Hard Realities: How Churches Delude Themselves

Self Delusions

There is a psychological phenomenon where groups of people engage in mass mutual delusions, and do so not only willingly, but at times enthusiastically. Individually, we have all had the experience of trying to convince ourselves of something. (“It’s only the car battery, not a catastrophic engine failure!”) Magnify that kind of tendency in a group setting, and whole organizations can begin to believe in something that is not true (ask the Donner Party about making it over that pass).

Churches are no different, they also engage in self-delusion to varying degrees, and often do not recognize when they are doing it. Even if a member suspects that there is an active delusion in a congregation, they usually also have a sense that there is no real use challenging it, as the weight of the sheer number of people invested in the delusion will crush their voice.

It is no secret that the American Church as a whole is in decline. While only about 1% of churches close each year (http://ministrytodaymag.com/index.php/features/17090-the-american-church-in-crisis), many more cross the line into being impotent as well. Still, it is useful to spend some effort in identifying some common delusions, as these delusions have the power to at least cripple a congregation (or denomination, for that matter) if not kill it outright. Below are some common delusions, along with some hard realities and positive options to consider that congregations could or should face to get their heads out of the sand.

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Delusion: Our attendance is poor because of the bad weather. (or it’s because of sports, or it’s because of vacations).

Hard reality: This is a routine delusion; it’s not those things. People decline in their attendance because the programmatic offerings are not pertinent to their lives and the worship and sermons are not culturally comprehensible to those attending. This does not mean that there needs to be programs to hit every possible ‘niche’ of need, or that worship needs to be produced into ‘worshiptainment’, but that programs and worship need to be attending to real needs and genuinely feeding the sheep nutritious food.

Positive option: Routine, continual use of multi-axis assessment tools to evaluate ministry effort effectiveness.


Delusion: It’s a national trend that young people are abandoning the church.

Hard reality: While this is true, copping to it and accepting it is disingenuous. Teens and young adults are leaving because congregations (and whole denominations) do not have a clue about the culture in which this demographic lives in. Offerings and efforts at ministering to them are being done by many under-skilled, inexperienced draftees, and then insanely underfunded by the congregation. The myth that all is needed is a part time ‘youth pastor’ who is charismatic and plays guitar is only the beginning of this particular delusion.

Positive option: Seek out knowledge of the micro-culture of your own youth community and dedicate adequate funding for ongoing study and support of meaningful ministry to teens and young adults.

Delusion: Young families are just so busy.

Hard reality: You bet they are busy, but they are very, very hungry for relevant spiritual food and support as well. The reason they stay away is that while congregations pay lip service to how ‘important young families are to the future of the church’, there is often sparse little in place to feed them or attend to their real needs. Like quality marriage support, (young) men’s groups, places for young mom’s not to volunteer more exhausting hours, but having a place to go to relax and refresh themselves, and a congregation that is genuinely kid-friendly.

Positive option: Learn about the different models of family ministry, chidlren’s ministry, and youth ministry, carefully select one and support it for a period of two years, making use of continual evaluation tools. Be willing to adjust if needed to improve mission outcomes, and fund it properly so that it has real chance to succeed.

Delusion: It’s a rough economy right now, so giving is down.

Hard reality: Most people feel they should pay a fair price for what service they are getting. If your income is low, it’s because either programming is weak, preaching and worship is dismal, there is not enough paid (ministry) staff, or the overall morale of the ministry team is in the can. Don’t forget to do a thorough exam of the emotional, mental, and behavioral health of the paid ministers as a clue to what is really wrong as well.

Positive option: Stop talking about money and focus on the mission, if you are doing that the right way, the money will come.

Delusion: We have always survived; we will survive this too.

Hard reality: You very well may, in fact, survive, but do so in such a vegetative state as to make the congregation ‘dead in the water’ as a viable, vital, mission-clear ministry of God’s Word. But you can certainly continue to self-protect and lie to yourselves about just being a nice, quiet, graying Christian community.

Positive option: Re-examine and update your mission statement, and do the visioning work to accomplish it.

Hard Realities Always Have Options

Delusion: We have always done it this way.

Hard reality: Yes, you have, and you can continue to do it that way, until there are only a dozen or so left in the first few pews at worship on Sundays! Congregations that are not intentional and assertive about constantly looking for changes that serve the cause of the prime directive (The Great Commission) will surely shrivel up and become shadows of what they are meant to be, and what God is calling them to do.

Positive option: If you do get an active, enthused, willing younger person into your church who wants to do something, clear the way for them to do it.

Delusion: We are doing well, just look at our stable weekly attendance!

Hard reality: You ought to know by now that numbers of people in pews do not make a mission successful; lives changed and engaged in active ministry for Jesus Christ do. And double check those numbers, as a classic ruse is to inflate them in order to inflate egos and keep the membership in a trance.

Positive option: Do the math and figure a ratio of person-hours in your congregation of time spent in organized internal care of members to organized external care of those not yet connected to a congregation. If you were honest, be startled and ashamed.

Delusion: Our Sunday-School programs take care of people’s spiritual development.

Hard reality: The Sunday-school model, which most congregations adhere to as a tradition on par with the Trinity, is well over a hundred years old, and for many congregations, does not work in this millennium for kids, adults, or families. God forbid any other format for feeding people spiritually is mentioned, or that there might be a need for (gasp!) outside sources of learning, development, and spiritual stimulation.

Positive option: Find someone qualified to help you study and understand your demographic, and make your programming lifestyle-friendly to those you want to reach.

Delusion: But we have small groups!

Hard reality: What most often passes for ‘small groups’ is a sad repeat of Sunday-School, just not done on a Sunday morning. Either tired-old-pastor takes a turn playing theology professor (or repeats a sermon from the archives), or someone who has read a really, really fascinating book wants everyone to read the book and ‘discuss’.

Positive option: Consider that people are hungry for things like ways to repair their wounds, how to move forward after trauma, deepen their prayer skills, and gain genuine, spiritual intimacy with others and God. Then find someone to train your volunteers on how to do those things and teach them to others.

Delusion: We are so blessed by our pastor, he/she can do just about anything!

Hard reality: I have met dozens, if not hundreds of very multi-talented ordained people, but the truth is, no one is good at everything. Pinning the success or failure of the mission on the pastor is both unfair and unwise. It’s a set up for everyone to become at least exhausted and frustrated, and usually burnt-out and hopeless.

Positive option: Since most churches hire professionals to replace the roof, fix the plumbing, or to even clean the carpets, maybe consider hiring someone with skills to fill the gaps in your understandings, programs, skill sets, and ministries.

Delusion: ‘Ministries’ equal ‘Mission’, right?

Hard reality: While most congregations have mission statements, just as many do not know how to execute actions to satisfy it, or know how to measure success in carrying it out. Just as often, favored, wizened old programs that have long ago died are wheezing along on life-support and are not progressing the central mission. Or, the plethora of special interests has never been purged over the years, and there are too many programs for the number of lay leaders and participants to effectively care for or even attend.

Positive option: Do some research or get some training on how to refresh your mission statement and do solid, forward momentum visioning.

Did you recognize any of the these delusions in your church?

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Comments 11 comments

Kathleen Cochran profile image

Kathleen Cochran 22 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Funny I should stumble upon this hub this week. I just read an article by Phillip Yancy about how we are in the post-church age and need to stop talking and start doing. He is the author of "What's So Amazing About Grace" which is the best thing I've ever read about practical Christianity. Sharing


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Marcy Goodfleisch 22 months ago from Planet Earth

My first thought on seeing the title of the hub is about the amazing steps being taken by the new Pope. He seems to speak up for new ways of approaching things almost every month. We do need to realize this is not the world of the year 1400 or something. We have current issues and cultural factors, and churches, if they are to survive, need to address things in real time, not 'old time.'


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phdast7 22 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Excellent Hub. Wish everyone in every church would read it and then evaluate their congregation with an eye toward improving and deepening the life of the faith community. Sharing.


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KMSplumeau 22 months ago

Great article. I will definitely be sharing this one.


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Rodric29 22 months ago from Phoenix, Arizona

I find this article interesting. I do not know what goes on in other churches because I invest so much in my own. I see none of the challenges in my particular congregation because we recognize the people do not attend for reasons a many: hurt feelings, offense, bored and such.

We have a non-paid ministry of which I am a part and we seek to visit these members prayerfully monthly if they will allow. Sometimes though it is better for them in another church or congregation. I respect that. It hurts to see them go though.

I found this article insightful. I am away of other congregations in my church who really have a hard time. We change often in our church. We believe it is important to be willing to change because you never know what God has in store for His people just by changing one person in leadership. Since know one gets paid in our congregation, including the current Bishop (he is a real estate agent), change comes easy.

I cannot speak for the entire church's congregations, but I can speak for mine.

Voted up and shared.


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Rodric29 22 months ago from Phoenix, Arizona

Also, I almost went past this article, which would have been a loss for me, because I assumed that this was another assault on Christianity. I would not give it the time of day! But, if phdast7 approved of it in any degree... I would not miss finding out why.


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phdast7 22 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Thank you Rodric. What a kind gentleman you are. I don't have a lot of time to spend on HP, but this Hub caught my eye and like you, I was pleasantly surprised. Hope all is well with you. Blessings. Theresa


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Johan Smulders 22 months ago from East London, South Africa

Practical and excellent survey of the position as it is and also positive suggestions on how to get back on tract with the proclamation of the Gospel. We much reach people where they are hurting and help them to live victorious lives. The old way of doing that will no longer work and so we need to wake up and shake up our methods.


Dale Wight 22 months ago

This article doesn't note that the churches that are growing are the ones who hold to the eternal truths of Christianity instead of trying to modify them to fit perceived new needs in today's society.


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Rodric29 22 months ago from Phoenix, Arizona

True Dale. As the Kingdom of he devil grows so does the kingdom of God. Theresa it is my pleasure to speak the truth about what I have experience of you.


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Lynne-Modranski 22 months ago from Ohio

Thanks for sharing. Our church is relatively new, but we still can fall prey to any of those delusions if we get lazy! Never hurts to review what we're doing. Keep what's working and abandon what's old and tired.

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