The 10 Most Negative Characteristics of The Cancer Person
Who is Cancer? How is Cancer Defined?
Who Art Thou Cancer
Cancer is the fourth sign of the zodiac. It has the distinction of being the second cardinal sign and the first water sign. Its cardinality is demonstrated in initiating things whether it is relationships, career, and/or other endeavor. Cancer loves to be involved and engaged in the ever continuing process of living. Its water element is manifested in its emotionality. Cancer is an emotional sign. This is the sign who feelings are very evident. It can be aptly stated that Cancer is unafraid, even unabashed in expressing his/her feelings. One can say that Cancer has the tendency to be sensitive, if not overly so.
Cancer is ruled by the moon. The moon in mythology and legend is know to be ever changeable. Cancer has a reputation of being moody. Its moods can be quite sporadic. It can be happy one minute and totally morose the next. The moon is known to be a feminine planet in mythology and legend. In Greek mythology, moon was symbolized by Luna while in Roman mythology, it was symbolized by Diana. Cancer is an extremely feminine sign. It is nurturing, welcoming, and encouraging. Cancer men are known to be sympathetic, even empathetic towards others. They are quite comfortable displaying qualities which society still characterize as feminine.
As Cancer is ruled by the moon, it is no accident that it is the sign of motherhood. Both male and female Cancers have a strong maternal instinct. Cancer believe that it is his/her imperative to take care of others, especially those who are considered to be more vulnerable. In fact, Cancer loves to be needed and feel that life is worthless if he/she feels that others do not need them. This maternal instinct is not only applied to famliies, relatives, friends, and/or others within their midst. They also can adopt a maternalistic mindset in their business dealings either with coworkers, subordinates, and/or clientele.
Cancer has many positive attributes. However, they also possess many attributes that are not so positive. This hub will delineate the 10 worst characteristics of the Cancer person. Such characteristics will include: (1) being possessive, (2) being entrenched in the past, (3) being ly attached to tradition, (4) being soul devouring, (5) being dependent, (6) being insular, (7) being fearful of the new, (8) being risk averse, (9) indulging in avoidance/escape mechanisms, and(10) being stultifyingly safe, comfortable, and secure.
I .....TOTALLY HAVE You
(1) Negative Cancers Can Be..............Possessive
The negative Cancer are totally immersed in relationships whether it is friendship, romantic, committal, parental, or any other type of relationships. To say that they are immersed in their particular relationship is a mild understatement. One can aptly proclaim that they are enmeshed in their relationships. Their friends, lovers, committal partners, spouses, children, and/or others are in theirs are a part of them. In fact, they feel that such people are....theirs. They maintain that they are somehow symbiotically joined to those whom they have a relationship with. In their eyes, their friends, lovers, significant others, spouses are not individuals in their own right at all with their own wants, needs, and/or goals.
Negative Cancers are quite loathe to realize that each person exists independently and separate from them. They feel that others belong to them by virtue of being in a relationship with them. It is their contention that once a person enters into relationship with them, they OWN them. Such a person no longer has any type of autonomy as far as they are concerned. They feel that they have emotional, psychologically, and even psychic tabs on whom they have a relationship with. Yes, they consider relationships and people as investments which they intend to retain as long as possible, even forever if need be. The very thought of anyone in their lives wanting complete independence to live their own individual life is quite paralyzing, even immobilizing to them. They see such as analogous to an amputation. They are not above being psychologically, even psychically suffocating to those they care about.
Totally.......STUCK in the Past
(2) Negative Cancers are........Entrenched in the Past
Negative Cancers revere the past to an extreme degree. One can say an aberrant degree. They are very comfortable with the past. After all, the past represents the known, certain, and the familiar. The past also symbolizes comfort to them. To them, the past is the psychological, even psychic womb which protects them against the travails and/or uncertainties of society. To say that they love the past is not an apt description. They have an abnormal attachment to the past. The past is a bulwark against what they perceive to be an unpredictable and ever changing present and future. In their mind view at least the past can be clearly delineated which cannot be said for present and especially future occurrences.
They are entrenched in the past because of a fear mindset. They fear what it is unknown and unfamiliar. They know and are familiar with the past because it represents a more certain and better time in their viewpoint than the tenuous present and the even more precarious future. The past also represents what is established, been tested, and validated. They are uncertain of, even suspicious of the present and future because they have been untested and therefore have no validation. In their eyes if nothing has no validation then it is an exercise in futility in time, resources, and/or expenditure of energy.
IT'S Tradition My Dear
(3) Negative Cancers are .........Attached to Tradition
Negative Cancer are devoted to tradition. To put it more succinctly, they see tradition as a religion. They consider tradition to be sacrosanct, even preordained. They approach tradition with fanatical reverence. They maintain that tradition is permanent and should never be altered, even if such traditions are illogical, irrelevant, and/or even toxic. They will adhere to their particular tradition rather it is specifications according to family, gender, socioeconomic class, education, religion, sociocultural, and/or other arenas. They maintain that such specifications exist for a reason and it is wise to stay within and obey the written/unwritten rules regarding them.
They receive some type of visceral clarity from adhering to tradition. They feel somehow grounded and if they are an integral part of something important. They also feel that they are a part of history, even a legacy. They would feel totally loss psychologically if they did not adhere to tradition. They maintain that tradition provides stability in a society, even a world that is complete haywire and dissolute. They are of the school that tradition is more verifiable and absolute in its context while modernity is totally relative, situational, and changeable. They see how tradition is dependable and one always knows where he/she stands in accordance to it. In their purview, people would be happier if they follow tradition because of its provability and stability as opposed to being modern which can be quite problematic.
(4) Negative Cancers are...........Soul Devourers
Negative Cancers are the type of people whose love for the significant others in their lives have the capacity to psychologically impair, even damage the latter. Their love can be quite unhealthy, even pathological. They envelope their loved ones, making the latter totally dependent on them emotionally, mentally, psychologically, and/or even psychically. They even maintain that because of their love and concern for the significant others in their lives, they have the right to dictate their lives as they are doing "what is best" for them.
They are quite happy having others extremely dependent upon them as it gives them immense power and control. It is their intent to be the dominant ones in the relationship while their significant others be it spouse, committal partner, lover, children, or friends are the passive ones. They rule by inverse kindness. One can say that their kindness is evil in disguise. If their significant others wish to be independent from them, they will use negative methods in order to divert the former from assuming their independence. They are not above telling their significant others that they will be absolutely nothing without them. They will even resort to conveying negative subliminal messages that cause their significant others to doubt their ability to pursue their individual life path or to chose their particular interests. They are not above damaging, even destroying their significant others' self-esteem and/or self-worth if it continues the latter's dependence on them.
(5) Negative Cancers Can Be............Passive
Negative Cancers can be very passive people. To them, circumstances and situations are beyond their control and are pure happenstance. They refuse to believe that they are responsible for what happens in their lives. They do not feel that they are ever at fault for their particular life choices, paths, and/or options. Whatever occurs was due to outside influences and events, not of their own particular choice. They consider themselves to be at the mercy of outside circumstances and/or influences whether it is their parents, religion, socioeconomic class, and/or historical events. They will rationalize that they are in their particular predicament because of these outside factors.
They feel extremely powerless, even insignificant. They contend that they simply do not possess the wherewithal to create or effect any type of change in their individual lives or the society at large. They also adopt the mindset, consciousness, and/or psychology of a victim. By playing the victim, they do not have to assess themselves regarding their faults and failings thus taking the necessary steps to improve the quality of their lives. They find such to be too daunting, even immobilizing. In playing the victim, they can get others to feel sorry, even sympathy for them.
(6) Negative Cancers are..........Insular
Negative Cancers can be described as being insular. At times, they are extremely insular. They prefer people, surroundings, and/or places that they are familiar with. They are the type of people who only associate with those who have the same or similar outlook that they have. They do not like to associate with people who are different from they are whether it is sociocultural, socioeconomic, educational, and/or other specifications. In groups of likeminded people, they have a sense of commonality, even community. They feel that such people implicitly understand them.
They are quite uncomfortable with people, surroundings, and/or places that are different. They oftentimes go to great lengths to avoid such. They even view such differences as inferior and odd, even bad while likeminded/similar people, familiar surroundings, and/or places are viewed as superior, comfortable, and/or good. They have the mindset of us versus them. Anything and anyone within their circle are copacetic and acceptable thus welcome. Conversely, anything and anyone outside their circle are suspect and unacceptable and thus not welcomed. Their insularity often develops into a very parochial, narrow viewpoint, deriding and dismissing what is perceived to be different than what they believe and/or know.
Oh NO........... Not The..........New.........
(7) Negative Cancers are........Afraid of the New
Negative Cancers are extremely fearful of the new. They saw the new as unknown, even unsafe. They also are quite mistrustful of the new. They can even feel a sense of powerlessness, even anomie when encountering the new. With the new, they are uncertain of who they are and where they stand regarding the scheme of things. They oftentimes find the new to be unfathomable, even terrifying.
They are suspicious of the new because of its inherent forbidden quality. They subconsciously want to sample the new but feel that they cannot do so because of prior conditioning whether it is familial, religious, or sociocultural. They may also be afraid of the new because they feel that the old must be adhered to as the latter is predestined and/or preordained. They maintain that they will suffer consequences if they go against their particular paradigm in order to try the new. They may feel that the new is uncharted territory if they dare try something new, they will fail. So rather than fail or otherwise show their ineptitude, they will not attempt or do anything new.
Risk is TERRIFYING
(8) Negative Cancers are............Risk Averse
Negative Cancers are afraid to take risks to put it mildly. One can say that they are deathly afraid of risks. They contend that risks are not only chancy but in many cases can be quite foolhardy, if not dangerous in certain instances. They prefer to go on the safe and well traveled road whether it is relationships, jobs/careers, and/or other endeavors. They are not about to be going on some wild venture, play the stock market, or to go to a place they never heard of and do not know for the sake of simply doing something risky. They consider these things to be the action of an unthinking person. They prefer to err on the side of caution than to take risks and end up in a situation that they cannot get out of.
They see a higher percentage of uncertain, even negative outcomes in taking risks. They reason if they are not going to succeed and perhaps even fail, then what is the logic in taking such risks. They contend that if they undertake something, the outcome should be positive or at least certain. They aver that one has to be mentally, even psychologically amiss, even aberrant to want to take risks, especially risks of a bold, even extremely daring nature. They believe that the energy devoted to wanting to take risks can be better channeled into pursuing activities and other endeavors that are safe, conducive, and constructive.
It's SO NICE Here, Out There is so.....MEAN
(9) Negative Cancers.................Use Avoidance/Escape Mechanisms
Negative Cancers are quite adept at using avoidance &/or escape mechanisms when they feel that something is too daunting &/or unpleasant for them. In fact, they avoid and/or escape from any situation that they really do not want to face for whatever reason. If you recall, the sign Cancer is symbolized by the crab and when turbulence arises, the crab retreats in its shell for protection. Cancers do this also but in normal amounts; however, for negative Cancers, avoidance and escapism are quite commonplace occurrences. They see reality as very precarious, even harrowing. They may even view it as ugly with its unadulterated and even brutal realism. They would rather be in their own perceived universe where everything is fine and no one will ever bother nor hurt them.
They see avoidance and/or escapism as retreating into their particular psychological womb where they are somewhat the masters of their domain. By being ensconced in their purported womb, they are at peace with themselves and do not have to deal with the mundaneness, travails, and/or other problematic aspects which are part of life. They also do not have to face the more negative aspects of themselves. They can live in their idealized, fantastical world where everything is so nice, warm, and.....inviting.
Everything is......FINE.......Really....it ...IS
(10) Negative Cancers Can Be Stultifying Safe, Comfortable, Even Secure
Negative Cancers are safe, comfortable, and secure, often to the point of it being psychologically, sometimes psychically suffocating. Nothing is more desirous or more important to them than having their particular comfort level. They place an immense value on being safe and secure. They even feel that no one is ever too safe nor too secure. After all, they contend that there is always a rainy day or some type of disaster lurking around the corner. They furthermore proclaim that there is nothing and/or no one are ever safe and secure. They feel an obligation to attain as much safety, security, even comfort as possible.
They oftentimes prize security and comfort over development and growth. Even if their jobs/careers, relationships, and/or other areas of their lives are monotonous, they would rather remain in such than to take the courage and venture into those which help them to develop, grow, and/or otherwise be better people in the long run. They infinitely prefer to be safe, secure, and/or comfortable even though such is proven to be toxic to them emotionally, mentally, psychologically, and even psychically than to be what they consider to be less safe, secure, and/or comfortable when such things will be more beneficial to them emotionally, mentally, psychologically, and/or psychically. They are the type to do who revere comfort and/or security to the point of its being toxic to their well-being, even to the point of stagnation and atrophy.
Cancer is a very warm, giving, and nurturing sign. Cancers are and/or can be some of the most loving and sharing people around. They are the bulwarks of strength to themselves and others. They are psychological and psychic enhancers to those who in their immediate vicinity. However, negative Cancers are different entirely. They are very draining psychologically, even psychically. They are fearful and risk averse people. They would rather escape than to face their demons whether emotionally, mentally, and/or psychologically. They have the capacity of psychologically diminishing, even destroying other's self-esteem, particularly if the latter is perceived to be psychologically threatening to them. They are not good people to be around If they elect not to improve themselves, their toxicity will eventually destroy them.
© 2015 Grace Marguerite Williams
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