Are You A Bridezilla?

Don't be a Bridezilla!

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By: Toni Tucker

Are You a Bridezilla?!

Bridezilla...A play on Godzilla. But a soon to be Bride with huge unbecoming animalistic ways.

Most of us who have cable TV have at least heard of or watched the WEtv weekly gratuitous, cantankerous behavior of a string of seemingly hopeless "to death do they part" future brides. Or, till the time their prospective husbands change their minds and awaken to their nightmares and attempt to strangle those heckling, scornful, fussy, bossy, over-barring broads! Childish girls who want to be future wives?

A wife, really? All these women think about are themselves. Self-centered, me, my, and I minded women who manage to get some poor fellows attention somehow! It must be the physical attraction, because it sure isn't the character!


They are so obsessed with the actual wedding day and their dresses, and nick-nacks, that they aren't remotely concerned about the purpose of being a true wife. And that is, to be a blessing and not a messing!

Just how do these girls get men? Are these quality men? I have worked in the TV business and I realize that things are "staged, and produced." Is the show so manipulated and contrived that it pushes all of our buttons and we as viewers see all the red-flags waving from left to right in 100 mile an hour winds? And those poor enduring bridesmaids. They must really care about these women to hang in there through all the battering and demeaning words that come out of those girls big mouths.

Notice, I called them "girls" not "women." Any self-respecting woman would not treat people so poorly! Even mothers and grandmothers are trashed by these girls!

Let me tell you how I REALLY feel!

If I had to brow-beat a grown butt man to surrender to my childish demands, I would not only, not be ready for marriage, but I definitely would not marry a wimpy, wambie-Pammy, weak man. A man who would cower down to my demands and cry like a baby in fear of me, at that!

What?

How dare these insipid girls try to beat-down a man's spirit into submission to her every whim! I would only want a man who would gladly give, serve, bless, honor, and listen to my opinions. And not only that, to happily take my Godly advice and wisdom! And, vice a versa.

Some men and women have been praying for the right wife or husband from God that was created for them since the foundation of the world for years! Formed in our mothers womb and in our Fathers groin. Jeremiah 1:5 paraphrased.

Ephesians 1:4 According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in Love.

Gay marriages Vs Bridezilla behavior:

Based on the word of God, the Bible, Homosexuality and Christianity are diametrically opposed (Leviticus 18 and 20 Chapters 18 and 20 of Leviticus, Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is an abomination.

Which is worse? Witnessing a Barracuda witchie-poo, controlling woman rule over a scared, defeated, hopeless so-called future husband, or, Okay, on second thought, I would not prefer either.

I know I have ruffled some fluffy feathers now!

I am just quoting from the word of God and stating my own opinion about Bridezilla
behaviorism.

And, speaking of Bridezilla mis-behaving...

There was one episode that I caught a year ago or so where the bride to be had the unmitigated gall, the temerity to insist, that one of her bridesmaids arch her eyebrows or she wasn't going to be in her wedding! (She did have a unibrow).

The problem is, the alert producer and camera man zoomed in to her lower face and it was over...Talk about hypocrisy at its' worst. The girl had enough side-burn, mustache, and chin hair to braid and top off with a barrette! But, that's ok, her attentive future husband just loved him some Shelia "The Mountain Woman" from the back woods where it didn't even matter. I guess he was going to shave it, wax it, corn-row it, and add colorful beads to it on their honey-moon. Let alone the garden that was growing under her arms. I guess they were going to grow peas and carrots there to make money! There was enough hair there to grow enough vegetables to feed a small Third World Country! Yes, she was like Shelia, the incredible hairy woman from the dark ages!

That just goes to show us, that there's someone for everyone...even chin-hair lovers! That was a riot!

Maybe they time the video-taping of the show when the girls are PMSing...

Let me get back to the things of God even when it comes to grooming...

The Bible says in Philippians 4:8, ..." to think on whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."

Is the intrinsic display of disregard for their future husbands steeped in a more systemic anger that has not been addressed by these women? Why do these men cowar down? Why do they need these mean spirited hateful women in their lives?

Why are these women assuming the negative protrayal of what otherwise has been ascribed to emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive men? Do they want to be men? In other words, is this the underlying reason for such tarnished behavior? Is there a basement hate towards men? I asked this based on the shear desire of these women to hurt and hate their men? I ask it of the men not to be mean-spirited or to bash, but why do these future husbands act like idiots?

Really, why on earth would and do these men, allow themselves to be controlled and terrorized by a crazy woman? And why would the woman have the strong desire to control with such zealousness?

Does the prospective couple really like each other? Let alone love each other!

That's were Jesus steps in with salvation and deliverance and with all of his precious word. And this is where the Holy Spirit can lead and guide if only allowed and followed.

Christians act the same way too. What accounts for all the divorce in the "Body of Christ?" Bridezilla behavior at home? Run, before it's too late fellows, and women you run too if your future husband is displaying abusive groomzilla behavior before you say "I Do!"

I recall a phone call I received from a previous employer. The man called in, let's call him Ed, and while he asked all the right questions, and handled his part of the call as a potential customer for computer service, his wife out of the blue, here she comes bursting into the middle of the transaction telling her husband what to say and how to say it. All while giving out wrong information.

Just like he was a stupid little child. His voice in exasperation and his sighing, spoke volumes of how belittled he felt and more than likely feels quite often, I would venture to say. He was embarrassed, yet he listened to her humbly as she told him the that the credit card number was found on the back of the card and not the front, that Internet service comes on TV only and they didn't need a computer, that their "dial-up" service could be just as fast as satellite service, etc,.

Retrospectively, I wonder how I got the sale and finished the deal without giving a piece of my mind. I would have been fired or reprimanded to say the least. I have heard men and women actually HIT their spouse over the phone. Then, CLICK!

You get the picture. What was that! I felt so badly for him and for her. He was vexed and in a marriage with a bossy, ignorant, controlling wife, who "dared" him to continue with his phone business in no other way but hers. No matter how off and wildly wrong she was. I had an image of her standing over him with her fist balled, and eyes-wide, nostrils-flared, just by virtue of her voice, tone, control, and dare you to not say what I say posture! If a man did this to a woman, it would be flagged as abusive without question! There was no difference, except the woman was the abuser!

So, as I conclude this Bridezilla edition Bible study for singles in search of their "true love", remember women, brow-beating a man to death is not the way to go! No matter what your issues are or are not with your father!

Meet the Heavenly Father first! Pray about your urge to control and belittle your future or present husband!

Lesson learned?

Don't be a Bridezilla EVER!

If you find yourself being guilty of ever trying, or presently trying to brow-beat a potential mate into submission where it's your way or the highway, you need to pause now!

1. Get into the word of God.

2. Seek counseling from Godly and qualified counselors at your local church assembly.

3. Pray much and then listen to what the Holy Spirit says to you.

4. Change your destructive ways.

Here are some precious scriptures to meditate on before you march down the aisle!

Proverbs 21:19 says, "It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman."

Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness.

Proverbs 12:4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 31:10-12 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

Ephesians 5:33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Join in soon for my next Bible study for singles. "There's Someone For Everyone", right?"


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Comments 6 comments

Andre Mulveaux 5 years ago

This is to darn funny Toni! I spit my coffee out in laughter about the facial hair. Keep up the good work.


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Heavensgates 5 years ago Author

Thanks for reading and getting something out of it Andre.

Even if it was for the spitting of your coffee!


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gracenotes 5 years ago from North Texas

Good writing!

As to how a typical "bridezilla" gets that way? Well, it's bad enough if you grow up in a family where the wife constantly browbeats and dominates the husband. The daughter(s) sees that. But it's worse if the daughter is the only girl in the family -- the "little princess."

That's how it was with one of my female cousins. She had two brothers, and they were constantly told by mom that they had to give in to sister's whims and demands. Everything got magnified!


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Heavensgates 5 years ago Author

Thank you for the post gracenotes!

And thanks for the insight as well. There is always a root cause for this bossy behavior.

Training children is an awesome responsibility, and the wrong training, or gathering of info that children get, can play a vital role in their subsequent behavior when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex.


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Guanta 5 years ago from New York City

Hi Heavensgates, thank you for the article. When I accidentally watch Bridezilla I am appauled at this behavior. It is a perfect example of what not to do. I cannot imagine speaking to my husband, or any man in that manner.

Ii's a small wonder there aren't any "live" murders right on the show. What shameful and embarrassing behavior.


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Heavensgates 5 years ago Author

Yes, Guanta,

If we were not so "shock value" centered, the show show be called "What Not to Do in Order to Stay Married!"

Thanks for the visit, come back now.

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