All About Tom Rubenoff - Well, Almost

Three Stages of Life

I am over fifty years old and am well into the third stage of life on this lovely planet. This is my story. Well, part of it, anyway.

Oh, the three stages?

  1. Infancy
  2. Youth
  3. You're lookin' real good.

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I am a husband and a father. I love my wife. My wife is the best. I am still trying to figure out why we had kids. Maybe the reason we became parents will become apparent after they grow out of their teens. That would especially include my 21-year-old son.

Seriously they all very fortunately have their mother's good looks, and they are all much more intelligent and talented then I am. So I am, I must admit, quite thankful that I have them, and love them very much, of course. Sigh.


I cringe a little to call myself this, but as I get older, I am becoming more and more philosophical, as is shown by my writing. I believe I have come to know certain truths about life in my short time here, but you are free to judge. My philosophy goes something like this:

God is beyond comprehension. God is infinite and eternal; we are finite and temporary. We do not have a frame of reference wherein we could understand God. People who think they understand God scare me. I think people who question the nature of God are on the right track. I believe in God because when I reach out for God in my thoughts, I find God. I do not judge anyone who does not believe in God, and I do not judge how a person's belief in God manifests itself, as long as that manifestation does not harm others. I do believe that a large part of the reason we are put here is to help each other. The main reason we are here, however, I think, is because we live out a reality of chance and surprise for the pleasure of a God who does not change.

Nothing is completely possible without its opposite. LIfe would not have the same meaning without death. Happiness would be lessened if there were no sadness. Peace exists because there is violence, war, and inner turmoil, for without these, peace would just be life. Our universe is a construct of opposites, and life is a process of picking our hazardous way between them.

No matter where you go. there you are. You can never escape yourself, therefore you must accept yourself. The greater love you have for yourself, the more love you can spare for others. Don't waste your time worrying about what people think. You will never really know what people think anyway. In fact, try not to worry about anything that is out of your control, because that is a waste of time, and time is life's most valuable commodity.

Door Hardware Salesperson

I was a locksmith for seventeen years, eleven of those years in my own business. My, my, how time flies when you're having fun. After that I went to a place that hires retired locksmiths, where I sit at a desk in a cubicle in front of a computer all day. It's like locksmith heaven. All day long I look up part numbers and help people figure out if this part goes with that part. I explain the difference between fail safe and fail secure, and why a stairwell door must be fire rated. Now time just zips by, let me tell you. Zip, zip, zip. I am very very lucky to have a job and I am very very grateful for it. Thank you very much.


Everyone on Hubpages is a writer, and so am I.

In addition to Hubpages, I write at other places on the Internet (links can be found on my profile page). I am also currently working on a book for a musical for my local Parent Teacher Organization and a novel.

The PTO musical is built to certain parameters. It must be funny, it must relate to our elementary school where it will be performed three times, it must have lots of lethal puns, it must have a main plot and several sub-plots and it must use popular songs (sometimes with the words replaced) to move the plot forward. Allthough songs may be suggested, the singers may pick their own songs. The main story is about an eighth grader who can't get to school on time. His songs will be of the Frank Sinatra variety. The first sub-plot is about three girls, two American and one Japanese. The Japanese girl is soon returning to Japan and her American friends are anticipating that they will miss her. The second sub-plot is about a lunch-money-stealing bully and his victim and their interactions with the Principal, Vice Principal, and School Counselor.

The novel is about two characters. One, a boy born to Jewish parents in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. When he is six months old, assassins are sent to Bethlehem after him, but his family is warned and they escape to Argentina. Later they move back to the United States and live in Nazareth, Pennsylvania. The boy is a man before he meets the other character.

In a car accident, the other man receives a head injury that warps his skull and leaves a circular scar on his temple, looking like a third eye. As he recovers, he develops a relationship with a minister and eventually hears the voice of God. He goes on to attain a degree in Christian theology and later becomes a candidate for President of the United States.

America is in decline, oil is running out and global warming is in full swing. The people are looking for someone to save them. Who will it be?


I love to ride my bicycle, I love to ride my bike. I love to ride my bicycle. I love to ride it where I like.

I do a lot of things because I like to ride my bike. Every bit of exercise I do because it will help me ride better. Most of my clothing purchases are for biking clothes. Almost all of my toys are cycling-related.

I try to commute the 15 miles to and from work as much as I can, and usually log at least 90 miles a week, April through half of November. After the weather turns nasty I put away my good bike and take out an old beater bike. Wheras my summer bike is all about momentum, my winter bike is all about inertia. My commuting time goes from three quarters of an hour to an hour and a half, and as the weather gets meaner, my mileage declines. As I've gotten older, biking with traffic in the dark in the freezing rain has gotten less and less attractive, and crosstraining with activities like snowshoeing, running or resistance training has become more enjoyable.

This summer will be my sixth time participating in the cycling fundraiser now called the Cape Cod Getaway on Cape Cod in Massachusetts. The event benefits the National Multiple Sclerosis Society. Cyclists raise funds and then bike 150 or 200 miles over two days from Quincy to Provincetown. If you are interested in learning about this event please visit my National MS Society page.

Next year, summer after this one, God willing, I hope to participate in a week-long, 550-mile biking fundraiser for the American Diabetes Association called The New England Classic.


Poetry is something it seems that I must do. Whatever I do, there always seems to be a phrase or an idea or a concept that demands a poem. So I write it and put in on Wordpress or on my personal web site. One of my poems was published in a collection of poems about September 11.

Occasionally I have read publicly at an open poetry reading, but not recently. I hope to do so again someday. There are some venues in my area.

I run an annual Poetry Night event at our elementary school for kids and their parents. It's fairly well attended. We have a good time, read some poems, eat some cookies - it is worth doing. I also do a poetry seminar for one teacher's 4th grade class there. We write a poem together. It feels like I am doing good work.


I was not raised Jewish, although I am of Jewish descent. I am a Jew by choice. I am a reform Jew. I believe that religion is there for the individual to take something from it, not vice versa. I believe in God. I believe that the 10 commandments may have been actually dictated to Moses, but mostly everything else was written by old Hebrew men and needs to be taken in context. Many of the principals are good, or can be modernized, however, so the texts are definitely worth studying. Also, many of the ideas are interesting and/or challenging.

My wife has served on the synagogue board of directors and all my kids have been through Hebew school and have had their Bar or Bat Mitzvah. I am going to deliver a D'var Torah, or sermon based on scripture, at my synagogue in May of this year. Each friday evening, our family lights the Sabbath candles and says the blessings. All in all one could say that we are fairly observant Jews.


Elsewhere I wrote a hub about the role music played in my life, so here I'll just mention that I went to college for 3 years for music and I play the trombone. Currently I play twice a year with other musicians from the local Parent Teacher Organization. We're HOT.

Music is like poetry in that it lets us feel and express things that we otherwise could not. Music is unique because it can communicate without words. Music and poetry are both greatly underrated forces in our lives.

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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

Tom, really good to get to know you. Hats off.

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Jim Batuyong 7 years ago from Anaheim, CA

Wow Tom, we have a lot in common. Except for the biking, writing, poetry, philosopher, locksmith thing and being Jewish we're the same guy. Well at least we have God, Family and music in common. Very good of you to share what makes you tick inside. You are a rare and special person in my opinion. Thanks.

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fishskinfreak2008 7 years ago from Fremont CA

Very interesting. Why didn't you mention this on your profile?

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Bruce Elkin 7 years ago from Victoria, BC Canada

Great job, Tom. And it's also great to get a deeper look into who you are. Looking forward to the answers to the questions. Keep writing, you have a real knack for getting to the point of things. I like it.

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Likewise, Mr. Goldentoad. Pleased to know you as well.

Great to see you again, Jim. Thank you for your kind words and your everpresent wit.

Hi Fishskin! When I first got here I was just trying to get the feel of the place. I looked at a few profiles and they were pretty short, so I made mine short, too.

Thank you, Bruce. I am most honored. I do fudge one of the questions, though. I'll bet you can guess which one!

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Misha 7 years ago from DC Area

Hey, congrats Tom! See you in tomorrow's newsletter :)

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thanks, Misha. I'll be kind of famous - well, almost.

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G-Ma Johnson 7 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

Well I am with Jim on this, except am a Woman...we have many of the same belief's...and to name the Main one is the 10 Commandments...if this world would obey just those 10 things we would be a very different place...

You are a most interesting person and am so glad to know you...I do feel you cut us short though on the say more here then there...LOL Have a good day and God Bless...G-Ma :O) Hugs & Peace

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thanks, G-Ma! I was so nervous about the interview! I'm still kind of nervous about it - and it's already over!

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mistyhorizon2003 7 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands)

Great to get to know you better Tom. Thanks :)

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thank you, Mistyhorizon!

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MamaDragonfly2677 7 years ago from New York

Ahhh... Tom Rubenhoff... One of my favorites! I'm glad I read this about you Tom! Even though we are all set deeply in our own convictions, I bow to you... This is what makes us UNIQUE! Your a special person Tom, and I don't mean "special-ed" either! You are inspiring, serious, funny, sarcastic, and witty... and not to leave out...SMART! Your family and friends are very lucky to have you in their lives!

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thank you, MamaDragon!

I've got nothing against the short bus.

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Amanda Severn 7 years ago from UK

Hi Tom

It's good to get to know you better. I always enjoy your hubs and your wicked sense of humour.

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thanks so much, Amanda!

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einron 7 years ago from Toronto, Ontario, CANADA

Vow! What a lot of compliements! There is nothing that I can add to.

It is true that life is full of contrasts. Without sadness, we cannot appreciate happiness and that goes for a lot of other contrasts.

Good day to you.

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thanks, einron!

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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

fascinating hub, thanks for sharing your life with us.

Do you speak Hebrew at home? I noticed you said you'd all learned it.

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Hi LondonGirl!

The kids learned liturgical Hebrew that is used in the service, but neither I nor my wife did. Conversational Hebrew is a whole different animal.

Thanks for stopping by!

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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

I'm learning Hebrew - it's my other half's first language (although his English sounds native as well). Currently, I'm being overtaken by our 3 year old, which is depressing!

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

That's great! So good for the brain, learning a language. Those three year olds sure can soak it up, though, can't they? Their brains are amazing learning machines at that age, especially for language.

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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

Yes, he just laps it up. He's been exposed to both languages since birth.

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Excellent. I hear Chinese is going to be the hot language to know in the coming years.

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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

Sod it, I'm terrible about learning languages anyway, Chinese can wait (-:

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

I have so much going on. I would like to learn Hebrew or Spanish. I used to play Salsa music a couple of decades ago and learned a couple of Spanish phrases. But I'm like you - it's slow going for me.

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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

Isaac is very kind. If his Abba comes out with a long, complicated sentence, he translates it for me. "Mummy, Abba wants yogurt now. Get it".

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

That's adorable!

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Benson Yeung 7 years ago from Hong Kong

Hi Tom,

good to know you.

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sharrie69 7 years ago from Trinidad (an island in the Caribbean)

Love your outlook on life..if more people thought like that the would would be a nicer place. Good luck with the cycling! It is wonderful when you can do something you love and do good for others at the same time. Happy to have met you.

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thank you, Sharrie! I really like what you are doing here with your art and your writing. Keep up the great work!

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sharrie69 7 years ago from Trinidad (an island in the Caribbean)

I'll try my best! A little brain burnt tonight as I had to go back out to school to set up for the new term today. Perhaps you'd like to visit my artroom in lieu of a hub:

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Tom Cornett 7 years ago from Ohio don't look Jewish? 90 miles a week!....I take about 90 steps a week because I have to use the bathroom lots more now. Cool hub....good to know more about I can mess with you more! :)

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

I just had a fun visit, Sharri! Thank you!

What does Jewish look like, Tom? I'm ramping up the mileage after the winter - a rather painful process. I'm up to about 50 miles this week. I've got a long way to go!

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Tom Cornett 7 years ago from Ohio

Old joke...Mel Brooks...Space Balls. What kind of bike do you have?

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Oh! I should have recognized that. I have a Specialized Allez purchased before they cheapified it, Shimano 105 drive train and Alex wheels. Love that bike. I'm going to get it out of winter storage soon. Now, though, I'm still on my old Diamondback. It's a good workout.

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earnestshub 7 years ago from Melbourne Australia

Hello again Tom. I did like you said and read more about you. I like the way you have linked to this extra information about yourself. Your family life sounds busy. I like your profile. I like to see life lived.

Good luck with all your projects, and I'll see you from time to time here on the hubs and in comments.

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Frieda Babbley 7 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

Very enjoyable. I love this and the one about how you met your wife. I love how you present your views, always have. Love your humor. Want to read your novel when you're done with it. Any chance on getting in on your PTO play or trombone antics via YouTube?

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

So touching you spent time to read and comment so nicely! The PTO play probably not. Not mine to broadcast. But if that changes I'll let you know, definitely. It's a hoot. The novel has a ways to go, but everyone I have contact with will certainly know when it's done!

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feeweewv 7 years ago from Between A Dream And Reality

Tom, Boners are HOT, individually and in groups... LOL... good hub... nice to know you

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

"The trombone is indeed a lovely instrument," he said with a straight face.

divinemercylover1 7 years ago

Hello Tom, I really appreciate your look on philosophy. It is a wonderful thing to live humbly, gracefully and have a sense of humor about oneself. You seem like a pretty good guy. Blessings to you and your family....Kind Regards.John

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thanks so much, John :)

Good wishes to you and yours as well.

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Moyra 7 years ago

Hi Tom. Already think you are a pretty great guy, didn't realize you are such a well-rounded individual. Good for you, we should try to experience as much of life as possible while we are on this earth. Sorry to chuckle but can't quite get over the artistic door salesman. Just goes to show how well-rounded you are. And I thought I was the wearer of many hats, I take my hat off to you.

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ainehannah 6 years ago from Dublin

Really enjoyed the hub and finding out about your take on life.

poetlorraine 6 years ago

i feel as though i know you a little better, do you just have one account on here.......??????????????????

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saddlerider1 6 years ago

Very interesting read of a man who certainly seems to have a great handle on life, biking, marathons, God, being Jewish, locksmith, family and a poet. Charlie (Rawlus) mentioned your name in a comment he left in two poems I just wrote for the first time, I thought I would give it a try and they seemed to be liked by the comments left, another hubber Silvergenes also told me about your site and the wonderful hubs you have, so I am here and having a grand tour, I like what I see and look forward to more visits and reads. Peace

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kimh039 6 years ago

I just came here from a link from a storytellersrus poem! Someone recently told me that they envy/admire that I have several things I'm passionate about. You take passion to an all new level my new "friend!" Glad to meet you Tom.

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Tom Rubenoff 6 years ago from United States Author

Thank you, Kim. Glad to meet you, too.

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magodis 5 years ago from Colombo, Sri Lanka

Its very good to know you! great Man hah!!

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Tom Rubenoff 5 years ago from United States Author

You are too kind!

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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India

Hi Tom,

Very nice to know you and about your varied interests. WOW! I am also in the 'third stage' of my life and as you mentioned am getting more and more philosophical. I agree with you on your ideas about God as explained in one of my hubs where I call God my friend.

Of course I am not half as talented as you are- poet, musician, writer, novelist, what not. Above all, a great father and husband. Wonderful. I am very happy for you. God bless you my friend. Nice to know you. Sharing the hub as I do always when I find an interesting hub. Cheers, Rema.

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Tom Rubenoff 4 years ago from United States Author

You're right, you are lookin' marvelous. Thanks so much! I kind of feel like I maybe went a little too far all on about how great I am and all, but then again if one is going to do something, might as well really do it. Thanks again!

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