Helping Loved Ones or Enabeling Loved Ones
Love Never Fails
Compassion or Enabling, which is it?
It is OK to love yourself enough to take care of your self. No one is putting on any pressure to do the other wise except me. I look in the mirror and I am the one in charge of my relationship with Christ, my life, emotions and physical well being. I must get up each day and do my part with God first place. Matthew 6:31. Somewhere in the shuffle the enemy would like to pull the chain and when one is busy try to sneak in to rob one of joy or passion or try and stop any work for the cause of Christ. The enemy will try to be clever and tricky. I am not into giving him any PR. The reality is the enemy and his finger prints are everywhere. I must first and foremost seek God and His Kingdom for my benefit. In doing so it helps me to balance my day and ultimately my life for the Glory of God.
There is a reason for Gods order. It could just be so that our lives are made easier and we step back and let God do His work. I can not fix or repair anyone's life. The person needs to be willing to make a change. My prayers and heart go to those in need. I need to ask am I really helping or am I and hindering Gods handiwork? I think in all honesty I do not want one in pain so I tend to help fix when in my head and heart I know I am powerless over anyones decision to change. Oh my human mind can be so darn unpredictable. I thank God for the renewing of the mind when we give our lives to His care and take heed on His Almighty Word. The Holy Spirit goes into action for us and I am ever so grateful to have a constant Helper. I am not perfect at hearing but I am a works in progress.
I can tend to get a bit over zealous and really all I need to do is listen and take the cotton from my ears and put in my mouth. Compassion and loving another through the power of the Holy Spirit working in my life I can only share iwhat God has done for me. When I put on my fix it cap I hinder the person to reach out and take responsibility for their actions and life. To try and repair or help in the damage they created is not a good thing. My compassion can turn to enabling and that is a fine line I can easily cross.
By the prompting of the Holy Spirit one day it was like the light came on. Praise the Lord of the Heavens. In my head I know better in my heart my emotions to see someone in pain got me and no I have amends to make for treading the line. I am not God. I am hands and feet for God. I relate to their pain so much and how I prayed many would help dig me from my messes. Some did some of the time until they caught my drift. I thought I was smart and I could be master maipulator. I could play the harp and fiddle well. I praise God that I am forgiven and keep moving forward. I can slip from the Rock of Jesus Christ but oh Glorious God, He will come to me and He will reach out and help to pick me up. It is in seeking I find, and in finding I am free. I am back on the Rock and humble pie.
I do not look forward to making amends yet I count it all joy because Our GOD is great and sovereign and redeems and restores. He can, 'turn all things around for good for those that love Him.' I have made a new choice to love in compassion by listening and being me, a light for God. I can only pray that with the Holy Spirit I will be what God wills for me. I can pray for my beloved that are lost or have one foot in and one foot out of the World. But for the Grace of God go I. Maybe like me they want God only fear He is a punishing God. I can share the Good news of His Love for All of His creation. We are usually the makers of our own grief. God is not. God does not strap one to the couch until we get it. No one would ever leave the couch. JK, Not!
We will always grow and learn in Gods perfect time. He is forever shaping and molding us for His works. To do His work we have to get out and be willing to be His hands and feet. It is not always easy but it is the most wonderful joyous life to give without expectation. He will help our loved ones, He hears our prayers and knows our pain for them. Sometimes the best love I can give is In letting go. I am free and God will care for them as He did for me. He wants none in pain or to perish. He will stand at the door and wait for the knock, just as He did for me. He is not going anywhere.
I am like an onion I am just getting peeled away. Off with the old and on with the new. I marvel at how I thirst and crave to be for God and work for Him. I pray I never enable again as I clear my throat.. It is a far better choice to be loving and being compassionate verses enabling and covering up for one I love and care about deeply. I will not be perfect but with God, All things are possible.'
I believe if one is willing God smiles because we have removed the blinders. I can see I hurt someone by my self centered understanding. I overstepped to pick up wreckage. I move forward. in forgiveness from God. I only share this story with you because if there is a part of you that wears the fix it hat, no one can fix anyone. God can and could if He were sought. May all your dreams come true. May all your loved ones be Born again, healthy and spiritually fit in Christ Jesus.
Well that is my story and I am sticking to it. I can mess up and I do mess up. I am such a ragged doll sinner. I am so grateful I am forgiven and my name in spite of my mistakes is written in the Lambs Book of Life. (Revelation 20:12) Is yours? I can only pray that it is for your eternal sake. Check out John 3:16 if you need more clarity. 'God sent His only Son Jesus Christ to save ALL the world from sin so none would perish but have everlasting Life.' It is a personal choice one must make in this lifetime.
There is an old saying, 'you can lead the horse to water but you can not make him drink it.' Gods timing is not my timing and being loving and compassionate verses enabling so a beloved ones ship stays afloat is not always a healthy scenario, for all involved. Amen and Amen. In the Name of Jesus Christ.
Love Never Fails. (1 Corinthians 13:8 )
© Copyright Skye Tudae
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