~ A Few Important Lessons I Have Learned Along The Way ~ Part I

Faith without it you cannot please God!

A Few IMPORTANT Lessons I Have LEARNED Along the Way


Years ago when I took my counseling internship, I took it in an office in the comfortable ritzy suburbs. The other portion in the homeless shelters with torn apart families, separated couples, displaced veterans, hurting people some traumatized with a multiplicity of issues and with battered and abused women. One of the shelters was in the suburbs right behind both a Mercedes Benz and Cadillac luxury car dealerships located in a vacated armory. One was located way out of the way, down across by and over on the other side of the railroad tracks in the city. One located amidst a commercial business park. What was so interesting only in the case of extreme emergency could the residents stay in the shelters during the day. They had to be out rain or shine first thing in the morning. In the suburbs they could not linger anywhere near or close to the luxury dealerships. They of course did not want their potential customers disturbed in any way by the homeless…



There was such a contrast in the various environments but not really in the overall personality dynamics. Hurting people exist in every walk of life no matter how much one might have or does not have! At the time my counseling supervisor was not too enthused about coming to the shelter at first… To be honest my home church at the time was not very receptive as well. They did not really want a lot of the homeless being brought there for counseling. No concern for worry because I went to them and eventually they set me up with a nice quaint little office… Initially the university wondered if maybe, or perhaps the environment would be a bit too harsh and…



It was here I learned the significant value of healthy boundaries as well as “One Spot” therapy! Which is a onetime counseling session. One spot simply means that when a person knows that they may have perhaps one opportunity to talk to you, and will probably not see you again. Once open they will say to you what has been stored up for years! I have heard the unimaginable... I learned to really trust the Lord during my many volunteer hours. It helped me to appreciate the value of not assuming or if you do to be readily willing to release any stereotypes. I learned here the true meaning of “ministry beyond the walls.” There is much spiritual warfare that takes place when you reach out to help those who are tormented and in much pain. Sometimes It means just giving them a genuine healthy hug or not hugging at all. There are times that anger may be projected upon you! Sometimes caring means not reacting but responding patiently… I also accompanied several clients (this is what they called the residents) on occasion along with a guard, who were 5150 sectioned to the hospital to help relieve a client who at times experienced extreme anxiety and sometimes considered volatile. 5150 Meaning they had been put under involuntary mandatory psychiatric confinement for observation for 72 hours to determine their mental state!



It is here I also learned that I naturally empathize. My concern literally drained me. My growing trust in God helped immensely and sharpened my discernment. Whenever or wherever you are in a large group where emotions are high it is a good to amp up your discernment. Not everyone has good self control... Healthy boundaries are necessary! I learned that through my trust in God; it was what kept me safe. I was not fearful but cautious. I so had to depend on the Lord for direction in a totally non spiritual environment! Gradually the doors opened more and more… Although I was learning the required psychology and sharpening my skills on the art of counseling, I learned that it took God in my life to really help me help them. There is a huge difference between Christian and secular counseling!


The Lord had blessed us greatly at the time, my husband and I had a successful Professional IT Consulting Corp with many Professional Consultants… We Also had four children in college and one in Middle school at one time… We together have traveled extensively around the world, my husband was also a well seasoned multi- talented Minister of Music… we both had also been in Church all of our lives and I had worked in just about every department… We both had been raised in the city and had moved to the suburbs now for quite some time ... We still continued to commute back to attend worship services and… This all served to give me a wide range of exposure to numerous varied facets of life! I knew the Lord’s call on my life at an early age and Ministry in Pastoral Counseling was my continued path of discovery…



It is important to KEEP in mind, God really does know what is going on. If you are sincerely interested in the counselee or whoever it is He will and can make a bridge between you and the counselee. Yet, you are only a small part of the healing process. There were a lot of politics that took place in the shelter. Some of the residents became territorial. I settled disputes between the staff and residents. I counseled and prayed with both staff and residents. Together we planned transitional strategies, the staff worked many arduous hours and hard long days. This further helped me with the counselees that lived safely tucked away in their own various homes as well! I learned that nothing anywhere in this world that anyone does, or says gets by the Lord! There is absolutely nothing that happens that He is not aware of! What matters most is our intimate personal relationship with the LORD! GOD KNOWS EXACTLY where each of us are or where we are are lacking...


Ultimately TRUE inner HEALING comes from GOD!


I was required to study many of the psychology theories and its founding fathers. There is much knowledge here. But, there are many concepts and theories in psychology that go against Christian principles. For example at the time I had to study the DSM-IV > Which is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of mental disorders. It is what is known as the “Psychiatric Bible. It serves to broaden one’s knowledge on clinical language and facilitates diagnosis. Which may require psychotropic interventions… One refers here, in order to professionally label or should I say make a clinical diagnosis. This can at times I believe somewhat hinder one seeing the uniqueness of the individual and often rules out the spiritual element of their character... The DSM-IV actually contains a plethora of information on hundreds of possible mental disorders! A Psychiatrist is both a Medical Doctor MD who is a specialist in mental disorders they can prescribe medications that Psychologists cannot.


As a Pastoral Counselor/Minister, I was required to have a relative understanding of the process… We as well in our practicum had lessons on evaluating many of the characters in the Bible as well and seeing how they could have possibly been perceived? KNOW most of the time they would have been unfavorable labeled by this criteria… Most would be thought of as a bit strange and some with mental disabilities or severely depressed.... .I had to know about secular counseling methods to a degree, but my interest was in the spiritual aspect and how it serves to bring about “wholeness!” God can fill the void in one’s life like no other! I saw it time after time in the shelter. I also realized that many do not subscribe, respect, nor care to prescribe to this belief, nor believe in the Bible!


Being a minister is not just a position that one turns on and off. It is a facet of our everyday lifestyle that requires us to constantly seek our LORD for direction in and about the public as well as during worship... In some places of worship the clergy can be very territorial. The plethora of denominations vary in what they perceive to be proper protocol. There is no need to compete for attention when there are others present or who are assigned to step up to a task at hand. I truly believe that the LORD recognizes and knows who we are wherever we are. You can sit in the pulpit, back, middle, front or side. What HE is most interested in is the posture of our hearts. It is not really always about what one sees you do...One must simply invoke and invite the infilling presence of HIS HOLY SPIRIT within us & all around us, as well as and pray for the good of all present!


One must PRAY for DISCERNMENT due to the abundance of laxity in moral boundaries. There is a tendency for some to misinterpret one's actions. I am thankful to have experienced many types of worship. Some very quiet and serene, some inclusive of moments of quietness & loud joyful merriment, some simply entertaining & and some very loud & boisterous... One must strive to find a balance. Most important one must be led by he Spirit and "Worship the LORD in SPIRIT & in TRUTH!"


There is a constant change in the world as to what is right? For one, I can remember when homosexuality was considered taboo! Now, it is no longer considered by the American Medical Profession to be abnormal? We are able to see the results of what massive societal pressure can do. Now it has “come out of the closet” Now since it is so prevalent within our society it is now known and supported as “an alternative lifestyle.” This is quite interesting because, if you do not agree you can be considered to be homophobic if you are not somewhat supportive? If that is your choice, it’s your choice. But I believe all the Bible and I do not believe that it should be considered the same as Marriage which was designed by God! God’s view has not changed! Marriage in the eyes of God is HOLY MATRIMONY! Marriage in the eyes of God is sacred! What I find interesting that now many want to have the same rights and privileges as marriage because of their sexual preference!


Now the Supreme Court has even voted against the WORD of GOD and in favor of "same sex unions" I personally find this disturbing. If this is your choice call it what it is “an alternative relationship” of the same sex. If you are not in agreement you can be considered judgmental and uncaring and…. I am "PRO MARRIAGE" GOD'S WAY! I also believe that this compromises our Christian Values however I realize that we all must answer to the Lord for our choices... Just wait because pretty soon we are all going to be forced to accommodate "same sex unions" above our Christian beliefs... We have come a long way… But have we really? Just something to really think about!


It is important to know that a lot of the original research for evaluations in psychology did not include taking into consideration the cultural differences of many People of Color. So where you might be just being polite, patient and considerate it may be perceived as being distant somewhat aloof and unconcerned, or passive… Where you might be disciplined and exercising self control, you may be thought of as mechanical.... If you speak confidently and fearlessly you could be considered delusional or arrogant! If you talk about God too much you may also be a considered a religious fanatic…This is a result of labeling and racial profiling…




On another note; I also find it quite interesting the mass shooting that took place a while back on the military base at Fort Hood in Texas. Where a military trained Psychiatrist Nidal Hasan massacred many of his fellow soldiers! They were in a soldier readiness facility where the troops being deployed to both Iraq & Afghanistan received their last medical checkups? What about the World Trade Center bombings where so many lives were taken? Have you noticed the many senseless shootings and incidents regarding guns in our schools that have since occurred? Need I remind you of the bombings at the Boston marathon where so many were hurt? What about the horrific senseless shooting that resulted in the death of nine people during Bible Study. This happened after a confused young man sat with them during Bible Study for over an hour in North Carolina then proceeds to kill them... And oh so many more tragedies that continue to occur... All this has caused much fear and insecurity to dismantle our normal systems of life. Terrorism comes in many forms. The spiritual warfare has heightened! We must daily seek refuge in the Lord. It is important to spend time daily in His Word. The Lord can and will impart His Peace to you!


The acquittal in the Trayvon Martin case caused many eyebrows to raise! How can a grown man who was told not to get out out a vehicle; do so anyway, then shoot and kill an unarmed seventeen year old teenage boy with a gun that he should not have been carrying on neighborhood watch and be found not guilty? He had a choice he could have secured his car by locking the doors and keeping the windows closed until "help" came! Just perhaps Trayvon Martin would still be living? Let us not forget the death of Michael Brown & Eric Garner and the many others... This is sheer madness no wonder so many are outraged! The lines of justice have once again continue to have been blurred.


Stress management is important and needed regardless of who you are. No matter what station one reaches in life balance is always key! Extensive training does not mean that you are immune to anxiety, impulsive behavior and pressure! In my counseling practicum I was required to study and know to a degree what others believe that are non Christians. I therefore studied a multiplicity of religions. There are many many religions… The beliefs of many differ greatly! This is also why the spiritual side needs to be addressed as to what do you believe about life, living, and how you value life! How you embrace and practice your beliefs are a huge factor in one's behavior.


Our true security rests within our relationship with the LORD! I personally BELIEVE that GOD is the GIVER and SUSTAINER of life and we do not have a right to take anyone's life just because...


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Unchained Grace 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

DeBorrah, Unchained Grace Ministries, LLC and Holy Truth Temple of Deliverance has been working directly with the homeless. Holy Truth since 1998 and Unchained Grace as of four years ago. I understand fully every single nuance of everything you said.

Churches who won't accept the homeless? Forget 'em. They aren't down with God's Word no matter what babbling comes from the pulpit. It is a hardcore ministry when you deal with the street people. Prostitutes, gangbangers, etc. I could tell you horror stories of what it's like here in Baltimore City. Nevertheless, God chooses those who can deal with it and will accept His teaching, understanding, strength and all that goes with it. DeBorrah, I can also see why you were trusted by the street people.


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Vladimir Uhri 6 years ago from HubPages, FB

Thank you for information I did not have an opportunity to have.


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Artin2010 6 years ago from Northwestern Florida, Gulfcoast

Magnificent, excellent hub DeBorrah K. my jaw is on top of my shoes! I believe that a person striving to be in closer walk with God, has an advantage in helping people who have mental issues and those whom feel lost and without hope or faith in anything. More and more all around the globe people are living in fear and anger because they have no security in this life, nothing they can really call their own. Many people right here in America are struggling and juggling, wondering what tomorrow will be like. With so many in need of so much, those who work in the missions of helping people are simply overwhelmed in trying to make a difference in others lives. The best plan yet, is God's plan first, then plan actions to take to assist those in need. Don't plan, plan to fail is a truth to hard for many to grasp. It is possible to plan and still fail, but when God is part of the plan, chances of failure decrease tremendously. Amen Wonderful hub, totally wonderful!

Blessings Child of God, I'm sure you've touched many lives just on Faith alone. Thank you for sharing.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thank you Lady D, for a superb hub, it's true that the world choose to do things not according to Gods word, but being children of God , we have to stand on truth. Thank you for sharing. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Jodi_Unity 6 years ago from Flordia

Thanks for the comment you left on my hubs. I love your writtings too, keep up the great work :)

God Bless


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Unchained Grace, I am sure you do understand! It is really unexplainable the stories are endless I am sure you could write a book... It defintely increases your coping skills because you constantly see that someone is always worst off than... So you have less of a need to complain when things don't always go your way... You also realize that God really sees what you do or do not do and why? He becomes a very important "Audience of ONE" it really "Keeps it Real"...

My hat is so off to you... Thank you for visiting and sharing your very insightful comments as well as your kind words. Peace & Blessings! May The Force be with you!


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godpreacher 6 years ago from Atlanta,Ga.

DeBorrah,

God bless you for having the courage to share some of your learnings with us. I find my road not as difficult, when I read of others having gone through situations to be of help to God's people. I do know that God equips us for the journey. Thanks for sharing.

God Bless


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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

We always think we have it bad until we learn what others have gone through. Great hub!


saved078 6 years ago from Central New Jersey

We have to be availible to serve God.Anytime,anywhere.God bless your ministry.


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

Thanks for sharing your experiences - they are enlightening - and overwhelming. Why do we live so poorly and in so much pain? And all the horrors of the disfranchised are visited on the children which for some reason remain invisible. As, a teacher, I cannot believe the horror stories I hear.

Always a learning experience to read your hubs!


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Saintatlarge 6 years ago from Canada

Thank you for sharing DeBorrah. i am fortunate that i learnt from my parents at a young age what it was like to help the poor. These were people who were friends and neighbors and you were there for them. The church i now attend and do some small part in has as #1 in it's policy "Loving and Caring" and they come through with flying colours. We have many outreach ministries, some connected and many started and supported outside the church walls, and in the downtown core. We do much outreach for single moms and poor and in the summer have the Carnival of Hope, where we serve the less fortunate with a special day. This past summer on that day we saw more than 6000 people come through our doors. We gave away a semi trailer of food, racks of clothing, prizes from the carnival were ALL NEW tv's, DVD players, toys, etc, etc just too numerous to mention here. Childrens hair cuts, moms got spa treatment, nails and beauty care, even massages. We are a church of about 900+, and have more than 30 ethnic backgrounds represented from all walks of life. One woman who was just baptised (water immersion) was originally a survivor of a bombing in Iraq, bombed by US military. She was one of the directors and only survivor. She had a heart wrenching story. One of my concerns as a Christian is NOT to be counted with those who say, "But Lord, Lord did we not do this and this in your name, and he says, depart from me, because I DO NOT KNOW YOU!". Over the past year throughout North America we saw what can happen in just a short span of time. People walking away from homes everywhere, jobless and needy from all sectors. i live in a GM dominated city and the food banks could not keep up with the demand. Will we see worse in the future, it is quite possible. Imagine for a moment if a sudden drought overtook US and Canada, how much devistation that would cause. We at times have no idea how blessed we are and i belieive we will have to account for it as to what we did with what we were given.

Again thank you. Blessings L.


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itakins 6 years ago from Irl

DeBorrah k-

I had written a long response to this brilliant hub-but the pc went awol -so I lost it.

Suffice it to say-you serve the Lord well:)Thank you so much .


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK

Wow, those were big lessons of a lifetime. I admire what you did and I'm sure you've sown a lot of good seeds and put light into people's hearts. I hope at some point in time you get to meet some of those you counseled. You might not remember them, but they will not forget you and will run to you to remind you and also let you know where they are now - in life.

The Homeless are people just like us. It's just unfortunate they don't have a place to live, but they all have hearts that need to be nourished.

Totally agree with you on the Homo issue. It's even incorporated into Equal Ops policy in London Colleges. Now there are Gay Christians, Gay Pastors... Hmmmmh! I'll just leave a full stop there.

Well done on the effort you put into changing lives positively. God Truly made you special.

I wish you were my Aunty. :)

Best Wishes.


peacenhim 6 years ago

DeBorrah K.!! Outstanding Hub! I'm sure you are an incredible counselor as well. With the leading of the Holy Spirit, and your God given insight I am sure you have been able to help many. God is using you mightily as an instrument molded personally by Him and for Him. "With God we are forever changing and can be molded in His image as long as you are willing to submit to Him." "We are the clay on the Master Potter's wheel. And as long as you are pliable, moistened by His Word and flexible you can be molded and shaped in the image He sees fit. In Him there is ALWAYS HOPE!"

DeBorrah.....these words are so encouraging and speak Light and Life into our beings! Thank you for such an enlightening and thoughtful Hub. God Bless!


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skye2day 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains

Hi sister Super hub. Really fantastic. God also blessed you with writing. You have many gifts. God has you working at large. There is never a dulls-ville in Christianity. I see Christ smiling on you. Your spirit is giving. You give Love, share love, show love. You are full of the light my friend. I am proud of you. Many do not take the 'jump' into the gifts Christ has for his children. He is an awesome God. My twin sis works with men and woman coming from prison. She is very spiritual and loves Jesus. The state does not care for her 'procedures'. You are right on there is an enemy. He is doomed and that is no lie. He knows it.

Since David has been in Salvation Army I have heard many stories. In my spirit I feel The Lord is going to direct him with 'street' people. It is just a feeling. I loved your hub. HP is blessed to have a darling as you in field. My Love and hugs. PS The crosses interesting picture. Where is that? You touched many areas in our fallen world. We do have lots of work to do sis. 'I am' is

in charge. We have hope and promise of victory. I pray others would come to that simple truth. Hugs + + +


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Judah's Daughter 6 years ago from Roseville, CA

I absolutely love psychology. Truly, this world is harsh and is waxing more self-centered every day, affecting the whole. People that refuse to know the Lord are in a form of "torment", for the powers that be are greater than mortal man. It causes those who are broken to run to the Lord and these trials will therefore build his/her faith! He who endures till the end will be saved! Times are going to get tougher, and we must know that our strength alone is not going to give us survival. Only God and His weapons of warfare will give us life!

Personally, I don't think the Fort Bragg situation was a mental case, but a carefully planned jihad move...but, that's just my opinion.

I think people who were or are enslaved to drugs experience what the world would call "mental illness" (paranoia, etc.) when indeed a believer would recognize demonic influence that can be healed through faith in Christ. Pharmakos (the poisoning of drugs) is also called sorcery in the Bible.

Christian counseling is so complete in that it meets the physical (flesh) and spiritual person as a whole. Carnal counselors wear carnal "glasses" and will be quick to prescribe "pharmacy" (pharmakos) medications to further exacerbate the issue (in my opinion). I have a Christian counselor and we PRAY together! I can talk about spiritual warfare and get counseled with a brother in the Word to stand firm.

Just so much to say ~ this hub is awesome and causes so much subjective thinking. God bless you as you continue in His ministry, sister!


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A M Werner 6 years ago from West Allis

DeBorrah, this is a very well crafted, timely piece of work. I have been working in group homes for over twenty years - currently with people suffering from mental health issues including schizophrenia. I completely understand the battle with those devoted to the science and not the religion. I spent many years in management positions, warring with corporate owners who cared more about the cash flow then the client's needs. I have also dueled with many psychiatrist and psychologist who took ten minutes every 3-6 months (depending on the diagnosis) to evaluate patient conditions, examine their folders (which they hardly opened if ever), and play a guessing game of med changes with both types and doses. Most (and I am sorry to use the word but it does apply), most were so programmed into a certain idea of treatment, you could tell who their patients were just by looking at the med list because they basically prescribed everyone of their patients the same meds at nearly the same dosages. They idea that each was an individual client with special needs, and all the information staff was assembling over the months to assist in their treatment proved to be empty. The higher up I got in management, the more I learned about the insensitive mindset of many in healthcare. I helped my mother raise two younger brothers alone with Muscular Dystrophy. I knew best what it was like to be there every day, taking care of specific and necessary needs on a daily basis. Truth was, no one knows them like the people that work with them, and those who the most power to make decisions over their lives, are people who are hardly acquaintances - just professionals. While I have great empathy, I learned early on in life how to keep healthy boundaries. By choice, I refuse promotion and stay on the floor, working daily with the clients. I look at all the medication flow through these people are all I can think of is Proverbs 31:6. The homosexual issue is amazing in itself because more than half the people I work with currently are either bi or gay - and hetrosexuals are the minority. Wonderful hub, it hit so many more points that I can relate in this space. Peace.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Vladimir Uhri, You are quite welcome! Thank you for taking the time to stop by and share! In His love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Artin2010, I agree as you say; “I believe that a person striving to be in closer walk with God, has an advantage in helping people who have mental issues and those whom feel lost and without hope or faith in anything” This is very thought provoking! I believe since God made us who knows better how to help us become whole…

So nice of you to stop by. Thank you for sharing your wonderful insight and kind words! I agree there is much going on… I am so grateful that nothing gets by the Lord. Therefore we need to stay close to Him and in His Word. In His love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Creativeone, You are so right! Yes! We must "STAND" on the Truth! Thank you for visiting and sharing, In His love & Blessings!


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Jodi Unity, You are quite welcome! Thank you for sharng! Be encouraged! In His love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

godPreacher, It is wonderful once you realize that the Lord really does know your heart! This does not mean that life will not be without its challenges... But if we see them as opportunities to grow closer to Him we are able to grow spiritually! Yet, there will still be those times that we must realize that others may not quite understand... There are times after praying and sometimes fasting our direction forward becomes much clearer!

I so agree! It is God that equips us for the JOURNEY! Thank God for His Holy Spirit! Thank you for visiting and sharing, In His love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Habee, You are so right! Thank you! I appreciate you taking the time to visit! In His Love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Save078, Yes we do! Thank you for stopping by to share, Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

BK Creative, You are quite welcome, It never ceases to amaze me all the things that go on... I am sure that you see through the children the consequences... Be encouraged and may the Lord Bless you for your endeavors to teach and help others. Thank you for visiting your insightful comments are always welcomed. In His love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Saintatlarge, There are many lessons learned when your reach out to help others. It is wonderful that your place of worship is open to “ministry beyond the walls!” The Carnival of Hope seems like a wonderful thing to experience for everyone concerned! What a wonderful time of giving receiving and sharing. It appears you have a slice of Heaven with all the many diverse people of Color!

The results of the economic recession continue to greatly impact many. One never knows … I am sure that there is much more to come. This is why it is so important to have and encourage others to get to know the Lord! Jesus really does make ALL the difference in the world! God is the Giver and Sustainer of Life it is in Him only our true “security & significance” lies; God is FAITHFUL!

Yes we ALL will have to give an acoount to the Lord...Thank you for visiting and sharing your comments and wonderful insight! Please do come again, In His love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Itakins, Thank you for visiting! I would love to hear your long version comments? You always ad another dimesion!

So always feel free... Thank you for your kind comments and support! Thank you for sharing as always it a pleasure, In His love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Lady E, Thank you for sharing your insightful comments you always ad a welcomed dimension! Yes many invaluable lessons I have learned and many more to come!

The homosexual agenda is quite interesting and continues to move towards dissolving the validity of heterosexual marriages designed by God! It is insulting how many try and equate it with the equal rights movement… The idea that it is based on one’s sexual preference it in itself makes it an interesting issue! One must really think here…….

I am most appreciative of your kind words. As always it is a pleasure! You are a wonderful niece LOL Much love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

PeacenHim, Thank YOU for your heartfelt words! It is my continued prayer to live life His WAY! Although we know that this does not mean it is not without its challenges! We are forever growing… So glad that you are inspired these truly are some interesting times; however GOD is ABLE! Be encouraged! You are so welcome! Thank you for visiting and sharing, In His love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Skye2Day, Welcome Sis & Thank you! You are right about it never being a “dulls-ville in Christianity!” There is always somrthing… Sometimes we must as you say have to “jump” not knowing where it is going to lead. It is interesting what you say about “procedures” it is not all to rebel, but sometimes you just know it is the right thing to do… You can proceed after prayer knowing that the Lord’s presence is with us constantly! The Lord will never lead us to do anything that goes against His Will!

So glad to hear that David is continuing on sharpening his warrior skills for the Lord. I am sure that he will emerge a diligent soldier with you at his side. Prayers for both of you! Thank you for being the HP angel you are! Your Light is always shining brightly! Thank you for beaming it this way. You are always welcome here! Thank you for sharing, Much love & Blessings! To God Be The Glory!

It is in Him we have the Victory! Hugs & PEACE to you as well…


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quildon 6 years ago from Florida

Hi DeBorrah,

I can relate to most of what you said in your hub. As a Christian and behavioral health therapist, I know there is a big difference in secular counseling and Christian counseling. And everyday as I work the patients and see their hopelessness and helplessness and know there is no one or nothing that can help them but God, I sometimes feel helpless. Because medication can only do so much. But I always try to mention something about God and when I see the person is open to it, I even pray with them. May God continue to bless you as you work for Him.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Judah’s Daughter, Wonderful insight you have shared here! You are so right it is not going to get better…. It is a continual, gradual shift away from embracing godly principles. Worldly concepts and strategies are encouraged that cause further conflict... I agree about those not knowing the Lord experiencing a form of “torment.” There is so much to suppress and discount the importance of a relationship with the Lord! We really do have to depend on the Lord and the spiritual armor He has provided!

I absolutely Love Christian Counseling because your objective is to help facilitate the person becoming whole! The Counselor is committed to God and accountable to Him as well! Your agenda is not to label a person and then medicate or mass the issue or problem. Nor are you trying to manipulate them into being anything. You want to help identify their strengths and help them better discover the plan the Lord has for them. Focusing on the strengths will help over ride their weaknesses. “I can do ALL things through Christ that strengthens me” God wants us to become spiritually stronger…

Knowing that the Lord is aware of everything the Counselor Trusts Him and desires to be a conduit as an “instrument of help” during the therapeutic process... You can pray with a brother or a sister. Healthy boundaries are always a part of true Christian Counseling since there is always the possibility of a transference of emotions... It is never about control but guiding the client to move towards the Light where God’s Healing is possible!

Thank you for visiting and sharing your welcomed responses. It is healthy for us all to take personal inventory regularly since there is always room for improvement! It is wonderful to know the Freedom we have in the Lord because He always knows the sincere intentions of our hearts! It is His Will and WAY we seek above all else… Your comments will further serve to help others as well! You have helped to bring out some interesting points...In His love, Peace & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

A M Werner,

Thank you for sharing your perspective and insight! I know this will be quite helpful to many who do not realize the many politics that take place between science & religion. You are so right about psychiatrist and psychologists this is why I felt the need to say something. They have their place and have worked hard and long to earn their status, But never underestimate the God factor in the healing process! The system is so eager to medicate and get someone under control… Thank you for taking it a step further. People were not made by God to simply be medicated so they are able to manage and train… It takes time to address people as individuals. If someone was to observe a person when they were having a bad day or one that was grieving over the loss of a loved one, they could easily be labeled and misdiagnosed… Once labeled it is hard to be seen as anything but that... But because I am a “professional” I am not to be questioned, and who are you? Just maybe you are delusional! It is not always quite to that extreme. But “I get it!”

Thank you so much for sharing your insight here. There is so much that could be said; but I think we have shared enough to help others get the picture who are not aware… May the Lord Bless you. I hope you take time to celebrate life with your family it can be quite taxing and overwhelming to see so many hurting and mishandled. What lessons you have learned as well as wisdom helping your Mom with your brothers….. On the other hand I am sure that you are also able to draw from the inner strength the Lord has gifted you with! It is wonderful how the Lord works to bring us on one accord. I too sense the understanding he has given you I this area… May His Favor & Peace rest upon you! In His Love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Quildon, I am so glad you can relate... As a Christian Creation Therapist I realize the many advantages of Bible based therapy. I attempted to work along with Social Services but it was not well received at the time... There is a big difference between secular and Christian counseling...

Many are not aware; What is so wonderful in the "Indian" culture as part of their healing process they require and request a "spiritual counselor" who is familiar with their beliefs within their social services. They realize the significant benefits... I think if others begin to request Christian Therapy it may eventually become a part of the process?

You are right about the hopelessness and medication. Sometimes the medication brings about another dependency and becomes a quick fix. The underlying issues many times goes unaddressed Always keep in mind that the Lord knows your heart, whispering a sincere pray goes a long way! He will allow you to share with those who are receptive...

Thank you for visiting and sharing you have helped to further bring to Light some things that will help others.

Please do come again, In His Love & Blessings!


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York

The Dr. that worked with the late Jerry Falwell's church, Jay Adams has a Christian Bible model counseling method that many folks including myself have studied. The psychiatric community is so quick to label something either a sickness or biological imparative that is jumps over sin, fleshly lust and desire of the fallen man. Yes it becomes a trap that many times takes a while to reprogram thinking but God is able to bring a person out of the mire and sometimes it doesn't take that long either. I never did become the counselor that I wanted to be because teaching was where I was called. But I admire those used in this manner to turn around a life that effects those of his circle and then his part of the world. One life saved has far reaching affects. Love you sister DeB. Bob.


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Nobody, I think you may be talking about the "Nouthetic Counseling Model" that deals with confrontation, concern and change? Confrontation in Christian Counseling usually comes from the principles in the Bible! It is really true you cannot really change what you do not do not confront...

You are right about taking a while to reprogram thinking... Many forget or discount "The GOD Factor" in counseling or when trying to resolve conflict...It is invaluable and really can accelerate the healing process tremdously... He truly is able!

Bob, I think that in your own way you counsel when you teach because your desire is to help others learn and apply rather than just "know something" I enjoy your splendid stories you share to get others to see, which encourages spiritual growth...

Thank you for sharing your insight. Your visits are always most appreciated and welcomed! In His love! Peace & Blessings!


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

Another awesome article. I should have known you have spent much time working with the homeless as you are surely a loving, kind, and understanding soul to all. I see you have learned a portion of this from experience and have the rest through your relationship with the Holy Spirit, who guides you and teaches you every day. Thank you for the pleasure of reading your words.


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James A. Watkins, Thank you so much! Professor! I am humbled by your response, but I must say my experiences with the homeless truly did add another dimension to my life…

You are quite right! My greatest teachings continue to be via The Holy Spirit! I am eternally grateful for ALL He has brought me through, allowed me to see experience, learn and do… I see life as an ongoing adventurous journey and there is much more to learn…. I thank Him for His “JOY” and yes each and every day there is more He teaches me…. Really the more I learn the more I need to know…? Your visits are much welcomed and always appreciated! I always look forward to your excellent narratives! I look forward to your forthcoming Book! I know it will be extraordinary! In His Love & Blessings!


scheng1 6 years ago

Love the pictures very much. So refreshing for us cityfolks.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Scheng1, Thank you for visiting, I am glad you enjoyed the pictures, Blessings!


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stars439 5 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

Dear Mr.s Deborrah : You and your wondeful husband have done so much good for so many. You reached out to the homeless when it was not such a popular idea to do so. You helped many people, and some that could have hurt you. Thoughts of the wonderful Mother Theresa enters my mind. So much giving with so much heart. You sent all your children to universities. You and your husband, your two hearts are so filled with serving others. Your joys come in helping others. How blessed our world is to have your kind hearts and love sent by Heaven. God is so wonderful by blessing us with you and your husband. How blessed he is to have a sweet heart like you. And How Blessed and wonderful he is for sharing your heart with all of us. Love and Hugs from All My Family And I. Forever yours, Lee, Becky, and Joann.


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STARS, I am most THANKFUL for the Lord’s presence in my life! I am eternally grateful for a husband who truly loves the Lord and loves me as well! I believe in the Power of God it makes all the difference in the world. Things will always happen… But God is a sure anchor and Jesus Christ IS a sure foundation to carry you through! This is why I say TRUST GOD!

The Lord has taught me many invaluable lessons...I realize that there are still many more to learn!

Reaching to the homeless will always be a lifelong experience especially since it was done when it was not so popular…. However it taught me that when others don’t understand “GOD DOES!” It is during those times we must lean on Him… He will strengthen us and draw us closer to HIM!

It is a Blessing being married to someone who loves, trusts, understands you and KNOWS you… It is a gift from the Lord that is to be treasured! It will help you weather the storms of life as well as give you someone to share the Joys and Celebrations of life with as well!!! This is why I so encourage to commit with ALL your heart to and cherish the vows you made to one another and to the Lord….! There is much spiritual warfare going on to break up marriages and families….. But “what GOD has joined together, Let NOT man put asunder!” God is able and He is GOOD! Each day is a precious GIFT from Him therefore we must look to find something each day to be THANKFUL FOR! To GOD Be The GLORY!

It is PEACE when you KNOW the LORD knows your heart! We must draw closer to Him as we see that many in the world are moving further away from Him and HIS principles for living… May He strengthen you spiritually and physically in the NAME of JESUS! HE IS ABLE! The Lord Bless & KEEP you, Joann and Becky…

Thank you as always for sharing, In HIS Love, Joy, Peace & Blessings!


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stars439 14 months ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

God bless you dear heart.


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Stars,

Thank you for stopping by to share. Be encouraged & Take Care!

May the Joy of our Lord be your strength. Lord Bless You Joann & Becky Always!

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