Astrology - How To Get Along - Scorpio and Aquarius

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How To Get Along – Scorpio and Aquarius

The Scorpion and the Water Bearer


This series on AstroCompatibility will cover all of the potential matchups in the Zodiac. We will continue this series thinking about and commenting on Scorpio and The Water Bearer. You can get new info at: Christofer's new website at: http://www.astrologygetalong.com.

Scorpio - Aquarius

Aquarius is Air and Fixed. Scorpio is Water and Fixed. Both are fixed. When you talk about Scorpio and Aquarius you are talking about super fixity. When you see this noun, think one adjective for shortcut purposes: Stubborn. Stubborn about the big stuff, stubborn about style, stubborn about the way they see things. Of course this does not make them “difficult people”; the key is to think about this as a match. If the both of these two are attracted to one another and are contemplating love and affection working magic in their lives, they should probably first pay attention to this chief aspect. These two are going to insist upon being the individuals that they are. This is one of those “transportation and transformation” couplings that I like to name that way for easy comprehension. If two people fall in love, they can make it. That is the human species. However some couplings and unions will only succeed, or best succeed, if they are “transported to a new place, and transformed in a new way.”

Can they be a great couple, enchanted with each other and taking each other to new experiences? Certainly! Impressive Aquarius can take the Scorpion’s breath away with its style, sureness and grandiosity. Scorpio can be deeply powerful and transfixing for the wild Aquarian. You can see why a short term relationship would be sparked like flint and stone. Since these are special signs and the mix of the two in romance makes them an intriguing and strong duo, it is important to think of what they can do FOR each other, while we also think about what challenges they would have getting along.

Under the topic of challenges, you could see Scorpio running out of patience with Aquarian “uniqueness”. The Water Bearer doesn’t feel the need to think about power or influence when they justify their positions. They are intuitive, and that’s what counts. They feel they can see and know things that others are not privy to. Running into that wall of unchangeability, the Scorpio might experience implosions. Aquarius could fail, after awhile to determine just why Scorpio is so relentlessly serious. Laughter and mirth after all are a part of understanding the ironies of life, according to the Aquarian.

Positive Postulate: This partnership (coupling, union, relationship) could lead to new levels of change for both. Aquarius could get the inner discipline of the Scorpion and care more about money, strategies and the cold rationale for what they are doing. The remarkable ingenuity and special insights that seem to spring from the Aquarian continually, could help lighten up the Scorpio and give them some chances for humor and irrational, off-the-wall observations. Scorpio could thus become more effective and balanced. Aquarius could become less of an impulsive firebrand and more concerned with the impression that it is making before the public.

Romance Recommendation: Romance forces the Aquarian to drop completely down into the physical and psychological realm. Having to surrender itself to the wonderful reality of romance makes them see what many of their spiritual intuitions end up meaning in life. Scorpio overflows with remarkable caring about the meaning and reality of romance. Scorpio can truly benefit Aquarius here, and bring both of them to broadening and deepening spirituality, in addition to the transporting physicality of love.

Conflict Quotient: Aquarius could get loud and defensive and feel very misunderstood in a fight with Scorpio. Scorpio should hold back its level of attack. If it got extreme, it would not be helpful. They should approach each other with the sensitivity that they both would wish would be heaped upon them. Both can be given to making speeches. The stronger they feel, the higher their verbal ascendancy grows. This is where their trouble could mount. Just decreasing their verbal energy might help.

Peace Parlay: Life in the end is repetitive and mundane, and so is Romance itself. This factor asks the question: "Can we be bored together over the long term?" Aquarius and Scorpio, once they meld into a partnership should consider truly giving themselves vacations of peace and quiet.

Keep Up The Interest Graph: Scorpion imagining and Aquarian spontaneity would provide opportunity for both to put together schemes and plans, outlandish and regular, just to keep them out of the gravitational miasma of both of them taking themselves too seriously.

Seven Year Itchiness: There are some signs that by their nature are more stable in their love interests and family concerns as time goes on. Others are not. Aquarians can approach human relationships from their fascinated and intrigued turn of mind. Scorpions too often view the rest of the human race as a different kind of animal than they are. Both should withhold their natural inclination to experiment. Even though both would have natural reluctance and ambivalence, temptation should be avoided for the sake of the union.

RATING:

ASTROCOMPATIBILITY POSSIBILITY RATING: 60% Positive Long Term - 90% Short Term. Dynamite in a small moment might characterize the night they meet. They could have a strong attraction, just on the basis of their uniqueness. The work of getting along over the long term will determine the length of the relationship. How strong their desire is for each other’s company will figure into the formula for transportation and transformation.

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Comments 64 comments

White Knight 6 years ago

Dude!!!!! Dat is right on!!!


Sunnydayzz 6 years ago

You are sooooooo on the money with this one. It describes me as a Scorpio Female correctly. From what I understand of my beau....it surely sounds right on point for him. I am praying for the longterm to be 90%...so far so good. We are taking it very slow...step by step!


meandhim 6 years ago

omg :o


metalchick 6 years ago

that 7 year thing is interesting b/c i've been in my relationship about that long and their was definatley some "ITCHINESS" but its better now...


sandy 5 years ago

Exactly right! We are going on 5 years... rocky first couple of years but once you know eachother really well you know how to speak in a calmer manner and it works!! I absolutely love him!!


Essy 5 years ago

We are going on 6 years and this here is totally right on! We are totally in love and it's what is making us stronger. Apart from the stubbornness we are doing just fine. We are still learning to deal with each other, but in BED WE DO ALL THE MAKE UP AND IT'S TOTALLY WORTH WHILE


Maya 5 years ago

This is the First Blog to help me cope with my relationship ... and he and I just broke up and at first I felt like I truly had lost him we broke up horribly but now we still talk everyday like we love and hate each other and argue every 20 mins its only been about 6months that we have been dealing with each other but I really wanna say that he could be a winner .... as much as we may fight we communicate in ways i can't communicate with others .... IDK I hope it works - aquarius


5 years ago

We hv been gng 4 1 year nd we hv our ups nd downs, we lv each other bt stll learng how 2 contrl our sturbonss of ours. Im an aqurian nd he is a scorpio, we alwys fight evry second bt we alwys make up aftr evry fight, we never get bored with each other


N.MarieV. 5 years ago

love reading the pros & cons on Scorpio and Aquarius relationships. I can totally relate to all that was said in the above paragraphs. my partner n I met on vacation & have talked everyday since. it's been almost 7 months and as a scorpio i feel he has changed my life in so many positive ways. even though we have our daily augments I wouldn't change it for anything. my Aquarius partner is very stubborn at times (as well as i) but even when we disagree I can feel our loving and compatible connection.  I am excited to hear him speak his mind even if he knows I feel total the opposite. so far we've had a blast getting to know a lot about each other. and even though we are long distance n have took our relationship day by day I'm more than excited to see what may come in our long term, amazing, crazy,  "fixed" relationship.

nikki n cory 11/11/11 


biddy anne 5 years ago

I have been on and off with a scorpio women for 6 years now. I myself am an aquarius women. Everything u have written is spot on. We have emotion fueled debates and some jealously issues weekly, but the love, passion and intensity we get from each other is worth it. It.s all about patience understanding and takin time to really get to know each other and still allow each 9thfr to be themselves without judging. Love her.


queen 5 years ago

Omg. I'm glad to know that I am not the only one going through this with my aqua man. We fight & break up all the time. But we really love each other been together for a year now & we are long distance which makes things even harder at times. He's the one with the jealous one tho.


queen 5 years ago

Omg. I'm glad to know that I am not the only one going through this with my aqua man. We fight & break up all the time. But we really love each other been together for a year now & we are long distance which makes things even harder at times. He's the one with the jealous one tho.


4 years ago

Woah haha. So true that it's weird to read


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

People say that a lot. When you see that you are two souls with agendas, you can work out your relationship with a knowledge, not only of yourself, but also of the other.


aquarianlady 4 years ago

i am married to a scorpio man and have known him for more than a decade. i think in all honesty, he is the one who has taught me the meaning of togetherness and what it means to be a couple. i love him and am looking forward to having a long future with him through old age and till death. he is truly the ying to my yang. i give in more in the relationship than he, but it's because i love him that i give in, and he dominates in the relationship. although, i do have some say of course - he isn't the type to be married to a woman without some backbone. i'm very happy but a relationship takes work. it's like a job, a very successful kind of job.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Scorpio is benefitted by a big minded understanding Aquarius. They may not exactly know that, or express it, but who cares? If you're happy that's what counts. Scorpio doesn't often know what makes them tick, so the understanding by the mate is important.


sweet_aquarius 4 years ago

yes!!! haha all is sooo so true is creepy lmfao me an my scorpio man are like whipped cream on pie the next its like glass hitting the floor we are so much alike in so many ways but as a aquarius he sometimes doesn't get me but sometimes i just like getting him mad or upset and i have to say sex is like the BEST ive ever had hes 28 an im 22 i mean we are always together but soon as i hit the bars without him hes textin an callin seein if im makin out with someone else im totally loyal to him but be has inscurites and is always lookin for a way to piss me off as well but we are so deep in love he is so fixed on me but i love it an i love the ups an downs it makes it so much more fun i mean really would u rather ride a roller coaster or sit on a boat for 2hrs. staright me im more ready to rock the boat hahahaha im free at heart but my love keeps me close tomy scorpio man 3years so far hope its forever


Lisa 4 years ago

I liked a Scorpio male for some time, I am a Aquarius woman...I don't think there ever will be compatibility. Problem with communication and it's so hurtful...I'm not the nicest person..I tease a lot, but he seems to be very sensitive..he seems to love hurt me...I'm really confused for 3 yrs I've tried and he hasn't really talked to me. I have to give up and move on, even though I like him and wish I could talk to him nothing is going to happen. I'm happy other Scorpio and Aquarian couples could make it work..I should have known from the beginning that he didn't like me. The biggest question I'll always have about him is why he don't just directly talk why does he have to make hints and pictures and stuff why can't he just talk..it makes it difficult to get to know him..that's why I think he really doesn't like me :(


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Sweet Aquarius: Sounds wonderful. Lovely expressions of your relationship.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Aquarius is a fixed sign. So is Scorpio. If after all this time you are hoping, but not getting anywhere, that could be both of your "fixities" working against the relationship.


Queen 4 years ago

Wow. Everything said here is so true myself. And my Scorpio Nan.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Queen: Aquarius can elevate Scorpio's aims. Scorpio can bring vitality to Aquarian dryness of concept. To be happy and in agreement is what we seek. Congrats.


Blahblah-ladyscorpio 4 years ago

Just lost an aquarius man. It's sucks. We didn't take the time to understand and communicate. I tried but he didn't want to hear it, he just stopped talking to me like I mean nothing. Which is clearly what he was trying to show me so. I suppose it was for the best but it still sucks. =(


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Don't feel bad. Aquarians forget people's names easily. Especially people they have known for awhile. And yes, I know it sucks. But alas. The Scorpio has a wide world.


Blahblah-ladyscorpio 4 years ago

I wish he would of forgot my name the first time! But noooo he had to come back with some bullshit excuse as to why he wanted me back. smdh! Now i'm just angry at myself for taking him back.


blahblah-ladyscorpio 4 years ago

And I agree my aqua sister is just like that she always has to ask me about who's who and when she met them. I remember things she has told me better than she does.


blahblah-ladyscorpio 4 years ago

But I honestly blame all of his Pisces placements!!! I have to stay away from anyone with a Pisces placement. They grind my gears.


Omgirl 4 years ago

Great observation. Never been in a relationship with a scorp however have a scorp father. Aqua and Scorp have very different personalities. I find little patience with my dad's broodingness, underhandedness, egotistical traits. I feel like you have got to watch every word what you say or he gets easily offended. This hasn't been easy since it has been going on for over 50 years. Aqua stings with their straightforwardness and scorp with their underhandedness. Both can't stand each others ways in this respect. However, as a good daughter I also am taking care of him, despite the differences.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Omgirl: Your perceptions though personal, sound very accurate for the types. These two have to resist their strong egos to get along. This can be great for personal growth. However, when they get up in the morning, they are still who they are.


aquarius85 4 years ago

I am an aquarius and my husband is a scorpio..we have known each other for14 years and have been together for 9 and married for 8,he works my last nerve..seriously he does..he is so mean...He has gotten worse since he joined the military..we have three kids together,I am trying to find who i am in life and if i can deal with him and his 98% of the time attitude..I swear he wakes up on the wrong side of the bed everyday...It is very frustrating but i am trying to cope with him..I am getting to the point where i believe i am better off living without him.. I am a happy go lucky person but being with him really brings my mood down....everyday.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

He sounds like a typical Scorpio. You have to be in love with a Scorpio. You have to be. Every morning they are going to be themselves. Your Aquarian was probably very understanding a few years ago because Aquas can see things that are not there. Their certainty arises from within and from way way way out there - but seldom from what's in front of them. But eventually what's in front of them becomes so absolutely real that their "see and understand everything" lens gets burnt out.

It sounds like you are really suffering. Have you talked about counseling? Are you beyond counseling? I think that's the question you need to be asking. You are a fixed sign. Aquarians are Air and Fixed. Stubborn Aquarians do not believe they are stubborn. Guess what? Scorpios are FIXED too. However, they KNOW they are stubborn. I am not taking his side. I am saying I can understand why you are where you are. Have you sought counseling? Blessings.


Peter 4 years ago

This combination will never truly work. Scorpio lives, experiences everything through feelings and initially thinks aquarius is the same. But in time scorpio will realise that there is something very, very weird going on here, something so odd that it even eluded the scorpio intuition. Because the way aquarius really ticks is so alien to scorpio that scorpio never even thought something like that can exist at all.

You see a tipical aquarius does not feel feelings at all. Yes there are feelings, maybe even quite deep ones somewhere in the aquarian mind, but they are verbalised and then pushed aside, and all this happens automatically. Scorpio thinks that to live is to feel right? Wrong, not with aquarius.

Scorpio then realises the mystical reason why aquarius seems passionless is not so mystical at all, they are in fact passionless. Scorpio realises that the emotional bonds between them never actually existed, scorpio just imagined them. Because aquarius is unable to bond emotionally, aquarian "emotions" are locked away somewhere and are never used this way.

And then scorpio will freak out because of all this, and then it's over.

Also, aquarius will never understand what went wrong because they have no idea what it is to live through feelings.

I'm a scorp male btw, aquarian girls seem to fall in love with me all the time cause we have interesting conversations, they seem to confuse love with friendship because of all this mental nonsense they are doing, it's very weird.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

The "wierdness" is why certain combinations of souls will never work. It's a divorce preventative. If a combination such as this does lead to a union, then a "transformation" of one or two of them is in order. The key issue you have failed to highlight is that you are both FIXED. Neither is going to choose to change. They call it stubborn. TAURUS, LEO, SCORPIO AND AQUARIUS.


Peter 4 years ago

I think you misunderstood that, it's not stubbornness. There is such a fundamental difference between how the brains of these two signs on a biological level work that even if they truly want to, they can't transform their nature enough.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

I understand your frustration. If it makes you feel better to think that all similarities of these types in all cases are going to react the way you feel they will, then go ahead and feel that. However, if you feel that these kinds of transformations for you two can not occur, then most certainly for you, they won't. I wish you the best in the future.


Peter 4 years ago

My posts were generalisations, so far these were my experiences with aqua women, but of course this doesn't mean that they apply to every case.

I know that the basically emotional landscape experienced by "typical" scorpios is only in their heads, and that the basically mental landscape experienced by "typical" aquarians is only in their heads. What I meant is that even so, "typically" these landscapes are so far away from each other that the distance cannot really be overcome by transformation, as that would mean self-denial, would do more harm than good. Trying to experience life in a way that one cannot.

But since only 3 signs experience life through pure emotion, most people probably don't understand what we mean by all this.


BBB-scorpsagcusp 4 years ago

Well this is definitely an interesting discussion about Scorpio and Aquarius. I wanted to find out how other people experience this combination of personalities. I myself am a Scorpio girl, well they tell me I am in the Scorpio Sagitarius cusp as I was born on 21st November. I met an Aquarius man last year while I was doing volunteer work abroad. We didn't actually get to see all that much of eachother as I was leaving shortly after that but he definitely left some kind of impression as I couldn't get him out of my mind hahahaha. But I tried not to think about it too much really and I did not seek any more contact even though he was on my mind. I don't know why but as a scorpio I guess nobody will be surprised when I say maybe I just tried to protect myself from a situation that was very unpredictable. Anyway he tracked me down somehow through a friend of his and wanted to stay in contact with me he said. And I thought ok... I will just see what that means then for him. At the beginning we used to talk just like spontaneously whenever we were around online and had time. We talk a lot about music as we both have this passion and well our jobs as well. He is a doctor and I am a psychologist working in the medical field and our family stuff . Relationships things like this, my many travels.... Although he mainly wants to know about my relationships and says he doesn't really want to talk about his past one. We both speak a different language so sometimes communication is a challenge in that way....but since I am learning it anyway I love to practice it and I never turn my back on a challenge like that. Although I sometimes get the impression it is harder for him I don't know if that is like it would annoy him I don't speak his language well enough and so he needs patience or he feels confronted with his own lack of English skills which he says it is so important to learnt it for him but never took it very serious to actually do so. I speak several foreign languages fluent so he knows and I try my best to learn fast because I like to communicate with people in their native tongue. How he talks about his work and the things he does it just fascinates me I can't help myself to be inspired. And like I want to know more about this and him. And when I see his smile I am like wow everytime I think you are like such a beautiful person. How could I ever have you? Anyway so we had this going on for some time, but I never really told him this is what I really think of him, I mean like I said we just talked and liked it. Then he has these times he is just gone of the radar almost... no idea why. Just like that and back again just like that but not really saying much about it. Of course I would want to know all about it but then again think well if he wants to tell me he should just do it and I should not force anything out of him. I have never been involved with an Aquarius, really never so I don't have any idea how they are or why they behave like this. I have friends that are Aquarius and a close family member we always have lots of laughs and a great time and I mostly feel some kind of respect from them without doing anything really except being my normal self. They seem so carefree to me and I like that I guess because it is something I admire as I am not always so carefree in life and should let things go more often I think like they do. But to have feelings for an Aquarius man or be involved with one I have the feeling I don't even know where to begin with this.... from some reactions here it looks like this combination might be a challenge. How do Aquarius men feel and see love? What are their beliefs about love and being faithful? I have to say I wonder about these things since I seem to be drawn to this man. After he had been gone not communicating for some time with me and I wrote him just a simple message asking how he was. It was really all I wanted to do because I thought he had better things to do maybe he is in a relationship or so he might not keep contact with me. He wrote me back saying he was so surprised to here from me and it was such a nice surprise and how I am doing and things like this? And I thought really? why if you wanted to know for yourself you can ask anytime, is that not something that is obvious that you can do that anytime you want? He asked me if I got engaged or something and that doesn't make any sense to me, before I was like dating two guys but I didn't feel any commitment so let them be. Again I can't figure out for the love of god what he was thinking with this? So we started talking again and he asked me if I am really a free woman? And when I said yes he said so what does a man have to do to date me to be my boyfriend? Things like this. I first didn't know what to say to that like this came out of the blue for me. And so I wanted to know why he would ask that just out of curiosity or for another reason? So eventually he said he needs to know because it is what he wants, what he always wanted. So once again I am speechless. I would like to believe him it is true. Then again when we talked about the distance thing and how I am a bit scared of it the day after he said ok maybe we should be friends. Just as I started to come around to the idea he says oh maybe we should be friends maybe it would be not good for me and things like this. He doesn't want to talk about it. I put him with his feet on the ground instead of living in his illusion that we would ever be together. So I decided to tell him ok he doesn't want to talk about it but I would still like him to listen to something. Or not if he doesn't want to it is his choice. I said yes I maybe talk very open about pros and cons in this kind of situation because I give it a lot of thought and maybe it is a bit scary for me as a woman to think about this situation but I have never let fear rule my life or it has never stopped me from doing anything that I really wanted to do or try. And I know it would not stop me now either if I get burnt or not. In the end that is how I am. I told him to just think about it and get back to me in his own time. Also as he said he had never forgotten me you know .... when i read here before somebody saying they forget people easily. Do Aquarius men fall in and out of love easily I wonder? I guess I just don't want to be played with that is what it comes down to. If I really trust a person and I love them or I think that i would I would do everything for them and do everything to make something work but if it would be true I could be forgotten easily or be played with... I don't know how I would feel about that. So yes all you Aquarius and Scorpio people and experts out there .... I'm curious to know what you are thinking?


poov 4 years ago

i read this article because i want to get along with myself, i have sun libra, moon scorpio.......


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

There is so much text above, I cannot really do justice to the complexity of the commentary. Ask me a simple question, and I will try to give my best heartfelt response. These matters are so heavy to the individual, that when people bare the care of their souls, I do not want to pretend to comprehend as much as they think I can comprehend. When this depth is involved, I would rather go to the surface, splash around on the beach and think about the basics. If you have a basic feeling, ask me.


droopy718 4 years ago

Im a Scorpio guy dating an Aquarius girl and I think our demise came from my jealousy and possesivness which o feel stems from the fact that she is more outgoing and social than I am..I also felt she wasn't as demonstrative in her feelings towards me and that they were in her head and couldn't be physically projected...the whole relationship felt like w game of cat and mouse..me wanting her close and alone to me and she wanting to be free ..this combination is difficult ..it seems our needs n personality clashes and causes conflict


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

I would concur with your analysis.


confused about this blog 4 years ago

Sometimes, author, you try to help out by pushing away potentially good pairings.

When I read the above comments about aqua85, she is what? married to the guy for a long time and she just recently feels this way? where was she hiding all those years? The man is her husband, not someone off the streets she can feel sorry for. She is her husband, good or bad, richer or poorer, and this whole blog just tries to keep the two "fixed" signs from being together. You don't even talk about other potential venus or mars signs in the chart.


confused about this blog 4 years ago

Oh pardon for my mistake above, I meant "she is his wife" typo.

and the man (scorpio in question) who just GIVES up easily because he doesn't even look further into a person's astrological chart, and MAYBE just maybe look further into a person's background, perhaps their relationship history, or maybe meet their family, or their close friends to see whether or not they are the type of person you want to be with.

And i can see why the poster after the aqua85 poster who wrote selfishly about her husband scorpio being "mean", well MY goodness, scorpio energy is about being downright so truthful it hurts. I can't beleive that someone married someone for so long and not realise that her man goes into the military and perhaps for god knows what, probably is STRESSED out majorly and trying to hold up a family and being there for her and the kids, so he's pushing a lot out onto her. And her, all she can think about is, `i´m usually a positive person, happy go lucky` what the heck is that about.. when if that is true, then make your husband smile, that is what marriage is about, it´s about sacrifice and all the bad and all the good. You cannot take just the good because that´s not what life is about.

and author, your comment on this

`The "wierdness" is why certain combinations of souls will never work. It's a divorce preventative. If a combination such as this does lead to a union, then a "transformation" of one or two of them is in order. The key issue you have failed to highlight is that you are both FIXED. Neither is going to choose to change. They call it stubborn. TAURUS, LEO, SCORPIO AND AQUARIUS.`

I agree in a way...because to be in a relationship with strong fixed sign, there has to be a transformation. And with that, comes evolution.

divorce preventions....they don´t work, with any sun sign combination...it´s just fact. people divorce all the time because they are too caught up in the me me me me


scorpio 4 years ago

This is very true i went threw this things with my ex we always bump heads becouse we are both stuburn so yes i had to break it off it was to much for me i decided to move on.. and one thing i hated of him was he's attitude get always seem so grumpy and serious and that's something i never liked about him.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

I see that people are interested in helping out quite a bit, and that's fine, that's what this form is for. But I myself just went through a personal situation with an Aquarius and a Scorpio just this weekend. Without getting into the yelling and crying, I must say that not only are both of these signs FIXED and stubborn, they are also different in so many ways that both must apply a set of glasses so that they can communicate their desire to get along. This is a very difficult combination. The first thing these two should ask is "How much real love do we feel we have?" A very simple question, but extremely important.


Aquababy 4 years ago

An Aquarius' feelings for you can't just be in her head. Aquarius are often MISTAKEN for being aloof. When an Aquarius loves, it's with her whole being. Or at least that's the way I loved my Scorpio guy, but he stung me anyways. Love is so much more than something that is just physically projected. Anyone can pretend to physically project love. I wanted to teach him... If I was able to hate (him), I'd hate what he did to me and anyone who hurt him (obviously someone did for him to sting me the way that he did).


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

Aquababy: Well spoken, and from the heart. Many do misunderstand Aquarius.


AquaQueen79 4 years ago

Sometimes I feel an aquarius gets a bad rep for not showing emotion the way other signs do but as far as the love thing goes yes we do know how to love and we do so with our whole beings and I think maybe thats why we sometimes distance ourselves because we don't want to be hurt. In all reality we are sensitive and hurt just like any other sign when love goes wrong.


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Christofers Flow 4 years ago from Denver Author

This is very true. Aquarians do not represent themselves well in this regard. Recently, an Aquarian at a family gathering turned to me and said "Tell her what I really feel inside". I did not try to do that, but I did say: "Disclosing their insides, their emotional heart is a difficult challenge for them."


scorp 4 years ago

Aquababy: it's not that it's misunderstood, it's just that even if you love with your whole being, it's still not enough for a scorpio. It is still an indirect way of love and emotion, scorpios do not consider that to be "the real thing". Even if you love with your whole being and have the best intention, you are still unable to process emotion the same way a scorpio does from birth and totally NEEDS this in the partner too. It's very sad but it is true, even if both of you really want to make it together, you are just plain incompatible.


scorp 4 years ago

"Love is so much more than something that is just physically projected."

See if you say this then you don't comprehend what scorpios mean by love. Aquarius is the humanitarian sign but they don't understand a great deal of humanity at all.

And don't take the stinging thing too personally, if a scorpio wants to be able to move on from a relationship then he/ must deconstruct his(/her) already built up emotions, that's why he is mean to you. He doesn't really want to hurt you but is actually destroying a part of himself.


aquarius&scorpio 3 years ago

well I am married to a scorpio man, and we don't really have problems with "feelings" in a relationship. Maybe because i have a mutable moon and a rising in a mutable sign. He has a mutable moon and rising as well. We both adapt very well to each other, but even with that, it wasn't "effortless" in the beginning. Oh it was not smooth riding. Sigh. But, i love him and he loves me.

Stinging...well, my dad has a scorpio moon, and my mother has a stellium in scorpio. So.....i'm used to the "stinging" ...I guess it prepared me.


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

aquarius&scorpio: Sounds like you have your personal and family scopes well in hand. Now, you just have to live with all that Scorpio. From what I know of Aquarius, you will do your dead level best.


aquarius&scorpio 3 years ago

Thank you. :)

My mother has Mercury, Venus & Mars in Scorpio, so you can imagine.

*whew* the interrogation, the digging up secrets between me and siblings...she's good.

But, I do understand, after learning more of astrology- in depth, how loyal and very deep they love. They truly will never abandon you.


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

That's what people don't get --- Scorpios are earnest. They don't play around. Even when you think they are playing around, they are not playing around. Its all earnest all the time. That should be the real one word description. "Earnest" covers it all. They won't abandon you unless you have become unregenerate or completely negative. Here's to you.


lechiaa 3 years ago

I'm a scorpio girl And my boyfriend is an aquarius. Him and I have been dating for seven months now. A few months back he showed me a site where it said we were not meant for each other at all. I kept telling him that it only ends like that when the people stop caring. And that there is a chance for me and him to be together. And now that I read this page about out signs it a sures me that we do have a chance..


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

Any two people who love each other have a chance. I believe in consciousness of each mate having awareness of the other. Regardless of the sun sign. Yes, Scorpio and Aquarius are a difficult pair. But then Scorpio and Aquarius are difficult in general with anybody. If you want my deeper analysis, go to the TRIAD article, get your sun, rising and moon signs and give me those two matchings, and I will do a better analysis. It's free. Look for the word TRIAD. You will need the hour of birth, plus city and birthdate, obviously. I will look for "Lechiaa".


aquarius woman 3 years ago

I'm beginning to understand via astrology and via people i know in real life the HUGE differences of air = water.

Air really lacks empathy. They don't understand the inner workings of water. I have water and earth dominant in my chart so I dont have a problem with it long term with my husband, who is a scorpio/scorpio venus, but wow, looking at how other people see things...how they view life. It's not a wonder air= water is so difficult. water= fire is also difficult as i've read that fire gets destroyed by water. Which is why by "general" standards, these elements cannot get eachother. So much i understand why astrologers say what they say. But it IS more than just sun signs. And there has to be water with water houses in the chart of the Aquarius in my opinion to understand a water person.

Anyway I thought I'd say that because astrology really helped me understand on a deeper level....but it takes years i realise to understand this and a lot of observation and intuition.


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Christofers Flow 3 years ago from Denver Author

Go to my TRIAD article, and see how I will give you a free reading on your MOON, RISING and SUN. You have come to the point where understanding both triads is how people get along, and don't, together.


New to aqua 21 months ago

You seem like a pretty real guy and this a very real conversation .Just a quick comment/ question: my hook ups are usually right away. You know it's going down. I have been dating an aqua girl long distance, she has a young son we are both divorcees. Knew each other before hand there always seemed to be a vibe. Nothing was explored until recently.I see her every few weeks. The third date when we were finally alone she turns out the lights I put the music on we start light touching and all of a sudden she. Needs to go to bed. I happened to be staying at her house so I just went to bed and she did this thing where she kept her bedroom door open, how ever I did not venture. I came back into town we ended up going out with some other people. At the end of the night we had some action, still no sex. And that's where I am now ,getting ready to go back into town. She only likes to communicate by text and Facebook, until I'm in town. It came across my mind that she must be a serious player, but when I am with her that's hard to believe. So tell me am I being played or is patience the watch word


Aquababy 21 months ago

New to aqua

if you're a Scorpio, you have got this! Patience is the key.


Christofers Flow 21 months ago

OK, you're the Scorp you are expecting consistency, integrity, straight shooting and all that serious stuff. Aquas are not flibbertygibbits, they are getting vibes from within that they're always acting on. The travel and distance keep in mind cause an inattentive quality in the Aqua. They alsmost forget your name when you're right in front of them. Take her word for it if she is interested but by no means bring the usual expectations, (especially Scorpion) expectations. I would say "let it ride" for awhile. Blessings.


New to aqua 21 months ago

Thanks all, seem like a worthy journey


dindin 4 months ago

Im a scorpio female, getting involved with an aquarius male. I can't understand him half of the time, but I find his quirkiness and sense of humour irresistible.

I think the best way to get involved with an aquarius is being friends first. They don't seem to be the sensual kind (in the beginning!), it takes time for them to get in touch with what they feel because they're quite cerebral... but they DO FEEL, just not the same way as the rest of us :P their feelings are like coffee beans, they have to put them in the grinder for a while before they evaluate the scent and come to the conclusion that yes, this is coffee indeed. In the meanwhile they may treat you like a buddy, which can be a bit of a turnoff. But as the relationship progresses and they realise they want you, they become more romantic. Romantic in their own offbeat way, mind you! Maybe they won't give you a traditionally romantic gift, they'll probably give you something really unique. But think twice before dismissing it and pay attention to the story around it (there IS usually a story!). Aquarius aren't your typical sappy romantics, but they can be incredibly romantic intellectually (= their thought processes ARE romantic when they're interested, they're just not obvious), and as an emotionally heavy scorpio I find that VERY refreshing.

I think that the hardest thing in scorpio and aquarius friendships/relationships is that aquarius moods can be quite changeable, even in a friendship. They can be very warm and then become distant in a matter of hours. Sometimes they can be a bit cranky. They need space, but thing is, they always end up coming around if they care, and that happens quite soon. In fact, they're always around if they like you, they just jump from attached to detached state. Even though scorpios are very possessive/obsessive, we have our private side too, we're rather introverted and want our time alone. So as far as the scorpio is confident that his distancing isn't because of some other woman, the distance can work fine. But there has to be trust. If that trust isn't built yet, it can be frustrating and quite difficult for scorpio to let her guard down and invest emotionally (in our young years we get totally consumed by emotions, but as we become older we find ways to put a reign on them because they can literally destroy us).

But don't think for a moment that aquarius can't be possessive once your story has progressed a bit. Don't go out of your way to make him jealous, but observe his reaction if you interact with other men, or if you make plans without him. He won't cause a scene, but you'll be able to see in his eyes and his tone of voice that he's seething.

I can't talk about the bedroom yet because this has been a slow pace relationship. But I can see that my aquarius LOVES physical contact and tenderness, and as a scorpio I have big piles of stock in those!

Overall, I think that aquarius and scorpio is a bit of an unlikely pair. BUT from the scorpio point of view, I can say with confidence that scorpio has a lot to gain from that relationship, especially the scorpios that are born near mid november. We're closer to saggitarius, and can be a strange mix: we long for freedom and lightness of being but that heaviness of scorpio is still present and drains us at times. We wish that sometimes life was simpler. And aquarius, being the intellectually creature he is, can drag us from our emotional labyrinths and show us another way of reacting to life. And that goofiness and quirkiness of aquarius is enough to make a scorpio forgive him for being detached at times.

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