A soft answer

A soft answer

 The bible says a soft answer turneth away wrath; but grevious words stir up anger.  I think its from Proverbs 15.  This is so true.  I've been to workshops that use this- they don't even know its from the bible.  When someone is angry we should answer quiet and use soft words and this brings their anger level down.  There is so much wisdom in the bible.  We have so much to learn.  How many times have we been angry and our spouse or someone says something to elevate it?  People who work in the mental health field no this to be true.  Many people don't like the bible or don't want to hear anything from it.  Usually I tell people things from the bible but if I know they don't like the bible I will say I read that in this book.  If they ask me what book I will say the bible.  Most people respond with "really?".

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valeriebelew 6 years ago from Metro Atlanta, GA, USA

I also have a social service degree, and in CPI training, this idea is the major part of the training. It is called non-violent crisis intervention training, and the idea is that you will never have to use a physical intervention most of the time if you de-escalate the tension before it gets physical. And yes, it is in the Bible.


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Sky321 6 years ago from Canada Author

Hey, I took that nvci course too. I don't have a degree in this field. I worked alot with the mentally disabled in the past. I also used to work in a school with angry teens with behavioral issues. Now I work in a lab poking people with needles as a lab tech. I found I was getting too attached to people I was caring for. I would worry about them and think that other workers didn't take certain things into consideration. So I quit, but sometimes I really miss it.


Earthbeat 6 years ago

I work in the mental health field, and find it disturbing how some of my oolleagues react to patients who are rude or disrespectful. The reactions fuel the patient's acting out. I have found that by remaining positive, and coveying a sense of unconditional respect, that I got along better than other professionals whose response was, "I'm not paid to be treated like dirt." Of course no one is paid to be treated badly, but sometimes it's good to know what to let go.


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Sky321 6 years ago from Canada Author

I agree. I noticed some of the individuals knew or sensed negativity and acted out. You can definately get burnt out. How long have you worked in this field?


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thevoice 6 years ago from carthage ill

terrific terrific hub thanks happy Easter my peace training came from street life


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Sky321 6 years ago from Canada Author

Thank you, I'm glad you like it.


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK

So True Sky,

If people raise their voice at me wanting to provoke a reaction - I just answer so softly, but so confidently. They soon back down. lol.

I also find it useful in dealing with difficult or loud students. The wisdom of the Bible is so interesting. :)


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4x4 6 years ago from Los Angeles

So true, so much of secular terminologies, thinking and counselling are derived (from principles) from the bible. Most people are just unfamiliar with the bible or even turned off by it but most times they follow bible principles but just aren't aware of it.


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Sky321 6 years ago from Canada Author

Thank you for your comments. Sorry I took so long to respond to your comments Lady_E and 4X4 but I just revisted this hub today after a long time. I need to read my own advice. Lol


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Woman Of Courage 6 years ago

This is so true when speaking with a soft a voice when someone is angry. I have seen immediate results. Be encouraged Sky, and keep up the great work.

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