The Mystery Of The Heart

Dave and Sparklea six months before we got married.  YES, I was a blonde then!
Dave and Sparklea six months before we got married. YES, I was a blonde then! | Source
Sparklea and Dave at 25th anniversary party
Sparklea and Dave at 25th anniversary party | Source

NOTE: All of what is written below is the personal opinion of the author. I hope you enjoy this hub. :)

It would take a long time to explore the many mysteries of the heart.

Defined as a small, muscular organ located above the left rib cage, the heart maintains the circulation of our blood. It's what keeps us going, for it is the central, vital part of our bodies. If our heart stops beating today, tomorrow's plans are cancelled, and we are no longer here.

Besides the miraculous physical capabilities of this vital organ in our bodies, there are other mysterious aspects of the heart.

For example, how would you define an "understanding heart?"

Do you ever stereotype people who have initials after their names, such as M.D. or Ph.D.?

When I graduated from college I obtained a Secretarial Science Degree in Business Technology. However, if I were asked the question, "Who ARE you?" and "What initials do you have after YOUR name?" my mind would instantly recall a true story I read about a man named Dannion Brinkley. Mr. Brinkley was struck by lightning in the 1970's. He was dead for twenty-eight minutes, and the doctors brought him back to life. Today this man travels all over the country telling others about his near death experience and what transpired during those twenty-eight minutes. When arrogant people approach him and ask, "What are YOUR credentials, Mr. Brinkley?" he simply replies, "I'm Danion Brinkley, D.O.A. - Dead On Arrival!"

In the same realm, MY response to that question would be, "I'm Sparklea, E.L. - EXPERIENCING LIFE."


Because my personal life experiences have taught me more about my heart than any degree I've obtained or any course I have completed in college or since college.

A doctor or a psychologist may be sincere and compassionate. However, unless they, themselves, have experienced the same type of pain of the person they are dealing with, (such as a male OB/GYN witnessing - not feeling - the pain of a mother in labor), their HEARTS cannot understand exactly what the individual is going through. Another example is a therapist or psychologist counseling parents who have lost a child, when they have never been through that tragedy. Their hearts simply cannot comprehend the pain in the hearts of that mother and father.

ANOTHER mystery of the heart can be summed up in a statement by Kristen Heyl:

"I follow my heart, for it has been the one entity that has been true to me."

I believe it is important to FOLLOW YOUR HEART as much as possible. Why? because the heart is the source of our emotions. It is our conscience, it acts as a compass and our hearts do not lie.

Here are two examples:

1. Sometimes we have to make a mistake to know what our heart REALLY desires. My son decided he wanted to live in North Carolina. However, he hated it. He thought his heart was down south. However, he had to try it out to learn that his heart was truly up north.

If my son had not made the trip to North Carolina and tried living there, he would wonder, to this day, if he should have given it a shot. Now he knew.

2. One of the greatest desires of my heart was to marry David. EVERYONE told me it was ridiculous. I was ten years older than him. He was in his late teens. I was in my late twenties, divorced, with two small children. NEITHER of us had decent jobs! However, in my HEART, I was willing to take the risk. I loved him unconditionally. I loved him so very much that, before each date, I would go to a church and pray on my knees. I would ask God to bless every second of our time together. When David asked me to be his wife, he said to me, "I love you. I will take care of you and your children."

I followed my heart, amidst the disapproval of society. I received hate mail, hang up phone calls, and I was shunned by the neighbors. I not only had to get an unlisted telephone number, I had to sell my home and move to a town ten miles away. Throughout all this, David stood by me. Although I was told to "give him up" by my own family, and everyone else, my heart kept saying "yes."

We purchased 99 cent wedding bands from Philadelphia Sales, and we eloped. We drove over the New York/Pennsylvania border, and we were married by a Justice Of The Peace. On our wedding night I opened my Bible, and I thanked God for this person who not only loved me, but cherished me. I dedicated our marriage to God, and I asked Him to bless every second of our life together. Never had my heart been filled with so much love and adoration for my new husband.

Our cheap wedding bands turned green within two weeks, but I still wore mine until David bought me a gorgeous blue diamond engagement ring on our fourteenth anniversary. On our twentieth anniversary, he gave me a blue diamond/white diamond wedding band to accompany the engagement ring.

My son and daughter are now grown, and we have six grandchildren.

This month we celebrated our 38th wedding anniversary. I have never regretted following my heart.

But what if I had made the wrong decision, and it had not worked out? I simply would have believed my heart was in the right place at the time. I would not have regretted that I had given our love a chance.

Therefore, I suggest you, who are reading this, to cherish your miraculous and mysterious heart. Look deep within your heart when a decision needs to be made. Try to view our world with your heart instead of your mind. Trust me, there IS a difference.

Finally, I would like to quote author Michael Lynchburg who wrote these words, "Enjoy the wonder of your existence, and your life will be a gift to the world."

I believe you can do this if you pay attention to your heart.

Blessings, Sparklea :)

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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

what a wonderful hub.. follow your heart.. that is the answer..

My grandparents hated my dad. told mom it would never work they were married for 60 years.. until my mom passed last July.. they loved each other unconditionally..

I love your hub.

i am sharing and pinning


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KDuBarry03 4 years ago

What an outstanding hub! Sometimes, your heart is always right :)


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

KDuBarry03 THANK YOU so much for taking time to read this, and I SO appreciate your feedback. I feel blessed by any and all who read my materials. God bless you real good! Your comments mean alot. Sparklea :)

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Deborah, I commented on your remarks but LOST it! THANK YOU SO MUCH for your wonderful feedback and for sharing with me. I LOVE your photo. You are so very loyal, and I am grateful you took time to read this! It has been hectic, and I am SLOWLY catching up with the hubs. God bless you real good, Sparklea :)

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

That was beautiful Lea! I had tears in my eyes hearing your story. Congratulations on following your heart and finding love. What a great story!

Blessings and peace to you and your love always!


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

billybuc: Thrilled you took time to read this hub! Thank you always for your feedback and kind words. SO much appreciated! I am so grateful for the wonderful people I have met through HubPages. Blessings, Sparklea :)

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krsharp05 4 years ago from 18th and Vine

I can relate to precisely what you say. While I was working in a boys home I always believed that I would have related much better to girls - that I would have made a bigger difference if I worked with girls in that setting.

I love your example of a male ob/gyn because I had a male with my first child and actually questioned him on that very detail. I knew there was no possible way he could actually know what labor pains would feel like.

Lovely hub! Thanks for sharing your views and your heart!

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

krsharp05: THANK YOU for your positive feedback! Yes, I SO believe in following our hearts...our inner Spirits. I appreciate your taking time to read and comment. I also had a male ob/gyn when I gave birth to both of my two children. Females ob/gyns DO get it, they have walked in our shoes! Blessings to you from my heart :) Sparklea :)

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Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

Please don't think this is trying to be funny, it is not. You have written a beautiful hub and have a beautiful heart. There is a quote that matches this hub. " It is better to love and to have lost, then never to have loved at all" at least I think that is what it is. You have that kind of wisdom. Voted up.

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tom hellert 4 years ago from home

Sparky- neighbor...9kinda),

Follow my eart you say im not sure... 4.5 yrs ago it quit on I mayjust have to follow my kidneys or my spleen..actually my liver was the organ that really saved me- It was the first organ to come out of shock so ... i wonder what my liver would do

WWMLD-what would my liver do? heck ive been trustin my brain for too long that hasnt helped any, my heart blew out had bronchitis way to many times.. but whats been with me the whole time- my liver so i say Screw the HEART FOLLOW THE LIVER... your hubbs nice too...just the wrong organ for me...


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Tom, I SO appreciate your comments on this hub. I am so sorry for all you have been through. I will add you to my prayer list. I have a list of people I pray for every morning. You now included. I personally think you have a big heart. I feel it in your spirit. Blessings, Sparklea :)

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Michele: Thank you for your feedback on this hub. I am very familiar with the quote, "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." In fact it was a song that I heard years ago, and I still remember the tune. Have you heard it? In the song, he asks, "I wonder, I wonder?" It may have been Nat King Cole? Anyway, I KNOW, for sure, you have a big heart. Blessings, Sparklea :)

Godly Man 4 years ago

I been married for 27 years with good and bad time 3 biological kids and one adopted child. Thru a bad time in our marriage I was so feed up and wanted out. During this time I meet a woman who my heart lost all control for and I have never experienced love like this she loves me unconditionally. But everyone I talk to tell me that I'm wrong, so in my mind I will have to keep living a lie and forsake this love that I have that is consuming my heart. Going thru the motions just foe other people is that the best option? What should this GODLY Man do?

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Godly Man: Thank you for your comments. I am in receipt of your email, and I responded separately.

I appreciate your taking the time to read this hub, Blessings, Sparklea :)

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tom hellert 4 years ago from home

Thanks Sparkee, every little bit helps


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Mekenzie 4 years ago from Michigan

Wow, what an amazing hub. What sticks out to me is how society accepts an older man marrying a younger woman much better than the reverse. I am so glad God has blessed your marriage and that you followed your heart.

Years ago a friend put it a little differently. she said I needed to trust my gut. I have found great truth in it and wish I had listened to my guy many years ago. But I trusted authorities and people in general too much.

Thankful to my friend for teaching me how important it is to listen ... and trust yourself!


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Mekenzie: I SO appreciate your reading this and for your comments and feedback. Yes, I DO say, all the time, to trust your gut. It's basically the same thing. Whatever your circumstance at the time, the important thing is that you LEARNED.

Yes, society pays no attention to an older man marrying a younger woman.

However, I've gotten to the point where I don't care what people think. Only God, He is my Guide, and if I do screw up, I can go to Him for mercy and grace, His free gifts. THAT is freedom!

God bless you real good Mekenzie. Blessings, Sparklea :)

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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Beautiful hub! I guess it depends on what your heart desires, sometime it is not 'safe', to say the least, to follow the heart. You have to be the judge of the situation.....

Anyway, you brought out lot of good points, ...... Sharing, and interesting!

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

THANK YOU LaThing, yes, I agree, there is risk involved with many things, especially decisions. Life's journey is quite a learning experience.

I so much appreciate your reading this hub and for your feedback.

Blessings, Sparklea :)

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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

This is extraordinary! I love your love story amidst cruel actions of everyone. That is your life to live and they have theirs. I am so glad you followed your heart. Im always debating whether what to follow..mind or heart? I think for sure, I would choose my heart, and what makes me happy. Afterall, life is too short to live in the expectations of others.


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ahorseback 4 years ago

And now we will all take a little piece of your heart here on hubs , thank you for that !

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snowdrops 4 years ago from The Second Star to the Right

What can I say? Amazing and amazing! That's why I always choose what my heart is saying..what makes me happy. I love this hub.

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healthylife2 4 years ago from Connecticut, USA

I loved this hub and could relate. I had absolutely no support from my parents and siblings when I got married but we have been together 20 years. We met right after college and when I went through a very scary health situation my husband pushed himself beyond human limits to be there for me. I'm glad I followed my heart.

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Unknown Spy, SO SORRY to be so late with a response to your comment on this hub. Just getting back on HubPages after some health issues ...WAY behind on emails and hubs...but THANK YOU for your positive and encouraging comments. I have so many hubbers that I want to read...thank you for your patience and understanding.

God bless, Sparklea :)

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

ahorseback: Thank you so much for reading an commenting on this hub, written from my HEART! God bless you, Sparklea :)

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

snowdrops: Thank you for reading this hub and understanding what I shared...the heart never lies, and every time I don't follow it, things mess up. SO appreciate your feedback! Blessings, Sparklea :)

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Healthylife2: I'm so glad you followed your heart also! I would rather follow my heart and take a risk...and fail...but if I had not tried I would have always wondered if I should have. Hope this makes sense! THANK YOU for taking time to read this hub and for your very encouraging words. Blessings, Sparklea :)

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Ryem 4 years ago from Maryland

Wow, this is a great hub. The story of your marriage is so beautiful and it fit in so well. Telling people to follow their hearts is such simple, genuine and solid advice. I love this

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

THANK YOU Ryem! So appreicate your comments and encouragement. I think we ALL know our inner hearts, deep down. We just should not ignore the tug from this great gift of the Spirit.

God bless you and thanks again, Sparklea :)

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CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

Hello Sparklea! I'm not sure how I missed this awesome story of love and just being yourself.

It speaks of truth, obviously written from the heart and I'm oblige to share. Wonderful!

CrisSp~L.T.G.L. and L.I. (Living The Good Life and Loving It)

P.S. I love this part of your hub-so cute: : I'm Danion Brinkley, D.O.A. - Dead On Arrival!"

In the same realm, MY response to that question would be, "I'm Sparklea, E.L. - EXPERIENCING LIFE."

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LittleFairy 4 years ago

Couldn't agree with you more, when we listen closely and patiently to our heart, we always get answers that ultimately make us happy. That's what I tell everyone around, 'listen to what your heart says and you will not regret it' :)

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

CrisSp: THANK YOU for taking time to read this hub, which I truly did write...from my heart :) I LOVE your, the good life and loving it...I am also full of gratitude for your sincere feedback. Blessings, and thanks again. Sparklea :)

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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

LittleFairy, LOVE your profile name! THANK YOU for visiting this Hub, means so much to me to hear from fellow hubbers who share my writing passion. Keep telling your friends...everyone what you wrote, 'listen to what your heart says and you will not regret it.' We have that 'inner gut' that is really our hearts speaking to us.

THANKS AGAIN...I checked out your profile and I look forward to reading your hubs...the titles sound great. Blessings, Sparklea :)

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Linda Compton 3 years ago from The Land of Enchantment

Dear Sparklea,

What a wonderfully inspired and inspiring hub. Loved every word. Congratulations! Voted WAY up, from my heart :) L.

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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Linda, THANK YOU SO MUCH for your very kind words. My heart has never failed me, and thank you for voting up.

I so appreciate your taking time to read this hub.

Blessings, Sparklea :)

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lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Wow, this is such a beautiful post. I believe that we should follow our hearts too. And yes, if you haven't experienced the pain of losing a child, then you wouldn't be able to understand what someone is going through unless you have walked in their shoes; however, we can show our compassion and offer our condolences. I think you did the right thing to follow your heart and marry your husband despite what family and everyone around you told you. In the end, you are the one that has to decide. Nice to meet you. I read the wonderful hub Faith wrote about you.

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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

hi lovedoctor926: I tried to answer this hub from my i phone, and apparently it failed! So glad to hear from you and for your very kind comments. Yes, in the end I am the one who has to decide. I took a risk, but my husband and I will celebrate our 40th anniversary next year. He treats me with the love and respect he showed when we were dating, and I treat him the same way. Love, Cherish, Respect: these are the key elements in a marriage - my opinion only. I appreciate your taking time to read this and respond. God bless, Sparklea :)

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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Great topic and so well written thanks for an interesting, and useful hub indeed.

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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

DDE: Thank you for visiting this hub. I hope to post a picture in the near future that I dug out when Dave and I were dating. I was a BLONDE then! I so appreciate your comments. Blessings, Sparklea :)

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Romeos Quill 3 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

What a thoroughly marvellous slice of life you've written about, dear Sparklea, which is certainly encouraging when having to face those life-changing decisions - " Do I follow my heart, or my mind on this one? "

I can certainly relate to the age-gap relationship situation, as my first major girlfriend was twenty-eight, and I seventeen at the time - the first woman I fell in love with, which lasted three years, despite the Chinese whispers, and looks of disdain by some folk, but when you're in love, that's all that matters isn't it? Just the two of you, and have never regretted that decision I made from the heart. I'm so pleased that it has worked out for you and your husband Dave, nearly a Ruby anniversary!, and you've proved them all wrong, and guaranteed your own happiness.A really fabulous story ( the real ones are usually the best ), and I hope you are well.

Best Wishes, with blessings,


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Romeos Quill, thank you so much for your kind words. In 2014 Dave and I will reach our 40th anniversary. My friends and family think I should write a book about it, food for thought.

Glad you can one knows how a person REALLY feels unless they have experienced it...and you did also.

I so appreciate your taking time to read this and my hope is that it encourages and inspires. Blessings, Sparklea PS: I'm trying to add a picture of Dave and I at our 25th anniversary party, but having an awful time. Eventually, it will appear as soon as I figure out what I'm doing wrong. It keeps popping up, 'file not found' :)

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ocfireflies 3 years ago from North Carolina


What a beautiful piece. Your and your fellow are the exception regardless of your age difference. Love this love story.

Happy First Day of Fall,


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

ocfireflies: THANK YOU so much! Our intuitions are so strong, and I am glad I followed my heart. My husband is just as wonderful today as he was when we were dating. We will celebrate 40 years in 2014. God bless, and I appreciate your taking time to read this. Sparklea :)

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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Sparklea this is so wonderful I am happy you listened to your heart when it was calling for you. Families always try to get in your business and tell you who to like or love. I get disgusted when they do that its your choice, i mean a kind advice is accepted but some goes too far.

I am so proud of you two for making 38 years together may God continue to bless you both. What God join together let no man put asunder. Your story reminds me of Celine Dion's wedding story and her song 'everybody is talking my baby down"

Celine was in love with Rene and she did not care what her parents or others had to say.

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Sparklea 2 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Hi LadyFiddler, so thrilled you stopped by to read this hub. Since I published this hub, we just reached 40 years. Doesn't seem possible.

It is wonderful to get to a point in your life where you do not concern yourself with what other people think. It is a growth process and a positive one. God bless and thank you for your lovely comments. Sparklea :)

Angela 2 years ago

If you wrote an article about life we'd all reach enenehtlnmgit.

Sanjusanjana 2 years ago

Wonderful exioanatpln of facts available here.

Uni 2 years ago

That hits the target pelfyctre. Thanks!

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