After Death Communication- A Mom Stops By To Say Hello

My Mother passed away in the year 2000, of old age, so her death was a conclusion to a life that was not an easy one, but was fully lived; she was satisfied until the end, of her role of being a good mother, which she still is, as she is with us in spirit.

I was at peace we were with her in her final hours, but the death of a loved one is not easy; it often awakens feelings of impermanence and vulnerability that is part of the human condition and changes parts of our lives forever.

About two years ago, when I was relaxing in my bed in the early morning hours, I felt my mother's presence standing next to my bed. I then had a very unusual deep surge of love in my heart; it was so intense that it was almost painful; I was able to remember the love I felt for her with my heart instead of my mind. Then I started to sob as I connected to the 'memories' of my heart. As I was going through the intense remembering, I heard my Mother's voice say 'stop, that!'. Startled, I stopped sobbing and asked her 'are you happy, Mom?' to which she replied'"yees'!" It was not an impatient yes, it was a reassuring yes, as if she had told me this before, that she was happy in her new life.

What was also significant for me, was that during this experience, I realized that the heart remembers differently from the mind. Didn't have a clue about this! It is as if the heart has its own stored memories which the mind does not. Now I understand why sages say "the heart is the seat of the soul".

But... Mom didn't stop with this visit, on another morning, I woke up to feel her presence again, bending over my bed; I could almost feel her getting ready to touch me. I felt a little nervous and told her not to materialize as these encounters as comforting as they are, can be a little unnerving, but I took the opportunity to tease her about her lack of culinary skills (she never learned to cook well) to which she chuckled and replied "you ingrate". When I heard these words, I laughed because it further confirmed it was Mom, as this was a favorite phrase of hers, which I had forgotten.

Mom stopped by to say hello with her unique personality, which helped me to feel connected to her, and confirmed yet again for me, that death is not the end. There is more to life than what we can see and touch and experience with our five senses. The spirit is transcendent which my loved ones who have made the journey to the Other World before me are reminding me of.

Check my inspirational website to help with grief, and my other hubpages story, After Death Visitation- A Creative Hello from Beyond the Grave!

Read more on the proof of the afterlife!

Written by fellow hubber, Peggy W.

IADC (Induced After Death Communication)

"Do Not Stand in My Grave and Weep"

Do not stand at my grave and weep;

I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there. I did not die.

Mary Frye

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Kenny Wordsmith 8 years ago from Chennai

Very reassuring, this hub. When people share experiences like yours, I lose the fear of death which has been programmed into us. Thank you very much, Violet.

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VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Thanks, Kenny. Its interesting the direction my writing is taking; I thought I would be mostly focused on health articles for women when I signed up with Hubpages, but have learned in life to be flexible, so I guess it will be a mixture of the two, health and spirituality. 

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Kenny Wordsmith 8 years ago from Chennai

Yes, I think spiritual health needs consideration, too, as it powerfully affects the body and mind. These two hubs do wonders for my soul's health!

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Rapidwriter 8 years ago from UK

Such a moving account, Violetsun.  I had a similar, early morning visit from my father several years ago, roughly a year after he died.  He sat on my bed and reassured me that despite the results of certain tests pointing to malignancy, I was fine. He said the results would be a little while coming and I should just keep strong.  He was right - to the amazement of the doctors.  People tell me it was a dream, they explain it as the 'knowledge' of my body responding to my fear etc.  But it's so much easier just to accept he visited, in a dream our as I woke.  I felt his presence and I saw him.  I felt no fear or even surprise.  Thank you for your beautiful hubs about the afterlife.

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VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Rapidwriter: It is interesting, just this morning I was thinking, there are those who may attribute the after death experiences as our imagination or find logical explanations, but stories like yours where you received a message from a Dad that was aware what his daughter was going though and delivered a timely, comforting message that turned out to be true, is confirmation. Thanks, for sharing!


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Dragon Fly 77 8 years ago from Maritimes, Canada

Violet Sun

Thank you for the wonderful confirming hubs and a thank you to Rapidwater oin confirming to me once again that our loved ones are never really very far away from us through the portal of death.

I remember the morning after my fathers' passing, I distinctly heard his cough and his footsteps as he progressed up the long hallway of what was him home before his death, it was his ritual to don his robe, stick his feet into his favorite dilapidated slippers and head for the kitchen to put the kettle on for his morning cuppa. Having heard this I wandered warily up along the hallway and into the kitchen, but his physical self wasn't there - but the scent of his morning cigerette was. Now I believe even more strongly than ever before having read these accounts of confirmation.

Thank you for bringing me back to the realization.

Dragon Fly 77

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VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

DragonFly77: Thank you for your comments; its appreciated, and sharing your experience with your Dad. I love to read of other's experiences as they further confirm for me (and others) that the spirit does not die. Being human we need these constant reminders that life is more than what the our perception tells us.

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coolbreeze 8 years ago from Hawaii

Nice Hub Violet Sun The heart is the seat of the soul, I like that. What would your take on soul be? Does it have a begining or end? Soul What about past lives? I took a class on Past Lives Dreams and Soul Travel. We had alot of fun!

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VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hey, coolbreeze, good to see ya here! Let's see, what is my take on the soul? Its who we really are, a divine energy that has no beginning or end,  all part of a dance with Conciousness.  The essence of everything is Love.

I have had two spontaneous past life visits, my first as a teenager while dreaming, and I had no clue what was happening, and the other, when I was waking up; it was like watching a TV show, all images where so alive!  I think I am going to write about this, but not sure if I will share in hubpages, maybe in a new blog in the making, as its too weird for most. LOL!     


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Evelyn Lim 8 years ago from Singapore

Thank you for sharing your experience. It certainly is timely as I am having several connections myself. I also thank you for the courage to write about something that may not be so widely "accepted". Naturally, I hope to read more about your insights!

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VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Eveyln: Thanks for your comments. Since Hubpages is a diverse community, writing on all subjects fits in, but yes, writing about some topics takes a little courage. LOL!

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Truth_Seeker7 8 years ago

Yes I know what you say is true. It 1988 I heard my mom she passed away when I was 7 years old in 1965. I have not heard her since but often wonder about the scripture that says since we have so great a cloud of witnesses....Un-nerving is a great way of explaining things that we can't see but know are there...spooky somewhat LOL

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VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Truthseeker: Its interesting how spirit visitations touch people from all walks and paths in life. Its comforting to know we are more than just a body, and yes, it can be a little spooky at times. LOL!

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betherickson 8 years ago from Minnesota

Hi Violet. I'm happy to read your story. I believe that our feelings for our beloved is very powerful that even in the afterlife they still communicate with us. :)

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VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hi, Betherickson: I agree. I am thinking that Love is the link that keeps us connected between the worlds. Thanks for reading and commenting. :)

Dr Allan Botkin 7 years ago


Thank you for sharing your experience and your wisdom. My patients report very similar experiences--e.g. they are surprised by how the personalities of their lost loved ones really haven't changed that much (other than the fact that they are way happier than before). What could be more beautiful than that?! I also very much like the poem by Mary Frye, which is also very consistent with what people say after an ADC (or IADC). Your message is profound, and much needed. Keep up the good work! Al

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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Dr. Botkin: How wonderful you found my hub! You were the first therapist my sister Norma Hammad went to see you when Omar passed away, and your work is amazing! :) I have you listed as one of the therapists that can help with grief in my site. I have been learning EFT, have yet to see results, but will keep trying.

Thank you for reading and encouragement!

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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Marie- I don't know how I missed this one? Anyway that is a beautiful hub and yes even I have had one experience like that but usually I don't like discussing it since it may be ridiculed by others who don't believe in such things. Mothers are really special and I can imagine how much it must have hurt to miss her so much. It must be reassuring to know that your mothers soul is at peace. Nice touching hub.

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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hi, CW: Good to see you. :) Thanks for reading and commenting.

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mayhmong 7 years ago from North Carolina

I haven't joined this hub for long, but glad I stopped by and hear your wonderful story of your mother coming back to ease your pain. I wonder if my mom would do that for me when the time comes. You have so many wonderful spirits encouraging you to stay strong.

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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Thank you, Mayhmong for reading and commenting. Glad you enjoy the hub. :)

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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

Violet you have brought a flood of memories and "You do not stand at my grave and weep", was spoken at one of my closest friends funerals when we were teenagers, he tragically died in a motorcyle accident. My heart is filled with warmth as I read this. :)

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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hi, Aevans: It touches me that this article can warm the heart of a reader, its thrilling, and I am grateful.  Speaking of teenagers, and death at such a young age, I got a kick that my  sister's grief therapist found this article, and he doesn't know me, it was the perfect time when he made a comment, as sis was having a hard day, you know one of those days when she was missing her 18 year old son who passed away, and I sent her the link to this hub with Dr. Botkin's comments. Little things like these can warm the heart.

Thank you for reading and your kind comments. :)

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lafenty 7 years ago from California

A few years ago, while I was going through a rather rough patch in my life, my mother came to me in a dream. She looked beautiful and appeared to me at the age I most remember her at. She sat down beside me, put an arm around me and told me everything was going to be alright. This was the beginning of a new and better phase in my life.

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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Lafenty: Your dream made my eyes wet, it was your mom visiting you as you saw how you entered a better phase in your life after your Mom's visit. I love stories like these.

Thanks for reading and commenting!

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Hammerj 6 years ago from Cebu City

Wow this was the most painful when your mom stops saying hello..its a sad that you haven't talk your mother but that is a life that we used to consider..consider that all of us here will encounter this part...thanks for the topic..its very informative one..

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hammerj: It was bittersweet, I was happy to hear from her, and sad at the same time. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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Peggy W 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

This was beautiful to read. I also shared my belief in an afterlife with true stories of our family experiences in a hub. I know that people who have not experienced such things may be very skeptical, but there are so many that have...that there should be some comfort in that alone. If you want to read mine and then link our hubs, let me know. Needless-to-say, I'm a believer!

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Thank you, Peggy1 Just read your hub on your Dad's passing and it was a beautiful message on the continuance of life. Have added your hub to this one. I too am a believer!

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susanlang 6 years ago

Deeply touching hub and the details were good. When my parents passed on dad went first and that was very hard on mom. His death in the skin was painful be he went within hours. My mother on the other hand, her passing was slow, long and very painful.I had my little baby boy to take care of and I would drive up to the hospital to see her when I could. In the end, she called me at home from her room, she was crying and she said she felt so.. so sleepy. I asked her to shut her eyes and sleep hoping that would ease her pain or heal her body. She paused for a moment and then she said, "I love you, Susan." I said, I love you back mother. That was the last time we ever talked again! Now, when I think about her, I know she is at peace. Thanks for sharing.

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Susan: Oh, your story gave me little chills, it IS comforting to have experiences such as yours. Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to share.

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susanlang 6 years ago

your welcome, hope it helps someone.

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rosesinsnow 6 years ago from Sparks Nevada

I just recetly lost my mother. It is one of the most painful exsperiences, I have ever felt. I havn't made contact with her yet. Now I am looking forward to it.

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Rosesinsnow: My condolences on the loss of your mother. No matter how "spiritual" we are or whether we believe in the survival of the spirit, there is always the sorrow of losing a loved one, its something that impacts one's life.

Yes, open yourself up to allowing your Mom to contact you. I have found that one the best ways to encourage communication is to ask for a sign, something that cannot be missed. When my nephew passed away 4 years ago, I asked for the sign of a blue butterfly, be it a real butterfly or a painting, a photo, etc., and a week later, new neighbors moved into my sister's townhouse, and knocked on my sister's door to introduce themselves and brought her a gift; when she opened the box it was a set of two hand carved blue butterflies! I was at her home at the time, so you can imagine our tears of gratitude in feeling that her son was around but in spirit.

Thank you for reading and my hugs to you.

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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia

violetsun. Hi. What an absolutely beautiful story, the relationship you had with your mother was a very special one, I did not have that experience with my mother, it happened with my father, after mowing our lawn and looking up our back yard, I saw him standing there and he said to me "the lawn always look great after it's been mowed". then he was gone. You are very fortunate to have had more than 1 visit. I am going to read it again because it is such a very special topic. Thank you so much for sharing it with us. :) :)

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Oliversmum: How wonderful you saw your Dad! Visits like these can be so comforting and reassuring of the contiunity of life. I often send kisses to Mom, and thank her for being such a good Mom, and apologize when I was impatient in my younger years. Thanks for sharing, reading and wanting to read it again. :)

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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

What a beautiful hub, very heart touching. Rated up and stumbled. Very, very good Violet.

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hi Hypnodude: Thanks for visiting and rating and stumbling it, its appreciated! :)

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Support Med. 6 years ago from Michigan

Comforting/inspiring. Voted up!

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Thank you, Support Med! :)

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LightIsLove 5 years ago

This story is very inspiring. It is great that you can share your experiences with your mother. I have had an experience my self and wrote my one and only hub about it. It is great to know that loved ones are always with us.


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VioletSun 5 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

LightisLove, thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. Will be checking out your hub. :)

Angie 4 years ago

"Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there. I did not die. I Love You." Will be my next tattoo. Thank you :) Hit home...I lost my best friend, Mom, 14 yrs 40 yrs old I got a tatt in memory of Mom & Dad...been wanting another..

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VioletSun 4 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Angie, This made my eyes misty, your comments. Beautiful tribute to your Mom. Thank you for sharing this!

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