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A definition....

Christian marriage is the marriage of a man and a woman in which each lives for the other and both live for God.

That there are other couples who love each other, and can be devoted to each other as the substance of that love, is true.

But marriage is an acknowledgement and vow before God and conducted by one with God-given authority, before witnesses that is more than just a uniting by man's law, but a sealing by God's law of a man and a woman.

As such it contrasts to a civil marriage which grants only certain rights and privileges in keeping with the laws of the jurisdiction in which it is certified, and any wider jurisdictions in which it is recognized.

In America, both types of marriages are still performed, but with those differences, including some ecclesiastical marriages performed by clergy licensed by their jurisdictions to perform such marriages.

A Christian marriage has as its ideal goal the creation of a family of a father, a mother, and a child or children, in keeping with holy scriptures which have long defined such marriages.

The question may be raised: "What if two dedicated Christians, again a man and a woman, marry in a civil ceremony and "live for each other, and both live for God"?

Even a civil ceremony requires witnesses, and usually requires some statement of promises that the man and the woman make to each other. That their marriage was not performed by someone with God-given authority to seal the man to the woman and the woman to the man, is certainly a major difference in such a legal, civil ceremony, no matter how devout the intentions of the couple marrying.

There remain the questions of how different Christian religious institutions regard marriage as pertains to the dogma of their particular faith, and each will perhaps interpret holy scripture to bolster their existing positions.

That a devout Christian couple would pray about what is such an important decision in their lives goes without saying. Their choice of venue and authority for their wedding will likely be of almost equal importance to them as Christians.


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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

The Summary doesn't really say it all; so I am glad you came here to actually read this Hub. Thanks.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean

Good so far. Would be nice if you plan to say more. Voted Interesting!


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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

I think the "saying more" will come in response to comments and questions. If there are none, then this will suffice. You can say more, and if you do you will start the discussion, okay?


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tirelesstraveler 2 years ago from California

A little confused about the last paragraph.


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MizBejabbers 2 years ago

The whole idea behind marriage was to protect the family unit, which in turn protects inheritance rights since the husband was the property owner and his women and children were his property. Thus the woman must be pure and stay true to the husband and have only his children, while the husband could have other wives, concubines, and one-night stands. This was a well-documented fact even among Jews and Christians. In matriarchal societies, it didn’t matter because property and inheritance went through the female line, and a mother who gave birth knew the child was hers. With the equalization of the genders and the right to leave our property to whomever we wish, this is starting to go by the wayside. However, strict religious dogma still holds to the old ways.

Our former Baptist preacher-Governor Mike Huckabee got a law passed creating a “Covenant Marriage” in our state which would require more premarital counseling, more counseling during marriage if the marriage became rocky, and a much longer waiting period for a divorce if the marriage actually broke up. The question was brought up, “Aren’t all marriages covenants between the spouses?”

Personally I would never form a Christian covenant marriage because taking 8 months to divorce an abusive husband who considered me his property and attacked me twice during those 8 months were a bitter lesson for me.

My previously divorced aunt married a Catholic man, his first marriage, and his priest refused to marry them. They were married in a civil ceremony, and later my new uncle said that he felt just as married as he would have had the church conducted the ceremony. They were married til death did them part 60 years later, and very happily, I might add.

I say that if a big expensive church wedding makes you feel better, go for it, but under the law you have just as much protection from a civil ceremony. Mr. B and I went to our favorite judge for our wedding 30 years ago.


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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

tirelesstraveler - The last paragraph in this Hub is my feeling that who one marries, where one marries, and under what authority (civil, church, synagogue, mosque, etc.) one marries, are serious questions to be dealt with seriously. While the Hub deals directly with such choices for Christian couples, I personally feel they apply equally to couples of other faiths, though I don't consider myself qualified to speak directly to them.


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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

MizBejabbers - Good points for this ongoing discussion. The family unit is so important to the future of any society, not alone for property rights and inheritances that can occur; more so for the moral fabric, standards, values and traditions of a society. Do you feel we are slipping in those areas, and could the casual nature some assign to marriage, sex, and fidelity today be an evidence of that?


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MizBejabbers 2 years ago

I do feel like the family unit is vital to today’s society. However, societies in the past have not had the same moral values of the Judeo-Christian society, and some of them have lasted longer than ours appears to be lasting. (Remember, even Paul taught against marriage and the family unit and wanted all life devoted to God.) The Christian Bible predicts the downfall of the Judeo-Christian society and says that there will be a one-world government. Interpretations of this seem to be that this is a triumph of evil. However, I have read some New Age predictions based on Gnostic Gospels and some of the unaccepted books, unaccepted by the dogmatic, controlling, pro-status quo church, that the head of the one-world government will be the Christ not the anti-Christ. That is logical to me because how is Christ expected to reign over thousands of minor governmental societies all over the earth, all pulling against each other? These theories went on to say that the world would have to experience a breakdown in our present-day society to usher in the new society and prepare for the Christ because the world can’t experience the old and the new at the same time. A choice will have to be made. In other words, to make an omelet, one has to break some eggs. Personally, I see no evil here, just fears of letting go of the present.


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someonewhoknows 2 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

Sometimes tradition is intended to keep money in the family rather than some spiritual reason.


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BlossomSB 2 years ago from Victoria, Australia

For me, if you are a Christian then a marriage blessed by God in a church is the only way to go. A good and interesting topic for a hub.


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tirelesstraveler 2 years ago from California

Thanks for clearing that up. After attending numerous weddings, upward of 30 , the commitment to the marriage is more important than who, when or where. Know several couples who had arranged marriages ,dictated by visa restraints ,with solid marriages. Know many who spent years planning who , when , and where only to end up divorced. Exceptions frequently determine success in a marriage. A good marriage can teach children how to get along with men and women.


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someonewhoknows 2 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

The "MOONIES" from the UNIFICATION CHURCH claim to be christian and yet they decide who should get married to whom and why. They believe the world can only get along when race and ethnicity cease to become the focus of adversity. That may very well be the case. However, the people involved must do this out of their love of each other rather than through force by whatever form that force may take. Even what appears at first to be benevolent.

http://www.bing.com/search?q=moonies%20cult%20info...


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tirelesstraveler 2 years ago from California

Expectations not exceptions


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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

tirelesstraveler -I take it that that change ("Expectations not exceptions) is intended to correct the first word in the next-to-the-last sentence of your previous comment. It sure had me puzzled for awhile!

False expectations certainly do.


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Perspycacious 5 weeks ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

How the topic has changed in just two years! But I stand by this treatment of the topic "Christian Marriage Is . . ." Given that God is unchanging (to a Christian) and thus His commandments are also unchanging, Christian marriages must be unchanging as well. Civil governments and laws change. They are created by men and women, and will continue to change while men and women exist in mortality.

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