Giving Fear Power Over Your Life

Fear
Fear

Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real

For me, this has been a life long struggle. It seems for as long as I can remember I've always lived in fear. I am 37 now and honestly just now starting to understand how destructive fear has been in my life minus a few years here and there. I wish I could say I've conquered it and all is peachy and life is grand but the truth is I'm in one of those valleys yet, again and I figure writing about it will help to refresh things in my mind... sometimes I forget how awesome it is to live without the weight of fear after I have let it creep back into my life.

The answer is very simple but not easy. For me it is staying in touch with God who gives me that Good Orderly Direction that I need in order to take care of business in order to stay out of fear. If I'm not keeping up that connection then I'm wandering off doing my own thing which 9 times of 10 isn't the best thing for me or anyone else around me for that matter. A lot of the crisis that has happened in my life is self imposed. Ughhh.. I hate to admit that! Acting on bad decisions will put me out there in the quicksand.. seemingly without any way out. It's a scary place to be and though I know God's there waiting to give me a hand up and out I still seem "stuck" and unable to do anything about it. Fear paralyzes me.

To me living in faith is like jumping over a cliff. Sometimes situations confront me that bring a lot of fear. I either run or choose to face it. Many times I know in my heart the right thing to do but it's really hard sometimes. Regardless of the fear, I know God wants me to do it anyway whether or not I want to. So here's where faith comes in.. time to jump off that cliff... God says he's got me but what if??

Truth is every time I've trusted God and took that leap, the outcome has always brought inner peace and contentment. That quote "there's nothing to fear but fear itself" by Franklin D. Roosevelt is so true.. The outcome is never as horrible as I think it's going to be. I tend to think of the worse case scenario in any situation and lock in on that and make myself believe that is what will happen and in reality it just doesn't usually happen. What about those situations where the worst case scenario truly is possible or probable? I guess those are the times when I have to trust that God's gonna make it ok no matter what the outcome. At least I would feel better for doing the right thing.

The reward for acting in spite of my fear is awesome. It's a feeling of contentment and peace about a situation where fear no longer has any part. I wish I could have this freedom from fear in every situation for the rest of my life but unfortunately, fear is just going to keep on coming whether I want it to or not. I believe living under the oppression of fear destroys peoples lives and causes such chaos and in my case has hindered me from becoming the person that God truly wants me to be.

Can anyone relate?

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Jeff Cavallaro 6 years ago from Outside the Box

I appreciate your effort. Sometimes when our direction or perception of facts gets a bit clouded, just writing or communicating our feeling tends to help. However, I'm concerned that when fearful, as a society, we tend to always seek refuge by, what ultimately is an even greater unknown, and that is turning to God.

I'm amazed that when we seek clarity, we turn to an unknown, unproven and controversial direction. Why not look within our own selves for the answer? Is it that we lack the confidence and direction to find our own way?

Maybe it's what some call "gap thinking." We try to fill in the gaps of our own limited understanding with God and just call it done. If we don't understand, turn to God and then it all makes sense. I've never understood that. I've never met God and don't know of anyone else who ever has either. I've also never witnessed any action that has been attributed to God that couldn't be explained by the natural order of things we do understand.

Nice article and I hope you find strength. I guess wherever you find it, go with it.


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Jamie Brock 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hi Jeff,

Thank you for the comment and I truly understand what you are saying. Some people think that God is an idea that we've made up to help with the hard times..because we don't know what else to do.

God to me is a power I can't possibly understand and I gave up trying a long time ago but I know this power is real because I had a personal, life changing experience involving this power- I used to doubt before that but no more.

I can say I'm not a mental case, I was completely sober when this happened and it occurred 19 years ago and I remember it crystal clear like it was yesterday. I just know it was real and science can't explain it and even if It could explain it, I don't really care because I know what I experienced.

Anyway, to each their own and best wishes to you. Thank you for reading my hub!


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cottontail 6 years ago from Los Angeles, California

Jamie, have you ever heard of Melody Beattie? She's an author I just love. She's had a lot of hardship in her life and she really sets a great example for approaching life as it comes head on and dealing with the sort of things you're talking about. I think you'd really like her. A lot of times we associate fear with loss and I think you should check out her book The Grief Club. I think I mentioned it in one of my hubs. Anyhow for some reason I just really think you'd connect to her :)


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Jamie Brock 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you cottontail, I have heard of Melody Beattie....and I think I've even read some of her books. Doesn't she have books over co-dependency (HUGE problem in the past for me) as well? I definitely will get that book.. thank you for recommending it. Thank u for taking the time to comment..


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leslie4130 6 years ago from TX

Jamie,

I love that you wrote about this. God so wants us to hold on tight to Him. He tells us in his word that He didn't give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. re: what jeff said above "I've never met God and don't know of anyone else who ever has either" Well, I Have met God. And He has brought me out of the muck and the mire, and there is no other way except through Him and His son that I am who I am today other then by His grace and mercy. It says in his word if you seek him with all your heart, you WILL find him, and that we walk by faith not by site. This is a great hub, thank you for sharing Jamie!


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Jamie Brock 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks Les.. definitely agree. I think alot of it is seeking with a truly open mind, you know? I like this quote that is found in a really great book I know:

'There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance—that principle is contempt prior to investigation.'" - Herbert Spencer-

Thanks for the comment!!


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matterofthought 6 years ago

WOW Jamie, that was a really well written hub. I can relate and agree 100%. Thank you for writing it. You'll defenitly be in my prayers. God bless you Jamie.


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Jamie Brock 6 years ago from Texas Author

You are welcome matterofthought!


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prairieprincess 5 years ago from Canada

Thank you for writing this and being so honest, Jamie. I understand, because I struggle with this, myself, and agree that trusting God is the very best thing you and I can do. Like you, when I trust Him, great things happen.

Take care and all the best in the holidays!


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Jamie Brock 5 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you prairie.. Happy Holidays to you and your family!!


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Enlydia Listener 5 years ago from trailer in the country

Hi Jamie, I understand what you are saying about living with fear...since I have also lived with fear most of my life...and I also understand how even as a Christian you can fall from faith...and be living in fear. You mentioned your childhood. I think there is a connection there. I also had some issues with my childhood...I have just recently been delving into my past and discovered a lot of things about myself...I wrote an article about emotional child abuse..I would love you to read it...and compare notes.


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Jamie Brock 5 years ago from Texas Author

Enlydia Listener, thank you for reading and for commenting. It is nice to hear from others who can relate to living so much of their lives feeling like this. I will be sure to go and read your hub ASAP.


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heavenbound5511 4 years ago from Under the shadow of the Almighty God!

Hi Jamie!

God's love cast out fear- not that we aren't tempted to get into fear or worry.

If we study the love of God this will weaken fears grip and break it's hold on us.

This too is what gave Jesus disciple's the courage to overcome fear- because when Jesus rose from the dead and appeared to them they knew right than they had no reason to fear anyone or anything. That even death couldn't separate them from the love of God!

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.2 Timothy 1:7

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.John 14:27

For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, "Abba, Father."Romans 8:15

Thanks for sharing and I hope all is well! :)


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Jamie Brock 4 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you heavenbound, as as usual everything you write regarding our Father rings so true for me and it's always something I need to hear. Thank you so much for reading and for commenting me with these comforting words. We are having a bit of stress right now but I know we will get through it and what you shared in your comment was very encouraging. Anyway, I hope all is going well with you too Heavenbound. It's so nice to see you again :)


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Jamie Brock 4 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you, Golden Field.. I have never really thought of it that way. Thank you for sharing a different perspective... I will try to remember that :) I will be happy to come over and have a look at your hubs, as soon as get the chance. Thank you for your thought provoking comment!

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