Death Visits Us All
I just recently loss an Aunt on Saturday, July 6, 2012. Her absence from this realm touched me deeply because she was instrumental in bringing my parents together and they married brothers and remained friends for over 55 years. She was several years older than my mother and a couple of years older than my father.
My parents and brother travelled back from North Carolina to New Jersey to comfort my first cousins in their time of bereavement.
The Closing of a Life!
Needless to say, I've known my Aunt Ella for all of my life. She lived in the same house on Wegman Avenue since her arrival to New Jersey. My uncle, her husband passed away about 15 years prior to her death.
Unlike some, she knew that death was near, not simply because of her age but the disease that would ravage her body. She was brought up in the Church of God In Christ and remained faithful to the end.
She knew that she would not win the battle of lung cancer and had resolve to live her last days at home. One of the missionaries who visited her asked her the question that my family is use to asking our departing loved ones "Is it alright?" She replied "I'm at Peace!" and she smiled!
You see she had been in a place of reflection for a while. Somehow, being committed to a hospital bed has that effect. There were many people besides her four adult children who loved her and took time to let her know that before death stepped in.
She had lived a full life and knew that this phase of her living would soon open the door to the next!
At the Funeral
My eight year old grandson was with me. He lagged behind me and I could feel his hesitancy as I stood and gazed at the remains of the Aunt I loved in the pink ombre casket. I then heard whispering behind me. It was my mother. She had her hands firmly on my grandson's shoulder and she said "we ALL must do this!" In order to experience the next phase of being with God, we must lay down this flesh that sets the soul free!"
He had been trying to catch his breath, he was trying to follow me to the altar where the body was but it had been too much! A reminder that we all have a road to journey and someplaces on the journey others cannot go with us.
After You Die
Comments - 1 Minute After You Die
Best "after-death" Christian book I have read March 30, 2008By Leslie C. RinaldiFormat:PaperbackThis book is an encouraging read for the Christian who is losing or has lost a loved one who is a believer. It helps to remove the fear of death. It also answers so many questions, and well, like about what is going on when people think they are being contacted by the dead. I gave this book to my mother and she not only read it but keeps it on her coffee table to look at on a regular basis. It's also very comforting to know the beauty and the glory that awaits us when we finally go home to Jesus.
The scriptures had been read, the songs and solos had been song, the obituary read, and the eulogy preached. It was time to say goodnight to the one we loved! As her children covered her with the cloth embroidered with endearment, the reality that she would not wake up to give advice, a hug, or comfort.
The tears flooded, like the waters over Niagra Falls.
My parents are both now in their seventies and retired to North Carolina. I always been near to them. Living upstairs, around the corner, down the street and at the most 45 minutes away. I told my husband that I'd rather have the time to be with them then to reside six hours away, and three visits away.
So were are making plans and setting goals to make family first. To value those that are replaceable and honor them while they are yet here.
This writing was for my own resolve, to honor someone that has lived their life, freed from the housing of this flesh. I resolve to make each day count and live in an attitude of gratefulness. Thankful that my arms still embrace, eyes still see the wonders of life, and soul is at peace!
This has been written from a Christian perspective and belief system.
© 2012 Lady Summerset for Heart of a Woman Ministries
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