Forgiveness: The Most Extravagant Gift

Are You Living In The Prison of Unforgiveness?

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A True Story of Grace

Every day I learn more about forgiveness. Years ago, when I read about a young infant girl (18 months old) at the time of her mother's murder, I could never have imagined that one day she would become part of my life, but her story impacted me deeply because of the circumstances. Later, she would become my greatest human example of forgiveness in the realm of earth,

Traumas like this are in the news daily. Working in the prison system, it amazed me how often peopIe I had read about or seen on television I would meet. It probably shouldn't have surprised me, but I was new to the culture and had much to learn.

I also realized that some criminals were not always as frightening as portrayed in the media, yet others were. Determining whether they were changed as a result of the incident, or sentencing, was difficult. Normally I did not ask about their past unless they chose to reveal it. My charge was to guide them spiritually while they were in our care.

I relied on discernment and compassion to provide guidance, rather than judging. Their sentence was adequate in most cases, and the reality that life in prison can break down a human soul completely was evidenced regularly.

I witnessed that for those who do not accept responsibility for their actions against other human beings are most often destined to the cycle of crime and incarceration. The system may fail, but God does not. I have been criticized for that approach. For those who ignore standards of law, and moral decency it is a surety in the end.

I also believe that God's grace to forgive extends to the directly offended party(ies). I have observed that when others take up an offense for them, the resulting anger produces extreme bitterness. That bitterness is compounded when the offense is rehearsed. I also do not judge people for that, each heart has its own sorrow.

I have witnessed events that prove that unforgiveness eventually opens doors for dakness to wreak havoc in the mind. Mulling over violent thoughts of revenge and retribution as a "right" are deadly. We have seen the results in our society as minds demand justice for wrongs done. It is a natural human tendency. I have also watched obstinately unforgiving people go on to take on the characteristics of the people they detest, while doing the same things themselves.

This true story is about a supernatural intervention in a horrendous situation.. I was at first apprehensive and skeptic at first. Having become fairly seasoned in the criminal justice system for some time, I watched carefully as it unfolded into a beautiful example of how grace can transcend injustice to mercy.

A young woman came to speak to me one afternoon. Her mother was murdered when she was less than 2 years old. It had happened shortly before I left California to move to Colorado. As she shared, the perpetrator literally tied her to her dying mother and left them in a remote place, presumably to die. He chose the location to hide the evidence of his rage-induced crime of passion. The child was discovered by a hiker, resued by law enforcement, and nursed back to physical health by suriviving family members.

Unfortunately, but understandably, she was subjected to her grandparent's accounts of the horrendous crime when she was of age, and had absorbed their corresponding outrage. She related to me that since she had no recollection of either her mother or the unthinkable crime, she was unable to internalize the severity of the details until she was in her early teens.

This parental grief and anger spilled over into a child unequipped to handle not only the gruesome details of the crime, but the accompanying emotions. She carried this anger deposit, and as she became an adult, accepted hatred as the only emotion appropriate to interpret the offense. The poison in her heart grew deeper and began to control her thinking and her life. Ironically, she eventually acted out that anger against someone else, and ended up in prison.

She came looking for answers about forgiveness, and received a piece of the puzzle, although I didn't know it at the time. Then came the miracle. The man who committed the crime who had been in prison for 20+ years came to an adjoining facility for a specialized doctor's appointment for cancer that ravaged his body

He was held in isolation at the Reception Center where she worked in the kitchen. Shocked to recognize his name on the food preparation list for the infirmary she wrote 3 words on the back of the slip that held his name. "I forgive you." and signed her name. She came to me, shaking, but not from anger, from excitement, commenting "he is here! I don't feel hatred any more!" Then she explained to me what had taken place.

Transported back to his facility the next day, He visited his chaplain, someone he rarely came in contact with since he didn't think himself worthy for God to forgive. His chaplain called me, and together after, receiving permission from the Deputy Director, asked the woman if she was interested in receiving a letter from the other offender, a one-time-only permissible exchange. She never hesitated in giving her consent.

The other chaplain relayed the approval and the offender responded promptly. He broke down weeping as he wrote a letter, not explaining or discussing the crime, but acknowledging his sorrow over what he had done and what he had taken from her.

He took full responsibility for the crime (stopping midway and confessing every detail to the chaplain, which became his own measure of sincerity). He then continued the letter, asking for her forgiveness and assuring her that her words of grace and compassion were beyond his comprehension. Then he suggested she go on to live a responsible good life in honor of her mother.

He disclosed that had been engaged to her at the time of the crime, and taken drugs, became out of control and committed this horrible act. This from the account given to the chaplain, but not in his words to her in the letter.) He gave her a piece of information she had never known before. He was her father, something her grandparents had never disclosed to her.

The letter was read (but no editing was necessary) by the Chaplain before it was forwarded to me for her. This inter-facility communication had only happened twice in the 14 years I was a chaplain. The other was when compassion allowed a phone call from a husband to his wife who was incarcerated as he was dying.

She was allowed to decide when she was ready to read it and visit with me for that purpose. She cried as she read the letter, clearly both feeling and comprehending the magnitude of his sorrow over all that she had lost. Then she said quietly, "doesn't he know I already forgave him? Didn't you say Jesus already died for all our sins, past, present and future? Please tell his chaplain, I meant it what I wrote him, but Jesus is really the one who can wash him clean of all the guilt and shame. Tell him to lay it down and accept forgiveness, because living with guilt like that is no way to live. Oh and can you tell my Dad I love him?"

In 10 minutes a lifetime of heartache was addressed and relationship restored. It was her choice. She made the choice to hear. He made the choice to own it every day for the rest of his life, something he later told me when I visited him in the hospital with the other chaplain.

Of course the psychiatrists wanted to counsel with her later, to convince her that she was unable to handle it without their help. Refusing their approach she stated, "Why do I need to analyze this? God did it, and He healed our hearts, so let's just leave it at the cross, okay?"

She was at peace, finally. So that's exactly what the chaplain relayed to him. He came back to the chaplain's office often to ask more about spiritual life. He asked for and then learned how to read his own bible and then asked if he could volunteer to work in the Chaplain's Library. He died suddenly of a heart attack 4 months later, before the cancer treatments were over.

She was released just shortly after his death, and I was told by others that she visited his grave site to bring closure. Then she implored her grandparents to do what she had done, forgive. She went on to college and continued her life helping others to handle grief.

Today, she is known for her extraordinary work in helping others affected by crime forgive. She understands that some will never forgive because they hold on to the false belief that punishment is a cure. She offers a solution, that love is the cure, for pretty much everything wrong in this world. She has been there, and she is effective. She chooses to stay anonymous in regard to the crime, because for her, it was buried with her mother and father.

Her grandparents chose not to forgive. They suggested she not share this story lest those who have had such horrible things happen to them unwittingly become victims once again. They are cynical, and untrusting, which is their right, and exercising it fully. I do not judge them, because like my own experience, no one should have to bury their children.

Life happens, we choose our response. That is why she can walk this road, offer hope, and help others get free. When I think about this woman, how can I make excuses for not letting go of petty disagreements, and the resulting aftermath? I am often at the same crossroad in my life, and I too, have to make the choice to completely let go of another's offence, with no thought of things ever being made "right" to my satisfaction.

Yes, for her, and for us, choosing to forgive is a most extravagant gift of grace.

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Brian Burton 5 years ago

Thank you so much for sharing this.

First post to ever make me cry. I'm pretty much speechless.

My hope is that many many other people will read this. Linking this article on my profile page if you don't mind.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 5 years ago from Colorado Author

I don't mind at all Brian, if you link I will be honored to be associated with you. Isn't it interesting, I was thinking I hadn't read any new stuff of yours so I went to look and you were the first person I read this morning and then I come here and you posted. Thank you for your kind comments, and I am so glad that you were moved. That is my intent. It's people like you that make Hubpages a joy to read. Thanks and have a great day!


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Brian Burton 5 years ago

That is interesting : )

I did link and the honor was all mine. I hope that others get as much from your story as I did.


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Dexter Yarbrough 5 years ago from United States

Hi SimpleGiftsofLove! I echo the sentiments of Brian. It is my hope that thousands of people read this. Forgiveness is a powerful gift. It would be wonderful if more people gave it.

My words can't compare to what you have already written, so I will end by thanking you for sharing this moving story.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 5 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you for your kind comments and encouragement. People can write about all kinds of things, but what is in the heart matters...You have written some amazing hubs and your photography is out of this world beautiful.


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phdast7 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Truly, a story that needed to be told and shared as widely as possible. Through my tears, I can only say thank you.


lovehappiness 5 years ago

WOW! What an inspiring story. The gift of forgiveness is amazing. Thank you for writing and sharing with us all!


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mary615 5 years ago from Florida

This was a Hub to really get me thinking...I don't know if I could be the kind of person who could forgive this way. Beautiful story.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 5 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you lovehappiness, for your comments, love, and support!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 5 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you Mary615, it was an amazing event to experience. Forgiveness is always an option. I am sure that many feel the same way you do. When it comes to my children and grandchildren, I am not sure I could either.


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Malchiah 5 years ago from Los Angeles, California

There is nothing like the issue of forgiveness and reconciliation. I appreciate the honesty and transparency that was needed to process this and share it. Unfortunately, so many find out the hard way and far too late of the necessity of releasing the mind and spirit from the path of unforgiveness -ESPECIALLY when it comes to ourselves. We are so hesitant to actually process our own forgiveness and essentially it makes it hard to forgive others. Thanks for this!!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 5 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you Malchiah. It has been a constant struggle throughout life, but God's grace is always available to me, therefore who am I to not offer it to another. Matthew 18 provides incredible insight for those that find it hard to forgive. Appreciate your comments.


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GmaGoldie 5 years ago from Madison, Wisconsin

I struggled with forgiveness for 20 years. Finally made the leap. Then life handed me another "forgiveness" obstacle that is holding me back and I am working to overcome. Excellent use of words. You will help millions of people.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 5 years ago from Colorado Author

GmaGoldie thank you for your kind comments. My heart breaks for so many things, broken relationships, people play games with our hearts and then walk away with no regard to the torment and pain they leave behind. When we forgive, we overcome evil with good. Doesn't always seem to manifest on earth, but one day we will stand before the One to whom we will give account.


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Dr Kavita Shaikh 4 years ago from MUSCAT

I cannot tell you how much this post affected me. Wish we all could learn to forgive,and choose forgiveness each time we feel wronged or hurt! Excellent hub


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asmaiftikhar 4 years ago from Pakistan

your expression is remarkable and worth praising.Thanks fo sharing.


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vasmenon 4 years ago from India

The world would be a better place if every one learns to forgive...no wars, no terror, no fear!!! Thanks for a wonderful hub to remind the world of this wonderful message


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poetvix 4 years ago from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country.

What an inspiration this is. Thank you so much. God bless.


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ComfortB 4 years ago from Bonaire, GA, USA

Thanks for sharing this.


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rosika 4 years ago

A story with such a crucial message! Enjoyed reading it so much. Thanks for sharing!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Malchiah, you are right, forgiveness is huge, our world is so in need of it. It goes full circle as the forgiver and recipient are freed! Thank you for your comments and perspective!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

GmaGoldie, I have struggled as well for years, yet have come to realize that forgiveness is not tied to another person's willingness to take responsibility for their actions. I have forgiven people that I can never see again because of that. Forgiveness sets me free so I can go on to receive what God has for my life. What they do is up to them. Thank you as always for your great comments.


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

I’ve had a busy day, and your hub has brought my mind to stillness. Thank you. Unforgiveness is indeed a prison, and forgiving frees us. Thank you for sharing this amazing story.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Dr. Shaikh, thank you so much for your comments, and I am delighted when my writing reaches someone's heart. You are right, forgiveness is an ongoing practice, until we are reunited with the Prince of Peace.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida

forgiving can be an elusive, tricky kind of experience. saying the words, 'i forgive you' in your mind and even to those for whom they are meant does not mean forgiving. one may even think they have forgiven but in dark, quiet hours, the anquish returns...

one may wish to be freed of the haunting of some past wrong, serious wrong, and may go through all of the 'ceremony' to be rid of it..but sometimes it is not gone. i do not believe this conflict occurs because the person is not spiritually strong or well immersed in God's grace or love...i believe it is because we are humans and we struggle to achieve God's qualities in our lives.

thank you for sharing this hub.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Vasmenon you are right, forgiveness is huge, it could change so much. Thank you for your comments and for reading the hub!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Pstraubie 48, Thank you for your comments each person's experience is unique, that is for sure. Your comments are thoughtful and helpful! Thank you for reading!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Melovy, thank you for taking the time to read and comment!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Poetvix, thank you for your encouragement. There is much we can all learn from each other. Have a beautiful day, and God bless you too!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

ComfortB, Thank you for reading!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Rosika, thank you for reading. I am glad you enjoyed it!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Pstraubie48, you are right, forgiveness can be tricky, but I believe if we are willing, God meets us and takes us through, just as He does through so many things of our life. Thank you for taking time to read and comment!


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km360 4 years ago from Central Alabama

Thank you for sharing this story. Only God could arrange such a beautiful ending. When your heart is open, God fills it with so much, it overflows. A heart filled with love is the best way of live.


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MummyDearest 4 years ago from Kildare, Ireland

Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story. I was so touch by it and it inspires me to be a better person. God bless!


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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

I spend entirely too much time watching crime and reality prison TV. I have some ideas why, although I won't get into them here. What struck me about your hub is your perspective...far removed from the media fascination and exploitation, as you say...it's from the inside. Not just from the inside of the prison walls, but from the inside of the prisoner and from the inside of you. Yours is a beautiful story that brings hope to everyone who makes the effort to take your words into their hearts. I'm glad this made "Hub of the Day," otherwise, I wouldn't have found it. You have a new fan.


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Faithful Daughter 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

This is an awesome testimony of forgiveness and love. There is a God! And there is healing in Him. Thank you for sharing this with your readers; I'll admit it had me in tears. I would like to share this article with my Facebook followers if you would allow me.


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

A brilliant and very beautiful hub;A deserved winner of 'Hub Of The Day'.

I now look forward to reading many more by you.

Take care;

Eddy.


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rogeralbert 4 years ago

hank you for sharing such a beautiful story


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Mugure Macharia 4 years ago

very very touching.. thank you for sharing.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Km360, thank you for your beautiful, insightful comments, I agree with them wholeheartedly!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

MummyDearest, I am delighted that you enjoyed it! thank you for reading and commenting.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Sally's Trove, thank you for the feedback! You are right, most of the time when the TV is on, things fill our home with thoughts that are neither healthy or uplifting....I saw many miraculous things in my experience inside, and some that we're difficult, but the most amazing were the triumphs of the human soul! In an environment such as prison where hostility and adversity flourish, most don't look for the good, because they judge rather than listen. We don't see those stories anywhere, but I plan to write them!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Faithful Daughter, love your name! Thanks for your beautiful comments, and I am glad you were touched by it. It makes me cry still when I remember that she trusted me enough to share it with me and that God allowed me to experience it so I could grow beyond my own barriers.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you Eiddwen, I consider that a high compliment, as I read your hubs and enjoy how you interact with others! Thank you for taking time to read it


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Roger Albert, You are welcome, thanks for reading and commenting!


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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

What a powerful story about forgiveness, written without judgment. Thanks so much for sharing this on Hub Pages and congratulations on earning the accolade, "Hub of the Day."

I was moved to tears by what I read and also the sensitivity you had for those who may not yet be ready to forgive what's been done to them. As you said, each person has the choice to make of whether or not they can or will forgive and those not willing or ready to do so should not be judged or pressured into it.

Vote up, useful, awesome, beautiful and interesting.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Mugure, What a beautiful name thank you for reading and I am glad you were touched by it!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Faithful Daughter, feel free to share it on Facebook! That is a compliment.


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Patty Inglish, MS 4 years ago from North America

This is one of the best witness pieces I have ever read. Bookmarked, shared, rated Up and more.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Happyboomernurse, thank you for your insightful comments, and for your encouragement! I appreciate the heart of what you shared and agree whole heartedly...the process can be difficult and it usually takes time and heart work! Coming from someone like you, who is so often read, is an honor to me! Have a glorious day!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Patty, thank you so much! Again I am humbled by the gracious comments and the encouragement. I want to make a difference in this world. Although the details of the crime were staggering, grace is greater still!


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teachertalking1 4 years ago

Thanks for sharing such a powerful, real story of forgiveness. Isn't it wonderful that once we realize that we are forgiven by the Lord, we are then able to find it in our hearts to forgive others? I look forward to reading more from you! God Bless!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you teacher talking! It truly is wonderful, think of the freedom he felt too, and just before his life of condemnation was to be over, now he is resting in the peace of God. Appreciate you taking time to read and share your thoughts!


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Claudia Tello 4 years ago from Mexico

This story brings to mind a philosophical rule regarding our right to communicate that I try to live by: "when in doubt, communicate". If the woman had shunned communication with the murderer of her mother she might not have completely healed/forgive.

It is true that without forgiveness, the cycle of motif-wrong doing-motif- wrong doing-etc would never end. Forgiveness is thus the key to a peaceful, enjoyable existence.


martha 4 years ago

thankd


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sarmack 4 years ago from Washington

Thank you for the story. Looks as if two lives were Saved on that day! It is important for people to realize that you don't need to go to prison to be guilty of murder, of taking another person's life. Forgiveness does come down from Heaven, as God's Grace provides. It saves the heart of the one offended and opens the door for Compassion and Understanding. An important point you made is that families keep secrets that can hurt people and close doors to Loving relationships. Secrets kill relationships and, sometimes even lives. Keeping confidences, to protect a life, lead to Healing. There is a fine line between the two.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Claudia, thank you for your comments, and for taking the time to read this hub. It is an important topic, that can be revisited often!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Martha, you are welcome


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Sarmack, you are absolutely right. One had to be willing for the other to receive the gift that healed them both.

People murder others everyday through slander, misrepresentation, intolerance (look at Tebow). It is sad to see the lengths people go through to attempt to destroy the human dignity. This is just the start of my writing....thank you for reading and commenting!


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sweetypie1968 4 years ago

Thank you so much for sharing this. All I could do is cry, as I can truly relate. I have to admit that I am more like the grandparents however, as I have tried for years to forgive for my own sanity. I can't.


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Juliek958 4 years ago from Norman, Oklahoma

Amazing story and I am thankful you shared it. Faith, Hope and Love and the greatest of these is Love. I know the way to Him is this path and that forgiveness opens the heart to love - all kinds of love. In my personal experiences, it is easier to forgive someone else and much harder to forgive ourselves.


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lee custodio 4 years ago

just simply amazing


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MarleneB 4 years ago from Northern California, USA

What a lovely story. It is amazing how forgiveness makes the hurt go away right in the middle of saying the words, "I forgive you".


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Sweetiepie1968, thank your honesty. I understand, really I do. For any story like this, there are more that are not. Doesn't make you wrong, and I am in no position to ever judge anyone in that way. Bless you!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Juliek958, Thank you for your openness and your comments. I gave up the concept of forgiving myself, the list was too long, and I decided to leave it to God.

That's what He's better at, and He doesn't remember it anymore, so I decided to take Him at His word and I like the phrase someone said, "When God forgives, He places it in the depths of the sea, and puts a "no fishing" sign over it to remind me. That settled, it, I can't change the past, but I can live a bettter now, that way.

Forgiveness of others helps me live with my heart wide open!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Well, thank you very much Lee! Have a great day.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Marlene, you are so right, and then my heart follows suit! Thanks for those insightful words, and for taking time to read!


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago

Dear SimpleGifts ~ It's obvious why this beautiful love and forgiveness true story received hub of the day. Congratulations. Blessings, Debby


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Night Magic 4 years ago from Canada

This story definitely deserves hub of the day. What a good story. It brought tears to my eyes.


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beccas90 4 years ago from New York

Forgiveness therapy can help so many whose lives are affected by what others did but not by intent and some not even realizing how an action was interpreted. This was a compelling story if at times difficult to read. Worth the difficulty. Thank you.


Jan Cowles 4 years ago

This makes me cry and melt inside out. Thank you Linda


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you very much Debby, I was privileged and blessed through it and by it. Thank you for taking time to read it and comment.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Night Magic, thank you so much. I am glad it touched your heart. Bless you for reading and commenting.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Beccas90, Forgiveness is therapy you give yourself by accepting that only grace can get you there. Thank you for reading and for your honest comments.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Jan my friend and teacher, thank you for reading and commenting. What a blessing that you took time to read it, especially after you took time to teach us this evening. Your comments and support over the years mean so much. Rest to you my friend, and your wife and lovely child!


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mydubaistay 4 years ago from Dubai

Such a nice hub to read and I am glad its chosen as the hub of the day. Congratulations.


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rLcasaLme 4 years ago from Dubai, United Arab Emirates

How could she have forgiven her father leaving her tied in her mother's dead body?

That's how God changes our hearts. That's how God changes lives. That's the power of our Lord's cross.

This is a very wonderful, touching story. Thank you for sharing this. God bless you


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Mydubaistay, thank you for your encouragement.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

rLcasLme, thank you for your comments. Yes, she made the choice, her heart was moved with compassion by God.


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landscapeartist 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

Thank you for sharing your hub. It's a compassionate story that grabs the heartstrings and makes every fibre inside cry out forgiveness. I have been wrestling with the idea of forgiving someone in my life that had stolen my self-worth and childhood. I believe that reading your hub has helped me to advance closer to forgiving him a little more.

thank you so much!!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Landscape artist, thank you so much for your honesty in your comment. It was my intent to help, so whatever progress you made is a gift to me. Bless you on your journey and may you find peace.


swayaminfotech 4 years ago

Nor did I ask about their past unless they chose to reveal it.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Swayaminfotech, because it doesn't change the way we should look at people. We all have one, and there are some things we have done that God has forgiven and shouldn't be used as weapons against who we are today!

They are antihealing agents.


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ripplemaker 4 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Thank you so much for sharing this story of forgiveness. I am teary eyed reading this and felt goose bumps all over in recognition of what you call grace. In this space of love, we allow ourselves to connect with our divinity and remember all that is good and beautiful.

Love and light,

Michelle


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Rpplemaker. Thank you for taking the time to Read and comment. Thank you so much for the beautiful thought. It means everything that you have been moved by it.


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DON BALDERAS 4 years ago

He who forgives not, rests not.


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RK Sangha 4 years ago from USA

Thanks for this hub. I know forgiveness works and a right choice. But, it does not eliminate the evil itself. To that end, the society must organize against the evil. And the best way to this organisation follows through the principles of Non-violence in a democratic set up.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 4 years ago from Colorado Author

Evil is and has been in the hearts of mankind since the fall. One day we will be free from it, not by any act of our own but through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ through His shed blood on the cross. We can't even control our own thoughts, but as we surrender to God, His Holy Spirit fills us and we become free to love in His power. One day everything will be perfect, and we will be with Him in that perfection. Then and only then, will we be completely free.


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Sweet Epistles 3 years ago from From the Heart of God

Awesome Hub, it inspired me to the fullest. To forgive is to forget completely, no buts no ifs. God commanded us to forgive not once or twice, but seventy-seven times seven.

A forgiving heart is a gift!

Voted Awesome.


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Purpose Embraced 3 years ago from Jamaica

What an amazing story! I really believe that when we are wronged, punishment is not our cure, forgiveness is. Thanks for sharing such a great story of grace.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 3 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you for your comments, Purposed Embraced! By the way, that's a great pen name....It speaks of your commitment to your destiny. Bless you and thank you for stopping by! Following you!


Ausseye 3 years ago

Hi Gifted:

What a story about humanity…has me spellbound and reflective about human equity. You see I am have no belief in any being , I’m an atheist and have no call on faith and the higher being. But what you portrayed was an ethical paradise, we do not need to hold onto hatred as it does remould our human characteristic if it corrupts our balance…so yes forgiveness restores our human equity and our future possibilities. Love the notion of a balanced life filled with strong human qualities that offers a simple human answer to great distress and carnage. Thank you for giving this reader a glimpse of human qualities that have benefits, just like a friend with benefits. A softer place to be and a life well lived.


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RTalloni 3 years ago from the short journey

Thank you so much for sharing this example of how the gospel transforms our hearts and minds and lives. It is precious. God's grace is so satisfying! You touched on concepts that are important and have offered a lot of food for thought in a balanced manner. It may be that some of your readers would like more information on the topic. One of the books on forgiveness I've found most useful is Unpacking Forgiveness by Chris Brauns. The appendix is as important as the main body in this book.


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SimpleGiftsofLove 3 years ago from Colorado Author

Ausseye, What a great perspective. I appreciate your feedback, and thank you for composing your thoughts in such a helpful kind perspective.

RTalloni, thank you for your comments. I will not only add that reference, I will read it myself! Thanks for stopping by and commenting, I appreciate the feedback....Have a blessed day!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 3 years ago from Colorado Author

Ausseye, thank you for your comments, I had not been on Hubpages for 2 weeks as I am taking care of a friend who had her baby prematurely. I so appreciate your thoughts, and welcome your feedback, it is helpful and kind. Bless you today!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 3 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you for your kind comments and for the reference, appreciate the feedback!


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Pamela-anne 3 years ago from Kitchener, Ontario

Talk about having a big heart- to be able to forgive such a crime-esp. when the criminal who committed the crime ended up being her own father. I think it is great how she used her experience of this to help others in need. Thanks for sharing this great story!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 3 years ago from Colorado Author

Thank you Pamela-anne, yes for her it was a sacrifice....on behalf of the world. Thank you for your comments, and for stopping by!


bienramirez 3 years ago

Forgiveness is an attitude of the heart,it allows our heart to be made not only right but light.Thank you for posting it.


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abbaelijah 2 years ago from Nigeria

humm !

Useful and wonderful hub about forgiveness.

Thanks for sharing !


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Nell Rose 22 months ago from England

Wow, that totally threw me about being her dad! what an amazing story! I am so glad she worked it out in the way she wanted too. Would I forgive? no, never, but that's just me. I am glad it works for others, amazing read!


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SimpleGiftsofLove 22 months ago from Colorado Author

Thanks Nell Rose, glad to be in touch again! I have missed my friends on Hubpages! I am entering a new season of life!

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