Dark Side of Cancer, Sign of the Crab: Clinging, Sentimental, Unhappy, Unforgiving

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She should have stayed home with her parents.
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The Waterworks Sign (Birthday June 21-July 22)

Watching the funeral of Princess Diana, British detective novelist P.D. James wrote, "I wonder if those sad, masacara-laden eyes will droop in reproach over the house of Windsor forever." Any sad makeup-laden eyes you meet with probably belong to a Cancerian (male or female). Children or grownups who cling to their mothers' skirts are also probably Cancerians or have a Cancer moon. Usually homebodies, Cancerians value love, family and marriage, but when those relationships aren't working, negative Cancerians can make a second career or hobby of martyrdom, moping, addiction or crime, like Bill Cosby (July 12). Their unhappiness is always someone else's fault. They seek pity. Princess Diana (July 1) is a perfect example of a Cancerian. All she wanted was a happy home (and to marry a king. And have lots of money.). They are very devoted and sensitive. This can be a good trait depending on what they are sensitive about and devoted to. They never forget and never forgive.

Two Real-Life Cancerians Who Think They Are Normal

Cancerian "Alice"' (July 15), a widow, had a niche cut into a wall in her lovely home and made her late husband a shrine with a spotlight on his portrait and cries for him every day. She phones her adult daughters daily and they don't dare say they're busy or Mom goes to pieces. She keeps up their childhood bedrooms in case they want to move back home. Alice's holiday gatherings are really for family only and the talk is all about family. Neighbors, old friends, or relatives by marriage, although invited, are greeted and then ignored. A career homemaker, a loving parent and great cook, a bit too sensitive to drive a car well or to travel far, she doesn't circulate outside her family or church except to shop at the finest stores.

Very fit and attractive with a 1960s hairdo and contouring makeup, Alice could date just about anyone and remarry, but chooses as her escort and bedmate her ex-son-in-law, her grandchild's father, an abuser who for years has been anxious for re-admission into the family. When her children object to him, Alice cries, "Who else do I have?" Her bachelor son is her handyman and she keeps him tied to her apron strings by harping on imperfections in his girlfriends. Mostly she finds them insufficiently religious. He's in his second decade of saving to buy the house next to Mom's should it ever go up for sale.

To lunch with Alice is to gaze into her sad beautiful eyes while she tells about her wonderful husband of 47 years, and his death. She is a shape-shifter: from June Cleaver ubermom with high heels and pearl earrings, to a lonely waif you can almost forgive for sleeping with her daughter's ex. She piles into your lap her sentimental scrapbooks and photo albums. Her house and property show that hubby was prosperous. Her materialism is hardly a secret as her house is filled to its ceiling beams with collections, collectibles, and clothes. If she sounds like someone you know, that's because, with her Sun in Cancer, she's the epitome of the generation born with Pluto in Cancer (1914 to 1939). She inspired the saying "When Mama's not happy, nobody's happy."

Cancerian "Patty" (July 20), was a bashful, clinging middle child who eyed her siblings' plates on the dinner table, checking whether her mother had served them bigger portions, showing them favor. If she thought so, she cried and screamed "You don't love me!" and fled and hid. A sullen and secretive teen, she moved to the far edge of the continent, cutting off all communications with her siblings except for Christmas cards, and has not contacted her mother at all for 30 years.

Patty has moved coast to coast, saying she must live near the ocean and have a view of water. Intelligent and shrewd, she built her own successful business and married another Cancerian. After serving gourmet food from their awesome kitchen she will tell endlessly how rivals plotted to cheat her, trick her, or undermine her business because they are jealous or because she is female. It seems that even slight acquaintances spend their days plotting against her in the most devious and subtle ways. Her hatred for her mother is undiminished, she won't let go of it, and every cozy conversation devolves into a rant about Mom. She doesn't need any friends; she has her husband and pets. She has no children and loathes children in general. When others show photos of kids and grandkids, she punishes them by showing photos of her pets and describing them in aggressively lengthy and lacerating detail.

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What These Two Cancer Women Share

Both Alice and Patty are family-centered, devoted and sensitive. But negative Cancerians (also called Moon Children) are also tearjerkers, grudge-masters, string-pullers, money-mad, spendthrifts, complainers, martyrs, paranoid, grasping, sentimental, self-serving beyond belief, gullible, punishing, and far more sensitive about themselves than about anyone else. A good example of a fine Cancerian artist is Frieda Kahlo (July 6) whose subject was herself and her suffering. Others get stuck on motherhood, Mom or fertility. Cancerians like the dark and many are tempted to float their troubles away on alcohol or drugs. The women can be great beauties (Lena Horne, June 20; Eva Marie Saint, July 4) and age well. The men age badly and even young ones tend to have a rumpled, shadowy, dampish, day-old look, or a gut. They can be drifters or eccentrics and they like money more than working for it.

Negative Cancerian Avatars: John Dillinger (June 22), Gary Busey (June 29), Lindsay Lohan (July 2), O.J. Simpson (July 9), Jodi Arias (July 9), Bill Cosby (July 12), Willis Carto, Holocaust denier (July 17), Lizzie Borden (July 19).

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Tony 4 years ago

Growing up was hard because my mom was really immature and childish and it was like being raised by a girl instead of a woman. She would act nice in front of certain neighbors but when we were alone with family she showed her colors and they weren't pretty! She didn't like sharing and still doesn't, the only time my mom shares is when she thinks she'll get something in return, never does she give with the kindness of her heart. As for loyalty, pshh, if I had to count how many times my pops almost filed for divorce from her, I'd be counting all day. I dated this Cancer woman once and I realized that they really like being the center of attention and when they see someone else in the spotlight that deeply infuriates them even though they won't show it. To this very day when I find out a female is a Cancer I steal clear of her and head for the hills. Cancer women are selfish to the point of being narcissist, but you can't always spot a narcissist right? They camoflouge themselves well in front of outsiders only family see the nasty side.


Kimberly Brennan 4 years ago

Oh gee... I am a Cancer woman. An I am a recovered alcoholic I haven't had a drink since July 9th, 2010. I went to an addiction when my relationships failed an I became a single mom. An I also love dark places. I am a case manager for a paranormal team. So I am out in the dark more then the day. An when I am home it is with my children. I don't date anymore. Because my family takes first priority. But I am a pretty lady. That is ageing very well. So I give you a A+ on your article..,


Vic 4 years ago

I am a cancer woman, and I know all of this things are true.

I don't want to be all this things but I can't help it because they just seem to come natural to me.

Although I am dependable, loyal, and family orientated. I cannot stop the negative side of me, and especially envy, outburst of anger and so on. It is sooo bad even I am the one warning admirers away from. 'all that glitters is not gold' trust me you don't want to date me...

Now bearing in mind I don't want to be alone, I cannot change who I am, I can pretend but the real me will soon flare out. What are we then supposed to do?


Vic 4 years ago

I envy other star signs wishing I was more like them. I cannot tolerate myself therefore I don't expect others to like me. Still I wish this sign was not so negative, and people born in this month can find balance in life no matter how difficult this is. Even if one has to sacrifice happiness so be it, easier said than done


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SylviaSky 4 years ago from USA Author

This sign's positive traits include artistic talent, loyalty, determination, compassion and a willingness to work for the greater good of all. Read up on your sign. In astrology there is always a fund available of positive traits and changing conditions that can help you transform your life.


Neha Walia 4 years ago

I too, am a cancerian woman and life has been such a pain for me...there's always an emotional turmoil going on in my head and I am really tired of it....I get irritated for no reason at all....I can't express myself clearly...after marriage, things have only become more complex....I feel nobody can understand me....but that's nobody's fault because I myself can't figure out what exactly do I want from life...everybody around me is happy...or at least they can successfully fake it but I can't even do that...I keep regretting about each and everything in life....


sylviasky 4 years ago

Please see a therapist or counselor. You might be suffering from depression.


Margarite 3 years ago

This is nonsense. This is a fraction of Cancerians. We are lovely pleasant people who always look on the bright side. I do any way.


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SylviaSky 3 years ago from USA Author

The article is called "The Dark Side of Cancerians," so of course it does not represent them all; but when a Cancerian is dark, they are as dark as the dark of the moon!


Starr 3 years ago

King Henry VIII of England was also a Cancerian born on 28 June 1491.


shb 20 months ago

I am cancer man.My sis is cancer too.The problem with cancer females is their enormous insecurity which comes from not understanding behaviours correctly or at least comprehensively.

the key to the positive for them is just to understand and believe the fact that nobody is after them in particular.And that the criticism occurs to all people by the people.

I have figured out this truth by myself just by thinking and observing and with a pursuit to gain correct knowledge about matters and dilemas and so on.

just don't give up and what you have to do cancer females is to build an impartial way of observing and thinking. You'll find it so liberating;refreshing your soul and fulfilling to great extent.

we just need to care for 'others' too.

There's nothing much satisfaction or security in serving yourself.

believe in that !!!


Ashley 19 months ago

i'm cancer 16 and the sibling thing is true for me, but i actually think my mom being an aries is why i don't like her, plus she did treat my brothers better at least to me because she is always yelling at me and hitting me while she has never laid a finger on any of my brothers. plus i am also a middle child which i think sucks...


shb 18 months ago

@Ashley

You feel exactly the same how my sister used to be.she is 9th of july.we are two brothers and five sisters.she is the second last and the last one is me.

she used to be in constant search that our mother or any elder is not giving her,"her rights"ever since she was a little girl she had an attitude to make others responsible for her 'unseen' or foolish insecurities and worries...

The problem was that she never wanted to negotiate on what charges or blames she put on others..

she just had difficulty in accepting her faults.

It's a long story...to cut it short,she has gone through many phases in life,she's much mature now;obviously she's learnt through hard way..

resides in new jersey,have two kids..she's doctor by profession,her husband too...

I don't know in what house her moon is..

For most of cancerians,their later life is better than their childhood.


Wanda 5 16 months ago

Main irritant for me is that cancer is the only sign in the zodiac that lives in a glass house and has the nerve to throw stones.

then they dont seem to want to pull themselves out of their funk and better their lives. Any help or advice offered is quickly rejected. Very frustrating and if this person lives with you, you are already trying to send them out the door. All that negativity can wear on the rest of the household. It takes a cattle prod to get them to take action on anything, and, of course its all your fault. Kick them to the curb, as they wont change. Ignore the tears. Oh and it doesnt seem to get better later in life. I mean if they are still behaving like a 17 year old in their 50's, are you gonna wait til they're 80? Life is too short.


shb 14 months ago

@wanda 5

i understand what you're saying.but life is not that simple and straightforward.those who want to consider or make it that way,destroy many things in life.Relationships are the most difficult thing to nurture and keep on healthy level.its more difficult than even to understand Einstein's theories.

so dont take just sun signs so personal.


Taurus 12 months ago

Yes, there is a lot of things about the dark side of this zodiac sign, however lets not forget the importance of the moon as the ruler of Cancer. A badly placed moon can tear down the good characteristics of this sign. I can tell you that a lot of the cancer villains have moon in aquarius, which is a fixed sign with a certain coldness and self centeredness, even though they don't admit it. Princess Diana has moon in aquarius that is why she was evil on the inside and did the good deeds only to get protagonism and smash the royal family. Angela Merkel, the prime minister of Germany is also a cancer with aquarius moon.


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SylviaSky 12 months ago from USA Author

Taurus, you're correct that Angela Merkel and Princess Diana have Aquarius moons.


juanitaperez 8 months ago

This is absolute nonsense. I am a cancer woman with moon and ascendent in pisces. I am extremely sensitive and protective of myself, I can be really hurtful when people hurt me and I am the ultimate drama queen. Having said that, I am the most caring person and I have lost so much for love and trusting people than a lot of people can imagine. Yet, I will never give up on love and friendship and I enjoyed being loving, helpful and going to extra mile for those I love. I think the problem with cancer people is that we are way too sensitive with a world that is becoming more and more insensible.


Nancy 5 months ago

I'm a cancer teen my birthday is July 22 and so far the things I've read are accurate about cancer I do tend to be over emotional but know one knows that I keep my feeling to myself


patrick 3 weeks ago

i'm a cancer , being a cancer seems like a borden or course , but we are lovely people living in a different world with strange minds , but being a cancer is my best gift ever , and my fellow cancerians , love everybody and still yet hate what is wrong , practice how to use your powers in positive ways, cancerians possess spiritual powers , i'm july 2 which middle in any 365 or 366 leap year, life sucks around us , but we feel what no one else could feel , thats a big plus , a well trained cancer can defect a magician

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