as we refuse to listen to His words of truth, that may free us from all our fears, our insecurities, our anxieties, as in all our burden.

In my grief I pray for us all as we may ask, until when will we stop crucifying Him as we keep on denying Him?

Will praying for God's mercy in forgiveness our sins help? Yes, absolutely, then pray hard we should, that deep in our prayer for mercy and the forgiveness of our sins, we may see ourselves redeemed by His grace and the power of His love in us, for His love endures forever.

And that in His words, we may be set free, as in John 8:32, "and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free."


[Read on: 'Praying for Discernment' that in the Holy Spirit we may be guided in our everyday life decisions.]


I am joining all those who may pray for Bobby, because I know, deep in my heart, in God's loving mercy and grace, Bobby is there watching us also praying with us for the forgiveness of his sins, and ours as well, and for all his inequities, and so with ours in our imperfection, for "with God all things are possible," as in Matthew 19:26, and in the sincerity of our prayers, our faith in Christ Jesus, as it is in Bobby's faith, may we see God's radiant light of mercy shine through Bobby's contrite spirit, and in us, as in his short but meaningful life of truth, love and forgiveness in Christ, help inspire and enlighten us all to surrender our pride and selfishness, and wrong notions or lies that may cling to us in our search for truth of our being, rather, to live and believe in Christ, to live and believe in His light, that all who may live and believe in Him may be saved from the fires of hell.

God knows no time, and God knows no bound in His love and mercy, and in our collective prayers He may listen, as we may remain true, abiding in Him, as in John 15:4, for Bobby's spirit may still live, for as long as he may inspire all others who may have gone astray to live in Christ while in this life, even in the death of his flesh, for again, only God has the power to destroy one's spirit, as in Matthew 10:28.

This being said, it is only God in Jesus that can save us, in the guidance of the Holy Spirit we may open our eyes and souls to this truth and see the essence of living with faith in our hearts, He knows what is in it, what is in our minds and as it is in our spirit. His judgment is everlasting.

As in John 20:23, Jesus said to his apostles, "If you forgive the sins of any, their sins have been forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they have been retained."

In Matthew 6:14-15, Jesus said and made it clear to the vast crowd in the mount the importance of forgiving others, "For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, you Father will not forgive your sins."

And in John 14:13, Jesus said, "Whatever you ask in My name, that will I do, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son."

[Read on: Even in Death our Spirit Lives as we May Die in Christ, by Faith and in God's Will We live]


Let us pause for a moment in the silence of our hearts as we pray for Bobby, for ourselves and for all peoples in the world, that our sins and all our inequities may be forgiven, and that we too may learn to forgive and understand those who are in the same way struggling in their relationships and in their faith, that the light of Christ Jesus, in His love and mercy and by His grace, we may see ourselves through towards unity and love in the glory of God the Father in heaven, Amen.

[Read on related post: God or Mammon - to Serve only One Master]


In his hasty decision, at a tender age of 17, to take his own life, he has seen the truth of God's love in the forgiveness of his sins, that others too may see this love prosper in this life, and NOT to take one's own life, rather, to make it GROW in SPIRIT that it may shine in Christ's light, as we may chose to live in His grace, thread in His path, and follow His everlasting light.


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Edwinoel Tanglao 2 years ago from Los Angeles, California Author

Much fuzz about Phil Robertson's comments on homosexuality that their reality show has been suspended by A&E, the producers, http://omg.yahoo.com/blogs/celeb-news/could-end-e-... But the family remains steadfast in their faith by uniting together as they see a greater light in the truth that sets free, a light that shines forever. God bless you Phil and your family, and all those who enlightens others that they too may not be blinded by darkness, and stay healed and protected forever in The Light.


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Edwinoel Tanglao 4 years ago from Los Angeles, California Author

Added a link on this post, via Gas Christadelphians, that more may be enlightened, and be happier in the light of Christ and in living in the power of his words.


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Edwinoel Tanglao 4 years ago from Los Angeles, California Author

I believe that prayers can move mountains, if you too believe in this, come join me and pray for enlightenment for all those who may have strayed from the path to eternal bliss, that in God's time, they may see the fruits of surrendering their hardened hearts and minds towards humility and obedience to Christ in their spirit, that their light my shine and see many more redeemed by God's grace and Jesus' Divine Mercy, http://www.ewtn.com/devotionals/mercy/index.htm.


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Edwinoel Tanglao 4 years ago from Los Angeles, California Author

God's loving mercy knows no time, knows no bound, for with God, all things are possible.

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