Astrology - How To Get Along - Aries and Cancer

Astro Magnetism First then Astro Compatibility

The Ram and The Moonchild

This series on AstroCompatibility will cover all of the potential matchups in the Zodiac. We will continue this series thinking about and commenting on Aries and Cancer. You can new info at Christofer's new website: http://www.astrologygetalong.com.

Aries - Cancer

Cancer's romantic aspect is based in domesticity and Aries is not necessarily thinking about the home when it is checking out availabilities. . These signs are both "Cardinal", which means they share an Action Oriented approach to what they do. However, Aries is Fire and Cancer is Water. So Cancer's actions, and they are definitely action-based people, are thoughtful and conscious and based in the slow approach rooted in hearth and home. Aries' Fire and Aries' Cardinality means Aries is action times TWO.

The Aries in pursuit of the Cancer sets up a "not so fast, guy" picture. It's not that a Cancer would be shy, but there is too much inner steel to be thought of as "easy". But the Cancer and the Aries can create a kindled fire. The Cancer not shy, necessarily, but a little more consciously hesitant, might find the more fiery and outgoing Aries very appealing. Aries can start the conversation and Cancer can finish with a well-considered Cancerian clever rejoinder. This is a good potential for compatibility.

Positive Postulate:

Since Aries and Cancer share "cardinality", there is a basic match up here. This is especially important with cardinal signs because they "charge first and ask questions later". The two of them could create a dynamic family together. Positively speaking, these signs could be a public and dynamic pair. Regardless of how the genders work, it seems a pairing that could be serious. Cancer would consider slowly, Aries would act when they agreed, and then Cancer could support. Aries intelligence and brightness would be appreciated by Cancer.

Romance Recommendation:

Aries and Cancer would have a very high romance factor, as long as Cancer would not slip into a depressive mood state and Aries would not lose its sharp temper. Offending and being offended could be a romance dampener.

Conflict Quotient:

Aries and Cancers have tempers! Aries starts it and Cancer finishes it. Whoa. Watch out. They will definitely have many discussions - long discussions. You see Cancer, regardless of gender will not be intimidated and Aries moves forward with its issues on its lips. This is not a death sentence. It just means they will have to reconcile and work things out. The benefit here is that there will not be too many unspoken, unexpressed problems.

Peace Parlay:

Life in the end is repetitive and mundane, and so is Romance itself. This factor asks the question: "Can we be bored together over the long term?" Cancer and Aries might not be able to stand boredom, but as they get older, they might need it. Cancer "blues" should be watched for here. Aries may overestimate its rightness and become wearing.

Keep Up The Interest Graph:

Cancer and Aries are a good "keep up the interest" signs, but Aries should stop looking over the fence and flirting at picnics. Cancer is not likely to ruin this relationship, unless they become profoundly hurt or disappointed. Aries may forget how fortunate it is, until something shakes them up.

Seven Year Itchiness:

There are some signs that by their nature are more stable in their love interests and family concerns, as time goes on. Others are not. There are Cardinal signs on both sides here. That means action could be taken by either during the 7 year itch time. Cancer is more likely to think about it and imagine it, much more than Aries. Aries could stumblie into it, not knowing that its subconscious might be overly engaged in the prospect of infidelity.

RATING:

ASTROCOMPATIBILITY POSSIBILITY RATING: 80% Positive Long Term - 50% Short Term. This has a better chance the older the relationship gets. Cancer should watch the weight. Aries should care less about losing its youth. The newer this relationship is, the more possibility that it might not work. But once they get going, these two cardinals could keep going on sheer momentum.

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Gennifer 7 years ago from Minsk, Belarus

Nice information, but in some points I a bit disagree. Maybe I'm not a typical Aries =) I'm also interested in astrology, if you want you can look through my hub http://hubpages.com/religion-philosophy/How-does-c...


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GPAGE 7 years ago from California

Interesting.....actually the first positive I have heard on this match. Still a bit of a struggle after 16 years.......Thanx! I'm the Aries ; GPAGE


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Christofers Flow 7 years ago from Denver Author

My approach is optimistic and I believe that the degree of consciousness tends to make difficult matches workable. 16 years says much. You probably have a moody complicated Cancer, but remember it all comes from their interior, though it might not always make sense. I have observed a great match in real life, and it is interesting to observe. All the best.


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HappyHer 7 years ago from Cleveland, OH

Wonderful Article! While the sun signs carry a lot of weight, you also have to keep in mind a person's Rising sign and Moon sign. As I'm an Aries with a Gemini Rising and a Pisces Moon, while my husband is a Cancer with a Leo Rising and Leo Moon. That puts a whole different aspect into the relationship.


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Christofers Flow 7 years ago from Denver Author

Absolutely. You are an Aries with a lighter touch and more obtectivity in your public approach. Your Pisces Moon gives you an almost psychic and emotional feeling to your Aries outlook. This is actually a wonderful TRIAD. The Aries energy fires up with wistful Gemini and the deep feeling of the Moon. What a great balance. Your Cancer is less moody and ponders negative outcomes much less than a typical Cancer with TWO, count them, Leo strong aspects. In fact with a Leo Moon and Rising, he could probably "disguise" his Cancer Sun. My book on Sun Signs is coming out on Amazon, but my next book on the TRIAD concept is coming out in a few months. You two would be a great combination to analyze. Tell me if you are interested.


JooJoo Beanz 7 years ago

One of the first positive reviews on Aries-Cancer. I do beleive it can work. I attract mostly Aries. (I'm the Cancer female) and I am the one who breaks their hearts or ends all communication with them. lol. But now I've found a great Aries. Perhaps it's because I'm a Cancer with a Sag Rising and every other fire sign in my chart. He's an Aries with a Cancer Rising and a lot of Pisces and Taurus in his chart...could this be why he's the laid back, quiet one, and I'm the energetic, outgoing one?

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GypsieTear 6 years ago

Yup, this really is the first more positive review on the cancer/aries match and I definitely find my couple in it more. I'm an aries female with rising cancer and moon in libra. He's the cancer male with cancer rising and moon in pisces. I think I've found my man! :)


A.L.H 6 years ago

THIS IS THE "FIRST" EVER CANCER ARIES COMPATIBILITY READING I HAVE SEEN THAT ACTUALLY DIGS DEEPER TO BEYOND "COMMERCIAL" HOROSCOPES TO PROVE THE EXCEPTIONALLY HIGH COMPATIBILITY FACTOR OF THESE 2 SIGNS. I THANK U. I AM A CANCER. I HAVE DATED AN ARIES. WE CAUGHT UP OVER MONEY ISSUES ME STRUGGLING IN BETWEEN JOBS (RETAIL WORK IS NOT ALWAYS THE MOST STEADY WORK) N HER NOT FEELING APPRECIATED ENOUGH BY ME N STUFF. I STILL THINK ABOUT HER. I BELIEVED N OUR COMBINED ENERGIES, I LOVED TO HEAR HER LAUGH, N DO OUR DISCUSSIONS AS HEATED AS THEY COULD GET SOMETIMES (IT ALWAYS LED TO BETTER HEAT OF A DIFFERENT KIND) I STILL THINK OF HER...LIFE IS CRAZY THO.


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Christofers Flow 6 years ago from Denver Author

The idea behind most traditional astrologers is that if you just spook people with your secret knowledge and warn them off, then you have done them a favor and they will "save" you from the pain that was going to be involved. Nothing so bad with that, its just that people meet because they are compelled to attach through romance, sex and a host of other factors. With the more difficult signs, there is also an "exceptionally high compatibility factor" that is worth reaching for. That is the idea behind "astrologygetalong.com". Thank you for seeing that.


ButterflyGurl14 6 years ago

THIS IS JUST THE INFORMATION I NEED CAUSE IVE ONLY KNOWN THE GUY FOR ABOUT 2/3 MONTHS BUT IM GOING TO WAIT LONGER TILL I MAKE MY NEXT MOVE JUST HE IS SO TEMPTING OMG URGGG:( BUT IT MIGHT JUST WORK OUT AND IM THE CANCER 69


Becki 6 years ago

It's a good article. I'm the Cancer and he's the Aries. We've been together 9 years. The relationship was 50/50 until about 14 months ago. It's going bad now. What do I do?


Brandon B 6 years ago

Becki, I'm a fellow Cancer myself. When you say 50/50 and then in the next sentence say things are going bad now, who has the upper hand in the relationship? Perhaps a weekend getaway might help you two out or just doing something simple like taking a walk or going to the Zoo. Anything where the two of you can be, well, the two of you without your friends or family there to interupt. Hang in there & I wish you two the best.


anila 6 years ago

hi..this is for the first time that i read something positive about aries and cancer together.i m a cancerian and he is aries.we have been together for 3 and half years.now he says he is no ready for commitment,but iknow he still likes me.so i don't know what to do,i should persue him or let things the way dey r


YUMI 6 years ago

WOW!!! This is the first time I hear about a positive feedback because they usually have negative things to say about Aries and Cancer. I have 5 years with my boyfriend and to be honest we are really different. I'm an Aries and he's a Cancer. He his really sensitive and I have a sharp toung. We fight today and tomorrow we'll be fine but, I feel that we are already use to each other and I feel is bad.. Sometimes I feel my realtionship is not going to work but hey what can I do.. The best thing is to keep it moving. I notice though that when me and him fight I usually look for him and he doesn't look for me. In this case I am the more sensitive one!! Thanks for the positive feedback of these two signs!


Sam 6 years ago

I'm an Aries with my ascendant in cancer and I just started dating a girl that's cancerIan, I must say that I was very happy to read this article since it seems to have much more depth and facets to it, rather than just saying the relationship is doomed from the start. But how important is the ascendant sign? I don't always feel lime I can identify myself with all the stereotypical Aries traits?


steph 6 years ago

wow this is surprising I always get negative feedback. The only men I've ever dated were Cancers. I find them to be calming just what I need.


SHOCKED! 6 years ago

I have NEVER read a positive pairing for Aries and Cancer. It is very true though. My husband (Cancer) and I (Aries) have been together for (mostly) 22 years. It has not been easy, we've thrown the towel in several times when we were younger. As we've aged (49 & 47) though, we understand our differences more, so we handle them better. Don't get me wrong we still have those major standoffs, but they don't damage like they used to.

To the young lady who stated Cancers are calming like she needs...me too girlfriend! And to YUMI, I am also the one who goes to him after a fight feeling badly...funny hunh?

Thanks for the reminders!


jules 6 years ago

wow, this is me and my fella! we've been seeing each other for 6 months but he lives 50 miles away and its hard. i was married for 21 yrs to a gemini (im the cancer) and was never truly happy but im not even sure my aries fella can give me what i want in life cus he seems emotionally closed and can be very UNpassionate ha! problem is i love him..... help


amanda 6 years ago

i love the part about flirting at picnics lol im the aries! i love my bootyface dearly,but i definitely always think im right and i definitely need to stop looking over the fence. i love it. i would be lost without my muffin, he keeps my feet on the ground. im always somewhere else in my head, dreaming up schemes ideas all this great stuff, and when im blabbing on about it he listens ( or pretends to listen and watches sportscenter which is infuriating lol)and tells me hes behind me all the way... very romantic, definitely a homebody, when we step out even then he likes me doing my sexy thing but still kinda conservative. i think his favorite parts of our nights out are coming home (tipsy!) to cuddle and love....aww babe...


sam 6 years ago

Wow i am a aries and i have all the aries traits.. I just met a cancer woman and have been hanging out on a daily basis..She is a wonderful person and i feel very at home around her that has lead me to research this ..Im a fraid im in love .So this article has been welcome news.


Sir Eli the Brave 6 years ago

Very interesting. 6 years ago I dated an Aries, Im a pretty typical Cancer guy... Initially the attraction was incredible and the romance was amazing. Her nature was serious, yet outgoing, while Ive been goofy/playful, while a little more introverted. We could communicate on such a deep level, and were viewed by our friends as the perfect couple. Over time we ended up bickering daily were and forced to split after a year and a half. Looking back though, I can see this working out with more effort. But we were both pretty young at the time and developing new paths in life. Had we been aimed at similar goals however, this could probably have worked out a lot better. I think the future vision needs to be the same for both in order for this to work, and when it does its pretty good. Ie.. never achieve your mutual goals (haha), or agree on new future ones together. Thats the key! : )


sam 6 years ago

its ever d 1st tym i,m having a gud feeling abt our relation i,m cancerian n hez aries n dis article abt d relation,compatibility n carrying out vd each other z truly truly truly out ov d world its amazing..............it really helps hw to carry on more evenly..n d most outrating thng z dat it has too many thingz positive 4cancer n aries...thanks 4 such a nice article!


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charkamman 6 years ago from portugal

Great hub. I am the cancer and he is the aries, and after 3 years of dating he told me he was not ready for commitment - I have been waiting for a year now but he feels still the same. Our bond was (is?) very strong and I deeply love him, but somehow it seems we won't work this out. I do feel sad and depressed, and I know this puts him off even more.

"Cancer would not slip into a depressive mood state and Aries would not lose its sharp temper." This is exactly what happened...

Charlotte


sweetpea 6 years ago

This actually did feel encouraging to me and gives me hope. I'm in this state where it feels hard though. My boyfriend (Cancer) and I (Aries) have been together for 18 months. The first 3 months were absolute romantic bliss (he actually DROPPED his guard and was so free and open with me which he said he never done with another woman!)...then, things started falling apart. I made a LOT of mistakes and really hurt him sporatically from 3-10 months (it wasn't intentional...I just felt "lost" and the secure feeling he felt disappeared)... Granted, we love each other, but I want the romantic bliss again - I want to feel appreciated and want to rebuild the trust we had. He knows I'm loyal to him...but he said that he lost his motivation to be romantic. I want it back...*sigh*


Lissette  5 years ago

Im aries and im a bit surprised. he is amazing but too complicated.. I want to be stable but he prefers to be unstable. He is more a family boy and am not.

But when im with him i feel so happy and comfortable...

hopefully it works at some point.


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jennytwchung 5 years ago from HONG KONG

Thanks for this article, i feel more confident about my relationship with an Aries (man)


Davina 5 years ago

I believe the Aries & cancer union is felt on a v. Gutteral level. There are not many levels between these two warriors, the choice between two comrades or lovers? What an interesting choice... Communicating with someone on the same level along with the raw energy that accompanies that...... or the safe choice and meet someone else more safe(less heart pounding)....where you can pretend to have the same passion & purity. I am an Aries who loves her Cancer man dearly, we have been together off and on for two years


tbk 5 years ago

I have recently reconnected with my true friend a cancer.

the point all of you selfish aries miss is that cancers are absolutely loyal how wonderful it is to be with someone so honest and protective I truly love my friend.


Aries4Sho 5 years ago

LOL Cancer FRIENDS are very loyal, it's true...cancer LOVERS....well, that's a different story. I have heard many, MANY horror stories. If you happen to pick up an insecure Cancer, you're in trouble.

Anyway, with regards to this article, it is actually the first one i've found focusing on the positive factors of the match. I actually find Aries independence to work WITH Cancers, as a lot of Cancers need their own space as well. It's definitely not an easy match, but I think one that can work with patience (which is hard for Aries, LOL)


Juniper 5 years ago

Wow, this is amazing. This is the only article that digs deeper into the aries/cancer relationship. I think I've found love, and I do really love him, and yes, we fight, yes, I get moody, and yes, he's temperamental sometimes, but we know we can talk to each other about anything. There is nothing we can't share and talk about, even though it means there could be a fight. So even though we have our days, we know that it can possibly work. :) Thanks for the positive feed. :)

I'm the cancer if you couldn't tell :) 69 :)


Cancer4life 5 years ago

This is the first time I've ever read a positive anything about Cancer/Aries love match. I've known my Aries man since we were kids and now that we're older, I feel like we may finally be on the same page. Its just amazing after all this time thinking that he is like the worst match for me ever, that there is a bright side after all. I feel like its about time the horoscope caught up with our feelings for each other :) Its been 12 years in the making and i'm excited about the future. Thanks for this article!


CD 5 years ago

As everyone has said this is the first positive match for these signs. I'm the cancer and he's an Aries. We live so far from each other but this gives me a bit of hope. I can relate to what most people have said here. He has the fiery temper and I'm the sensitive moody one, he tends to keep his emotions in check and I lay it all out there. The beginning of our relationship was similar to what others have described, he is a talker and constantly tried to bring me out of my shell. I'm always attracted to guys like this I find them so intriguing. Alas I think the distance has become too much for him and he can no longer take it...


jene marie 5 years ago

I'm a cancer female with an aries rising he is a aries male with a cancer rising. We been dating now for 7 months on and off and can't seem to get it right. In the begining it was wonderful we talked all day all night sex was like we were making love cple months past by I want a relationship he dosnt then next thing u knw we not speaking then we are speaking then we not again... I can't help but think of him (we not speaking again) how can we make this work?


Tambellina 5 years ago

I met my Aries man 6 years ago, and we were together for 3 years. It had its trying moments,mostly with me being insecure and codependent, and him wanting more freedom. We had a child together and I could tell he was longing for his old life of not being tied down and being free. I was holding on to old resentments even though we would discuss them and he thought that once we were finished talking, it was done with, but I just couldn't seem to let it go. well, we ended up splitting up, he didn't see his son very much, but he always told me he still loved me, and I still loved him. We had a connection that 3 years apart couldn't break. We both had other relationships in that time, but still had feelings for eachother. He just recently came back into our lives, and in the time we were apart, Ive learned to let go of the past, to be more independent and to let the little things go, and hes realized how much he wants his family and wants to be with me. So I let him go and it took 3 years for him to come back. Now I think were going to be stronger than ever, especially because we both understand how our behaviours affected our relationship the first time around.this is a great article and it adds positivity to the matchup, thank you.


Sunee 5 years ago

Sam are you still with the Cancer woman? You are the Aries with the Cancer Ascendant. How is that working out?


amy 5 years ago

i'm 19, my first boyfriend of four years is an aries, we've been friends for a year now and im moving away to uni in a month, i still love him and if we got back together i probably wouldn't go to uni but he says were better off as friends as for some reason it just didn't work...this article was nice to read the positive sides to this match :)


Derrick 5 years ago

My wife is Cancer(25 years old) and I'm Aries(23 years old). She want to divorceme, atleast that what she says. I usually perdicts what my wife gon do, I ain't sure what to think, I thought I knew her well. I cheated on her. Then eventually she had an affair with another guy, I wasn't thinking when I cheated, now I regret it. She like tha best thing ever happen in my life. I'm really stuggling trying to save my marriage. Something deep inside of me telling me that she not gon divorce me but I don't know. I mean, I was tha first one saying I want a divorce but I didn't really mean, I only was saying it because I felt like wasn't important to her. But agree with this passage about Cancer - Aries Relationship. I think me and my wife could work. I need to work on my selfishness and we both need to work on our communication skills and stop jumping to conclusions. The least thing I'm worried about is her and ol dude. My wife is awesome, she is really. I cheated because of selfish reasons, I wasn't understanding... But now if I get my wife back, I would never ever cheat on her again in my life... And Aries do learn lessions, especially when it hurt them...


Meg 5 years ago

I am a cancer and my husband is an aries. We have been married over 12 years, and have what some would term an ideal relationship. We rarely fight, but occasionally bicker. We have dealt with thick and thins, we ground each other and keep each other in check. I believe this sign match can truly be amazing.


CrabcalledShelly 5 years ago

I love my Aries man. I think maturity is the key. We never want to offend the other and though at times i feel so insecure really i have no legitimate reason. His strength is all I need. But what I realize is that he is easily pushed away by my insecurity so actually he helps me grow and he grows because of the love I have for him, One that appears he has never had or one like mine.(ours)


Mizz kitts 5 years ago

Hi, I totally agree with everyone.. Im a Cancer and my bestfriend is a Aries. We love another sooooo Deeply that we can tap in each others dreams.


obsession 5 years ago

i'm an aries that only attracts to cancers and it's been a tough road for me. my boyfriend now is a cancer and i know that are signs rarely together for a long time and im just basically trying to change what they say about the two signs but i cant it's like i love him so much but i feel like the way he's moving he doesn't love me as much as i love him and even though he might say he does his actions scream something different and i'm at a point in my life were i want to settle and be with him till we grow old but it doesn't seem like were going to make it i don't know what to do i tell me self to let him go but i can't because my love wont let me


meagane 5 years ago

really hmmmm


Starreaux 5 years ago

my aries husband of 10 years and me split for 2months and he dated an cancer girl he said she was controlling jealous and was too clingy it didnt workout he begged for me back and i made him sweat it out by the way i have a sag moon scorpio sun sign and sag rising he has sag moon sign aries sun sign Gemini rising


Tiera t 5 years ago

I am a cancer woman so in love with my x aries man...it feels like im going crazy bcuz I miss him so much..i wnt him bacc bt I wnt him to chase me....wn,we was together he stressed me out bt my heart is literally hiz!... Help im so stuck wht do I do!!!??+


Papil 5 years ago

I agree with Meg I am the Cancer Female and HE is the Aries

We NEVER argue - We are generations apart but i feel he is my soulmate - When he goes into his sharp tounge mode and his over Arian ways - I just listen and be there for him when the time is right i say what i need to say and we have a constant harmony - I pray this will be my last love - I usually do not get on with Arian men but this one is my world- My right hand man don't know what i did with out such a bond in my life - Us cancerians must use a lot of our strength too fight through our emotional, insecure, moments, find your higherself and believe in his love and your love for him- and in turn we are not wrong we are the sign of loving and so we love.

I almost got married to a capricorn and i thought that was love but this is beyond love - i almost feel it is not a strong enough word for how much i feel for him.

With patience and understanding Aries - Cancer is the way


Tiera69 5 years ago

Well I apparently am a lucky cancer (female)..I say that because I am in love with my aries male...now not to toot my own horn cause I do have anxiety and yes I do get insecure sometime nd don't even know y but I am a very very attractive young woman and I even look better than my aries fella:)..but to me I don't care about appearance..he does I juss want LOVE....but I say im lucky cause even if he has a wandering eye nd flirts nd stuff..its horribly making him look extreamly dum because all the girls he flirts wit envys me because im a diamond and there rocks :)..im sorry no offence bt its true...even my aries fella friends are attracted to me..and I keep heads turning..(NOT TO TOOT MY OWN HORN)...but it I kno it makes him mad tht im u kno cutter than him and beautiful on the insude out...its dnt get me wrong hes a cutie bt whr cn I say im an angel:)...btw im nt wit him at this moment...we I broke up,wit him a lot cause he wasn't takin care of home....but im still his wifey and I love him dearly


4 years ago

I am Cancer and honestly there is something inexplicable that draws me to Aries. I love the fact that these stubborn people are so fiery and at the same time I hate them deeply :) One of the main problems is the fact that they are too independent while I like to dominate (my ascendant is Aries) and to be in a more profound relationship. I had a boyfriend that is Aries and, as strong as I am, I couldn't handle him - he dominated me in a way that I can't explain and actually it was pretty self-destructive for me. recently I tried oncee again with an Aries male and the same happened - instant connection, very passionate, but he wants his freedom (to call and to meet whenever he wants etc., which is something I am not ready to compromise with). At the same time he is really rude sometimes, which, as you know, is not something that a moody Cancer likes :) That is why I always challenge him with words (he says that I am too philosophical, while he isn't so prone to discuss emotions and deeds). It si not going to work out and it is not because there isn't an attraction - on the contrary - but because we speak different languages. I prefer domestic surroundings, more peaceful places, the company of my friends and interesting experiences, while he is far more conventional - he likes to keep love life away from his friends and is far less creative than me when it comes to actions.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

All three of these comments understand the Cancerian way and the effects of Aries on the match.


delaney 4 years ago

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. I'm a moody crab and have a date with an Aries on Saturday...Not sure what to think from all of the above.


Cancer.elle 4 years ago

Im a cancer n he's an aries. We've been together for more than a year. It started as what I would call "the best" n "most romantic" feeling everrr. But later my emotional n insecure side started to show. We fought a lot! Actually only I start the arguments. Its always me who starts it, mainly cause I feel insecure. But thru all the fights, I start becoming less paranoid n started to understand him more n not misunderstand him. so far its been going great. I also tried to focus more on family n my studies, n not be too clingy with him. N I realized that was the trick! Cancer needs to loosen up n try to put the put their feet in the aries shoe before thinking to not trust them or start an argument. Give aries space n freedom n let them know ur always there. Don't be like the wife who controls her husband- by now u shud know aries like to do things their way so no point stopping them. let them fly n they will be more happier when with u, n they will make u feel happy too in return. An aries, when happy can make his/her cancer feel so happy!!:D n to a cancer, whatever an aries does, even just a small appreciation or hug , can make the cancer feel secure n blissful. Goodluck to you n me! -elle


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Delaney, you have it right. Become more conscious. Don't let your usual crabs crawl all over you, and keep your eyes on the moon you moonchild. "Nothing be ill lest it be ill taken"

Cancer.elle - You have said it all. You understand. So much goes on in the Cancer cranium. So much doesn't go on in the Aries. They do. They act. Don't attribute until things declare themselves. Cancer always has to get in front of the game. That is only done when you let things happen. Which means you can't really get in front. Just let things be and watch the world of manifestation.


cutiegirl 4 years ago

This article had inspired me and as I read all the comments, I feel very much inspired and truly appreciate my friendship with an Aries man. (I'm a Cancer female) We've been best friends for 3 years, and I'm really happy that he came into my life. As I observed, an Aries man is usually funny and likes to tell jokes with other people, is also sweet and thoughtful, and he is really encouraging me to give my best in whatever I do, especially in my studies. He is one of those people whom I can really count on. And it's also true that UNDERSTANDING, LOYALTY and PATIENCE is the only key to work out this kind of Aries-Cancer relationship. I can say that an Aries-Cancer match or friendship is like a "magical relationship". The two signs have to make adjustments to understand each other. But being with an Aries man is like you're having a more stronger and more independent kind of friend. That truly understands no matter what. :)


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Cutiegirl: It sounds like you have the key. Making conscious adjustments makes you happier, along with your partner. You feel responsible, not fated. That is why I wrote these in the beginning, to bring this sense of participation in your own fate. Blessings to you.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Dear, dear Cancer. You have so much to give, and what do you do? Go for the sign that is always moving and thinking about itself. Too much commentary for me to digest, but its an obvious crash and burn. Back off, get in your real Cancer life. Just let the Aries go. If Aries returns turn your head. There are so many signs that would be better on their face. If you like adventure, go after a Sag or Scorp. Leo's love what a Cancer provides. Aries in the end is an "alone creature". Isn't it obvious? Give her power, she will use it on you.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

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HELPPPP 4 years ago

This article offers hope... But i need some advise, maybe you can help me out. I am a cancer (male) she is an Aries, 28 and 25 years old respectevely. We´ve been casually hooking up for years but 6 months ago she broke up with me because she couldn't deal with long distance relationships and that she needed someone that could phisicaly be there everyday... as much as it destroyed me I respected her decision and stopped talking to her, HOWEVER about 6 weeks ago she came back, never admiting she missed me but it was clear she did.. 1 month ago we oficially became a couple for the first time, things are going great but I am feeling that cancer depression you mention and its driving me nuts... I want her to move in with me but i fear that will just scare her off, what do you suggest i do? Should I just ask her or give it more time or what? Ill be honest ive never been a believer in zodiac signs UNTIL i read this article and it actually applies perfectly to our relationship, extremely impresive... PLEAAASE HELP ME, i love this girl to death and I know shes the one


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

I could give you a one time suggestion: Aries will always seek their own. Cancer will get moody if hurt. From the tenor of your tone, it looks like you are set up for another round. Aries is always mostly guiltless. If you want some additional help. Go read my "Triad" articles. Get your Moon/place of birth, Hour of birth/Rising sign. Get a read out from a computerized site. Come back with Sun/Rising/Moon, go to that site and I will give you a free reading. Do the same with your girl friend and I will read you both for free. This is a graduated step up in being more informed. There are of course, higher and more complete levels. You can even get your own personal Astrologer, but if you want the Triad reading, you can get one from me.


adridada 4 years ago

dear christofers, i'm a 27 yrs old aries female and my (currently ex) boyfriend is 26 yrs old cancer. we've been together for 7 years, with ups and downs. our connection is genuine but so many factors pop up between us. we had our share of grief in the past ( i had an abortion at the age of 21)but we are still feeling it, this way or another. we are from different cultures and we've spent our relationship mostly long distance (he was studying in a different city in my country, then he moved to a nearby country for work and now he's across the ocean related again work related while i'm still studying in my home country). when we are together everything is great but as soon as we are apart he distances himself. last few months he's been feeling really depressed and lost (he doesn't like his job which he's not able to let go off at the moment, he doesn't get to see his family, friend or me, he lost his sense of 'self'). i did my best to be supportive but my impatience cost me another break-up. at the moment he cut off all communication with me, but a very good mutual friend got to talk to him (he never opens up and especially since he got the job abroad). what i managed to find out is that he still considers me the only woman he can imagine himself with but he needs time to figure out things in life. knowing that, i'm constantly fighting mixed emotions of frustration ( mainly my fear that he wont be ready to commit to me/us ) and unconditional love ( i understand how he really needs time to figure things out and i respect it and i'm ok with any outcome if he0s happy about it). our love for eachother is real but we are not living it. since he is 'calling the shots' now and my impatience and fear is my biggest enemy, how can i get peace while i'm waiting for his decision? my asc is in libra and my moon is in piscies.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Adridada: Your Libra asc is driving you mad in this situation, and Moon in Pisces has a great tendency toward depression, and any human on the planet can hardly live happily with the distance and the mystery of your situation. There is no magic here. You should just busy yourself with the life you are living. If he comes around, he comes around. Then you can put him in a waiting game.


Gil 4 years ago

Jesus!!! I'm an Aries and I'm attracted to a cancer women! What to do!!!!???


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

If you go there, get ready to adapt and make adjustments. Being an Aries you have already discovered that things unfold, they don't snap to your attention. Get ready to grow. That's not so bad.


gil 4 years ago

The bad thing is she just broke up with her boyfriend. They were together for about 8months. She gave me her number without hesitation. Any meaning to that???


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Cancer women like the feeling of family, togetherness. Easy to mistake that for availability sexually. As long as you proceed with complete respect and honesty, go ahead Aries. But they can shut you down so fast you horns will ring. Just have sincerity.


lostbird 4 years ago

Hey christofers,

I am a 24 yr old female cancer (July 2nd) dating a 23yr old male Aries(April 1st) .... We have been together since 06 and the lat year on and off but steadily working on it.... most people tell me i shouldn’t be with him bc he is an Aries but yet we always seem to get drawn back together.

I am very true to my sign and so is he.... at times I just find it very hard to get to emotional support with him due to his past indiscretions. I am ready to take our relationship further i need more of a commitment from him to reassure me we r on the same page but just like an Aries he doesn’t like the heavy duty emotional talks........... I need ur help on how to properly communicate with him without him getting a temper and without my feeling getting hurt........... I just need and want more from him at this point


moe 4 years ago

Hi Christofers, I am a Cancer with libra rising and sag moon. Do you think my rising and moon make me more compatible with Aries guys?


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

lostbird: This is very typical you know. You are striking all the keys that go flat -- you want emotional support, he doesn't want to get too emotional or fess up. The real key here is you aren't going to stop being a Cancer. He won't stop being an Aries. He will be happy as long as you leave all that icky stuff alone, and don't make him clean up his act.

I know this sounds difficult but you are the one that has to decide, not him. There are no magic words to use. His temper will emerge. You will get hurt. You are both YOUNG. He sounds like he is a Ram that is still roaming. You are a Cancer who is still discovering her depth. Communicate with him. Maybe he will surprise you. Don't cover up your heart. It will be there in the morning when you wake up too. Blessings.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

moe: Cancer/Libra/Sag moon: I see where you are going with your question about Aries guys. There seems to be something very compelling about Aries guys for Cancer women. They like the forthrightness and male power. Cancer women don't like "soft" men who are intellectual and thoughtful if you know what I mean. So, you are hoping that your Libra rising and Sag Moon make you more compatible. That could be. I would say that they make you more sociable, friendly and easy than maybe other combinations. Cancer Women are strong and sometimes moody and sometimes silent. Libra and Sag where they are definitely make you more fun at a party and conversational. But don't forget you are still a Cancer female. Just because you might be able to land that fish does not necessarily mean you will like how it tastes. This can be a winning combination, so I don't want to discourage you. But always be mindful of Aries qualities as you proceed. Blessings.


James 4 years ago

Hi, I've always looked to astrology to try and find a deeper understanding of my relationships but this cancer girl has me very confused. I'm an Aries born on the 19th of April. I've found that in comparison to other Aries I'm a little bit more mellow but otherwise have the exact same traits. I have been talking to this cancer girl for months and she still refuses to meet me. We met online and really hit it off but for some reason every time I ask her out she changes the subject. It's never a no. She just stalls until the time passes. It's frustrating because I really feel like we've connected but I want to see if we'll connect in person just as well. Should I wait it out and just be patient? Or is it a sign of it being too much trouble in the future?


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

A female Cancer keeps her own counsel. She may not know why she feels like she does about you, or she may know very well, and not want to hurt you. I would trust in my attraction for her, and being an Aries, you should back off, be pleasant, don't get pushy and see how she really feels. Cancer does not like to be pushed; regarding anything, but especially romance. The most I can say is Aries needs patience. Here you are!


olga 3 years ago

Im actually impressed with this. Im a aries girl seeing a cancer guy. I've heard so many negative comments of cancers and aries.


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

Olga: The challenge with this coupling is simply that there is mucho PRIDE in both signs. Aries invented pride, and its all on the outside. They are ready to "butt" people and assert themselves at the drop of a hat. Cancer is extremely strong and prideful. They can be offended on the inside very quickly and easily and profoundly.

So, what happens? The Aries is always up front too much assertiveness and ego for the touchy Cancer. Being an Aries girl and a Cancer guy, the challenge is a little different. Females are not as obnoxious as guys. A female Aries might not be quite so in the face of the Cancer guy. But guys being guys they are going to hide how hurt they are because they are not to show it, but they are, nevertheless. The woman should try to back off, because she knows she can be off putting. If I were you, I would assume that he is hiding inner hurts and complexes and issues. You can be quite appealing because Cancer likes action and expressiveness. If he sees you in a "family" context, you will be much better off. Both of you can work hard, so this is probably a good match for career, commercial enterprises and party planning. Good luck and blessings.


kim 3 years ago

Well I'm an Aries woman w/ a Libra moon and my boyfriend of 7 years is Cancer sun w/ Aquarius moon. Let me just say the ride had been thrilling yet terrifying. Haha. We have both helped each other grow so much, during our time together. Yes, its takes understanding and just downright dedication but it is well worth the work. My cancer makes me feel so

appreciated and comfortable. He likes that I make him feel safe and he loves the fact that I'm in his corner. I'm so deeply in love with him and my love only grows stronger for him. We accept each other and we're so lucky to have that. I hope for many more years with him. Ups and downs included. :)


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

Yes, your Cancer keys in with the warm impersonal understanding that he gets from "out there". That helps when an Aries is sucking up the oxygen in a conflict. Your Libra Moon helps you out in balancing your feelings with his. As long as you don't go flying off the cliff, and he doesn't get too pouty and "misunderstood", things should go along strongly and productively. If you know the hours of your births, go to the TRIAD page, and I will do a free reading.


ee 3 years ago

I'm an Aries with a Pisces moon and a Leo Rising. She's a Cancer with an Aquarius moon and a Scorpio Rising. We've been together for seven months, and best friends for two years. She's truly other half. But lately things have been a bit rocky. I can't quite put my finger on it. Things have just felt different - I feel as though her feelings for me have begun to lessen. I don't know if she's in one of her moods (it's possible, this isn't the first time it's happened) or if we're just beating a dead horse, and shouldn't have gotten together at all.


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

ee: If you have been friends for two years, don't be too quick to make a judgment, especially if you think she is "the other half". Of course things are going to be rocky. With an ego centric Aries, and a self referencing Leo and a Moody Moon in Pisces, give yourself a break and decide not to do anything for a couple of minutes. I am not saying you guys are the ONES for each other, but I can tell you that with a worrying Cancer, an intense Scorpio public personality and an impersonal, self concerned Aquarius Moon, you can expect her to be moody and unpredicatable.

I guess I should put it this way: both of you are quite special individuals. I don't see either one of you surrendering your precious selves to the other, but that does not mean you could actually have strong attraction and love for each other. As I just look at this coupling, you are the man and the Aries and full of himself. Your Moon is there to allow you to lick your wounds. She is the drama queen, demanding ego and the hard to pin down psyche. She is definitely the one who is going to be the temperature gauge in your relationship. If you feel her feelings for you are lessening, that trend may just continue. Cancer/Scorp/Aqua is gonna do what they're going to do, so maybe you are seeing it right. You, your Aries/Leo/Pisces are going to take care of yourself and beat feet as soon as you really are "done with it". She will protect her heart. You will protect your self. No one is going to suffer a broken heart here, so give it some time.

Sounds like it won't be long before she gives you your walking papers. Being an Aries, you are just trying to make your jump quick, like Aries do. If you want to be patient and sweet and use your Pisces Moon to make nice, and perhaps invite her to tell her what you have done wrong. Then, maybe some different signs will come from her. Otherwise, she will probably keep acting like she is acting. Women like this tend to tell you their souls before they speak their minds. Good Luck. You are both such strong types, you will both be fine.


Lost arie 3 years ago

Hey maybe you could help me... I am an aries woman still in love with my ex cancer boyfriend. Quick info; we known each other since 5th grade... "Dated" in 8th grade went to different high schools then hooked back up in 11th... Dated 5 years, a lot of arguing bickering over little things because we were around each other EVERYDAY. Broke up now for 3 years now I guess you would say we're friends? I was against it but he was persistent(showed up at my house/called my mother) but if he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me then why friendship? I don't see the point to it especially since I still want a future with him. Please help :/


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

This makes sense from a "male Cancer" point of view. There is a homey, let's be friends and have lots of kids someday" kind of feeling to Cancers. Male Cancers are kind of odd in this regard because of the strong "MATERNAL" aspect of Cancer, so you have to put that in the spin dry and see how it works for a male. Being an Aries woman, you come on strong even if you don't think you do, even if you are trying not to, you come on strong. Boy, you guys KNOW EACH other. Since you know each other so well, I would say that the key issue here is a sexual one. I won't guess what it is for you two. However, if I am just looking at Female Aries/Male Cancer I would say you need to "seduce him" if you know what I mean. After all these years you may need to redraw the bedroom. That's all I want to say because this is sensitive ground. If he is still interested in you, he is being a real Cancer. Aries is famous for starts, but for the long term ("ehhhh"),. So that fits too. You probably are BOTH going to have to make changes for this to work for the long term. Blessings. Many women would probably tell you, don't give up on a guy who is still in love with you until you have REALLY checked it out.


Lost aries 3 years ago

Thank you so much for the advice... What you're saying is true but it's really hard for me to have sexual relations with him when we don't have a commitment. I think that's what he wants though.... He keeps saying "live in th moment" I want to but I don't want to be taken advantage of...


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

OK. This is befuddling but be patient. Your need for a "commitment" is very female. He is very male. This is as old as the hills. Not really astrological, but people who know each other quite well and don't know what to do next. I don't give bedroom advice, so all I can say is: Are both of you worth something to the other? Sounds like there is something hidden or unspoken here. A reluctant Aries and a go get um Cancer. I suggest you go to my Triad article, get your sun, moon and rising signs for both of you and come back on that article. There are 600 plus comments on that article, so I have done a lot or work with couples there. All the best.


drejo 3 years ago

Wow I saved this site a year ago because I got into a relationship with and aries man and I'm a cancer woman. This couldn't be more accurate. It's been a year now and the beginning was so beautiful and perfect. But soon we had so many ups and downs. A lot of downs. It took me a while to realize that his bluntness and his selfishness and his careless attitude towards my emotions were nothing personal. I'm still not too sure if he will ever relate and at times I feel like he is just such a selfish human being. But with that said, I feel like it's all making me a stronger woman. I've definitely learned that insecurities can really ruin a relationship. I get so tested because of his flirtatious and attention seeking personality. A lot of times I feel like he walks the line when it comes to how much attention he gives women but he doesn't see it my way at all. Yet he never crosses that line. That I know of. But whatever happens in the dark comes to light. All I know is that we still have a lot of learning to do. I could write a book over what I've already learned and the questions that I have. Despite the downs. There is no one else i would want to be with and I know he feels the same.


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

Since you are already well versed and have a maturing view of the two of you, I would say that about Aries Males. They are the FIRST males in the zodiac. Women already don't believe men really change, so he takes the cake. I don't mean to be futile or even negative. I mean that a Cancer woman, who is probably like the FIRST FEMALE in the zodiac, (Aries, Taurus and Gemini women are so spring like the female gets "obscured". So, the first REALLY female female dealing with the primal male. It makes for endless adjustments, and constant asking yourself if you can deal. You can. It's just does he make it worth the work? Sounds like you think he does. Congrats! Blessings!


Drejo 3 years ago

I'm always going to keep trying in this until he proves that I should do otherwise! You have given me a much better understanding so I thank you so much! You are so very wise and all of your articles are great


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

All the best and thank you for your kind words. Your answer sounds reasonable. Blessings.


Karen 2 years ago

I am an aries women moon in Leo asc in Aquarius with a cancer man moon in cancer asc in Capricorn . I met him after a 21 yr marriage ended while I was dating several other men mostly aries . From the second I meet him I could no longer date any other . I just feel deeply in love with him , even though it took him 6 months to admit the same. We have been together 2 years and when he's not with me I feel lost. He is extremely moody and it bothers me a little , I could never say a harsh word to him unlike my Capricorn ex . He only brings out the best in me.. Puts out the fire when I feel over raged .. I in return help pull him out of the negative .. We are both older 41 and 42 . I am total taken by this man just like I was from the first date. The only thing is sex has changed from passion to comfort, he says because he respects me to much , treats me like a china doll that will break. How do I bring some of that fire back that I crave in the bedroom with mr. crabby patties?


Christofersflow 2 years ago

Karen: You may be expecting just what an Aries woman expects, but may not necessarily get. Double Cancer with a Cap asc makes a pretty conservative and interior fellow. I see your point, but I think there is no special trick here. First be thankful that you have him, then bring him along in a nonaccusative and "inspirational" way. Sounds like a great relationship. Aries is existentially impatient. You have a challenge. Blessings.


Pete 2 years ago

I'm an aries male with an ascendant in cancer. I was dating a cancer girl for three years that was the deepest and most emotional bond I ever had but we kept arguing about the same issues mainly related to overly clingy cancer and lack of subtly on my part, we broke up, didn't talk for a year and then met again and we're serious again. Somehow there's a calming effect by the innocence of cancer that can't be explained and is worth all the effort. I think the first time round a lot of arguments and issues weren't understood because there's a very different 'style' between aries and cancer, but understanding that and having shared values and trust go a long way!


Christofers Flow 2 years ago

That calming is the beguiling part of Cancer. While they are overwrought, preoccupied and much too busy by half, there is still that powerful spiriit of family permeating the day.


Kell 21 months ago

Im a cancer and he is an aries. We have been on and off for almost 6 years (mainly on) but it was mainly immaturity. We started dating in high school so he had that tendency to look towards other women without going too far and I always ended things whenever I saw it taking a turn for the worst to protect myself. But after about year 4 we really started being perfect for each other because we learned to adapt for the better. His looking ways and my running ways ended and now we see eye to eye. We always have deep conversations and fix the things we need to work out right away. This is seriously the most accurate reading I have ever heard of and it makes me feel better to know that it can work because 6 years of my life is not something I wanna let go of.


Christofers Flow 21 months ago

I would summarize your appreciation of your situation by saying the female Cancer has much to invest and much to lose. They inherently know this. This is deep serious stuff for a female Cancer. Always is. Training the upbeat, energetic and boundless energy of the male Aries is a "game", "Plot", "enterprise". If you love that guy though it is not hard to see his virtues. He has to bring the gravitas to the relationship. 6 years down the road I think you have that worked out. Blessings and keep being yourself.

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