The Sacredness of Sacrifice
There are several definitions for the word “sacrifice.” The one I speak of here has to do with relinquishing, releasing or giving up something. Much of our lives are spent sacrificing our time, our lifestyle, our belongings, etc. to the people or causes that we place as our highest priorities.
Too often, many of us get labeled as “victims” because we have no healthy emotional boundaries when it comes to deciding how much we can sacrifice without totally losing our sense of self. Many of us just give and give continually, with no thought about our own self-worth. We forget that we have to take care of ourselves before we can truly take good care of other people. Those that sacrifice have as much right to be catered to, cared for and given as much attention to as those we cater to, care for and give attention.
Those of us who choose to sacrifice for the “good of others” have to remember we deal with the consequences of those sacrifices. We realize that it has been said, “It is better to give than receive.” We also realize that it has been said, “We can’t give to others something that we don’t even have to give to ourselves.” A lot of us believe that the life of sacrifice is honorable because it reflects the kind of life the Christ Jesus exemplified. In our desire to honor Him, we sometimes believe that we must live the same kind of life He lived. Jesus wasn’t considered a victim. It was His purpose in life - to be the highest example of humanity that has ever lived.
A lot of people sacrifice themselves based on guilt from others. They are shamed into sacrificing themselves. They give their time, their heart, their emotions, and their physical strength – whatever is demanded of them to deal with the kind of life they find themselves in at the moment.
People who live a life of servant hood, who give of themselves of their own free will are those who know their life purpose. They know it is sacred to give. That makes them sacred. They know that their intended purpose is being fulfilled. Those who are shamed or forced into sacrificing need to know that they are sacred. In and of itself, the very fact that they are sacrificing makes them sacred.
The real truth, in all honesty, is that each and every one of us is sacred. Each of us has purpose and worth and value. Each of us has the right to be catered to, cared for and given as much attention as anyone else. Life is intended to be like that. We are all here to give as much of ourselves as we can, knowing that in giving, we reap what we sow, we get what we give and that if we all did it in the purest of intention, the world would be a much more loving and peaceful place.
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