Are You Afraid Of Fear? (Part 1. Why Am I Afraid?)

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Although this article is part of a series, it is a Complete study on its own. (1 of 2 in series)

* all [bracketed] words in Scripture verses are mine *

"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." (Franklin D. Roosevelt)

"I can't, I'm afraid! What if...(this)? what if...(that)?" Do you feel it, looming out of the shadows? It forms slowly and adapts to many forms nestling itself into a corner of our mind. Fear- one of the emotions with which we are plagued while in this natural body of ours. It complicates our lives, and in too many people dictates their behavior to the point that it robs them of a great deal of life and of life's experiences. Why is this emotion in us? Why were we created to feel this thing that handicaps us, sometimes to the point of being non-functional? What is it?

First of all, God never makes mistakes. Let's get that straight from the "get go." He didn't create fear to handicap us but to warn us of danger. We were created with a body that senses danger and gives us a response to flee or fight. The adrenaline flows, the heart pumps to give us energy to do just that. Fear was never meant to cause harm but to help keep us safe from danger, moving us into the arms of God.

But sin... Ah, yes, sin entered our world. That just messes up everything, doesn't it? Sin is a separation from God. Sin sees things through an earthly, sensual, lustful pair of lenses and discolors everything. We have a sin nature that fights against our spirit and the Holy Spirit.

Every response that the Lord built into us for good can be exploited by the enemy and our flesh for bad. How, you say, would fear be exploited by the flesh for evil? Sinners use fear to their advantage every day. They intimidate to gain power over another. People that are living in the carnal "here and now" sense this power and their flesh lusts for it. Of course, this has not escaped the notice of Satan who over the millennia has honed his technique with fear to a super sharp blade with which to wield against the things of God, to hurt those that God loves. God loves the world, willing all people to come to Him, and it hurts Him to see people get hurt. The enemy knows that God is omnipotent and can't be hurt directly, so he seeks to take it out on God's babies... little children, defenseless women, people with no power to defend themselves. The word says the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking to devour. Funny thing about lions and their roaring - roaring is a mechanism used by male lions to herd the prey to their mate to kill. He walks about and lets out this roar in big manly lion fashion to frighten to death the prey, who then run right into the jaws of Mrs. Lion. What a picture of how Satan uses fear! What a picture of how fear will play into the devil's devouring of us! Actually, it isn't the roaring that causes the kill, it is the fear of the roar!

"For God so loved the world He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life." (John 3:16)

"Casting all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you. Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour." (1 Peter 5:7-8)

"Like a roaring lion and a charging bear is a wicked ruler over poor people." (Proverbs 28:15)

It wasn't long ago that a man was discovered that had a cage out in his back yard and in it kept a woman imprisoned, for years, indeed most of her life. Imagine the sense of control and power that his flesh got from this horrible crime against another human being. Fear is used against children every day. They are told things too horrible to mention and the person doing so knows their innocence and their vulnerability. Children tend to believe everything especially if it is punctuated by a great pain or violence. Then there is a rush of power that comes to the sinner who wields it. It becomes like a drug to them. Once addicted, the wielder of fear can be taken on a journey which leads to all kinds of crimes and evil. Serial killers, rapists, robbers, stalkers all use fear as a weapon that works to debilitate the target of their evil. This is one of the devil's playgrounds and we, because of our sin, have all gained access to one corner or another of that playground.

"The faithful man has perished from the earth, and there is no one upright among men. They all lie in wait for blood; every man hunts his brother with a net." (Micah 7:2)

"If they say, "Come with us, let us lie in wait to shed blood; let us lurk secretly for the innocent without cause; let us swallow them alive like Sheol, and whole, like those who go down to the Pit." (Proverbs 1:11)

There doesn't have to be such horrible crimes committed, when one sins using fear. No, intimidation and the imposing of fear is taught in places all over the world as a way to do business, to deal with business, to run families. Many husbands use fear in dealing with their wives, (and many wives, for that matter, are doing so to their husbands). Domestic abuse is rampant in America and is an accepted way of life around the world. Some Christians have bought into this by labeling intimidation as a way of "leading" their wives and kids.

"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her." (Ephesians 5:25)

"Husbands love your wives, do not be bitter toward them [do not be harsh toward them NIV]...Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged." (Colossians 3:19, 21)

"So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself." (Ephesians 5:28)

This is not how the Lord wishes us to live, work, and interact. Not that there is no time to stand down a child and instill in him or her that parents must be listened to as the authority in their young lives. Parents represent God to their children and must draw lines in the sand and teach their children that crossing that line will be to their hurt. These boundaries, lessons, and decision-making processes will stay with the child their whole life. But imparting them takes gaining their attention, pressing the issue until you have that attention, just like God does to us. Once we have that attention, the mandate from God is to instruct them and teach them to reason out obedience to God, to learn the ways of God. As parents we are never to punish our children, we discipline. There is a difference. Never discipline a child out of anger. Instead with unbending love that imparts truth to save the child from hell. Perhaps most important of all is parents showing their children by example, how they (the parent/parent) as God's children are also under authority. Parents need to fear God and then teach their children to fear God. (We will speak of Godly fear in the next part of this two part series.)

"Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell. My son, if your heart is wise, my heart will rejoice - indeed I myself; yes my inmost being will rejoice when your lips speak right things. Do not let your heart envy sinners, but be zealous for the fear of the LORD all the day." (Proverbs 23:13-17)

"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." (Proverbs 22:6)

What Satan Does: He Roars And Shoots Fiery Darts Of Fear.
What Satan Does: He Roars And Shoots Fiery Darts Of Fear.

In my youth I never fit in. I had thick glasses and old clothes and acne. I stunk in gym and hated the water, so skipped every swim class on my schedule. Though I looked nerdy, I was not smart (like the stereotype). I was on the low side of average, even when I worked hard. I had no idea about my learning disabilities or how to overcome them. I was met in the bathroom, beaten, and left crying. It was part of the whole nerdy thing and also being a Jehovah's Witness didn't help me get away from the beatings or the fear. I was one great big ball of nerves on edge and it could be seen in my face. I looked like a deer in the headlights of an oncoming car. If you think that maybe I was afraid of everything, you would be thinking correctly. People jumping out at me from the shadows to punch me in the groin and leave. People laughing at me constantly and no way for me to get help for any of it. With this background forming who I was, I was psychologically a mess. As I graduated from high school there came the abandonment issues after my being disfellowshipped from the Witnesses. Disfellowshipping is the process whereby the Jehovah's Witnesses discipline one of their own by keeping that person estranged from all friends and family. Put all of this together and you have a perfect picture of who I was and how fear may have had an easy access into my life.

This was the person that my first wife chose to marry. No wonder, she freaked out when I got saved and it changed me into a different person. She told me she didn't know who I was anymore. Looking in the mirror, I didn't see anything special staring back from the glass. I wondered what she saw and how I had changed. One thing that changed right away is that I had somewhere to go when I became afraid, I could go to God. Not only did I have a refuge and sanctuary in which to run, I also became aware of the nature of fear, how it worked and how one could decide not to be afraid. True, the decision must be made over and over, but it can be made. A decision is based on a conclusion one comes to, and that is based on a piece of knowledge in one's head, or more specifically in one's heart. Consider what Jesus said in Matthew:

"A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master. It is enough for a disciple that he be like his teacher, and a servant like his master. If they have called the master of the house Beelzebub, how much more will they call his household! Therefore, do not fear them [a statement of volitional choice]. For there is nothing covered that will not be revealed, and hidden that will not be known. Whatever I tell you in the dark, speak in the light; and what you hear in the ear, preach on the housetops. And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul [again; volition, choice]. But rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell [here, a decision must be made for fear not against]. Are not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father's will. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of much more value than many sparrows." (Matthew 10:24-31)

The word fear in the original Greek was the word phobeo (fob-ey'-o) and its root word phobos (fob'-os). From these words you get the derivation for phobia in our language. Phobeo means "to be alarmed" and phobos means "to be put in fear." So simply stated, Jesus was telling His disciples to stop letting themselves be put into fear, either by themselves over-thinking without faith or by listening to the whispers of the evil one.

To reverse the looming of fear you must be pro-active. It all begins with a thought. Try to stop fear there by bringing every thought into the obedience of Christ, correcting the lie in its inception. For example, if you hear your thoughts say, "there is something in the dark that will hurt me" tell yourself the truth about it. "If there is something is in the dark, God knows about it and will deal with it." Snatch back every thought, which is what the Bible means by capturing it to obey Christ. As you deal with thoughts one by one, do not give yourself the luxury of thinking on auto-pilot. The enemy knows the instant you do, and will not fail to place fiery darts into your mind to hurt you with fear. Fill your mind with the word of God to bolster your faith which quenches fiery darts of fear. Thoughts of praise and thanksgiving made to a holy God produces an atmosphere where it is very difficult to be afraid. Lastly, pray without ceasing. When one has an ongoing conversation with God, fear does not debilitate him. Such fears will become part of the strength of the individual and part of his character. Some of the best public speakers and pastors are scared to death of speaking in front of people but God has taken their fear and made them a person of character instead.

"For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ." (2 Corinthians 10:5)

"Above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one." (Ephesians 6:16)

"Your word have I hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against you." (Psalm 119:11)

"Let us come before His presence with thanksgiving; let us shout joyfully to Him with psalms." (Psalm 95:2)

"Pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." (1 Thessalonians 5:17-18)

My brothers and sisters, fight the good fight of faith without fear. When you find yourself being afraid, fight it, as one would any lack of love or faith. Confess it, forsake it, then replace it with good.

Perfect Love Casts Out Fear So What You Have Is...

The mind is a marvelous thing and once a person understands just a little of its function, a great many godly things can be accomplished. When one decides to stop a pattern of thinking, any pattern of thinking, it sort of rips a hole in the thought stream. In this case, the hole is "fear-shaped." So one can decide not to be phobic over one thing and simply replace it with something else that fits the general shape of fear. For example, they may decide that fearing death is stupid, but then begin to fret about getting old.

Jesus gave His disciples an answer for this problem. Fill the hole with Godly Fear. We will speak more about this kind of fear in part two of this series. What we can say about fearing God here is that it is not a quaking and shaking or a phobia. It is a reverential trust and a careful obedience born out of love.

"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction." (Proverbs 1:7)

"Casting all your care [fears] upon Him, for He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7)

Dear Reader: Did you know that the number of phobias are continually growing? Where the field of psychiatry had recognized hundreds of phobias only a few years ago, now there are thousands of such things that paralyze countless people. Almost everyone has something that scares them to death. Almost everyone has a phobia. Are you one of those who are petrified of something and it inhibits your function in life? Are you like I was and generally a skittish scaredy-cat?

The fact that there is a devil who loves to hurt those things that God loves, is something you need to consider. Satan loves to hurt you, keeping you in bondage to fear because God loves you. God loved you so much that He bled and died on Calvary's cross for you. He looked down the corridor of time and saw you. I believe that if you were the only one that needed his sin paid for, He still would have died to pay for your sin. He loves you that much!

Would you like to be free of a phobia that keeps you in shackles? Would you like to know that God has adopted you from the family of Satan into His family so you can be His child? If that is your wish, pray this prayer:

Dear Jesus, I know that I am a sinner and I am so tired of being afraid all the time. I want to know that You will control those things that are out of my control. I want to know that you will watch over me and protect me because I am your child. LORD please forgive me for my sin and save me right now. Thank You for dying for me. Thank You for being buried for me. Thank You for being raised for me. I turn from my sin and way I'm living and turn to You as the only Way of salvation. I pray these things in Jesus' name. Amen.


Other article in this series of independent study articles:

Are You Afraid Of Fear? (Part 2. What Is The Fear Of God)

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Comments 22 comments

exjwlaurie 6 years ago

Brother Bob, this is such an open and "fear"less glimpse of your upbringing! I think you have conquered "fear"!

You have looked into the face of these unknown fears, and realized that Christ is so much bigger than any fear we have! Satan's ways are not unkwnon to us, he really has no "new" game to spring upon us.

So when we see a problem spring up in our lives, we can often recognize it as just another one of Satan's ploys to distract our attention away from Christ.

I am so proud of you for your triumph over the Witnesses' mind control--they use these tricks of Satan; his ploys--fear mongering--control and the fear of loss.

Thank you for this wonderful and honest look at the wounds you have overcome as a New Creation in Christ!


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

My sister laurie, thank you for loving me. I feel our connection and unite with you in prayer for our lost family and friends still stuck in the JW mess. Fear is an everyday battle for me. The decision not to be afraid happens every day several times a day, sometimes more. God allows scary things in and has strengthened me but panic is a very real part of my daily battle for faith. It is true and I continually remind myself that God is bigger. The joy I now feel in Christ is so real that it dwarfs the seeming realness of anything else. I thank you too, for loving me in the Lord and I treasure our friendship. Much blessings.


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fred allen 6 years ago from Myrtle Beach SC

I love this hub. You are open and honest. You have shown yourself vulnerable yet victorious. You hit the nail on the head with your mention that it is not the roar of the lion that kills. It is the fear that drives us out of faith.

Lord- Let us all learn this powerful lesson and live in Your perfect love that casts out all fear!


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drpastorcarlotta 6 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

I love this Hub, but I know that you have always been open and honest and that's why you will conquer all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens you! EXCELLENT HUB!!!!!! Voted-up!


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

Thank you Fred. The trials that we live through will work to His glory. The sin that so easily besets us will end up being the devil's nightmare because God will change the devil's will to His glory. May we all place our fears at God's feet.


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Tamarajo 6 years ago from Southern Minnesota

interesting about the purpose of the lions roar. Wow!

Yes yes...fill the hole with Godly fear. My Bible Study teacher used to say "So fear God that you fear no other"

lovely teaching, thank you.


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

Lottie, you know I love you and your love is appreciated. I pray for you and your ministry and I know you pray for mine. May The LORD always get the glory for everything accomplished in His name.


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

Tamara, I am working on part 2, on the fear of the Lord. I am always disturbed when I read that those that fear don't love the Lord enough. I do love the Lord and He knows my heart, but His word is true so I need to continue to work on loving God more. Love you sister. Bob.


exjwlaurie 6 years ago

I'm so sorry brother Bob to hear that you deal with panic. I know how devastating that can be. It was actually how God called me--He placed me in a state of panic, and it was so dark and frightening--it was what drew me to Him!

I feel sad that you are dealing with this my brother--remember how very much our God LOVES you! And you have friends and people who care about you here! You are never alone dear brother!

You are in my prayers. Be BLESSED!


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

I run to our Father Laurie. I run to my Lord and Savior. He is my strength but one isn't strong at every moment and when I get weak Satan is right there. I have to guard every thought. Living moment by moment is the key to everyone walking the successful Christian life. I thank you for your prayers, support and love. I love it when you say the word brother because it means so much to me. I love you too, my sister.


exjwlaurie 6 years ago

Brother Bob, your writings are so powerful and yet--so loving. Our heavenly Father knows of how many people you have helped here. He is going to look after so faithful a son.

I'm glad to hear that you draw close to Him.

Yes--Satan is powerful, but we are so much more than conquerers in Christ! Walk in your strong faith, and don't be so hard on yourself! Look at how much we have had to overcome as former JW's--we could never have done that except through Christ! We are cherished!

So--Be in peace my Brother! =)


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

We are bound by the blood of Christ my sister. I will open the windows of my heart for the world to see, as long as I think it may help someone to come to our Lord. The most powerful things are things that cause us pain or speak of our pain. So I seek those things to glorify God. Satan is a loser and will get his... too bad we all listen to him so much. I, for one, hope to bring a lot of folks with me to our home in heaven. I do have a peace that passes understanding, therefore I don't understand it, but it is there. We must keep praying and holding each other up. IN His Name. Love you sister.


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lifegate 6 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

NB,

Thanks for sharing a powerful message in this Part 1. I'm looking forward to Part 2. You summed it up in your line, "Every response that the Lord built into us for good can be exploited by the enemy and our flesh for bad."


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Dave Mathews 6 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

nobody: Thank you for this Hub. There was a time, when I was afraid of my own shadow. Then one day I came across that quote by Roosevelt, and the more I pondered it the less I feared. I then stumbled across the 23rd. Psalm and I knew that I need never fear anything again, except if I drove God out of my life, which was impossible, so now I fear nothing,period.

Brother Dave.


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

Lifegate, we have courage the enemy wants it to be foolhardiness. We have love, the enemy wants it to be lust. We have fear, the enemy wants it to paralyze us. We live by faith and we are not to listen to the enemy and what the enemy wants. Blessings brother.


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

That is quite a statement Dave, to fear nothing period. I fear nothing when I walk with the Lord except the Lord Himself and my own flesh that will betray me should I let down my guard but for a moment. But that also is fear of the Lord. A lot of things are hooked to the fear of the Lord because as a child of God we are a new creature in Christ and we seek to serve Him.


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

I loved your example of the male and female lions. You personal story embedded in this Hub is sad and moving. But it has a good ending, as God came in and saved your life. Hallelujah!

Great Hub!


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

I'm sure my story is not any sadder than anyone else's. What we experience will contribute to our character as we give our hurts to the Lord. If we hold onto them and and cling to them, they can hold us until we are non-functioning idiots. God did save my life, even though I have no idea why other than He loved someone that did not love Him. NOW I know Him and love Him because He did that for me. I am thankful for Him, and for you, and all my spiritual family in Christ. Love you brother.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago

Bob, GOD BLESS YOU! It is wonderful to KNOW that through JESUS CHRIST we can become new creations... PRAISE be to GOD through JESUS CHRIST you are somebody! Your testimony speaks volumes as to what a difference it makes having the LORD in you life! Transformation is POSSIBLE! As long as we remain on the Potter's wheel He is continually molding, shaping and improving us... PRAISE GOD!

"We are forever becomng!" Whenever fear comes our way it is good to know that God is just a prayer away "And by HIM we cry; "ABBA FATHER," The Spirit Himself testitfies with our spirit that we are GOD'S children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs - heirs of GOD and co-heirs with CHRIST..." AMen & AMEN!! Romans 8. The LOVE of GOD is Powerful & so very Awesome!

Thank you for sharing, in HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

It is with a thankful heart that I have been changed as much as I have. I am not what I should be but I thank God I am not as I was. I love you DeBbie. Your constant encouragement has been a strength to me.


Justcallmeleroy 5 years ago

NoBody, You know that fear is what every one of us has had to struggle with many many times in our lives. I thank the Lord for He has delivered us from all fear. You have always been a blessing to me and I want to say thank you for you are faithful and the Lord is Blessing you in your life. God Bless


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no body 5 years ago from Rochester, New York Author

Amen, you have no idea how true that statement is, my brother. I have so much it is hard to comprehend it all. Plus I have learned to look at things I don't have as positives too. Fear is my constant re-occurring menace. I turn it over to Him daily and moment by moment. You are wonderful to tell me that I have an effect on your life as you have had on mine. Love you brother. Bob.

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