The Dichotomy of Existence
Some days, the stillness is more needed than the noise. Some days, the serenity is more needed than the anger. Some days, the frustration screams in silent desperation, begging to be allowed freedom.
The pain is seething beneath the calm exterior. The need to be heard and held overwhelms the desire to run away in solitude.
The mind is so powerful, so very powerful. Yet there has to be an understanding about the difference between what the mind yells and what they spirit/heart whispers. The quietness of the heart is where you will find the answers. The heart reveals the true answers about what is needed to be done and about whom you Truly Are.
The mind is like an animal trap, grabbing hold in the most excruciating grip you can imagine. It holds on with fierce strength, adamantly refusing to let go! The heart, in its absolute opposite intention, seeks only to fulfill its purpose. It desires only to be complete, whole, at peace, centered, wise, kind, loving and strong.
The mind emanates E-G-O “Edging God Out.” It is the human side of us. The heart emanates the spiritual, God part of us. The most important truth we can remember is that we are spiritual beings living a human existence, not human beings living a spiritual existence! We are to be what we wish to see in the world. We do not need to do anything to be valued, loved, and cherished by God or by any other person! That is why we are called human beings not human doings!!!!!!!!
The Good Book speaks of unconditional love - I Corinthians 13 - and yet we have so many conditions and expectations and assumptions about those we love that if they don’t live up to those, we feel as if they aren’t worthy of our love. Who are we to put ourselves above God in the thought that we have the right to have expectations and conditions when God doesn’t have those??!!
A friend of mine years ago taught me that expectations are “premeditated” resentments. She learned that from Narcotics Anonymous because she was a recovering drug addict. I tend to agree with her. If we expect people to do as we wish or to be what we want them to be, we will always be let down and therefore, will always resent their lack of living up to our high standards, won’t we? Why is it so hard to “live and let live?” Why is it so difficult to let others be who they are, exactly as they are? We rob them of the experience of their own journey, their own experience of life if we think we can make them into some image we want them to be! How fair is that?
Being the humans that we are, we know that we can’t achieve “perfection” yet we can strive for “excellence.” The dichotomy in this thought is: there is perfection in all things, just exactly as they are in their imperfection. Think about that for a minute. Everything is exactly the way it was meant to be, for this single moment in time. Each moment that passes, each event that occurs is exactly as it was meant to be. Remember, it’s our attitude and perspective that changes the event. Remember, nothing has any meaning at all, except the meaning we give it. Most of life is subjective. What I think is sad may not be sad to someone else. There are absolute truths, for sure, however. The Law of Gravity is an absolute truth. What goes up MUST come down. The earth revolves around the sun. That’s an absolute truth.
Just keep in mind that life is a journey. It’s not about the destination - it’s about the experience we choose to live on the way there. We realize that we are all headed towards the same destination. It’s the afterlife. It’s the continuation of this life in a different plane, a different form. Where we choose to hang out at that point is totally up to us!
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