My Honor is my Life

The quote: “My honor is my life”, comes from a series of Dragon-lance books, fantasy sort of writing. I do not usually touch non-fiction but the Dragon-lance series is an exception: I like Dragons. I am not writing about dragons though. I want to focus on this quote here, which really defines a big part of who I am.

I have always been of the opinion (and I have written previously a little about it), that I can lose anything in this life: wealth, relationships, even body parts and such ... but my word, I cannot ever lose, unless I give it up. Nobody can take it from me unless I freely give it-up myself. I chose to die with it: I will die with honor.

I first became aware of the concept of honor in my childhood, when I came across information about the samurai – the Japanese warrior. It truly moved me, that a samurai needed permission to commit suicide (harakiri). Death had to be an honorable event. I really admired that will-power: everything in honor!

My grandfather on my mother`s side is a great example of the honor which my Dacian ancestors held in such high esteem. Herodotus actually wrote about my ancestors as being the most brave and honorable out of all Thracians. My grandfather always spoke to me about honor. He read me stories as a kid about Dacian kings who fought bravely to defend our people. Some fell on their swords or cut their own throat in order to not be captured and enslaved. Honor ...

So, I try to live my life in honor and I make no compromises. I would rather leave this world than to give-up my honor.

I am sometimes seen as insensible because I always speak my mind. Well, I would rather hurt someone`s feeling than damage their Spirit. That is what happens when we give-up on honor – we give-up on our Spirit. We allow it to be tainted and corrupted.

I also understand why some people think I am stuck-up. I always speak of doing the right thing, at whatever cost because doing the right thing in my opinion is price-less. I don`t compromise in the face of Truth. I find excuses boring and most of the time nonsensical. For me, nothing matters but the Truth.

The other label I often get is that I am an idealist and that I am looking for a utopia. This is a misunderstanding. There will always be mistakes. Life is a bit of a trial-and-error game. In that sense, we can never have a perfect world. I understand mistakes, I make mistakes myself ... what I don`t understand is greed, viciousness, laziness, bullying and such ... that is what I am after ... `till my dying day.

`My honor is my life` because I am a Warrior of the Light and a Hunter of Knowledge.


P.S. I read a hub not long ago which inspired this piece of writing. Thank You, Mrs. Simone Smith. : ) Here is her piece of writing about radical honesty: http://simonesmith.hubpages.com/video/Radical-Honesty

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Daughter Of Maat 4 years ago from Rural Central Florida

Thank you for writing this, Mr. Happy. It seems we have a lot in common. Many people find me arrogant, and condescending, but it's simply a matter of integrity. I have very high standards for not only myself, but others, and I have met only one person (my husband) that has ever met those standards. I have cut all ties with my best friends when I found out their integrity was not what I once thought it was. Consequently, I have few friends. I prefer it that way. I'd rather have just my husband and my daughter than sacrifice my integrity to have friends with a much lower standard. This also applies to my family. My mother pretends to have high standards but then attempts to manipulate everyone around her in order to gain control. I haven't spoken to her in years.

It's very sad the state of integrity today. Many people I think don't know what the word means. I always make my decisions slowly and deliberately. I have to know in my heart and soul it was the right choice, because my integrity will hopefully be how I am remembered.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for your comment Daughter of Maat. It is my opinion that without morals, we are in trouble. Many people pretend ... they are good with words and at building their facades. That's about it though. There's nothing but emptiness inside.

All the very best! : )


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Daughter Of Maat 4 years ago from Rural Central Florida

I agree, and those that build those facades are experts at keeping them strong. It hurts to find out your wrong about someone after you've spent so much time an energy building a relationship and putting your trust in them. It's quite disappointing. And then people wonder why no one trusts anyone anymore.

Blessed be! :D


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watergeek 4 years ago

Hah! I just had a spat with my sister and a brother over integrity/honor. They don't understand what it is. They kept telling me, "It's just a game" (the object of the spat). I replied, "No, it's bigger than that. It's about integrity, trust, and mutual respect. You don't just take something that isn't yours, that has emotional significance for the person it belongs to, and then lie about it, whitewash your role in it, or tell me that family relationships are more important and I should just give in to the theft of it." This isn't the first time that integrity has been an issue with us. I have finally decided to minimize those relationships and give my energy to relationships I can trust . . . which is to say, those with integrity. Because how can you trust someone who is pretending to be someone else? Or trying to make you be someone else for whatever reason that benefits them more than you? And my own role? I need to share who I am more clearly and more often.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for the conversation Daughter of Maat. : )

And thank You very much for being who You are. All the very best!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

I understand your concerns Watergeek ... it's a little sad when there is discord between family members. With patience, You will overcome and be successful in teaching others just through leading by example.

Thank You and may Wakan Tanka walk with You.


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lmmartin 4 years ago from Alberta and Florida

Like Daughter of Maat, I set high standards of truth for myself, but unlike her, I do not set them for other people. I prefer to keep a charitable heart to others. If they lie, I ask myself why they are driven to do so and make an effort to understand with compassion. I accept others as they are, not as I wish them to be. To me, this is part of my honor, to view my fellows with acceptance and understanding. They do not injure me by their dishonorable actions, only themselves. I am far from perfect so why should I demand perfection from others and lastly, though I may keep my actions to my own standards, I can not, will not and do not expect others to see life and honor as I do. I prefer to treat those around me with love and compassion, understanding and acceptance. Thanks for an interesting read, as always, Happy. Lynda


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings Mrs. Lynda : )

Nice to see You here as always.

I have to disagree with: "They do not injure me by their dishonorable actions, only themselves." We are all One, we are happy together and we hurt together, in my opinion. When One hurts, we All hurt.

As I said in my above writing, I understand mistakes. I make them myself too. And like I also said, I am not looking for perfection, mistakes will always happen as it is part of the learning experience (again in my opinion). There is no utopia that I am trying to establish.

Yet, there are those who are out to step on other heads in order to get higher. That I will not accept. It is all in the intention I suppose.

Thak You for taking the time to read and comment.

P.S. I am going to come by again to your hub on contraception. I briefly looked at it yesterday and had some laughs. I love your sarcasm! Cheers.


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reikieffect 4 years ago

Multiple Blessings Mr. Happy! Sometime ago values like these where taught at home; today we need to go back to basics and teach our kids with words and examples. Thanks for bringing this up to our attention!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

I agree with You Mrs. Reikkieffect, in that education is extremely important. The problem I see, is that kids are not really taught much in school nowadays.

And honor is something that many do not even think about.

Many, many thanks for taking the time to read and comment.

May Wakan Tanka guide your path! : )


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SilentReed 4 years ago from Philippines

Can we equate "honor" with integrity of character? Like "love" it has been warped or distorted to suit the moral scruples of individuals, class or society. So many wars, death and human sufferings have been cause by "honor" that it becomes a form of moral hypocrisy. I also admire the samurai's code of Bushido. But I do not think it should be adapted in our daily interaction with others. Too inflexible :)


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings SilentReed,

If You like the word integrity better, yes for sure we can use that word. It is all the same for me really: honor, honesty, integrity, character, etc.

The important part I suppose, is to be truthful.

Thank You for taking the time to read and comment. Cheers!


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watergeek 4 years ago

I like the word "integrity" better too, for the same reason SilentReed does. And along with that, for me, goes "transparency" or walking your talk. It's hard for me to trust people who don't walk their talk, although I will associate casually with them.

I also find that kind of person difficult to work with. Like I'll be told that our company is ready to market electrical/water combination audits, only to find when I have recruited a prospect, that they're not at all ready - that they had no intention of it, unless someone were to pay them first for this skill they don't have. So then I look like a liar and can't trust the people I work with. Happens all the time in business. (I quit that company recently in order to freelance.)

I'm focusing now on being the kind of person I want to associate with, assuming that the Law of Attraction will bring me like-minded people. It seems to be working. Sounds like Daughter of Maat is doing the same thing.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Yes, the Secret works indeed Mr. Watergeek!!

I am happy to find like-minded people coming to visit and comment.

All the very best to You Sir! Keep up the great work. I thank You, especially in the name of Water. : )


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Natashalh 4 years ago from Hawaii

I understand what you mean. I essentially lost the job I'd always thought I wanted because I insisted on doing the correct (and very unpopular) thing. It's really nice to read about others who care about making good decisions.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for your comment Mrs. Natashalh. I am not sure how not doing the correct thing/ right thing, is even conceivable ... why not do things properly if we chose to do things? I value your attitude.

And I greatly apreciate You taking the time to stop-by. All the very best!


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Spirit Whisperer 4 years ago from Isle of Man

Honour means different things to different people. One thing they each have in common is their unflinching belief that their interpretation is the right one. So right in fact they would die for it! Here is a woman speaking of " izat " which means honour in Arabic.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=98bc0rrDB94&list=FL...

Thank you.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings Mr. Spirit Whisperer,

everything means something different if we start looking for differences. Cheers!

P.S. I think your example was of mental illnesses. Thank You for taking the time to read and comment.


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Scottye Davis 4 years ago

One of my favorite sayings is "I would rather die on my feet, than live on my knees."

I enjoyed the Dragon Lance series immensely and would like to read them again someday. (it has been many years). People today don't think about honor or care, they worship the mighty dollar and forsake all to attain it.


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Spirit Whisperer 4 years ago from Isle of Man

You said "everything means something different"

How does this fit your theory of "nothing"? LOL!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Bonjour Monsieur Spirit Whisperer,

I believe I said that "everything means something different if we start looking for differences". I put a condition there. Cheers! : ) Haha ...


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for taking the time to read and comment Mrs. Scottye Davis. I do think we should give honor a bit of thought sometimes ... I value your words, cheers! : )


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Marcy Goodfleisch 4 years ago from Planet Earth

You have a very impressive history of rich values in your ancestry. I like the way you wove your heritage into the overall topic of this hub; it shows that honor is ingrained in your entire upbringing. Very interesting way to approach the topic - thanks for the good read!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for taking the time to read and comment Mrs. Marcy Goodfleisch. Even though I have been in North America for roughly twenty years, having grown-up in Romania has instilled in me (for better or worse) some morals and values I cannot ignore.

I apreciate your comment. Cheers!


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Gareth Pritchard 4 years ago from North Wales

Hi Mr.Happy, I have read this a couple of times now and it has turned out to be a little bit of a learning experience.

I would never have given any great thought to the word honor because it is used in ways such as this:

Honourable or ( US ) Honorable, a title of respect placed before a name: employed before the names of various officials in the English-speaking world, as a courtesy title in Britain for the children of viscounts and barons and the younger sons of earls, and in Parliament by one member speaking of another.

(The Right Honourable David Cameron PC MP, Prime Minister of the United Kingdom.)

As far as I am concerned politicians are the last people to be blessed with honor because they change with opinion, that's how they manage to get the positions in the first place, an old joke on this subject(you can always tell when a politician is telling lies because their lips move)rings very true to me.

Even worse, I didn't really know what the word meant to be honest because I would have used the word principled, a person of great principle to describe what you and others are talking about. Something which I have been accused of myself and just like everybody else, have been ridiculed for being so, by a society with very few principles, if any, beyond selfishness, me, me, me, philosophy. A philosophy which trickles down from the so called (Right Honourable's) who are mostly liers.

Then there are the kings and queens of the world, who are also labeled as being honorable, with all of them being mass murders, thieves and bullies, who also contribute to the same trickle down, me, me, me, philosophy and even if they are not directly these things, they are the direct decedents of such people. So because the word honor has been so Savagely miss used and appropriated I would say you and others commenting on the page have great principles.

Thank you for the education, BoGareth.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for the entertaining comment Mr. Pritchard.

"The Right Honourable David Cameron" - Ya, that's hilarious! Sounds more like an oxymoron putting Cameron and honor in the same sentence. They go together like oil and water ...

You are so very right in what You wrote about: "Then there are the kings and queens of the world, who are also labeled as being honorable, with all of them being mass murders, thieves and bullies".

We seem to have serious issues world-wide with leaders being corrupt, crooked and rotten. I think things will change soon! Cheers. : )

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