It is your duty
It is your duty.
"But if the watchman sees the sword coming and does not blow the trumpet to warn the people and the sword comes and takes someone's life, that person's life will be taken because of their sin, but I will hold the watchman accountable for their blood. Ezekiel 3:18 New International Version
The watchmen in Ezekiel’s day walked the walls or stood guard in towers in a duty to watch for an approaching enemy. If they saw an enemy coming and did not blow a trumpet, they were responsible for anybody that was killed and forfeited their lives. As Christians it is our duty to politely warn someone when there is danger. If you see someone living a sinful life it is your duty to discreetly bring it to their attention. If you don’t their misery will be on your hands on the Day of Judgment.
Now of course of you see someone going down the path of destruction (say you see them begin a bad relationship like say starting to go out with party animals) it is always best to discuss the matter discreetly with a trained councilor so they will help you take the best course of action. To just go out and be in their face and be judgmental will drive them away from you and into the very danger you are trying to protect them from.
Now sometimes in life we all have to learn things in the school of hard knocks. The lesson from pain will not be repeated again, at least not by a wise man or woman. There will be times, especially when they are teenagers and they think they know everything but no nothing that they are going to be attending this class. We have all been there.
I know I am an honour student but have learned to listen to others and to the Holy Spirit. Strange thing is that since that has occurred there has been a lot less trouble in my life and much more peace and contentment. As a consequence it has been awhile since I have been in that class.
Once you have discreetly, please do not try to discuss the subject in public as then they could feel shame and will rebel, discussed the topic it is in their hands.
Why not instead go to a quiet place like a café and sit in a booth. You need to be in public to protect yourself. If you feel strongly about it then come another time with some friends. An important thing is to ask them their feelings on why they are doing this behavior.
Do not be judgmental. Just take it point by point and ask them their opinion. When your meeting is over, you leave the papers there with them. They may initially reject you but take the papers home. There the Holy Spirit will work on them. If they refuse to listen to the Holy Spirit, they sure won’t; listen to you.
Now if you have to work with them or attend class with them, you will have to be polite and not be a snob. It is okay to still talk with them.
If the occasion occurs that you see their fall, do not gloat over it and tell them I told you so. Instead why not have a story ready to share with them where you made a stupid mistake or someone you know, that is okay if you share they story, made a boner. Then they will be grateful to you and maybe then you can share with them the good news.
There are however, people that are doomed to be perpetual members of the S and S Club, stupid and stubborn. They will never admit they are wrong. Theirs is a life of un-necessary hardship. There is nothing you can do to help these pitiful people. I have met many of them and believe me, their lives are nothing but misery and hardship.
Wisdom is learning from what life has taught us. Stupidity is refusing to learn from life’s lessons and continuously repeating the same mistakes. Joseph Anthony Green
Now concerning members in a church: if you see someone living a sinful nature you are to confront them about it in a loving manner, if they refuse to listen take some elders with you, if they still refuse to listen cast them out of the church.
You say you don’t want to hurt their feeling, well think about this: if you do not confront them and they go on sinning. On judgment day the will be cast into hell, they will look at you and cry out” why didn’t you warn me!!” What about the young impressive members in your church, this evil one can and will lead them away into damnation. Their blood as well is on your hands.
“If your brother or sistersins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.” Matthew 18:15-17 New International Version
Now do pagans have any place in Christ’s kingdom? No. Then what place do they have in a church?
Think of a bunch of grapes, if one goes bad do you allow it to stay? No. Why not? Because it will make the whole bunch go bad. So too it is with an unrepentant member.
Prayer: Jehovah Rabbi (Jesus our teacher) please teach us to have wisdom to spot the wolves amongst the sheep and the discernment to rid our church of their destructive presence. I ask in the name of He would cleansed the temple Jesus Christ. Amen.
May the sunshine of Jesus’ sweet love bless you today and every day.