Why Not Take A Vacation From Your Life?

Should You Take a Vacation from Life?

How To Get Away From Yourself

Do you live backwards?

Do you stuff the things you like most into cramped containers that you call "the weekend," "holidays" or "vacation" while you devote the majority of your time to things you care less about or even dislike?

Yep, you're living backwards, stacking you happiness behind everything else.

This article is a how-to guide for getting away – from yourself.

Ideas for A Vacation From Life mean changing everything, throwing out the baby and the bathwater. Working for a living makes about as much sense as tasting with your ears or trying to see what's behind you by gazing through the back of your head.

With apologies to my exotic friends who believe they can see out the backs of their heads, even while sober, let's look at getting rid of some terrible ideas that serve only bosses, professors, politicians and rich people – in other words, probably not me or you.

Let's start with some basic truths:

  • Life was never meant to be drudgery. If you doubt that, take a look at the other living creatures in the world around you, squirrels and birds, even trees. How many of them spend their days bored or worse, unless, of course, they are yoked to humans who demand it?
  • If you're daydreaming heavily about your next vacation more than two weeks out, you're giving yourself a fix that allows you to continue living poorly by stretching reality.
  • Do you believe in blue Mondays? Is Wednesday "hump day" for you? Does the term "TGIF" give you a sense of relief? If yes to any, see above.
  • Repetition is unnatural.
  • Boredom is a heinous crime against your own soul.
  • Feelings of emptiness should be treated immediately like any other critical illness.

Now, then. Let's not waste time debating how most of us got in this hole – you know, the one where you can't wait to get off work or out of the house or just away so that you can resume enjoying life.

Let's just acknowledge that you may be in one. Then, let's get you out of it.

How to Get Out of It and Into A Vacation From Life:

  • If you are one of those folks who are most able to gather their ideas when written, get a pen and paper now.
  • Sit. Breathe deeply and evenly until you're relaxed. Not, of course, if you are currently driving or sitting outside your boss's office. In either of those cases, wait until you get home.
  • Make two mental or written lists, one for the things you like about your life and another for the things you don't.
  • Watch how those those don't likes pile up until...
  • ...they are rinsed out of your thoughts while the many things you like but usually haven't time or energy for bringing the seesaw powerfully down on that side.
  • Now, make another list. In this one, assume you will have exactly the life you want, and write on one side those things you will have in it that you don't like and, opposite, list the things you will have that you do like.
  • When you finish this list, assuming it's written, fold it up and put it away where you will see it only when you want to. If mental, write it down now and follow step one.
  • Set any time frame up to six months and begin, appropriate to the length of your first list, and begin eliminating the things you don't like, one by one. No arguments. Unless you're imprisoned or in shackles, you can dump them all. Reward yourself by gathering into your life the items on your "like" list and embrace them as if they were your dearest friends. Which they are.
  • Being the smart, versatile, inventive creature you were born to be, you will discover ways to deal with the loss of all those things you didn't like. Your job? Find another one. Your partner? Someone else is looking for you. Dating services thrive for a reason. Your disapproving family? You are over eighteen, aren't you? All bonds are voluntary or habitual.
  • As the six month term approaches, celebrate your arrival at your Vacation from Life. You are now in another place.
  • Never go back.

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David Stone, Writer

About Being Aware of Abundance

Happiness Poll

Are you or are you not happy with your life?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Getting there.
  • Happiness is overrated.
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Pictures from My Vacation from Life

Prague, looking from Old Town toward the castle.
Prague, looking from Old Town toward the castle.
A quiet afternoon in Bryant Park.
A quiet afternoon in Bryant Park.
Riding the street car in Lisbon.
Riding the streetcar in Lisbon.
Off the coast in Portugal.
Off the coast in Portugal.
Idling in the harbor.
Idling in the harbor.
A lighthouse in New York City.
A lighthouse in New York City.
In the wild.
In the wild.

Change?

Are you fed up enough to change your life?

  • Yes, I'd rather go down swinging.
  • No, I'm sticking.
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© 2010 David Stone

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David Stone 2 years ago from New York City Author

Thank you, Glenn. I'm happy you liked the post.


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Glenn Stok 2 years ago from Long Island, NY

This is powerful, and you expressed the method of change very well. Life is short, and it's important to be happy with our lives as much as we can. Making a list of things we want is more difficult than can be imagined. I believe this is because we are not used to acknowledging the good stuff. The pictures you included help a great deal in recognizing positive ideas. That helps get started.


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David Stone 2 years ago from New York City Author

Not to worry. It does make sense.

It all gets better when we break the patterns we've grooved into an look at life fresh. I just remembered a tip I learned from Wayne Dyer. Dyer has, I think, eight children and was expected to do the same things with each child as they grew. His trick was to pretend, to fix it in his mind, that each new Little League game, each next school play, was a first. He trained himself to look at each as fresh adventure.


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bead at home mom 2 years ago

Loving this thought process and glad to see I'm on the right track. I find that when I think I'm not being responsible enough and change my approach I get very grumpy, angry and not enjoying the very things that give my life meaning and purpose. So I regroup get myself back to what I thought was not being responsible and find my renewed sense of my life's mission. I don't know if this is making any sense but I know what I am saying and all I need to say to you is thank you for the validation that I have created my life to be my state of 'vacation' in other words, I enjoy getting up in the morning to start my day, I do not dread Mondays, Wednesdays are not 'hump' days but I still look forward to Fridays because it means I get to spend more time with my kids home from school.


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David Stone 2 years ago from New York City Author

It's absolutely great that you did that, but aren't the negative reactions interesting? It's like your decision to live richly threatens the status quo. Exactly what it should do.


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CMHypno 2 years ago from Other Side of the Sun

I took a 7 month vacation from life and went travelling in Australia and New Zealand when I was 47. A lot of people were very supportive, but some were incredibly negative saying things like 'why can't you wait until you retire' or 'what about your national insurance contributions'

To my mind though it was the best decision I ever made and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Life is now, not some tomorrow which may never happen


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David Stone 2 years ago from New York City Author

Hey, thank you. That was the idea.


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Scotties-Rock 2 years ago from OREFIELD, PA

Your photos are beautiful. And YES, I do believe we all need a vacation from life. And those pictures help one to get a glimpse of the other side.

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