Change Your Beliefs to Change Your Life

“Seeing is not believing; believing is seeing! You see things, not as they are, but as you are.” ~Eric Butterworth

“The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs.” ~James Allen

Terry at the observatory in Los Angeles.
Terry at the observatory in Los Angeles. | Source

“Wait a minute. I don’t want to change my beliefs. That is who I am!”

True. Your beliefs are what make you who you are. However, dysfunctional beliefs about ourselves do us no good. They rob us from fulfilling our true potential. They steal the wind from our sails. They shoot us down before we even get a chance to take that first step. We are not meant to live mediocre lives. We are Spiritual Beings destined for greatness. Instead, we let the past programming deter us from following our hearts.

“I can’t do that. I am not smart enough. Why should I bother? I will probably fail.”

Do you see how destructive our beliefs about ourselves can be? My friend, you are loved beyond belief. Despite your beliefs about yourself, the Creator loves you no matter what. The Creator loves you unconditionally. There are no requirements for this love. You don’t even have to believe in God. However, God loves you regardless. And God believes in you. You are too hard on yourself. You deserved to be loved. Do you know why? You are pure love itself. You were born from the Creator of Unconditional Love.

What are Beliefs?

Beliefs are nothing more than repeated thoughts. When you think a thought enough times, it becomes a belief. For example, if an individual is constantly telling themselves they are a loser over and over, it is only a matter of time before the person accepts this as absolute gospel. The brain becomes wired to accept that as reality. This belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. They believe they will fail and therefore fail. On the other hand, if a person has the belief, "I can accomplish anything if I set my mind on it," then that will most likely be their reality.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.” ~Henry Ford

A lot of the beliefs are formed during childhood and adolescence. Everybody in our life wants to put in their two cents. Our parents, family, friends, school, work, the media, culture, religion, spiritual institutions, science, and so on, play a part in our programming. Parents don’t often realize how impressionable children are, especially when their six and under. What a person says out of anger to their child may be detrimental to that child. When the parent tells the child that they are good for nothing, the child lacks reasoning to judge that the statement wasn’t intentional. Perhaps the parent was yelled at by his employer and just transformed that anger on his child. Nonetheless, we have to be careful in what we say to others, because our thoughts and emotions may have serious repercussions on others. I truly believe that are children are our future. If we pour garbage into their head, we won’t have a future. We can learn a lot from our children. They are great teachers.

Japanese garden at the Huntington Library.
Japanese garden at the Huntington Library. | Source

Dr Bruce Lipton - Biology of Belief

Gregg Braden - The Spontaneous Healing of Belief

How Do We Change Our Beliefs?

We can change our beliefs by hanging out with positive people. These individuals have a healthy outlook on life. They see the silver lining in things. An obstacle to them is nothing more than an opportunity. They don’t get discouraged by set-backs, for there is something to learn from that experience. Perhaps it wasn’t the best time, or maybe they needed to find out more information.

We can also change our beliefs by reading inspirational and uplifting books. Many self-help, spiritual, and psychological books are great for improving our thoughts. Watching inspiration films and documentaries are also great for the mind. Then there is music. This can do wonders. A nice peaceful composition can relax the mind and body. And then there is my personal favorite, connecting with nature. Take a walk through a botanical garden and really take in the beauty. You will be glad you did. Nature is a wonderful teacher. She has a lot of love and wisdom to share with you. Talk with her. Listen to her stories. They are beautiful.

Reciting positive affirmations are also very beneficial to changing negative beliefs. It is very important that the affirmations are realistic. If not, your mind will reject them. What I find very effective is that affirmations are more effective when the mind is relaxed. There are many ways to bring about relaxation. Use your imagination.

Just to get you started, I will share some examples: Meditation or breathing exercises are wonderful for relaxing the mind. Taking a nice bath with soothing essential oils also does wonders. Getting a massage is also great for relaxing the mind. It also relaxes your body too! Drinking a nice herbal tea like chamomile is also very soothing. Petting your pets is also therapeutic. It helps to reduce stress. And then we have nature. Find a nice place to sit and just take in the beauty.

By making sure that you are fully relaxed, will ensure that your affirmation is much more effective. You see, when you are relaxed, the Ego steps aside. That is why it is a great time to reprogram your mind when you are relaxed. On the other hand, if you are stressed, your affirmations are not going to be very effective.

Warning: Don’t do affirmations when you are stressed!


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San Diego Zoo | Source

Seeing the Beauty

Each day, think of something that you like about yourself and repeat it to yourself throughout the day (it is important to really feel the emotions). Also apply this to others. Instead of focusing on their flaws, find something positive you like about them. Do the same with nature. What do you see in the tree or flower that you like? What do you see in your pets that you like? Why do this, you ask?

You do this, because you want to feel better.

When you recognize the beauty in the flower, you are recognizing the beauty in you. The words Namaste and Aloha, when said to another, mean that you recognize the divine in the other.

“The Divine in me acknowledges the Divine in you.”

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mcleodgi 4 years ago

You hit the head on the nail. Our beliefs can truly either shape us or be deterimental to us. Did you know that we also choose every one of our thoughts half a second before they actually come to the surface and then go out of our minds? This also another reason that a lot of people in the negative states of mind put themselves there. Because they're also stuck in the notion that their thoughts choose them.

I think you also had a good point about affirmations. Metaphysics generally teaches that you can use them at anytime but I think you're right in saying that they're best used when you're not in a negative state of mind. I found this out for myself when I was still struggling with clinical depression. Though I do want to ask you if you've heard of denials? Not as in pretending something is not present when it is. This kind of denial is the coin flip of affirmations and simply disempowers negative thoughts. Okay, for example, let's say that you just had a thought about not deserving to be loved (which everyone does). A denial you might want to use in this case might be something along the line of "I give no power to any thoughts which deny my right to give and receive love". Another thing you could do is say or think "cancel, clear, delete" after just having had a negative thought (though I'd personally recommend starting out with this with more minor thoughts). When you're in a negative state of mind, denials generally tend to feel more comfortable than affirmations.

I struggled with clinical depression for almost six years but was able to lift myself the rest of the way out of it when I discovered metaphysics (particularly after I had just purchased by first book by Dr. Doreen Virtue back in the summer '09- when my feelings of jealousy, shame and guilt were pretty much at their worst)and Unity Church. My outlook on life has improved for the better ever since and there is no way that I am ever going back. I started to once and then was warned when I caught the 5 1/2 flu virus in December '11. So pretty much, not only do I not want to go back to the way I was but I can't even afford to.

Now, I'm trying to look forward to my life from here on out as best as I can with openness to whatever comes my way and allowing myself to learn from it and get stronger.

It does make me sad that so many are so resistant to this. But the best we can do is be the best examples for them that we can be.:)


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jpcmc 4 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

The title reminds of of the book Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson.


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buckleupdorothy 4 years ago from Istanbul, Turkey

Great hub - an excellent reminder to anyone who's caught in a rut. Voted up and Shared!


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Terry27 4 years ago from The Place Called Love Author

mcleodgi, thank you for insightful comment. I am glad to hear that were able to get out of your depression. For many it is life long battle.

I did not know that we choose our thoughts a half a second before they actually happen. Perhaps it is the beliefs and expectations that the individual carries about themselves. Their "mind radio" is tuned into the negativity station; they will broadcast what they believe about themselves.

I like what you shared about using "denials" to break up negative thinking. In regards to saying "cancel, cancel, delete," Dr Paul Master, the founder of the University of Metaphysics also uses something similiar to that. I believe these negative beliefs that we carry are like an onion in that they are many layers thick. Many and many years of negative programming cannot be erased with a couple of affirmations. It takes serious work. Hypnotherapy can be an effective tool to get to the heart of the matter. One session is equal to ten psychotherapy sessions. Of course there are other techniques to use. I think the individual should pick one they resonate with. And most importantly, the person has to want to change.

I think it is wonderful that you discovered metaphysics. I am currently working on a doctorate in metaphysics from the University of Metaphysics,as well as a degree in Mind-Body Transformation Psychology at the Southwest Institute of Healing Arts. I have been studying metaphysics/spirituality since the mid 90s. My friend and I also put together a spiritual/metahphysical website called "Wisdom of the Heart and Soul." Here is the link:

http://www.wisdomoftheheartandsoul.org/

I am also a fan of Doreen Virtue. I have her book "Angel Numbers 101, as well as her "Magical Mermaids and Dolphins" oracle cards.

That is wonderful that you go to the Unity Church. Personally I haven't gone to one, but I know there philosophy is based on metaphysical principles of New Thought. And speaking of New Thought, Jon Miller is putting a film together called "What Is New Thought?" Here is a link to the movie facebook page:

http://www.facebook.com/#!/NewThoughtMovie

I am really glad you stopped by mcleodgi. Continue on your path. Those that are resistant will come around when the time is right for them. You are right, the best thing we can do is to be the shining light. :)


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Terry27 4 years ago from The Place Called Love Author

Very interesting jpcmc. Thanks for stopping by. :)


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Terry27 4 years ago from The Place Called Love Author

buckleupdorothy, thanks for the nice comment. I greatly appreciate you voting this hub up and sharing it. Every kind act is making the world better. Thanks. :)

P.S. Cool name by the way.


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anusujith 4 years ago from Nilambur, Kerala, India

interesting...


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Terry27 4 years ago from The Place Called Love Author

Thank you anusujith.

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