Finding your Mate God's Way

 

            One issue that is common in these days is loneliness while waiting for that special someone.  Waiting is one of the toughest things in the world.  But we have to trust God for the special someone.  There are several things, several issues in our hearts that must be dealt with before God will deliver His promise to you.

 

            Pro 18:22  A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.  Pro 31:10  Who can find a capable wife? She is far more precious than jewels.  The answer is, you can through God.

 

            The desire to have a mate was placed in your heart for a reason.  Don’t feel like it’s a sin to have the desire to be near a person, to want to show love and affection towards a person.  Having a desire in your heart is a good thing.  God is faithful to give you all your desires. 

Psa 37:4  says, Take delight in the LORD, and He will give you your heart's desires.  Remember, that this isn’t a one way deal.  You first must take delight solely.  You must first be happy and content with the love that God has for you before you can truly feel the love of another person.

 

            The next issue to overcome is the two great commandments.  First we have to love God completely, fully, and absolutely before He will bring the one He has promised to you.  That is the greatest commandment.  The second commandment where people fall short in is loving your neighbor as you love yourself.  The key here is, “loving yourself”.  It is impossible to love your neighbor if you do not love yourself first.  If you can’t love your neighbor, how can you love your mate?  Ask yourself the questions, “Do you love God more than anything and are you happy living only by His love?” and, “Do you love yourself enough to take proper care of yourself?  Do you love yourself enough to be happy living with yourself alone?”  Remember that this is the kind of love that God wants us to have for our mates, after all it is written in Eph 5:28  In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 

 

            Mat 6:33  But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.  We must keep our focus first and foremost on God.  We cannot loose this focus.  God will provide all that you desire as long as you keep seeking Heaven first.  If we loose our focus on Heaven, all these things will only become distractions in our lives.  Even a Godly mate can become an idol quickly.

 

            The next issue God wants us to deal with in our lives is to perfect our love.  There is only one source of perfect love and that is God.  This love is channeled through Jesus Christ His son.  We should Love Him because He loved us first (1st John 4:19).  We are called to be like Christ, 1Co 11:1  Be imitators of me, as I also am of Christ.  This means that our love should be just like Christ’s, perfect.  1Jo 2:5-6  But whoever keeps His word, truly in him the love of God is perfected. This is how we know we are in Him: the one who says he remains in Him should walk just as He walked.  This also tells us that we should be like Christ in love.

 

 

            This is how we will know perfect love.  1Jo 4:18  There is no fear in love; instead, perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment. So the one who fears has not reached perfection in love.  God’s love casts away all fear, so should the love we feel from our mate.  When we show perfect love to our mate, their fear should be consumed. 

 

            1Jo 2:15-16  Do not love the world or the things that belong to the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in him. Because everything that belongs to the world the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride in one's lifestyle--is not from the Father, but is from the world.  Also in perfect love there should be no lust.  If there is even the slightest hint of lust in our love, we should examine ourselves.  Perhaps God wants us to get rid of the lust in our hearts before God will deliver our mate to us.

 

            1Co 13:4-8  Love is patient; love is kind. Love does not envy; is not boastful; is not conceited; does not act improperly; is not selfish; is not provoked; does not keep a record of wrongs; finds no joy in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

This is one of the best pictures of what true love is like.  If your love has envy or selfishness or any of these issues, perhaps God wants you to get rid of these things to perfect your love.  Once you make your love perfect, God will deliver your mate to you.

 

            Next we need to draw out a list for our perfect mate.  Be specific, what qualities do you seek in your mate.  Write this list down.  Pray even now for your future mate.  Know that your mate will be delivered to you by God at the appointed time.  Pro 19:14  A house and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a sensible wife is from the LORD.  Pray for confirmation on who your wife is to be.  This is what the servant of Abraham did for Isaac’s wife to be. 

 

 

            Gen 24:11-21  He made the camels kneel beside a well of water outside the town at evening. This was the time when the women went out to draw water.  "LORD, God of my master Abraham," he prayed, "grant me success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham.  I am standing here at the spring where the daughters of the men of the town are coming out to draw water.  Let the girl to whom I say, 'Please lower your water jug so that I may drink,' and who responds, 'Drink, and I'll water your camels also'--let her be the one You have appointed for Your servant Isaac. By this I will know that You have shown kindness to my master."  Before he had finished speaking, there was Rebekah--daughter of Bethuel son of Milcah, the wife of Abraham's brother Nahor--coming with a jug on her shoulder.  Now the girl was very beautiful, a young woman who had not known a man intimately. She went down to the spring, filled her jug, and came up.  Then the servant ran to meet her and said, "Please let me have a little water from your jug."  She replied, "Drink, my lord." She quickly lowered her jug to her hand and gave him a drink.  When she had finished giving him a drink, she said, "I'll also draw water for your camels until they have had enough to drink."  She quickly emptied her jug into the trough and hurried to the well again to draw water. She drew water for all his camels while the man silently watched her to see whether or not the LORD had made his journey a success.

 

            Notice how this servant prayed a specific prayer for a specific wife for Isaac.  This is the same way we should pray for our future mate.  God wants us to be specific, in fact so much so that it would be impossible for it to be fulfilled except for God’s hand working.  Make your list so specific and stick to it.  Pray over your list day and night.  Don’t settle for anything less.  God will make every one of those on your list fulfilled in your mate.

 

            Remember that your perfect mate should be a believer.  Do not get in any relationship with a non-believer.  It is warned in 2Co 6:14  Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship does righteousness have with lawlessness? And what partnership does light have with darkness?

 

            If you would, pray with me.  Father God, I pray that you would perfect me completely for my future mate.  I pray that You would make my love perfect.  Help me to love as Christ loves us.  I pray to you that I would be happy and complete in Your love.  Father God, You are the Great and Faithful one.  Help me to first seek Your Kingdom.  Then I know that You will deliver my mate to me.  I pray that my mate would have all the qualities that I seek.  I pray that You would perfect my mate to be as You are perfecting me.  I trust completely in You that when the time is right, You will deliver my perfect mate to me.  I pray for a sign of confirmation when the one You have made for me comes that You will give me a sign.  In the name of Jesus I pray… Amen

 

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Ivorwen 7 years ago from Hither and Yonder

Great information! I will be writing my own story, of finding my husband, God's way, soon. Keep praying, He has an answer.


Bukki 7 years ago

Gr8 staff, now I have an idea and understanding that when I pray for a mate, I should pray for God to perfect His love on me first and make me ready for that special person.


Tom 6 years ago

I believe we have choices in life, which I like to categorize as good, better, and best. Also, I agree we have free will and we get to exercise it as such. What I don't get is why if I am asking for the Lord to point me in the right direction and I am waiting to find the right one, I have not yet found her. Further, the ones I have found do nothing but lie. I'll call/text you, and don't. You are a great guy and I would enjoy spending time with you...never to hear from them again. And, the ones who are interested in me are grossly overweight and/or out of shape, smoke, etc. Where is a guy to go to find a good healthy (emotionally, spiritually, physically, mentally) thing/wife? Another country perhaps???


lucy 6 years ago

John,i feel your dilemma.I understand your sentiments.I can only ask you to wait some more and perhaphs pray some more.Iam still in the waiting room though no longer sure about God's answer to a womans desire regarding the same situation.


LM 6 years ago

TO THE GUY WHO MADE THE VERY RUDE AND UNCHRISTLIKE COMMENT ABOUT GIRLS BEING GROSSLY OVERWEIGHT. FIRST OFF IF YOU DID AS JESUS SAID HE SAID LOOK AT THE INSIDE HEART OF A PERSON. NO WHERE DID HE EVER TELL A MAN LOOK ONLY AT HOW SOMEONE LOOKS AS THAT GETS YOUR LUST GOING. GUESS WE CAN SEE WHAT YOU ARE ALL ABOUT. YOUR COMMENT WAS NOT ONLY DEMEANING I WOULD BET YOU ARE NOT ALL THAT EITHER. PROBABLY WHY YOU ARE STILL SINGLE. YOU DON'T EXCEPT PEOPLE FOR THEMSELVE. PERFECTION IS ONLY FOUND IN CHRIST. NOT IN HUMANS.


Pierre 6 years ago

I thought this information was tremendous! However its hard to say or see whether or not you are on the right path or anything when you feel like such a failure. Obtaining your hearts desires depends on your relationship with Christ-God, how can you be sure to be all that God expects you to be when you don't know how to be or have the strenghth to be even when you go to church and asked to live a certain way? you just don't have it in you to do what Christ expects of you and the things to stop doing, when they are simple to understand in themselves, you don't last long in not doing those things either. Idk


6 years ago

LM

I don't think Tom was demeaning whatsoever. If he is going to marry someone he just would like to marry someone he is physically attracted to as well as spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. Did you see he also wrote those things too!?

He was also saying that it seems that overweight girls, ones that smoke, etc are the ones that are attracted to him. He never said anything was wrong with them, just they aren't what he is looking for.

The article specifies to look for exactly what God has put in your heart and pray specifically. I believe Tom is doing that and nothing else.

If anything you are judging only parts of his words and putting them out of context. Also you are dictating to him what he should find in a woman to be right. You my friend are the one who is out of line.


Robbin 6 years ago

This site was very useful to me. I think it was just what I needed to read at the time. This world can be so hard sometimes. I find myself putting a wall up so I can't be hurt. I am also very impatient constantly questioning what if theres just no one that is right for me, what if I miss them? I just need to pray more. I only need to rely on God and its something that I struggle with daily. I am constantly praying about God sending the one for me. But in my heart I know that there are things I need to work on before he gets here.


Don 6 years ago

Tom said he perfers someone attractive to his eyes and I agree with him but we have to do it as the above article described "without Lust" I feel if we leave it completely up to God we will be attracted to the one he sends us.First we have to be honest with ourselves and God. we cannot just pay lip service and expect results.


LC 5 years ago

Reading this has given me a new perspective on love and when I will meet the one for me. Being lonely is a sad feeling but when you read things like this, you lose the sense of loneliness and you begin to understand what it entails to meet your mate. It's helped my mind and my heart ;)


Brenda 5 years ago

This information is great. I'm a widow for 8 years now. I prayed to St. Theresa of the Little Flower to help me find a mate in 1989. I married my husband in 1992. He and I shared 11 happy years together. I am a catholic and pray has always been in my life. However, I think I am ready now for a new relationship but it seems harder now. I have prayed to both St. Theresa and St. Jude during numerous novena's to them, but to no avail. I will not stop praying, I will only become more humble in my prays and will fast more. God bless Brenda..


MichelleG 5 years ago

I have been praying for a long time for my mate..I am single,attractive,educated,love my Jesus and still single. Men like me, I have dated,but still single..I have given up I don't know what else too do...


Hunadi 5 years ago

I am in the same boat, i have been praying for the past 2 years (that is from 1 March 2009) for a good man to come along and marry me, that is God's way and that means two years single and no sex, I have not met anyone yet but I am still begging Our Lord the Father to bring my future husband. I know the Lord will bring him to me when the time is perfect, he is the only one that knows the perfect time, its not easy but I have to go through that. The important thing is not to give up on praying.


Tia 5 years ago

I just have one question. Ive heard Jesse Duplanitis's daughter and a few other women talk about how they prayed to God concerning--specifically--the appearance of their future mate. For example, his daughter prayed her husband would have hazel eyes and dark hair. and well, God delivered her desire to her:) I have a strange specific list about how I want my future hubby to look (his height, his face) and I feel as if I am asking too much but there have been women before me who have asked for some interesting things and received them soo....is it ok for me to ask this?? plz respond positively:)


Thekwane 5 years ago

In a world on almost & billion people surely your match is there. We are made in the image of God therefore we cannot possibly be able to think up stuff without him having given us mindsets to think that specific way. Your desire will surely be delivered because He is the Omnipotent God.

I can't envision the future wife that I need. So mine is simple, I need a wife that God has chosen for me, who will make me happy and together we will build a solid family with a good foundation.


blkfellow 5 years ago

God has done it again & delivered my mate just like that. I have spent several years by myself waiting patiently and know my mate has been delivrered by God. raise Him. During my years alone, I grew in love for myseld and others, sought God daily and beleive noth my mate & I were being prepared for when we met each other.

Just to encourage you all out there. Don't stop believeing and keep on trusting Him !


Felix 5 years ago

I know God loves us and will give us our desire if He is pleased with us.Lets trust Him and know that His will is the best.We don't 'beg' God for anything coz He is more willing to give us our desire,we seek His will-He knows what we don't know.


JMA 5 years ago

From reading some of the post I see that I am not alone in my long wait for that special someone. I have prayed for over 12 years for a husband and well...nothing. I am 32 years old and have never been in a relationship that lasted longer than 3 months! I have always been the one to end every relationship I have been in, due to the fact that I didn't feel as though the men I dated were men that the Lord would want me to date. Sometimes I just feel helpless and hopeless in finding a husband. I feel as though my dreams are slipping right through my hands. I've always wanted children and with every passing year I feel that dream slipping away. At times it gets really hard to keep the faith especially when you are always hearing, "your 32 and still aren't married?" and, "how can an attractived girl like you not be married?" as if you have complete control over the situation.


The apple of his eye... 5 years ago

I so trust in this post! i love the fact that not only do we want a perfect mate. our mate need and wants the same, my favorite saying "if God be for you who can be against you". if he has his hand on it, whatever comes will be bigger and better then what we could ever imagine. A wonderful God!!!


Michael 5 years ago

I pray without ceasing for the one my Lord and Saviour wants me to be with. Will my prayer ever be answered? I get depressed at times because of not finding her. I know in my heart Jesus is in control but I get lonley at times still. I am a good morale man, steady job, never miss going to church but still alone. Did not mean to offend anyone Michael


Andrea 4 years ago

Hey Micheal, don't get discouraged. I am in the same boat as u, so don't stop believing! God will bring her to u ! Jus be a little patient. U will be surprised. Take care, will be praying for u.


David 4 years ago

To the person who got offended at the person who made a comment about fat people. Your not following the commands of God if your managing to be obese, there are many references to it, but the best is that your body is a temple and it hosts the holy spirit, would you want the holy spirit in a fatty mess?

Also gluttony and sloth are sins.

I'm far from the fittest guy, but (and I know some weight issues are medical) there is no excuse for not getting up and doing something about your weight. Lastly I don't see how anyone could love themselves and live with themselves like that.


stephen 4 years ago

have youtried reading derek prince god is the match maker and book of ruth. God tells us to seek first the kingdom are you seeking him first you know love gives it doesent want something read 1corinthians 13 EVEN IF GOD were to bring you to the right husband would you be ready for what God wants to do with you it will be hard because paul says you shall have many troubles when you get married i want to spare you from this i allowed God to pick my wife and it was increddibly hard going and now shes devorsd me its still has been a long nightmare because she ran of with the kids quite away away the sanctification procces is hard if you haven't been born sanctified like many thired generatin christians then again will you let him have his way with you to bring you were he wants you to be all i can say is jesus will be your perfect husband serve him with all your heart only he has the answers to this life isaiah 53 are you ready for your faith to be tested by the refiner of goldgo


Anthony 4 years ago

in Jesus name amen


Samuel 4 years ago

hello my name is samuel i am 23 turning 24 atractive and i have been asking for a wife for manny years since i was 16 i always wanted to get married and have kids but sometimes it feels like theres no hope but i know its possible, if other people can achieve that dream y cant i? but ya if anypne would be interested in chating my email is hopeinlove2023@hotmail.com pray and ask God if i am right for u before anyone emails me ty and God bless!


blessed and higly favored 4 years ago

the lord is good and his faithfuness endureth foever this article has been very hepful to me, understanding that the Lord is working on me i need to be fully yeiled to him first before anyone or anything else am beliving in him for a loving husband in the future God bless you for this


Stuck in Love 4 years ago

Unfortunately I am going through a "break-up" right now, but because our love for each other is so great we remain cordial and civil. Long story short, I had lied to him about my medication regimen (I was going into overdose about two weeks ago after a long, hard day at work and my back was killing me). I really think he is still the one, but I know a lot of people say that when they are being dumped. I've just never had such great communication with ANYONE and I've never felt so "one" with any man. Of course I still pray that if he is not the one, that God will perfect both our hearts to find who He has chosen for us. I did several prayers throughout reading this article and I had to find myself stopping in the middle of the prayers because I did not want to pray selfishly. I'm getting close to 30 and have been married and divorced once. I need to focus on His will for me and fix my life before my mate can be a part of it. I pray the Lord bless all of your prayers. Just remember that a selfish prayer will not work because that is not the Lord's will for you. I pray that God will bless me with the right mate once I have fixed my life--AMEN!


Mary 4 years ago

Brenda,

I was reading about your prayer for a spouse. I grew up as a Catholic.

But, now am a spirit -filled Christian. You said, your prayers for a spouse have no been answered. I hope you are praying to God and not the saints. God is the only one we should be praying to. Many blessings!


Mark 3 years ago

with the help from GOD, that would be very wonderful. but there are so many low life loser women nowadays just adding to the problem to make it much worse for us very serious straight guys that are looking. so many women these days have become so very nasty to talk too, and have such an attitude problem too.


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MotherWisdom 3 years ago from Indiana

I enjoyed your article. You made a lot of good points. I can attest to them from my own experience and chastisement and learning. One point I want to clearly stress is that you can think you have found a fellow believer, and this will make you equally yoked. I have seen from others and my own experience that even with a believer, one can still be unequally yoked. There is a level of spiritual mature to consider. Even within maturity there is a level of what a person's frame of conscious is. What I mean by this is views on entertainment, for example. There is a level of going in the same direction. Level of staying committed through the rough spots of marriage. People are jumping in and out of marriage, in the church, like clothes are changed. These things are just a small consideration. They may seem trivial, but when you are serious about your walk with God, there can become a tear and a pulling. The small issues in the beginning can seriously magnify and grow. If one just settles, they can be nothing. If one truly wants to grow into that one flesh and survive the test of time, it is better to put the spotlight on. When in doubt, seriously ponder and consider. Being a lone, being lonely, and being miserable is something to consider as to where one would like to fall. I know.


John 3 years ago

Well, I had a girlfriend in '84, she died. I have had no girlfriend for 29 years beat that. I love to couples walking together. I think lust, and liking myself could be a problem. I don't pray much about it, but think that God is working on me big time and will bring one later than sooner.

I see loneliness as a cross that I carry. Most women that like me are fat, divorced or visitors to our country and have a poor relationship with God. I'm fit and healthy and have hope but as I live in a small town where all the young ones have moved out only God can do something. Amen?


jhunted7667 3 years ago

more and more people seem to be praying for a mate , can it be that more and more people realize only God can match people


Robert Whitfield 3 years ago

all of you had helpful and interesting things to say. right now i am very young, 17 to be exact, and i already feel like that I'm not going to find that special someone. everyday when i walk into school i see everyone of my friends have girlfriends but me. its not that i want a girlfriend its just that i feel sometimes that that's how I'm going to be when i grow up.... wifeless ya know. i don't want to keep feeling and thinking that I'm not going to find that special someone but unfortunately i keep doing it. girls are so complicated sometimes they seem to like jerks and then guys like me are thrown to the side wondering why. but then thats when i realize there probably not the one then. i just feel like im going to grow up lonely and see all my good friends get married and i just cant find the reason why i keep thinking this. im way to young to start thinking about this but then again im not. but i just have to leave it up to God because he is my Father in heaven and Jesus is my Savior. i just really hope i find that special someone that everybody keeps saying i will.


Bill 3 years ago

i certainly hope that God will bless me to meet the right woman for me this time around, especially after my wife of 15 years cheated on me. i was a very caring and loving husband that was very much committed to her too. with so many women that have certainly changed over the years, makes it much worse since many of the women today have a very bad attitude problem. and now that many women think that they are all that because of their high paying job that many of them have today, just makes it even worse. even with God's help it will be hard since the women of today are much different than the ones years ago that were very committed to their men, and accepted them for who they were which they didn't have to be rich either.


Billy 3 years ago

I'be been stuck with my baby's mom for 7-8 years. she knows ive never been trully inlove with her although i love her. She also doesn't really beleive in God, so the quote above about that, made me feel like I defintily probly shouldn't be with her. But we have a beautiful lovely son and i try to make things right for him. She's also very lazy sometimes, get too frustrated teaching my son, and doesn't do much. Her attitude towards life tortures me sometimes because sh acts so unfaithful sometimes, and genrally is her over all way of thinking. she had a bad past when she was young (molested). but i try to take care of her and my son. Ive not been completety uinfaithful, but have cheated because i knew i wasn't inlove with her. the first time i felt bad. the second she was away in a home for people who do crazy things,(with my son too). the third time i met some random girl who claims she has my kid. my babies mom cheated on me when she found out, and recently did again. i cared alot the last time but we got back together and made up, because i do lover her and she's like my family. but i know im not inlove with her. she loves me more then i love her and i lust for other women. i don't know if its lust or if it means that im suppose to be with someone else. She's a big girl too, and im not really interested in doing much with her. i know supposedly im not suppose to think this way. but i feel like "crap, im only human". i live in new york and theres so many beautful women. and i live in a place thats like spanish time square.. i live right in the city. worldy things are hard not to love, because that's llike saying don't love NYC. sry i love NYC for it beautiful people and life style. i think if i went somewhere else i'd be bored out of my mind. im also a hot looking guy. i beleive in the things which the Bible say's but at times, before trully understanding the concepts, i feel repulsed. surely it just takes understanding it, which is what i grasped. but that is what makes me feel like...Im just being me. i feel like i love to lust for women. like it's ok to be bad sometimes, but im still a nice person. i don't understand why lust is so wrong. surely desire is equal to suffering. but when i see these girls with beautiful bodies i can help but to say "wow". i don't think it's wrong when your just appreciating the beauty. but all being said i would pass the oppurtunity if some beautiful girl wants me. the only thing i might pass the opputunity on is being with her. sometimes i get so desperate for a girl that i actually flirt with girls just to see how far i can go with them..but it's been a while since ive done anything with anyone else. my babies mom was the last cheater, and she said she was very sry...i feel bad for her because she cries sometimes that she wishes somebody would want to marry her, and love her. and then i tell her so go and find it, and then she cries that she wants me...i still love her family wise and because she loves me. but theres always this sad emptiness in my heart sometimes that makes me feel so so so sad. especially when im outside with her. i feel like it's embarrasing for me to be with her sometimes but not all the time. it's not because of the way she looks, but because i start to not even give one crap about one word she is saying. it just becomes torture to listen to her. i just get sad time to time because i feel like, wow "will i ever find real love? will i ever love another girl again the way i loved other girls before?" and " will it ever be alright?"..i feel like im throwing my life away. im 28, and only getting older. my hearts hurts just thinking of this sadness. and like mentioned above how could anyone be able to persue God and his kingdom if they can't even do the things to make them happy. im not saying worldy things are good. not at all. i don't even like so much wordly things. but how could i deprive myself of trying to find some sortv happiness, such as cheating. even if i said no i wont. id only be sadder i think. sometimes a girl may seem to want to mess, and i turn her down or don't feel the justifications of doing so. but then i feel kindve bad, like sheesh maybe i shouldve. i know i must seem like a demon. but i just hate my life like this. i feel damned, and i know that i am damned. so i feel like i could never be able to enjoy my life in one aspect but in the other i still find happyness in my son and being a family with my wife. so i guess it's ok. i just wanted to share this with people. because i swear if my babies mom had her own an apartment with my mom. (not swear for real) but i swear i wouldn't be with her and would try to find real love and fun. it may sound worldy, but yes i would go out and have fun and be happy. so what i really pray for is that god would just give her an apartment so we can find our separate ways of happiness. this is not right that god would let us suffer this way. theres not even enough income to go separate ways to find true happyness and that freaking blows like hell. but by all means, i thank god for what i have and find true salvation in beleiving in him and the light. and i appreciate all i have. comment on your opinions. it's ok to be angry at me. but understand, that if i could not be with her i wouldn't. im forced into this.


ladyc 3 years ago

Hello

GOD had showed me a visions and I have been waiting ever since 2009. the lonliness is hard but you have to keep trusting GOD. HE is not like man HE cannot lie


sowoods1 3 years ago

I think sometimes we pick our mates, it might not be the one that god has for us, but emotional we get invovled with them even know god is saying this is not the person he wants us to be with.. then when we have hard ache.. we wonder what happened.. well you went your own way and not mine.. he or she was never the person I wanted for you.. then you went out and had a child with this person.,. be careful who has your sead and who will be the babys father.. we get lonely but its not our will but gods will. pray and wait. and I say this to becaue I am waiting on God..


Hanna 3 years ago

HI, Hanna is looking for Chris/renewable energy/ of Chicago city. hhanna12@ymail.com


Bonnie 3 years ago

Thanks. Very helpful post.Let us continue to trust HIM, the one one who dies on cross for you and me.


WR 3 years ago

A mom with 3 children and Im praying that God will find me someone who is very committed, someone I can spend the rest of my life with...but I also pray that God will help me to love myself and put God first and to wait on him for someone...


WR 3 years ago

A mom with 3 children and Im praying that God will find me someone who is very committed, someone I can spend the rest of my life with...but I also pray that God will help me to love myself and put God first and to wait on him for someone...


Katelyn 3 years ago

This article put everything in perspective for me! Recently I've been single after being on and off with my ex this past year. It was not a god centered relationship which is why it failed, and ended in heartbreak! I'm 21 years old and have dreamed to marry my prince ever since I was a little girl! Now that I'm single I can't help but worry that I'll never find the one who was created for me.. After reading this I've realized that I'm not the person I want my future mate to meet yet. I have SO much work to do on myself and my relationship with The Lord. He's my strength and I trust in him that when the time is right, he will bring my prince. Don't worry about the future! Deal with the now, and change the things that are holding you back from being a better you... Trust in him, love him, and live your life through him!


Manasseh 3 years ago

Man, My story is long. I live in Asia and over here you have very little women who know god. god blessed me once the truth is i totally missed it. now am affriad if god is mad at me and can't trust me.

pray for me please children of GOD.

I will be meditating on the following scriptures.

Part one

Genesis 2:18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Genesis 24-7 “The Lord, the God of heaven, who brought me out of my father’s household and my native land and who spoke to me and promised me on oath, saying, ‘To your offspring[a] I will give this land’—he will send his angel before you so that you can get a wife for my son from there.

Genesis 12:7 The LORD appeared to Abram and said, "To your offspring I will give this land." So he built an altar there to the LORD, who had appeared to him.

Proverbs 31:10-12 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

Proverbs 19:14 House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

Part two

Psalm 37:3-5, 7Trust in the Lord and do good; so you will live in the land, and enjoy security. Take delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act. Be still before the Lord, and wait patiently for him.

Psalm 42: 5,8 Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my help and my God. By day the Lord commands his steadfast love, and at night his son is with me, a prayer to the God of my life.

Deuteronomy 31:88 The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."

Psalm 62:1-21 My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him. 2 He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will never be shaken.

1 Peter 5: 7-107 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Jeremiah 29:13You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

Psalm 32:7-8 You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.

Psalm 34:10 Those who seek the Lord lack no good thing.

Colossians 3:15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts.

song of solomon 2. 14 My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely.

Matthew 7:7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.

Psalm 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

Mark 11:24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

Jeremiah 29:11-13 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.

Matthew 6:33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil.


The Real Honest Answer 3 years ago

Loneliness is certainly the worst thing for many of us that really hate it, and many of us which i am sure many of you will certainly agree with me would want so much to find Love And Happiness with the right person that you can be very compatible with. Many of us are very unlucky when it comes to finding love, and when we do see others that have been very blessed does really hurt since we want that as well. Certain men like us are usually the much weaker sex when where Alone, and many women are usually the much stronger sex since they can handle it a lot more better than us men.


Jesus our Soulmate Finding us a Mate 3 years ago

After reading these posts, it is cool to see people having that passion and desire for a mate chosen by God. God knows us better then ourselves. YEA!!! Let us pray continually and thank God for having a plan for us that we ourselves cannot comprehend.


God's Heritage 2 years ago

All i know is


Crystal 2 years ago

I am glad I read this tonight. It has definitely strengthened my heart for continuing to pray for the right one. I trust God for everything that I have in my life and that He is willing to give me. About 5 months ago my boyfriend of three years broke up with me. Our relationship wasn't perfect and I felt like I was living the relationship day by day with him. I knew in my heart that I loved him and wanted to be with him forever, but I don't think he felt the same way. Also I believe we were unequally yoked which never works out. I have always known God as my personal Savior ever since I was a little girl and always learned to trust and pray to Him. When I look back on my relationship with my ex I believe that I was doing so much to make him happy and content that trying to please and live for God was being put to the back of my mind. When you no longer have God as the center of your focus, your life starts to spiral out of control and it get worse. It seemed that the only times I would ever give God my honest and full attention was when my ex and I were having problems and then I would pour out my heart to God and beg Him to make it work and tell Him if He allowed us to get back together I would be so very thankful. Even when God knows it isn't going to work He still sometimes gives His children what they want maybe as a lesson to learn from. My ex and I broke up three times, after the first time I probably should have just called it quits, but when you think you are in love you are willing to make it work. After my ex broke up with me the last time He moved to Texas with another girl (talk about really breaking my heart, when all I ever done was be faithful to him). Now looking back on it I am sort of grateful that He did move away, because I probably would have been in the same cycle over and over again. I know that a part of me will always miss and love him, but I still continue to pray that God will be with him and help him turn his life around. I believe that God opens and closes doors for a reason. Also He never gives us more than we can handle. I have always been the kind of girl who wants to find the guy God has for me. I have given into two relationships in the past and realize I am done falling for guys who act like they care and want to be there for me and then hurting me in the end. I have become a stronger person from learning my the best and also my faith has completely changed and I am no longer selfish about what, but I have fully given God everything. Sometimes lately I do get lonely waiting for the right one, but then I remember that I am only 20 and that God does have someone out there for me and when His timing is perfect He will show me the right one. When God comes first in your life everything else falls in to place. I just felt like sharing this, because everyone has a story to tell and when their stories are told you never know whose heart it may touch or change. God works in mysterious wonderful ways. He loves all us everyday. Thank you to the site for posting this I definitely needed it tonight. May God bless everyone. :)


mik3manz 2 years ago

To some that say they have given up. First we go based off the the of God. Then we put it into action. There will be people out their that are Great men and women of God. But if we keep on blowing them off and not giving them a fighting chance. Then we will always be looking for this perfect person that no one will ever be able to live up to. You automatically set the potential mate up for failure. Look for the basics, Christlike, but not perfect..Someone with a good heart, and shows it not just talks about it. Has a good work ethic, and someone you could be attracted to. This could be great to start off with and then you LEARN to grow in Love with each other. It won't just magically happen. Love takes work. Look as us with Christ. We constantly are striving to have a better relationship with God, even though we mess up, He works with us, to bring us back to his perfect Love. You will learn to see that you have been waiting all this time, to finally meet the one you will choose to be with. And work together to live a life where you cannot imagine yourself without them. God Bless you guys.


sarfun 2 years ago

There's no perfect person anywhere but there's only perfect will of God and I think that even when we make mistakes in choosing our spouse, God can turn is perfect and happy for us when we do what His word says. I'm 34 and I've learnt to enjoy my singleness and maybe that's what wants me to do. I'm not saying I don't feel lonely at times but I do. I know that God loves me and that in his own time, he makes everything beautiful. My advice to Billy is that u should try and love your baby mama and let me ask a question, if u guys were married, will u divorced her because u feel u don't love her. I think most of the times, God needs to change our perspective about love. Love is not a feeling, it is a commitment and it is a fruit of the Spirit. Let us look at it this way, a couple that probably one of them feel thayt they don't love the persob but when challenges comes that the one that doesn't love was hospitalised or couldn't do what he usually can do and the other person stays throughout the challenges time and still love, do u think after the man is finally healed, do u thnk he will not love his spouse? I'm sure that after his healing, he will love the woman becos his perspective has change that this woman stays and love me when she could have left me in my condition. Sometimes, what we want are different from what we need and what we need are mostly close to us package in the form of what we don't like or want. Most times, God packaged what we needed and want in a packages we don't like and its until we accept the package and unwrap it till we discovered that it is what we want and needed to sustain in life.

Thanks and God bless


Firefoxprime 2 years ago

Last comment was 4 months ago, so I wanna keep the fire alive!

I'm personally really annoyed. I'm 23 yrs old, and consistantly pursuing a righteous path of Jesus Christ. Not much exp in the relationship dept. Roughly 2 dates in the past two years. I'm a pretty guy, but I grew up sheltered and with low self-esteem (overweight/manboobs, etc). I'm more physically active, but could still lose a good 40lbs. I'm 6'4, 290. Anyways, I feel like I'm still on that 6th grade status...like I'm so far behind compared to "everyone else" that INFURIATES me. Because people I'm interacting with be-it work, church, or college, I see couples all over the place. Fine. Yet I'm perfectly comfortable hanging out and chilling. Getting to know one another. Yet It feels like everyone is gearing for marriage....!!!?? Jeez. I'm not ready for marriage! Its like my youth was stolen from me.... :( And pornography is an insideous pit of destruction, yet its instant gratification looks so appealing compared to the future wife God has for me. You know, the wife I don't see???? Yeah. That one. Jesus has delivered me from so much junk in my heart/life, yet I know the work is never finished. I just enjoy engaging and thriving conversation, yet most of the time, I'm surrounded by unsaved fake/phony non-christian people. I'm bored. Welp, awesome page nontheless. Dude you gotta make more topics. Really cement a thriving community :D


SOFOLAHAN KAYODE 2 years ago

GOD IS INDEED TOO PERFECT TO HAVE CREATED US FOR TO PRAISE HIM AND FULFIL HIS WORD:PROCREATION.SINCE GOD DOESN'T SUPPORT ADULTERY AND FORNICATION HE DEFINITELY HAS A PERFECT MATCH FOR EVERY BODY,BUT PATIENCE IS THE GODLY VIRTUE WE NEED TO POSSESS THE MISSING RIB.


ADEBISI 2 years ago

I REALLY ENJOYED THIS ARTICLE. THE KEY ASPECT I TOOK OUT IS TO BE SPECIFIC ABOUT THE KIND OF MATE YOU WANT, AND BE SURE THAT WITH FAITH YOU'LL INDEED GET ONE. I LOVE CHRISTS LOVE, IT DEPICATES THE MANNER OF LOVE WE SHOULD YEARN TO GIVE TOWARDS OUR SELVES AND NEIGBOURS. LOVE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING, WE CAN ONLY PRAY THE LORD MEETS EACH ONE OF US AT OUR POINT OF NEED.


SmileatYourFuture 22 months ago

#1. Use this time to grow closer to Christ, pray alone

#2 . As you draw closer to Christ, His Holy Spirit will draw close to you, I suggest you begin to fast & give up an unhealthy habit during this time. Begin to take care of your body, get enough rest at night.

#3. You will literally begin to desire time with God over anything you'd prwviously focused on

#4. Do not brush aside your fewlings of loneliness or sadness over past relationships, confront them with Jesus at the center.

#5 Believe God created You in His Loving image. He did not intend for you to be alone, hurting or detatched. He created you to be happy!

# 6 Do not expect another imperfect person to come into your life & make it perfect. God holds the key to your happiness!

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