God's Timing for My Future Mate

By: Toni Tucker
By: Toni Tucker

God's Perfect Timing

I tell you all a truth...even if I wanted to date, set-up a date, blind-date set-ups, and anything surrounding getting a mate in 'my-time' since I was 23, God broke up that engagement (the 2nd one) God - SUPERNATURALLY STOPPED IT!

During my Hosting/Reporting/Producing days in the late 80's to the late 90's! It's like, if a guy liked me, saw me on tv/ or had no idea about that part of me, he'd ask me out, then, literally dissappear into the abyss of yet another, potential mate gone missing...never to be heard from again. I had lots of prisioners send me letters though. And I still have those letters of 'fantasy' love stored away, from almost every jail that was in the viewing area.

So "waiting" on God is not an issue for me. I am hidden in Christ so much that even if "I" wanted to do my own thing, the Lord - stopped it! Now, that is special for God to love me so much, to honor my prayer, after my 2nd breakup when I was 23, to protect me and put an army of angels around to prevent me from marrying the wrong man! Watch what you pray for!!!

This person must be SPECIAL! Why all of that for a simple relationship/marriage/children?

I went to a 'curse-breaking' service years ago at my former church in Chi- thousands of single women, divorced women, came, and a powerful Apostle from Africa prayed for us and for our future mates to come forth! That was 15-17 yrs ago...And out of all those women believing God, to break strongholds, curses, bloodline issues, defeat, loneliness, and so on...this African guest layed hands on ME! No one else! I was like, "why do I stand out?" Is it that bad? LOL

Beauty, has nothing to do with having a man, if you are covered and surrounded by his angels and there is a hedge of "protection" around you.

When people meet me at first, they "assume" I have someone and a family. I got so used to going to places, i.e. restaurants, travelling, whatever, by myself, that I'd get stared at, like I was a freak, for being alone. Never go out on a Friday night or Saturday night to the movies by yourself. Get a girlfriend or family member to hang with you. But, I didn't care, I became 'immune' to my singleness.

I'd dress up, make up, smell good, and go...all by myself! And sometimes, I tell you no lie, that Celine Dion song, would be playing in the restaurant, store, trip, boat, wherever I went.

I could have played crazy and acted like I was talking to Jesus, but, that would only draw 'more' attention to me. LOL I feel my change coming, for whatever reason, and I am content. But, not called to singleness - I have thoughts too- at least. Then I have to clean my thoughts with the word of God! For real. Balance would be nice! Proverbs 31, "Let patience have her perfect work."

In all honesty, I just didn't want to be so seniored (better than saying old) that I'd be running after a highly energetic 2 year old begging her/him to "stop playing with mommy's teeth, and bring them back!" It's not my timing or in my control is it? LoL

In retrospect, I am so glad the Lord has kept me! This man, future husband, that God is saving me for, better be SPECIAL! At least Special enough for the Lord to prevent any unneccesary heartbreak, until his perfect timing. Turning 50 on Wednesday the 15th of Feb. does challenge my steadfastness however. I'm only human. But, God gives us the "Grace" to make it and stay pure and wait on his perfect timing.

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Dave Mathews 4 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

There is a perfect "Soul Mate" God created for everyone of us some find them quicker than others, some pass them by without recognizing they have done so. But in God's timing, they will find each other.


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Heavensgates 4 years ago Author

I just love your comment Dave. It rings of smacking truth! Thanks


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Dave Mathews 4 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

Heaven: It is God's promise.


Marion Clark Ingram 4 years ago

Toni, what you speak is beauty and truth, and it is indeed the heart of the Father. When the Lord commissioned me to compose and to perform romantic poetry in the early 90's, He informed me that "Romance is not just a good idea, but a God idea sent straight from Heaven." He also said that a time was coming when there would be numerous marriages taking place among the 50 plus crowd as He restores romance/love to His people for the purpose of reviving every form of love. His plan is that the mariages that have waxed cold will also take on new life. God is about resurrecting things, people, and situations. I continue to witness through the work that I do. This is that time; so get your wedding slippers out! Prepare your heart for new joy!


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Heavensgates 4 years ago Author

Yes, it is God's promise Dave!


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Heavensgates 4 years ago Author

Marion, I know this is true. I have my wedding slippers out and ready! I I am so excited!!!

Thanks for the post too.


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Internetwriter62 4 years ago from Marco Island, Florida

You look a lot younger than 50 so don't worry. I'm sure you will find the one.


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Heavensgates 4 years ago Author

Thanks Internetwriter62! That's God.


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cristina327 4 years ago from Manila

Great hub Heavensgates. I am greatly blessed. Thank you for sharing this here at Hubpages. Remain blessed always.I hope you are just doing fine. Best regards.


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Heavensgates 4 years ago Author

Thank you Christina! 7 months later, and I just read your comment. God bless you, I'm glad I encouraged you in some way.


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Heavensgates 3 years ago Author

Hey guys, I have no control over the sponsors that goggle places on my articles...I do not deal with psychics, I can barely spell it! I trust soley on the Holy Spirit!!!! Amen

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