Expedite Spiritual Growth by Recognizing Relationship Villains

4 Ways to Spot YOUR Relationship Villains

What are Relationship Villains?

Relationship Villains are entities who are our closest universal friends when we are on the other side of the veil, but for this incarnation, they have volunteered to play the part of “the bad guy” to help us cross something important off of our spiritual “must learn” list for this incarnation. They might be people who simply annoy us, or even those we consider to be our so-called enemies. They create (or co-create) unpleasant situations that open windows of opportunity for us to learn and grow, or they may take action that forces us to stay on our chosen path so we can accomplish our learning/growth in what will ultimately be a less dramatic or painful way.

Who are Relationship Villains?

Relationship Villains can be anyone and everywhere. Look for them especially in romantic relationships, family relationships, and work relationships, but they will also turn up at school, at the grocery store, at the airport, the DMV, and anywhere you happen to be! They can be someone you have an on-going relationship with, or someone you interact just once or twice. When you learn the lesson, your relationship with your “relationship villain” will become much more palatable (this is usually the case when the “villain” is a family member) or your relationship will end because your mission together is over (often happens with friends).

How Can I Spot MY Relationship Villains?

Since Relationship Villains are catalysts for opening window of opportunity throughout our lives, we look for them the same we look for windows of opportunity—by looking for patterns and life scripts.

To spot relationship villains in your life at the present time:

(1) Are you involved in on-going arguments or unpleasant situations that are continually caused by the same person ? If “Yes,” that person is probably a relationship villain working very hard to help you learn a lesson. Consider the circumstance and look for patterns to help you figure out your lesson.

(2) If you are involved in a car accident, or someone “does you wrong” at work, it is most likely a relationship villain providing you with a window of opportunity for growth. How you react to the situation will dictate whether you go through the window or draw a similar circumstance to you again in the future.

(3) If someone “bullies” you—they are definitely a relationship villain and will learn as much from you as you will from them. The best way to deal with a bully is to stand up to him/her, learn the lesson, and be free to move on to other learning experiences.

To spot relationship villains from your past (AND keep them from turning up in the future):

(4) Do a mini-life review and look at situations surrounding people you feel have “done you wrong” and those in your life that you find particularly annoying or you whom you consider to be your enemies. Carefully review the circumstances around your interaction with them and ask yourself these questions: Did I learn anything from my experience with this person? Would things have been different for me if I had handled the situation differently? You may find that the people you think “did you wrong” actually made things better for you in the long run.


Sherri Cortland is the author of Windows of Opportunity and Raising Our Vibrations for the New Age. For more about expediting spiritual growth, raising our vibrations, and getting through the shift with less drama and pain, please visit www.SherriCortland.com or www.Ozarkmt.com. Sherri’s books are also available at Amazon.com, Barnes&Noble.com, and Barnes & Noble stores.

Comments 17 comments

skoehler 7 years ago

I love your book! It is well written and really gets to the heart of experiences we have all had in our lives.

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Mike Dennis 7 years ago

Sherri Cortland's is a powerful and wise voice with much to impart. She reminds us that "None" of us are victims and we can truly create the "Relationship" that we dream of. Her book Windows Of Opportunity possesses many pearls of wisdom. Michael Dennis

Kathy Seeley 7 years ago

I hope to learn more from Sherri Cortland. She truly makes you think about what you did in the past and how to handle it in the future. I learned a lot from her articles.

Sandra 7 years ago

With so many things to learn, most of us would give up. However, Sherri shows us a direct route to identifying our Relationship Villains which will allow us to reconize them sooner and allow us to get a better insight into ourselves. I can't wait for her book to be published.

Tony Petraco 7 years ago

Good stuff indeed.

Heidi Winkler 7 years ago

A definite must read for those interested in the "big" picture. A true insight into how much we really are responsible for our own actions and decisions.

Susan Brennan 7 years ago

A great wake-up call reminding us to bring more awareness to every minute of our day. Otherwise we just keep repeating or mistakes and miss our "windows of opportunity" to move on. Absolutely facinating.

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Debra_Rose 7 years ago from New York

Now I am not only looking at the role others play in my life, i'm examining the role I play in theirs. Fascinating.

Linda 7 years ago

Sherri Cortland knows her stuff. Have heard interviews on radio also, very impressive with her knowledge. Wise beyond her years here on earth. Please keep writing!!!

Jennifer Rakoczy 7 years ago

Makes you stop and think about who you've been spending your time with.

ezmarelda 7 years ago

Things are starting to make some sense! Time to put it all together and learn a lesson.

imaneogirl 7 years ago

I'm going to join your fan club right now!

Leigh Herr 7 years ago

Wow! As I look around me at the various places I interact with people, I now see everything from a different perspective. I think of the people who antagonize me and instead of dreading interaction with them, I will try to remember these pearls of wisdom!

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IsabellaRothchild 7 years ago from Orlando, FL

I will keeping my eyes peeled for "windows of opportunities" in the future. Thanks for the insight and new perspective.

Monica Grant 7 years ago

I wish I read this hub before I read your others, and I wish I knew about relatinship villains years ago. This is a great hub!

Steven Scott 7 years ago

This hub explains a lot about Relationship Villains, but read the book--there is much more detailed information in her book.

Terri Marinaro 7 years ago

What a wonderful article. We can find peace within the chaos simply by changing the way we look at things. Isn't that special???!!! Just like they say, "Love the one you're with".

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