Reaching Our Real Life Role

“One’s real life is so often the life that one does not lead.” –Oscar Wilde

So often in life, many of us assume roles that we were never meant to play. We are born into dysfunctional families and taught to be what others want us to be. There is confusion about who we are deep inside, why it is that we can’t experience the life we envisioned for ourselves deep down in our hearts.

When I was growing up, a lot of my friends wanted to be teachers. A few other people I knew wanted to be doctors and counselors and create lives for themselves that would profoundly touch the lives of others. They wanted to leave behind a legacy. I have found out that some of those people achieved their dreams. They became the living example of their innate greatness. For those people, I have much admiration, respect and awe for who they are and what they have accomplished.

You have all heard that song, “Shower the People” by James Taylor, right? It’s from the 70’s for some of you younger people who might not know it. It’s an awesome song! It says, “You can play the game and you can act out the part though you know it wasn't written for you...” So many people are good at that, yet inside, they are dying because they haven’t been true to themselves. Often times, they don’t even know who their “true self” really is. They have played the part of a martyr, a victim, a rescuer, a caretaker, a bully, a controller, a masochist, a cheat, a liar – sometimes, all in vain. Sometimes, they realize that those roles were meant to be played in order for them to rise above those roles and become true to who the really are.

We were born to be Light, to bring peace and forgiveness. To make a difference, to bring wisdom, laughter, hope, encouragement, faith, empathy, understanding, and love. That isn’t because we were meant to be perfect. We are perfect, even in our imperfection. We were born to bring all this goodness because we were meant to express Who We Truly Are and in Whose Image It Is That We Were Meant to Reflect.

Without all those positive attributes, we would have no concept of our greatness. We would have no experience other than that of darkness. Because we are human and here on this earth, we have been shown the dichotomy in all of life: the dark, the light, the up, the down, the good, the bad, the easy, the difficult – all to experience the feeling of the opposites of each of those. We could not know we were happy unless we had the knowledge of sad, for example. If 100% of the world was happy 100% of the time, how would we know we were happy? We would have nothing to compare it to, would we? The opposites of each experience, feeling, action or thought are all there to give us the experience of our S-E-L-F = Spirit Expressing Living Fully! And that, my friends, is who God is, the Spirit part of us that is living on this earth as a human being – God in human form, as it were. And that is where we all are privileged with the dwelling inside of our innate greatness!

Please keep in mind that all this thought is my experience, my understanding and my perception of the world. I am not trying to convince anyone that I am totally right at all! All thoughts are valid and all perceptions have some truth, even if it’s small. Thanks for reading and thanks for pondering a different viewpoint!

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imatellmuva 5 years ago from Somewhere in Baltimore

I'm back Lene...(a little under the weather). I am still searching. I've always felt that I missed my calling, and am trying to prevail with a drastic change to do just that! Your hubs, are like reminders, nudges, to do something more, to grasp hold of and create your destiny.

As always...thank you!!


Lene Lynn 5 years ago

Muva, so sorry to hear you aren't feeling well. I DO hope you get better soon! I feel the same way you do and I am doing the same thing you are this year, doing drastic things to find my calling! I KNOW what it is, I just have to make it happen! :) You are very welcome! Take good care of yourself! :)

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