The Jewish Marriage Analogy in Revelation

The ancient traditional Jewish marriage ceremony tells us a lot about how to understand Revelation, the last book of the New Testament. Jesus used Jewish marriage customs in his parables—recorded in the four gospel accounts—even referring to himself as the groom.

In his reply to a question, for example, about his disciples not fasting, he suggests in Matthew 9:15 that while he is yet with them is not the time for mourning. He does this by referring to guests at a wedding not being sad while the groom is with them, as an analogy.

Analogy to the Jewish wedding ceremony is also used in Revelation. I will look at some of the ways this is done. First, consider this summary of the traditional Jewish marriage customs, before the eleventh century when engagement and wedding ceremonies were still separate events.

Jewish Marriage Tradition - Summarized

  • A young man brings his father to knock on the front door of a young woman’s family.
  • A Jewish prenuptial agreement is made with the prospective girl’s father, agreeing on a price.
  • This and the rights and responsibilities of the groom, in relation to the bride, are outlined in the ketubah (marriage contract) as protection for the future wife.

Jewish bride waits with a lit lamp

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Jewish bridegroom comes to fetch his waiting bride

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  • Witnesses sign or seal this contract. In Christ’s time it was a Roman custom to have 7 witnesses. The prospective bride drinks the wine the young man pours as a sign of her acceptance.
  • Any betrothed Jewish man of Jesus’ time would not know his exact wedding date. No one knew the day or the hour, except the groom’s father. The groom did not fetch his bride until his father determined the groom had sufficiently completed the bridal chamber.
  • The Jewish bride was in a state of constant preparation after the signing of the wedding contract. She focuses on preparing items for her home, and each evening she waits with a lit lamp, until falling asleep.
  • One night, before midnight, upon seeing the lit lamp, the bridegroom comes. The groom’s party arrives with trumpets and a great noise, letting the whole neighborhood know the wedding is about to take place.

Where this marriage analogy is used in Revelation

In the following table, the left column expands on this summary of a Jewish marriage. Each row states a step in the process. The right column refers to where in Revelation this step is used as an analogy, and what it may symbolize. (References of help to other parts of the Bible are included in parentheses.)

Jewish Marriage Tradition
Symbolism Used in Revelation
Young woman's father opens to the knock, if his daughter wishes to see if terms for betrothal and functioning marriage can be arranged.
The Lord's message to His church is that He is knocking, so commit to God and repent, 3:19-20. Be faithful, not lukewarm, to be Christ's bride.
Young man writes a Ketubah, a contract (or covenant) that is witnessed and sealed.
The Lamb being slain prepared the way for the new covenant, 5:6-7.
He presents it to the intended bride, included with a 'bride price.'
The Lamb receives the contract for which He paid the price, 5:8.
Prospective bride drinks the wine he pours, if she accepts the proposal, sealing the contract and they are considered betrothed.
His church (saints) accepts the new covenant with The Lamb, the only one worthy, 5:9-10.
Prospective bridegroom gives gifts to his beloved, announcing, "I am going to prepare a place for you," and "I will return for you when it is ready.
Listen to what the Spirit is saying, 2:7. His gifts are the Holy Spirit and peace (Jhn 14:2-3, 27).
He then takes his leave to build a honeymoon room onto his father's house. Prospective bride waits for him to return and collect her.
No one could enter the sanctuary in heaven until the seven plagues were completed, 15:1, 8.
The bride customarily keeps ready a lamp, her veil and her other things beside her bed.
The saints repent, remain faithful, committed and alert and hold on to what they have, 2-3.
When young man's father approves the wedding chamber as ready, the bridegroom comes after sunset to steal his bride away like a 'thief,' between 6 and midnight.
The Lamb comes and His wife is ready, 19:7; alert (1Th 5:1-4); not foolish (Mat 25:1-13); not evil or unaware (Luk 12:37-41; 21-34-35).
Unannounced the groom and his friends come close to the bride's house. If bride's welcoming light is in her window, he gives a shout and a 'shofar' is blown to let her know he has come.
Jesus comes and gathers to Himself those with the Spirit (inner light), 14:16; descending with a shout and the trumpet of God (1Th 4:16-17; Mat 25:6). Welcomes Him as King, 19:6, 16!
(If the light is not in her window, he leaves. The bride is the only one who could still back out before the marriage consummation.)
An angel harvests the 'grapes' (those destined for wrath, who reject Christ) and throws them out for God's wrath, 14:19; 19:15.
Marriage ceremony takes place. (The Jewish chuppah or canopy symbolizes the wedding chamber.)
Marriage takes place in heaven, 19:7-8.
Honeymoon in the wedding chamber.
Those who are written in His book of life, The Lamb's bride, are taken into the New Jerusalem, 21:9-27. (Jhn 14:1-3; Ps 27:5)
The couple emerges to join the feast, celebrating with the wedding guests for seven days.
Blessed are those invited to the Lamb's marriage feast, 19:9.

Do you think the scroll with seven seals seen in Revelation 5:1 is like the Ketubah, or marriage contract?

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Some questions

In looking at this Jewish marriage analogy used in Revelation, we see it is a revelation of Jesus Christ coming for His waiting bride. An understanding of Jewish marriage customs helps us begin to see what this analogy may symbolize and thus be saying to us.

For example, here are some questions this analogy brings to mind:

  1. Do you think the Ketubah, or marriage contract (in row two), is the scroll with seven seals seen in Revelation 5:1? Could it be the Father saying it is time for His Son to go fetch His bride from the earth?
  2. Customarily, under Roman law, wills were sealed with seven seals, each from a witness to the validity of the will. All the seals then must be opened before the scroll can be read. When is the scroll fully opened in Revelation?

What do you think all this tells us about what the scroll symbolizes?

© 2011 Deidre Shelden

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dahoglund 5 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

This informed me on Jewish wedding customs that I did not know about.I appreciate the information.


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Charlotte B Plum 5 years ago

Wow this was absolutely fascinating and interesting to read. Thank you so much for sharing this with us!


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gracenotes 5 years ago from North Texas

Ms. Dee,

This is a fantastic hub. I like the pictures and the chart, as they are illustrative.

I've always been fascinated with the Parable of the Ten Virgins (in Matthew) for reasons related to this hub.


Sueswan 5 years ago

An interesting read Ms. Dee.


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Tamarajo 5 years ago from Southern Minnesota

I enjoyed your study Ms. Dee. I wished our modern wedding ceremonies were more like the ancient ones so we could live in these timely and living object lessons of eternal truths.


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Ms Dee 5 years ago from Texas, USA Author

Tamarajo, thanks for letting me know. Yes, there is so much meaning symbolized in the traditional ceremonies. :)


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b. Malin 5 years ago

Very Educational Ms Dee, and Enlightening as well. I also enjoyed looking at the Pictures and Chart. Well done, my Friend.


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Ms Dee 5 years ago from Texas, USA Author

Hi b. Malin! This analogy sheds a lot of light on understanding Revelation and the order of events depicted. I'm working on another hub article to try to show more of this.


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Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

Wow, Thank you so much. Before I read this, I had never understood Matthew 25:1-13. I just read it and now I undertand it completely! Thank you so much!


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Ms Dee 4 years ago from Texas, USA Author

Michele, context is so important for understanding Scripture. I had not really understood the parable of the 10 virgins either, until I saw how it related to the Jewish marriage tradition. Glad you gained from your read of this :).


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serenityjmiller 18 months ago from Brookings, SD

Excellent overview. Are you familiar with Martha Lawley's work on this topic?


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Ms Dee 18 months ago from Texas, USA Author

serenity, No, I'd not come across her work. I see she's written about Jewish tradition in relation to the Bride of Christ. Thank you for referring me to her!

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