Nothing but Sin and Bones - A Study of the Book of Proverbs (Chapter 5)
The first four chapters of Proverbs hammers home the importance of seeking after knowledge and wisdom and keeping God’s word before your eyes, on your mind, and in your heart.
Over, and over we are told to stay on this path, don’t look to the right or left, don’t walk away, stay on the brightly lit pathway and avoid the dark back alleys.
Nothing but Sin and Bones
There is no disguising the meaning of verses 3 and 4:
The lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. (NKJV)
The lips of a seductive woman are oh so sweet; her soft words are oh so smooth. But it won’t be long before she’s gravel in your mouth, a pain in your gut, a wound in your heart. (TMB)
The writer is not targeting women here, a man wrote this book so it’s slanted toward his perspective. But, don’t think for a moment that there aren't smooth talking men in the world who will entice women into adultery.
The point is there are smooth talkers who know what to say, as well as, when and how to say things that will draw a person into sin. It doesn't mean we are weak or morally delinquent; the fact is we are all human. Anyone who says they have not been tempted in this way is either lying or extremely young.
Verse 5 tells us that the path of sexual temptation leads to death and hell. If you have ever known a couple, or you have been touched by infidelity, you know exactly what this verse is saying.
In Matthew 19: 5, Jesus tells us that when a man and wife are joined in marriage, they are no longer two, but one flesh.
There is a tremendously powerful bond, between two people when they are joined together in sexual relations. Not only are their bodies joined, but their spirits and souls are joined. That is why there is no such thing as casual sex.
God created humans with a very powerful piece of their makeup, that is the soul, and it is nothing to be taken lightly.
When there is infidelity within the relationship of marriage, it tears apart that bond. And no matter what kind of relationship the couple has had, rocky, cold, or warm and loving, it is a tearing like nothing in this world. I can only describe it as having your chest cut open with no anesthesia.
I have personally had this terrible experience, and I would not wish it on the vilest person I can think of. And, when the writer of Proverbs describes it as the road to hell and death, he has hit the nail on the head.
Verses 6 – 8 of Proverbs warns us not to even consider the sensual and enticing words of this person, to avoid any contact with someone who is tempting you in this manner. Even to go out of your way to avoid them.
Keep your distance from such a woman; absolutely stay out of her neighborhood. (TMB)
And Verses 9-11 tells it like it is:
Lest you give your honor to others, and your years to the cruel one; lest aliens be filled with your wealth, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner; and you mourn at last. (NKJV)
Almost always infidelity in a marriage ends in divorce. Not only has the soul and spirit been torn apart between the couple, but trust, the absolute foundation of any marriage, has been compromised. In this day and age of rampant divorce, we can easily see the proof of this scripture.
Honor and reputation is lost regardless of who the couple is and what the circumstances are, and for the rest of their lives, they will be remembered and defined by this incident.
“Lest aliens, or strangers, be filled with your wealth, and your labors go to the house of aforeigner.”
Although alimony is pretty much a thing of the past, men are typically tasked with paying child . And of course both parties should contribute to the raising of children. In our society, it seems that the focus is on the money. Regardless of whom is at fault in a divorce, there are a lot of men who have to pay outrageous sums of money in child support, which makes life particularly difficult for many of them. Some women use this money wisely for what it is intended, but I have seen more women spend the money on things that have nothing to do with the well being of their children. support
From the point of view of the one paying child support, regardless of the amount, it seems to be quite the sensitive subject. Regardless of how much is paid, this bone of contention can create hostility between two people who once shared a life, and now children. And, if the one receiving the child support enters into a new relationship, regardless if the one receiving it is using the money correctly, that bitterness rises to a new level. Now the one paying, feels as if his/her hard earned money is helping to support a stranger.
Verses 11 – 14 paints a terribly sad picture of someone who did not listen to instruction, and is now living a life filled with sadness and regret; a life of nothing but sin and bones.
Don’t Take Love for Granted
Proverbs, Verse 15 – 17 describes the marriage bed as a refreshing well, a place to enjoy the blessing of love making.
Do you know the saying, “Drink from your own rain barrel, draw water from your own spring-fed well”? It’s true. Otherwise, you may one day come home and find your barrel empty and your well polluted. Your spring water is for you and you only, not to be passed around among strangers. (TMB)
It is foolish to pollute your drinking water, everyone needs water to survive. Love is like water, if it remains clean it will sustain you and keep you healthy, but if it becomes polluted, it is sudden death.
We should go to extensive lengths to protect our marriage. It is the bedrock of our lives and our society. It is the very foundation that our children and our children’s children will build their relationships on.
Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose – don’t ever quit in taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
Why would you trade enduring intimacies for cheap thrills with a whore? (TMB)
This isn’t pointed just at the men here; remember it’s all interchangeable so ladies you can see it from the woman’s perspective too:
Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the husband you married as a young girl! Strong and muscular, handsome and brave – don’t ever stop enjoying his body. Never take his love for granted. Why would you want cheap thrills with a smooth talking stranger? (My interpretation)
Marriage is work, a full time job, with each person giving one-hundred percent, one-hundred percent of the time. Each person thinking more of the other person than they do of themselves and each one willing to compromise, forgive, and reach out to the other. There is no “Happily Ever After”. But there can be years of happiness, blessings, and contentment if we continue down the path of wisdom.
Proverbs 5 ends with this reminder:
For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and He ponders all his paths. His own inequities entrap the wicked man, and he is caught in the cords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray. (NKJV)
God is watching His children, his creation and He sees that man creates his own problems through his own willful decisions and sins. All He can do is watch as long as people turn away from his instructions and wisdom.
Death is the reward of an undisciplined life; your foolish decisions trap you in a dead end. (TMB)
© 2012 miss_jkim
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