Celibacy and the Single Christian

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Intimacy is not really talked about in the Born Again Christian Community. We just don't talk about it. Sure we have marriage seminars, sermons about marriage and the family and private couples counseling (usually before marriage) but rarely is the topic of relationships and singles ever mentioned or addressed in the pulpit or in literature. But, you know what, God talks about relationships in his word! And he has quite a lot to say on the subject. The book of Song of Solomon is all about it. How many sermons have you heard on the Song of Solomon? I've never heard one. Recently I read the book “Real Sex” by Lauren Winner. It is one of the best books on the single Christian I've ever read. It addressed issues, problems and challenges of single Christians while at the same time not coming across as condescending or judgmental. I highly recommend the book.

My own journey as a single Christian has been fraught with many pitfalls, some I've fallen into and some I've avoided. I am a single Christian and have been all my life. I'm 53, female, single and a single parent so I'm no virgin. One of my pet peeves when reading books about single Christians is that more often than not they are written by “married” Christians. Even Lauren Winner got married before finishing the book. Maybe I should write my own book, ha ha! Seriously, it always bothered me that the people writing these books or articles were no longer in the trenches sort of speak. So I wanted to write my own point of view on the single Christian as a single Christian that is still in the trenches.

Just Say "No" to premarital relations!

I almost didn't become a Christian because of the prohibition on premarital relations! I just couldn't figure out how God could put such a terrible restraint on people as to forbid them from having intimate relationships before they got married. I mean what if I never married? What if I had to remain single my whole life. Just the thought threw me into a depression. However, God, being God overwhelmed me with His presence one day and I took the plunge and became a born again Christian. Consequently, I started praying for a husband like the day after I became a Christian :).

Further down the road I took the road most traveled and fell off the wagon. I ended up getting pregnant out of wedlock and having my son (who is now over 30). I never married and I've always struggled in this area. So what is a single Christian to do when God clearly forbids intimacy outside of marriage and yet created us as intimate beings? It seems so unfair of Him, how are we to wrap our minds around this? Moreover, just telling single Christians that God says no doesn't really work. Single Christians are intimate beings as we all are and one of the reasons they fall into sin is that they don't understand the reasoning behind the prohibition or the love of God to such as extent that all other passions are dwarfed. Furthermore, many single Christians do not have the support of the church when it comes to this area. Sure they are told "NO", and that is biblical, but they are not supported by being included or addressed within the body of Christ. This needs to change.

Lauren Winner's Book

In Lauren Winner's book she discusses God's view and His purpose for our relationships. She writes that intimacy is not a private affair. That intimacy, from God's point of view (which is the correct point of view by the way) is a community affair. By this she means that the relationships affect everyone. If a couple are intimate and they get pregnant outside of marriage that affects the community. If a couple are intimate and they break up that affects the people involved, often involving broken hearts and broken lives thereby affecting the next person or persons that couple involve themselves with. If a couple are intimate and acquire a disease unless that couple remains monogamous that also affects other people and therefore the greater community. Intimacy is a community affair and I would submit a national and even world affair. We are told that intimacy is private but there is nothing private about it, it affects the community and world around us, and, it affects us in a big way. If you are over 50, just think about what things were like in your neighborhood growing up. My neighborhood was filled with intact families, children ran around and played in the streets and mothers were home to cook dinner. Today, that is a rare sight indeed. Consequently, if a couple wait to be intimate before marriage, commit themselves to God and to each other, have a healthy relationship, that too affects the community. It strengthens it.


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Are Single Christians treated like Second Class Citizens in the Church?

I never understood this before. Previously, I always just felt sorry for myself and looked upon myself as a second class citizen as a single Christian in the Christian community. The church never helped me counter that self description and in fact seemed to encourage it. I always had to muster up my sheer willpower to act in obedience to the prohibition against intimacy outside of marriage while never understanding God's reasoning behind it. Furthermore, the loneliness that many Christians experience in the body of Christ is shameful and ought not to be. Many single Christians are ignored, secluded and thought of as incomplete within the church. That is why I wanted to write this article and start this discussion. It's hard enough to practice a celibate lifestyle but it is especially difficult when you don't understand the reasoning behind it and are shunned whether purposely or accidentally by the church.

The World's View of Intimacy

Today, our world upholds intimacy as the highest form of relationship. It is used to sell everything. Furthermore, I don't think anyone would deny that we are obsessed with it. However, as Christians we are called to a higher obsession. We are called to obsess with God. The very first commandment is to Love God with all your heart, all your strength, and all your mind and to love your neighbor as yourself. Because intimacy has replaced God in our culture we have sown the wind and reaped the whirlwind. We live in a world where the nuclear family is a rarity. Where children as young as 5 and even babies are abused sexually, where lewd material is available to anyone and where people have become the walking wounded. That is what happens when God is overthrown and other gods are put in His place. Relationships are difficult at best, marriage an uphill climb and people have become afraid to trust others and maybe even afraid to trust themselves.

What the Bible teaches us about relationships

The Bible tells us that love is kind, that love seeks not its own way, that love is patient. We as Christians need to have a firm understanding of what it means to love God and to love others when it comes to intimacy and personal relationships. If we say we love God but we take advantage of someone by having an intimate relationship outside of the marriage commitment we are committing a sin against that person and against the greater community and against God. We are not acting out of love either for God or for others. God is not just telling us "NO" don't do it, He tells us why and how. The word of God tells us to flee carnal temptation because temptation is powerful and can easily overcome us. God, being the loving person that he is has our best in mind. He wants us to have satisfying relationships and He knows that intimacy has the power to ruin everything. He is not acting in some arbitrary, tyrannical way by forbidding it. On the contrary, God is giving us guidelines so that we can have wonderful, fulfilling relationships whether they are in a marriage or just as friends.

Understanding God's point of view

I don't know about you but for me understanding the reasoning behind the prohibition against premarital intimacy, the consequences of disobedience and the rewards of doing things God's way helps me. It makes it easier for me to push on for the better prize. To hold out for God's perfect will, rather than settle for what the world dangles before me. I hope it helps you too. And, I hope the the larger Christian community will become more aware of this problem and help to eliminate it.


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Pool Of Thoughts 3 years ago from Southern Ohio

It's a very awkward subject that I feel the little books that Rod and Staff puts out through Christian Light Publications, Inc. called "God's Will for my Body" by John Coblentz would have helped myself and many other teens growing up. The world we live in, as you point out so well, is obsessed with this sexual content that is homogenized with literally everything. You can't separate it. Yet, the church is silent concerning this subject. If parents don't deal with it, who will? Some pervert alleging to be a Christian that is teaching young people this is the problem with Christians today? I have seen some man who holds "Christian" seminars and tells them this. This is Satan's Eden and we need to be proactive in helping our children and single Christians to understand God's will for our lives.

You are so right about the feelings of many singles attending Christian events where everyone is married. In the times that I have attended meetings and my wife was home, I felt like a sore thumb most of the time unless I knew some people. Very balanced and thought out article. God bless you. Voted up and useful.

David


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks David.


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Doodlehead 3 years ago from Northern California

Whoa---yes, I have felt ostracized by the church being a single Christian... and at the seemingly MANDATORY singles group [they make you feel like you have to attend] it's like...okay... now you are at the singles group,....you mean to tell us [TPT] there is not ONE of them that you immediately are attracted to?

"Hurry up and get married" is the message I have always heard...as the message from the church is that as singles we are sub-human.....and for that reason the church has NOT had my TITHES..........listen up pastors and pastorettes!

Thanks Brie.....this is a home run hub!


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Doodlehead, I just wish hubpages/google would reinstate my ads. They removed them because of the topic.


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Doodlehead 3 years ago from Northern California

See---even THEY the secularists hate the singles Christian!


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

LOL :)


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Larry Fields 3 years ago from Northern California

Hi Brie,

If I've understood correctly, you've emphasized that actions can have large consequences in this specific area. The concept is just as relevant for 'secularists' like myself, as it is for religious people. And notwithstanding Doodlehead's ad hom, I do NOT hate Christian singles. Voted up.


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Larry, I do believe that Doodlehead was kidding :).


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btrbell 3 years ago from Mesa, AZ

So, so important! Thank you for bringing it to light!


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks, "btrbell" glad you liked it.


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no body 3 years ago from Rochester, New York

I have written quite a few articles on Hubpages regarding sex outside of marriage. I know that it is not the same if it isn't a current struggle but I differ in opinion that it is. In marriage fornication with the mind, with pornography, in ogling other women when the wife is not looking, is a problem. It still is fornication and the compound problem of adultery. I think the big factor is that most of the people who are single are also young with raging hormones and little maturity. They mostly do not know enough to surround themselves with support system people that can hold them accountable. Don't laugh but I have at least three people that I can talk to when I feel weak and I call them and chat a while until the Lord is the focus again, and I have been married going on 15 years now.

Another factor that would help the single Christian that is trying to stay away from the sin of fornication is that they are unaware that as a saved Christian, they are married. They are the bride of Christ. The sex act is more than a physical joining, it is an act of adultery toward Jesus Christ Himself.

God bless you Brie. I continually keep you in mind for prayer. God bless sister.


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks "no body" and a special thanks for the prayers!


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX

Brie now I have to admit that just the title drew me to read this. I am 62 and single again. I have been single about the same length of time that I have been married. I am also a Christian but my God is a loving and forgiving God. If one wants to abstain from sex, especially as they age, that is a matter of choice in my mind. I happen to enjoy love making, which is much different to me than sex which is a bit animalistic, so I choose not to be celebate. I reckon God and I may talk about it when the time comes but somehow I don't think it will be an issue.

The Frog


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Well, Froggie you can believe anything you want but the Word of God is clear that all fornicators will have their part in the lake of fire. I suggest you repent of idol worship and fornication and get straight with the one and true God of the Bible before it's too late. I understand that celibacy is difficult but eternity without God is a horrible reality should you make the wrong choices.


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX

Brie - I don't believe the fire and brimstone sermonizing. As I said, my God is a loving and forgiving God. I was born a sinner and I'll die a sinner. But there are very few transgressions I believe my Creator will hold against me. Making love to a woman isn't one of them.

The Frog


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

It doesn't matter what you believe, it only matters what is true and God's word is true.


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Kasman 3 years ago from Bartlett, Tennessee

Very thought provoking hub. I remember being a brand new Christian almost seven years ago and the girl I was with I wasn't getting busy with. But she kept on and on and on until one day I gave in.....to my shame! I can't explain it, but I felt the Lord's heart broken over me and it made me really think about what I had done. My relationship to Jesus is too important to play games with.

He forgives me thankfully, but he also says that if I love him, I'll do what he commands. His word is life to me. Now, he has brought me an amazing wife through various miracles and crazy confirmations....but it took my obedience to him in some serious areas of my life to see this blessing come to fruition. Great hub, made me relive a few things from my sordid past but its good to remember great lessons God has taught me, voting this one up!


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Kasman, I appreciate your comments.


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d.william 3 years ago from Somewhere in the south

Interesting hub on such a controversial topic. Frankly i am surprised that H.P. has still allowed you to have ads displayed on it because you actually used the words sex and premarital relationships. All of mine have been purged of ads because of the words i use, the difference here is that you are promoting Christianity and i do not.

The ''sins of the flesh" that are condemned in the holy books was never by God's command. These were the words of man who made the physical pleasures something evil and bad. Does anyone truly believe that a god that gave mankind such beautiful physical pleasures would then turn around and make them tabu?

When people "sin" and pray for forgiveness and they receive it, they are not actually receiving that forgiveness from God, but they are simply forgiving themselves when there is nothing to be forgiven for.

We punish ourselves for nothing, in the name of God, as interpreted by a bunch of old ancient men from thousands of years ago that probably were just to dam ugly and nasty to get anyone to have sex with them in the first place.

The best we can do for ourselves in this lifetime is to enjoy all the beauty and pleasures that god has given us to enjoy.


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

As my article discusses..God has not condemned sex, he has merely put boundaries around it for our safety and well-being. As with fire, it is good as long as it is used carefully.


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d.william 3 years ago from Somewhere in the south

And exactly how do you, or anyone else, know what God intended? HIS intentions, thoughts, feelings, words, etc.., are all man's own limited and personal views of how God should be personified.

No man, (or woman) has ever seen God, or heard the voice of God. The only representations of what God wants are manifested from the minds of men. And i mean that literally (men); for women were never allowed to have any thoughts of their own. That in itself should make us wonder about the authenticity of anything than man has written about God.


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

We have the Word of God. It tells us exactly what God's point of view is. However, this article is not about the validity of scripture which I take for granted. This article is for Christians and about Christians if you desire to veer off in another direction I'm afraid you will go there alone. There are more than enough articles about the validity of scripture.


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Aiysha17 3 years ago from UK

Thank you for posting this! I am a single Christian - have been for 5 years now and it is really getting to me. :( I recently wrote about it on here because it had to come spilling out somewhere. I cried and prayed just the other day because of it. I want to be married and I desperately want to have children...


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

I feel for you Aiysha17. You and I must put our own desires at the feet of Jesus and trust HIM that he knows what is best for us. You are young, don't make the same mistakes I made...follow the Shepherd and he will lead you well.


Stefanie Jones 3 years ago

Brie, don't give up on prayers to God for a husband. I prayed to God and He sent me my husband. I'll tell you the truth, when we (hubby and I) met, I heard a loud, audible voice behind me that announced "You're going to marry him". There was no one there! I was so shocked I didn't know whether to turn around and look, or run screaming from the room. I just froze, then I noticed that no one else in the room heard this loud-and-clear voice. I noticed the voice was totally without gender. It sounded like it wasn't a man or a woman, yet it sounded totally natural. Well, the next day, my husband-to-be (still a stranger) came back and asked me out. Later he told me that the day we met, he had a dream in which he was told by a "voice" that he was going to marry me! He got the same message, the same night I heard that audible voice. You can't tell me that merciful God doesn't hear our prayers. But sometimes you have to be persistent, although I only prayed once :) So keep praying. Peace!


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Stefanie.


Stefanie Jones 3 years ago

You're welcome. I prayed the chaplet of Divine Mercy for you. Peace!


Shane Law 3 years ago

I want to complement you on your eloquence and clear delivery.

I wanted to add there is an element of oneness, to sex. Understanding what happens spiritually when one becomes a Christian helps so much in exerting self-control when your single. Our bodies represent the 'casing' of the spirit of God, if you will, or a vessel..a glass, say, for a drink of water.

1 Corinthians 6:19

19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

With the events, of the crucifixion of Christ, came the thick veil in the temple being torn from top to bottom; the ability to speak to God directly, and, the ark of the covenant, which 'housed' the very spirit of God, was replaced by our bodies. Thus our bodies being the temple of God. (not to say we should forsake the assembly- Hebrews 10:25)

The whole picture; as to not take anything out of context.

1 Corinthians 6:15-20

15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.

16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.

17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.

18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

With no emphasis on 'harlot,' or, whether or not, this scripture pertains to, only one having sex with someone who gets paid for sex.

The key phrases here are 'one flesh' and 'fornication'. The trauma so many people experience, emotionally, in having premarital sex is experiencing the spiritual oneness that takes place. Not due to how one 'feels' about another person, but the spiritual law that takes place. Explained in the phrase, 'one flesh', in

Genesis 2:24

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Again, regardless how one 'feels' about a sex partner on any level, there is a spiritual 'tearing down'. Imagine one flesh; your body, being one as is, then being separated; ouch. That is exactly what happens spiritually. Justification, denial, acting out abuse, not wanting to submit to a loving authority, or any authority, victimization, whatever the case. Being where your not supposed to be, sexually, within your own body, is going to cause damage to a spiritual state, negatively. This is true even if one claims not to be a believer in Christ. The cleaving of flesh is a blessing when the example He gave us, is followed. The coming together of two bodies is meant to create 'one flesh', not another flesh or another human being, born; literally two considered one. The union was blessed by God, and saw His example as 'one flesh'. A man as the godhead; spiritual leader, covering or protector, and a woman as 'help meet' to the leader's law-of-love plan, instrumental in shining that light; really the hands and feet to that Godly leadership. What we see is not the same as what God sees. God sees the married couple as 'one flesh'. Why??

The reason God sees the married couple as 'one flesh' is this. The Bridegroom is representative of Jesus himself. The Bride is representative of the assembly of the congregation who understands that all power and authority have been given to the Christ; believers. Do we aspire to get to heaven one day and then, suddenly, say, 'eh, I don't wanna be here anymore.....'? Do we ever expect God to say, 'You know you've been a great guest, but your going to have leave now'? Jesus; the Bridegroom, and the believers; the Bride are intended to be one, never separated, forever. So the union of bodies not under that covenant, made and sealed, by what Christ did, is like a drop of sewage in the clean glass of water. Unclean, defiled in it's condition and considered fornication.

Outside understanding God foreshadows, analogizes, uses parables, and represents people, circumstances and events to teach us things for our knowledge and good. Outside understanding the example of 'one flesh' and what, it, represents. Outside understanding what it means to be in a holy covenant. Let's understand, specifically for woman, it's a highly emotional challenge, as well as the human, spiritual consequences, to sex outside of God's plan. We can thank Eve for this, some other time.

Genesis 3:16

16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

Women have a natural tendency to need security. God is a communicative God, notice he meets in cool of the morning, first thing. We can run a million things, strong. We still need things done a certain way because the base of women have a desire for the husband (security). Not only as in, 'I want you and need you so much'. In many cases, it's the lust of the flesh that recognizes this authority and immediately has a reaction of rebelling to it. Many adverse reactions are spawned out of this one. Control issues, mostly. The crux of this desire is the initial dependency or neediness. It's become a dirty, nasty thing to depend upon anyone, as society bans it as weak or unintelligent. We love emotionally. Men love physically. If more men would take their position as leaders, women would be more secure in their role as helpers to those leaders, which is not to say women don't lead. Women leading is biblical and essential, but let us not forget it was a male authority each time, that allowed, the speaking. Point is, having 'a desire for the husband' not only means were ruled by men, but we need men in spite of everything. If more men were concerned with their role to protect women, than their role to rule, ruling would would happen with more submission. God showed love first, before authority or chastisement. Submission, is done first, in faith, believing we will be taken care of. Women if you want a leader, let him lead. Falling on their face is part of it. Men ask, often, & listen so she can help. Women, if we're respectful, they'll ask you more!

Furthermore, when we get to heaven things change.

On Earth, we are the light, in heaven He is the light. On Earth we are the Bride, in heaven we are become one with the Bridegroom. On Earth, Jerusalem is the Daughter of Israel; the holy city, in heaven, it is the New Jerusalem and becomes the Bride! On earth we have the holy temple; the dwelling place wherewith we worship, in heaven there is no temple because the whole place becomes the dwelling place wherein we worship continually! (cool, huh?:)

Revelation 21:2

2 And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.

I agree with the fact that sex outside marriage covenant in Christ, is harmful and that God's Word is set to protect us and bless us, not hinder us.

To visualize the actual body of Jesus in middle of your sex, is a reality of what you're doing, as a believer. As a non-believer, having sex is taking a union, that is intended to have the blessing of the Father, or Creator, forcibly, without knowing what is really happening or the consequences.

The closer we are in prayer and the living Word the more of His power resides in us, to live out the fruits of the Holy Spirit, such as self-control. This grace can only exist through, Jesus' peace, not the world's peace. Understanding being married to God first, disciplines us to practicing faithfulness, and self-control in our marriage covenant to God. As Ambassadors to Christ, we should care diligently, for the ones that are facing the stronger challenges, with programs, open communication, study encouragements, and sincere prayer.

Love to all!


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Shane, thanks for the expounding on celibacy, it is greatly appreciated.


Shane Law 3 years ago

Right on, your welcome! Really enjoyed your vibe in the video and you have great hubs. Looking forward to seeing how the off the grid project goes! God Bless you sister.


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Actually the "off the grid" project has been put on hold. I went to Idaho to try it and found out the isolation was just too much for me. So, it may be something to try in the future but for now I am not pursuing it.


Shane Law 3 years ago

Uf, I could imagine..especially coming from the Big Apple. It would be nice to find a slice to gather for family reunions or vacations, but I guess after a while, I'd feel like the puffer fish in a baggy on Nemo, - 'now what?'.


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Yea, I just didn't count on the isolation..it did me in. I still practice self-sufficiency as much as possible and I love making things from scratch like soap and food but the whole off the grid thing is better for families and not a single woman used to city life. I wilted like a flower in the hot sun!


Shane Law 3 years ago

So funny. My real name is Lorraine, btw, I needed to come up with a name so I used my son's e-mail. I'm loving the whole nature thing. I guess there's a whole group called 'Preppers' now, too. I don't think I'm fanatical, but I truly love learning about self-sufficiency. The cob ovens, herbal medicines.......um..just the cutesie natural houses. Would LoVe to build one, like one I remember being in as a kid, I'm 45. Everything was wood, including the faucet handles, my imagination as a kid was how in the world did they make pipes out of wood! lol.. so yeah, I have the whole dream of brick hearth oven, and push a wooden button and half the dome resides underground to expose the stars and a glass wall (you know to keep out the woodland creatures) enjoying the black slate pool with waterfalls and hot stone pit. I've seen where people were building entire tropical havens and sustainable gardens, pull on a rope and it opens the ceiling door to let a gust of natural air conditioning in, the works. Then my husband says, yeah, where you going to work? lol from home! I dunno, it seems whatever is to take place to this here 'Babylon' is going to happen almost like an overnight thing, so what are you going to do? It takes so long to do anything. The government is bombing itself, in trying to break us economically, FEMA has our coffins made, (that's good because I can't afford to prepare for that either) we just moved into a beautiful home in a neighborhood where all the houses look like they've stamped from the same boring mold, where I swore I'd never live in. I should be grateful, I am. I'm not living in a 28' RV anymore with my two, 11 & 12 year old boys outgrowing it by the minute. Mazeltof. Now I can hear every last chiwawa and big dog bark incesently, all day long. Really I love it, I know I'm blessed. My kids need it. Sometimes it seems a little strange to spend our last penny trying to live here, than teaching them the survival skills they may really need in the future. I don't know. gab, gab. :) I have a place for a garden and a big enough yard I could still do the projects I want to do. In the city, I'm sure you've seen what people can do just on a roof! I can do the sundial, canning, herbs, aquaponics, compost, science experiments, etc. What I'm looking for is how they built the filtration system for the water. Special rocks, I think. Detoxing, in general too. I fast as well, only spiritual fasts, thus far. I agree it really does give you the ability to stay on track. Anywho, your great Brie! keep up the great work, I'll definitely be looking out for ya in the future!


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Brie Hoffman 2 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Lorraine. I know how you feel..something about the best laid plans..etc, etc. :) Keep in touch, life's an adventure!


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Treasuresofheaven 2 years ago from Michigan

Very powerful, just brilliant. I shared this article on Facebook - I hope lots of people read it. You seemed to have covered all the bases.

This is a good read for Everyone!

Blessings to you Brie,

Sima


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Brie Hoffman 2 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks "Treasuresofheaven" it took me a long time to understand this so I hope it benefits others.


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jlpark 2 years ago from New Zealand

Interesting....

I find it interesting that the Christian faith puts so much stock into the 'sex before marriage' issue as they feel it is from God - yet the two people whom Christians believe the human race started from were NEVER married (amongst other issues I have with the Creation story)

BUT I do wish to commend you on your willpower to resist the temptations put before you. It is testament to your beliefs that you hold them so strongly.

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