How to Give the Gift of God

The Opposition to God

There is an interesting phenomenon that I have noticed on the internet between the professed Christians and those who are in opposition to them.

They sometimes refer to themselves as atheists. Other times they refuse to classify themselves. In either case they choose to express their reasons why they think Christianity is a bad idea as a strong heartfelt opinion from their point of view. Many times they proceed to mock Christians for their ideals and beliefs in a God that according to them is invisible and untouchable. They also are quick to point out all the failures and shortcomings of a faith based society that according to them has no logical or scientific explanation to many events in its history. For some reason they are compelled to express their opinions at every chance they can in all the Christianity Forums on HubPages, and I would venture to guess on other sites as well.

The people making those comments are as firmly rooted in their beliefs as many Christians are in what they believe. They repeatedly point out all of their perceived, and unfortunately I must admit, some very real faults that Christians display without highlighting any positive characteristic traits. Often times their expressions of discontent with Christianity are what drives them to believe what they do. Some Christians will reinforce their beliefs with ill mannered over zealous behavior that drives them away rather than draw them in.

Let the Holy Spirit do the work

There is a law of physics that goes something like this…”For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.”

The harder we try to push Christianity on people the harder they push back. When was the last time you tried to force someone to receive a gift you were trying to give them (i.e.…birthday, Christmas, etc.)?

Why is it then that Christians continually try to force the “gift” of God on people who don’t want it?

Psychologically it’s because somehow they are trying to do the work of the Holy Spirit. It will make them feel better if somehow they can get this person to accept Jesus Christ as their personal savior. So, they make it their mission to convince them that they are in need of a savior, and that they have the solution. If the person rejects the gift of salvation, they push even harder to convince them that they need to be saved. The harder they push, the more the individual pushes back.

God is all About Choice!

Everything about God is a choice.  We can choose to accept the Gift and follow Him, or choose not to.  Our responsibility as Christians is to plant the seed, not to make it grow.  Only God can do that.

To engage in discussions in an attempt to convert the individuals who so adamantly oppose Christianity, is adding fuel to an argument that will never be won.  To resort to name calling and insults does not reflect the attitude of love and peace that every Christian should represent.  The duty of Christians is not to win over the opposition with laws and commandments but rather to mirror the image of Christ in service to mankind.  Instead of spending so much time trying to convince others of what they should or should not believe or do, we should be spending our time practicing what we preach. 

Three tips for sharing Christianity without animosity

Remember, it is not us who will decide their ultimate fate, it is God. Whether they choose to believe in God or not will ultimately only affect them in the end. If we offer them a path to salvation and they choose to reject it, then the burden of responsibility rests upon their shoulders, not ours.

The old cliché : “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink” applies here.

Another cliché is applicable here as well and it goes something like this: “A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.”

All the logic, reasoning, and emotional conviction will not convince these individuals to change their point of view. They believe in their perspective as strongly as we as Christians believe in ours.

If you find yourself in a position where you are engaged in a discussion with an individual who is strongly entrenched in opposition to any Christian theology then here is what I would suggest.

First and foremost, maintain a calm, polite and relaxed demeanor to avoid threatening the other persons’ integrity.

Second, ask questions that will lead them to draw their own conclusions that may persuade them to your point of view.

Thirdly, if the conversation seems to be perpetuating into eternity without change, then agree to disagree and allow them to bare the responsibilities of their beliefs.

Our mission as Christians

Think of our mission as Christians as planting a large corn field, we can plant the seeds but it is up to God to make them grow. We have been called by Jesus to spread the Gospel message, the plan of salvation through a belief in Him as our Savior. We can present the massage, but we can't make people accept it and believe it. It's personal, and they have to decide for themselves whether it's real or not.

The most effective means for us to convince people of the gospel is to live it every day in our lives. I'm not talking about just going to church, I'm talking about real life change.

The Gift of God is not given as a reward for anything we have done, but once you receive it in your heart, change will begin from the inside out. Some of the things you use to take pleasure in will now become distasteful. The suffering of others will begin to way heavier on you heart where it never affected you before. As the conversion becomes more evident in your life others will see a reflection of Jesus in you. It is this genuine conversion of who you are that will persuade people to change more than any argument or words will ever do,

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Unchained Grace 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

I can tell you honestly that from the attitudes and behavior of many alleged Christians, it is no surprise that their advances are unwelcome. It just comes down to "Be the Message." Climbing down someone's throat is just gonna make 'em puke. If you really are what you say you are, those around you will strive to be like you. "Don't talk about it. Be about it."

The continued arguments in the forums and all the rest is a joke. It is a debate which cannot be won and the quick downward slide with the attacks and attitudes is the manifestation of the obvious frustration when those on either side see things sliding down the razorblade of life.

With the time it takes to babble onward from either side, why not zip the lip, flip the script and do something positive?

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rocketjsqu 6 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author

Unchained Grace,

Amen to that. Anytime a legitimate discussion has spiraled into an argument, then the Enemy has won. In many of the discussions I have witnessed in the forums, one person's specific intent is to ensnare another with their comments so that they can use those comments to prove their point and attack the core values of Christianity.

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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

rocketjsqu, I am so glad to read what is also my own thoughts. Our Lord did not force anyone to accept Him so why are we?

There are many "seeker of truth" who are open to listening because they have not committed to any faith. This is our opportunity to plant the seed by word and conduct.

Unchained Grace comments is right on. I love the way he put it: why not zip the lip, flip the script and do something positive?

AMEN to this hub message dear brother, AMEN!

Forever His,

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rocketjsqu 6 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thank you for your kind words. I must agree that Unchained Grace certainly did coin a catchy the lip, flip the script and do something positive! It takes two to have an argument. If we can rise above the anti-Christian sentiments by not responding, as Jesus did in many examples in the Bible, then those who like to argue will have no one left to debate.

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aguasilver 6 years ago from Malaga, Spain

Good hub, good advice.

Don't feed the trolls!

I'm mostly out of the forums for most of the reasons you stated and besides, it brought out the worse in me, and I'm still battling the flesh on occasion!

Anyhow, I came here to write, not wrangle with Mark!


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AEvans 6 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

I try to avoid and just focus on taken care of me , this was a hub with many positive points and God should be a choice not something that any of us who are Christiams should be pushing on others or using for gain. :)

sweetdominique 6 years ago

Hello from an atheist who is not a stereotypic nay-sayer. I noticed that the Christian vs Atheist "debates" here on Hubpages and elsewhere are often conducted on very uncivilized level. You maybe right, some atheists may appear to be or even be the vicious nay-sayers, but just as the Christians do not wish to be stereotyped, neither do wish the atheists. The problem in the debate is the narrow use of stereotypes and fixation on a particular set of beliefs. Neither side has even tried to objectively look at what other has to say.

I live in Europe where we had Enlightenment. It is really very long ago that such debates took place. We learned to coexist and spare ourselves the immature, prepubescent fights. Mine is not bigger than yours...

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rocketjsqu 6 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author

Hi Aquasilver,

Thanks for your comments. I know how you feel. There are certain topics or comments that just make my blood boil. I have to consciously resist the temptation to lash out against them. However, after much careful thought and prayer, if I can't see a way to glorify God then I must keep my comments to myself.


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rocketjsqu 6 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author

Hello AEvans,

Thank you for vising my Hub. It is important that we examine our own behavior first. However, there are many Christians who in their zeal to share the Gospel message take the approach of criticizing peoples faults rather than helping them to heal their weaknesses. A true Christian is a servant not a judge.


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rocketjsqu 6 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author

Hi sweetdominque,

Thank you for visiting my Hub. I apologize for the use of the word stereotyped. It was used as a figure of speech. I have since removed it from my Hub. In retrospect I should have used a different word. Also, I was referring specifically to those individuals who visit the Christianity forums and did not mean for the phrase to be applied to all atheists.

I agree that both sides should listen objectively to what the other has to say.


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mjane24 6 years ago from panabo city

nice hub..

Ivan 6 years ago

I feel sorry for you people wasting your time on something you can prove.

Go Atheists :3

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rocketjsqu 6 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thank you for your comment.


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rocketjsqu 6 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thank you for your sympathy. Although I am not sure why you would feel that way. And as far as proving anything, I believe the burden of proof lies in the hands of the unbeliever. I see proof of God everywhere I look.


josus 6 years ago

ya everything on earth and in space is proof that there is a creator. just some people just want god to pop out of the sky and yell surprize!

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rocketjsqu 6 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


The interesting thing about faith is the more you believe the more you can see. The non-believers don't see God because they refuse to acknowledge that He exists.


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Kristeen 6 years ago from Michigan

rocketjsqu, You hit the nail on the head so to speak with this hub. I have known this truth about spreading the gospel since a child, but it is sometimes difficult to put it into practice. Only the Holy Spirit can grow faith in the hearts of people. My problem is that I want so badly for others to experience the love of God and the joy of faith. It is difficult for me to understand why anyone would reject it when only good can come from it.

The hubpages is a blessing because we can speak the truth and reach out to others and many people will see it. That opens the door for the Holy Spirit to do His work. So I guess we better just keep telling the story.

Blessings to you.

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rocketjsqu 6 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Pardon me for quoting you with "you hit the nail on the head so to speak..." when you said "So I guess we better just keep telling the story." The absolute key for spreading the gospel is to just keep telling the story about what a relationship with Jesus has done for you in YOUR life. Our personal testimony is the most powerful story we can share about how He has made a difference in our lives. There is no "Bible thumping" or proving who is right or wrong just a simple "This is what it means to me and here is how it has affected my life." Plain and simple so everyone can understand.


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Kristeen 6 years ago from Michigan

You're right. We don't need to prove who's right because God's word is always right. We just need to proclaim it and let Him do the rest. Thanks for refreshing my memory on this wonderful insight

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vector7 5 years ago

God bless you. May your hub continue to do the will of God.

Thank you.


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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thanks for visiting and reading my Hub. May God bless you as well.


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Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

The Atheist - a fool has said in his heart there is no God. The Christian is right due to the fact that we believe in a God that created human beings and the earth. (vote up)

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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thank you for your comments. The truth will ultimately reveal itself in the end. Thank God we have been given the opportunity to choose. As we choose, so our lives will be fulfilled.


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Jesus was a hippy 5 years ago from United Kingdom

I am amazed at the amount of delusional people on this website. Christian vs atheist? Dont you mean christian vs anyone who isnt christian? you know, like muslims, hindu's, pagans, mormons and so on and so on?

Many of you call eachother crazy. I find that hilariously ironic.

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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author

I agree, many people on this website are delusional. However, that term is applied in all directions to the many different perspectives that are expressed on this site.

The purpose of my title was not to challenge the atheists or anyone else for that matter, but rather to call all Christians to behave in a manner that will give glory to the God they claim to represent.

A zealous, arrogant statement with insults and demeaning comments is rarely beneficial to a discussion and should be avoided.

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aka-dj 5 years ago from Australia

You are right.

I thought I would be a witness, but ended up in arguments. I too, have found it hard to let go of the forums, but I have no more desire to argue. No one is going to be saved by the intellectual arguments, no matter how good and right they are. It always was, and always will be a matter of the heart.

One thing that it has done for me, is to get a stronger faith in what I believe and why. Having to defend my faith sure caused me to reflect. I think I grew stronger as a result.

Anyhow, I am moving on.

Should have read your hub a year ago. :)

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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thanks for the comment. Your right, explaining your faith is a great boost to improve your understanding. I don't think the forums are a complete waste of time, because there are a lot of people who visit and read without leaving comments.

The important think to remember is to maintain your composure and not allow the ridicule and sarcasm to influence your replies and comments.

Answer questions with sincerity and always be polite.


silly me 5 years ago

Great Hub! I agree with you.

We as Christians should live lives that draw people to Christ. Sometimes we get so caught up trying to convince somebody to put their faith in Christ that at the same time we're acting nothing like Christ.

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James A Watkins 5 years ago from Chicago

You delivered an important message and you delivered it with eloquence. Well done!

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CMerritt 5 years ago from Pendleton, Indiana

Extremly well said, and I agree 100% with you. I have also learned that actions are louder than words.

Great Hub!!

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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thanks for your support. When I first came to Hubpages I really had to reign in my comments to maintain my composure. My adrenalin would be so worked up I would have to re-write them several times before posting. Fortunately we can withdraw the printed word before it's ever spoken.

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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thanks for your comment. I was reading your hub and see you have been challenged to support your belief. One thing I have gained from the relentless questions is through the research I do to answer them I receive a better understanding for myself.

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Whidbeywriter 5 years ago from Oak Harbor on Whidbey Island, Washington

Bravo and voted up. You are so right as to what we as Christians need to do, walk the walk and plant the seed and let God do the rest. Very well said.....blessings to you! I am now a follower:)

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Richard83 5 years ago from West Virginia

Your such a great writer and you make a great point. I have heard so many stories such as God chooses us vs. us choosing God. I believe that God wants us to find him on our own terms and beliefs. I believe it defines faith. I can't understand why someone would think like that and he is a firm believer in God. Just curious of what you thought rocket. Great read!

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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thanks for your comment. Absolutely, we will persuade more people to be followers of Christ by our actions than we ever will by our words.


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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thanks for the comment. Yes, I believe God wants us to find Him "on our own terms..." (i.e. the time and place when we are ready to listen to His message.)

I'm not sure I agree with the "...and beliefs..." part of your statement. There are many people who are proclaiming to be sharing the "word of God" that are greatly mistaken in their message. We, as individuals, need to be able to glean the truth from all the fiction. Personal prayer and study will help us to make the right choices.

Yes, God does choose certain individuals to perform a certain work such as many of the prophets discussed in the Bible. However, He has also given us free will to chose to follow or reject Him. Ultimately, the outcome of our lives is determined by our choices. Whether we chose to follow Him or not is a choice that only we can make.

God's desire is that no person is lost. In that sense He has chosen us. In order to receive His reward, we must reciprocate and chose to follow Him. That's a choice that WE must make everyday!

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lone77star 5 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Wonderful message. Glad I finally found this hub. Keep up the good message!

I particularly liked, "Our responsibility as Christians is to plant the seed, not to make it grow."

I think part of the problem is that some of us Christians have not yet fully given up ego. We feel wronged if someone doesn't agree. It's a hard, but evil, habit to give up.

Even Jesus addressed this point very clearly saying to his disciples that if someone does not receive the message heartily, then to dust yourself off and go to the next.

You can't hover over one kernel of corn and expect the rest of the field to be planted.

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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thank you for your comments. No question about it, ego can be a serious problem for many Christians. Combine ego with a little salt from the devil and suddenly you have a full fledge tug-of-war going on.


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wandererh 5 years ago from Singapore

I don't go to the religion forum anymore - what goes on there is a disgrace to the human race, and to think that some of those responsible are god fearing people. :(

I would like to congratulate you on a sane voice among all the madness. It's really a refreshing change.

By the way, I have got a hub about something similar. It'll be nice of you to visit and tell me what you think if you have time:

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Charity Squid 5 years ago

Well said in your hub! The forum can get pretty heated up on believing or not believing, and I don't think christians should stoop to their level of bashing one another. As a christian, I also don't like it when other christians fight against each other on different opinions of doctrines. It's so unloving.

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rocketjsqu 5 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author

Charity Squid,

Thanks for your comment. I believe any discussions with other Christians, and or with non-Christians should be done in a civilized non threatening manner. It's ok to disagree, but it should always be done with respect to the other person. As you said, even it the other person begins bashing and name calling, we should maintain our level of integrity by respecting the other persons opinion and agreeing to disagree.


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slcockerham 4 years ago from Tallahassee, Florida

Thanks for your insight into this continuing battle. I hadn't been to the forums until today, but I can only imagine. It's definitely in vogue to attack Jesus and those who choose to follow him. Occassionally, God will put someone on my mind to pray for that is definitely not seeking God. Other than prayer, we can't convince anyone until the father draws them.

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rocketjsqu 4 years ago from Gainesville, NY USA Author


Thanks for visiting and your comment. The Hubpages forums can be very challenging. There are several people who will join discussions with the intent to discredit Christianity or for that matter any religious belief. There are also fellow Christians who visit the forums with the intent to persuade non-believers through argument and Bible facts. Neither group is very successful at changing anyone's mind. As you say, God will put someone on our minds to pray for, and that may be all we can do until that person is ready to receive God's invitation.


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