“Be the change you want to see in the world.” –Mahatma Gandhi
Humility and humiliation are sort of the same, only different. They both are synonymous with the words “submissive” and “submission.” Humility is about being submissive. It is my understanding of having a “servant’s heart”, which is what the minister said my Mom had when he spoke at her funeral in March of 2008. That says to me that a person of humility is a very giving person, that they always put others first, that they are selfless. That’s a very respectable and admirable quality to have as long as it doesn’t come at the expense of your own physical, spiritual, emotional and mental well-being. You can’t truly give to others what you don’t even give or do for yourself either physically, spiritually, emotionally or mentally. It’s like trying to pour water out of an empty glass, if you think of it realistically. Synonyms for humility are: lowliness, meekness and submissiveness.
Humiliation, on the other hand, is about being submissive, too, but in my perspective, it’s about being forced to be submissive, giving to others or doing for others when it’s not your own free will to do so. Huge, huge difference from living a life of humility, is it not? Synonyms for humiliation are: degradation, dishonor, shame and submission.
My perception of humility stretches even farther than just the giving aspect of a human being. It is the God-part of me recognizing and respecting the God-part of you. It expresses equality and fairness not only in words but in deeds. It’s the humble side of love, the quieter, sharing, accepting side of love.
Humiliation is a Strong Sense of Weakness
Humility allows others to be who they are without feeling the need to verbalize disdain to whoever may be within earshot. It allows one to be strong and confident in whom they are, without letting ego, fear of the unknown, or the error of assumptions get in the middle of relationships.
Humility allows us the security in knowing that if we are willing to compromise or to give to another, we shall see that giving heart reflected back to us. The Good Book even says we reap what we sow.
Humility has nothing to do with weakness, insecurity or being co-dependent. It’s not based out of shame or guilt like humiliation is. Shame is based on who we believe we are in a negative light, guilt is based on what we do that we believe was wrong. Humility finds its fulfillment in a pure, peaceful, loving, accepting heart.
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