Reflections of Honor
honesty, fairness, or integrity in one's beliefs and actions
Honor is a "biggy" in life. Honor is idealistically reminiscent of knights in shining armor and lovebirds quoting wedding vows. It's a very high standard that many people only give lip-service to, out of lack of understanding the true meaning of the word or out of apathy in choosing to reflect that meaning. The above Dictionary.com definition of honor seems to be the one to which I most relate. The word "integrity" literally means, "
honesty, fairness, ethics, and moral character" so the two words are intertwined. The ethics and moral character in integrity are, in my perspective, the definition of someone who walks what they talk and means what they say. Words and actions are congruent in a person of honor.
Honor is about having honesty about yourself. It's about being true to who you are. You can't live one way in the daytime and then at night, go out and do something totally opposite of what you have portrayed yourself to be during the day. Honor is also "getting real" with what you are doing and why you are doing it. Honor says, "Hey self! Just remember - denial is not a river in Egypt!" Don't lie to yourself about your words, actions or motives because if you do, you can never be truly honest to anyone else in your life! Of course, D-E-N-I-A-L stands for, "Don't Even kNow I Am Lying!"
Many times, we have a hard time dealing with our true motives. Sometimes, we aren't consciously aware of why we do what we do. That's where the reflection comes in. That's when the determination to be truly free from our self-deception may be the best reason to motivate us to do some deep thinking. Soul-searching, in and of itself, will bring so much freedeom, so much relief to a broken spirit, that it can't even be described in words!
So many times, we are so used to the "comfortable misery" we have been dwelling in, that we feel as if there is no way out. That no better way exists. We fear what would happen if we did put forth the effort to have a more peaceful existence. We fear that if we spoke our own truth, if we believed in our innnate greatness, if we got the gumption to stand on our own two feet and speak up, we would fall apart and our lives would fall apart with us. Remember, F-E-A-R stands for: False Expectations Appearing Real. We feel that if we chose to step out of our self-imposed box, that life might just have too much Light, too much serenity, too much joy and we aren't used to that.
Then the most amazing thing happens! We put our chin up, we stand in the face of fear and walk through it rather than around it and then - miracle of miracles - we realize that the Light is what calms us and comforts us. The serenity is what centers us and gets us to thinking logical, rational, focused thought. The joy we feel is beyond any kind of happiness we have ever experienced! You remember I spoke of "The Difference Between Joy and Happiness " in one of my first articles. The joy we experience when we choose to live an honorable life, is so deep, so consuming, that we do come to understand another truth about life in general. That truth is: happiness really is based solely on happenings . Joy is an indelible, constant peace, love, contentment, positive attitude, no matter where we are or what we are doing! It's one of the most amazing freedoms we have!
Like I have said, the important stuff of life (being honorable, free, at peace, centered and content) is definitely worth striving for!
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