Tips on Dating an Aries Woman

Tips for Dating Ramettes (aka Aries Women)
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So You Really Want to Date an Aries Woman?

Good luck to you! If you are in pursuit of an Aries woman, get ready for the most intriguing, frustrating, satisfying, exhausting ride of your life. And this is true for both successful and unsuccessful relationships.

By the end of this page, you'll have (mostly) everything you need to know about dating an Aries woman successfully.

True to form, I'm the author of this page and I am an Aries. If you're reading this, I would happily bet $25 that you are either another Aries woman, or perhaps an Aries man, or a man of any other sign except Taurus and Virgo. Either that, or you stumbled upon this page by way of something else, and stopped out of sheer curiosity.

Why Write This Page?

I approach this purely from personal point of view. Naturally, Aries women are curious about ourselves. We're also careful observers of other people ("perceptive" describes us to a tee). I suppose just as naturally, a good 30% of my many female friends are Aries, too. And probably 50% of the women I dislike are Aries. I know a lot about Aries. We're not all candy and kisses, bounced checks (well, most of us are) or flirts. We're very complex people. But there are some things that are pretty much dead on in terms of dating.

Disclaimer: I'm not an astrologer. I'm an ARIES. :) That said, this is still going to be just as semi-reliable as everything else you've ever read about Aries women. But remember, sun sign is just one part of this massive puzzle of personality and compatibility.

For that matter I am also a Monkey on the Chinese zodiac. If you know anything about Monkeys, put that together with Aries and what do you get?

Who Are Aries Women?

Aries are born between March 21 and April 20. Depending on exactly when the birthday falls, the Aries woman is going to be more or less like the description on this page. My birthday happens to be April 4, which places me as close to true Aries as it gets. Some women are more like Tauruses (those born closer to April 20), and others are more like Pisces (those born closer to March 21).

We are associated with the RAM. What vision comes to mind when you think of a ram? Probably something unpleasant. Unfortunately, that's our sign. It comes in handy sometimes, but I believe it does us an injustice!

Aries a la Wikipedia:

As the first sign of the tropical zodiac, Aries is seasonally associated with spring and according to astrologers represents a strong, sometimes creative thrust and powerful expression of energy. The sign is governed by Mars, the planet of activity and assertiveness, which astrologers believe adds the traits of competitiveness, impulsiveness, and the instinct to act spontaneously. The Sun is also strongly associated with this sign, which it governs by exaltation. The solar-association is seen as adding expression of the ego, and the desire to make a mark as an individual. Joanna Watters (2003) defined a keyphrase for this sign as "I am".

Tips for Successfully Dating an Aries Woman

I read something that I thought was funny about Aries women. It said that you don't go out and get Aries women - they happen to you. That's probably true. Nevertheless, read on for tips on how to have a relationship with an Aries woman.

Then, read the rest of the page to really figure out how to make these tips work.


  • Don't believe everything you read about Aries women. We are even more complicated than that.
  • The space we require has very little to do with you, and almost everything to do with us. We even need space from our own kids. Don't take it personally. We are truly independent people.
  • Learn to lead. We enjoy leading but hate being forced to lead.
  • Be romantic - or at least make it a goal to learn how.
  • Be honest. We will figure you out anyway.
  • Take us out in public every once in a while.
  • Compliments cover a multitude of sins.
  • Don't flaunt money or possessions. And certainly do not equate yourself with your money.
  • We're okay with being friends first, but we can't be just friends for too long.
  • We will offer to pay for ourselves and may even require you to let us. But we do like being taken care of, too.
  • Don't buy clothing for us, especially if whatever you want to buy is very different from what we usually wear.
  • Don't point out our mistakes. We do that ourselves.
  • Be quick to forgive. For the most part, we are.

First Things First: What Aries Women Like and Dislike

Please pass the information from this page on to men you know who are interested in dating Aries women. They will need it. And most likely, they will NOT accept it in the form of astrology, because like many other aspects of the Aries' personality, this is just too out there for them. So you'll just have to pretend you discovered this some other way.

What Aries Women Like

  • Assertiveness: We are assertive, and believe me, we really, really like assertive men. Let me say this again: we really, really like assertive men. If you are a jerk, in the beginning, we will find you fascinating. But even more so, we will find the fact that we are fascinated by you fascinating (hidden critical factor #1). The more assertive you are, the better. However, we will not tolerate meanness, cruelty, rudeness, being impolite, or impatience (from you). Don't rush us unless you do it in a way that makes us feel good (like, "C'mon, baby. We're going to be late. You know you always look good anyway!")
  • Rough and Tough: Strangely, Aries women will at some point in their life find "real men" attractive. If you are a sexy carpenter, firefighter, or soldier, we will probably be interested in you purely for the fact that the work you do is physical. We are physical people attracted to physical people. And we will have vivid imaginations to go along with this.
  • Intelligence: While Aries women are incredibly open-minded and tend not to judge (we're too inwardly focused for that), we do appreciate and even idolize intelligence. What makes this point interesting is that physical attractiveness comes in a distant second to intelligence (perhaps even third or fourth). We don't have the patience for simple-minded men. If you can beat us in a debate, we will not forget that and probably obsess over that, quite possibly tricking ourselves into thinking that we are very interested in you, when in fact, we are mostly interested in the fact that you beat us at something.
  • Attention: While we are not necessarily egotistic people, Aries women are ego-centric, and there is a huge difference. We devote quite a bit of attention to ourselves and expect our partners to do the same (as in, devote quite a bit of attention to us).The more attentive you are, the higher you will score. This could also mean being aware of the times when we need our space. Learn to read us. We are so obvious - we are actually incapable of being devious unless we are physically miles and miles away from you - that we expect (logically) that you will understand us. Pay attention.

What Aries Women Dislike

  • Laziness: If you are lazy, but we generally like your other traits, Aries women will simply try to get you to not be lazy. However, be well aware that your being lazy is extremely off-putting. Example: You are incredibly tech-savvy, but you work in a hotel lobby as a doorman. Uh-uh. That will not fly with us for long.
  • Dishonesty: Aries women are natural lie detectors. So don't even try lying to us, and please do not flaunt your flair for dishonesty to us, because we're not impressed by it. We are such open books that we believe other people should be, too. After all, if we will openly admit our flaws, we expect that you can do the same. The truth is that you will find no less judgmental woman than an Aries, so your best bet is to be honest and upfront. We will either show you right away how disgusted we are with you, or we will tell you WHY it's not such a big deal. We are skilled problem-solvers and like to see things from all angles.
  • Disrespect: Yes, it's okay for you to be a real man. In fact, it's encouraged. But swearing at us in public, or expecting us to sit in the backseat, is just not going to work. We love being women - we're both feminine and feminist at the same time. We want you to pay for our meals, but we don't want you to order our food for us or tell us how to order our steaks. And please do not tell us how to dress like a woman or that we should be quieter.

Who Aries Women Are: Feminine Feminists

There really is no better way to describe our approach to love and dating. We are truly feminine feminists. We KNOW we are capable people. We can survive without you - and might have to, because it's so hard for us to find good matches in men. At the same time, we're affectionate people that need and desire to both love and admire and be loved and admired back.

I read once that Aries women are attracted to the catch. That's not necessarily true. As we get older, we are tired of chasing men. The men we chase usually run away, which makes us ill. And the men who chase us are brute idiots, which also makes us ill. We are difficult women to please. But DO NOT expect us to chase you. It will not happen. If you're interested in an Aries woman over the age of 28, you're going to have to roll up your sleeves and figure her out. She is impatience in every aspect EXCEPT the ability to keep looking for the right guy.

(1) We're So Feminine

Aries women - the ones I know, and I know a pretty decent amount - are good looking people, generally. We are not always like Victoria Beckham (an Aries woman married to a Taurus man), but we do like to feel and be attractive. We may be naturally attractive, and so not all of us wear coats of makeup or hiked up skirts.

But we do wear skirts. And we like to feel feminine and to be told we are girly. Even if we don't personally feel that way about ourselves, we certainly like to hear it from you. Why? Because that means you are watching us, and we are happy to know you are watching us.

You will probably find us in heels, and you will probably find us in jobs that are compatible with womanhood. While we might tell you we are going to serve on the front line, that will most likely never, ever happen. We are big dreamers but we're far too feminine for that. We are satisfied in knowing that in a shooting match, we will beat you. The knowledge of that is enough for us; we don't necessarily need to prove it to you.

What about sports? We play sports - we're sporty and enjoy competition. But don't be surprised if then we shower and throw on heels and a dress to go out. That's just how we roll.

Because we're feminine, we really do not appreciate feminine men unless they are strictly platonic friendships. Men who desire too much attention, show too much emotion, or are catty or gossippy will turn us off in a heartbeat. We are too busy to deal with your emotion, and most likely we are extremely emotional ourselves. We can't handle much more emotion than what we bring to the table.

(2) We're So Feminist

We believe that as women, we are simply good enough. Aries women find the stay-at-home mom thing really annoying, especially if it comes from a place of tradition rather than practicality. We believe that to be capable is to be appointed. In other words, we feel that if you are able to do something, you probably should at least attempt to do that. Nothing bugs us more than women who go to college, get married, and pop out kids without even attempting to use her skills and education.

We don't like taking a backseat to men unless it is earned. That's why we love intelligence. If you are smarter than us, this only attracts us more and more. But if you are macho and stupid, we will instantly dislike you. This is why it's difficult for us to tell at first glance who we will love. If you look manly, but you are a jackass, we will hate you. If you look like a nerd but keep us on our toes with your wit and attention, we are yours forever.

We will fall in love at first sight and fall out of love at second sight, and think nothing of it. That's just how we do things.

Aries Love Matches
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A Few Aries Love Matches and Love Disasters

I don't like compatibility charts and dialogues, but there are some matches that have about a 99% failure rate.

Aries Love Disasters

If you are Capricorn, you can forget about it. We will be interested in you because you don't appear to be interested in us and that is practically unbelievable to us. When we discover that you ARE interested in us but you are the slowest penny pinching man in the Zodiac, we will instantly realize our experiment has failed. While we will appreciate and strongly respect your loyalty, intelligence, and wit, we will actively try to figure out how we can break up with you. When we do, we will, and that will be that.

The reality is that if you are Capricorn, you will almost certainly not be interested in us beyond our looks, position, or intelligence. So this whole point is moot.

Update 12/2012: I still stand by the theory that true Capricorn men will not truly be interested in Aries women. That is not to say that they will not pursue them, for Capricorn men are extremely intelligent and know a woman's worth. Pay particular attention to age. Young Capricorn men are more willing to bend than older ones.

If you are Scorpio, please realize that the likelihood of a relationship crashing and burning is a near certainty. We will not put up with your severe possessiveness, insecurity, and tendency to pass mean, snide, or just catty remarks. We are fighters but don't like those who pick fights. We also find your attraction to vengeance irritating. Get over it, already. We love you in the bedroom, but can't get over the fact that you need us so much. And we're afraid of you a little bit, too.

If you are a Virgo, we will fail you. We are not perfect - we're probably the most likely to screw something up, actually. And we don't always wash our hands ten times a day, and we think it's funny to poke fun of your hair. We find your perfectionism annoying, even though oddly you think it will make us like you more. We're not impressed by your success, so much as your ability to be successful. So stop telling us about it. The only thing that will make this relationship last is if we get so tired, we stop fighting you. You'll only have half a woman, and that is no way to live.

Aries Love Matches

If you are a Taurus, many, many astrologers will insist that this relationship will not last. I say otherwise. Yes, you Taurus men are so slow and so freaking stubborn. You make us crazy; you drive us to insanity. However, we are interested in changing your mind. You are like a treadmill. We will never be able to outrun you but we will enjoy trying. Plus, we enjoy the fact that you like to touch us and that you are slow and sensual and sensitive sometimes. We also love the fact that you accept us the way we are, because most other signs in the Zodiac can hardly tolerate our faults. In the Taurus man, we find stability, strength, intelligence, and a subtle sexiness that drives us wild. If you can manage to pay attention to us whenever we need it, this relationship can work.

If you are Aquarius, we will probably fall head over heels in love with you, but try not to be so... up in the air? It's okay that you are sensitive, flirty, loving and accepting. But you need to remember that we're only okay with you being that way with US. I suppose Aquarius may be the only other sign who can match us in terms of inward focus. We both love to gab about ourselves, which may help this relationship succeed.

If you are a Gemini, we will make a great match - definitely as friends, and we will certainly try our fate as lovers. We find you funny, great-looking, intelligent, and courageous. We love your optimistic outlook, too. But you are duplicitous in nature, as Geminis tend to be. You are like two people in one, and most of the time we will spend trying to figure out whether or not you truly want to be with us. In the end, it may work, especially if the Aries woman you are dating is incredibly devoted to you. However, be prepared for us to be heartbroken even if we don't really know if there is a reason to be. You confuse us, and we don't like feeling confused and insecure.

Many astrologers suggest that the Aries-Sagittarius relationship has the strongest chance of success. Unfortunately, I have never had the pleasure of dating or even meeting a Sagittarius man. I'm not even sure they exist (except my son, who is a Sagittarius). Most of the men I meet and attract are Scorpios and Capricorns. So unfortunate!

Other Aries Love Matches

Because this page is my personal point of view, I really cannot speak for other Aries love matches. I have only ever dated the signs described above. And I've dated enough of the men in each of those categories to feel confident describing them that way.

For your specific match, I suggest googling it. There is a lot of pretty interesting and rather accurate information out there on love matches.

Final Thoughts: What We Offer

No matter how inwardly focused we can be, Aries women love to love. We are passionate, fiercely loyal people who care deeply for our loved ones.

We will defend you, encourage you, support you, and work very hard to make you understand how much we adore you. One of the things that make us interesting is that we are well-aware that we are independent, and that we have to work harder than others at being in relationships. So if we are with you, it's because we really want to be. We would be fine on our own, but we choose to be with you.

We are friendly women, too. Aries women tend to have many friends - not many super-close friends - but many friends in general. We are liked by both men and women. It's unnecessary to be jealous for us, because we are loyal. If we flirt, the likelihood is that we are doing it on purpose. Perhaps you need to show more attention or to notice that we are flirting and ask us to cut it out.

We get over things quickly. We have tempers. We say things we don't mean. Then we get over it. Unfortunately, we sometimes expect you to do the same, even though it's not that easy. Forgive us for that. Realize that we forgive and truly forget even the most heinous of relationship crimes (including things like cheating). We are trusting to a fault.

What are your experiences with Aries women? I'd love to hear! Feel free to comment.

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perfectperception 4 years ago from USA

I'm not an Aries but I found this interesting.


deian 4 years ago

That is a very nice description told with lots of energy. Unfortunally am I virgo and basically attract only aries. Thanks for the reading I really try to understand you woman, but sometimes you aries come over as too aggressive and I think that a real aries would say: what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. So try thses virgo, we are not all that picky and orderly and we know how to love and play.


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bizchickblogs 4 years ago from Tucson Author

Oh, good! What sign are you?


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bizchickblogs 4 years ago from Tucson Author

:) Of course. All men deserve at least a try. Even when in the back of my mind, I think, this will never work, I still go ahead and try it any way. I guess that is one of Aries' qualities, and it's one of Virgo's too!


theautumnleaves 4 years ago

This is absolutely brilliant! I had a great time laughing to myself while reading this hahahahah. I'm an Aries myself, and born in the year of the Monkey too :) I loved the phrase Feminine Feminist, couldn't agree more. Great job! :)


Nim 4 years ago

Really funny...and so much truth in it...M a female aries too...hahhahha..!


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perfectperception 4 years ago from USA

Aquarius


wiko 4 years ago

I (a Virgo and Autist) met the most wonderful, caring

woman in my life! ...An Aries! Now we're friends!

I am sooooo happy! : )

Keep the fire burnin'...


me 4 years ago

I’m an aries monkey with an extensive dating track record. So here are my two cents on the ones I dated:

- Cancer – very sensitive people and the attraction to their romantic side is almost instantaneous. They also make amazing lovers at the beginning. After about two-three years when the bonding hormones wear out, you discover that they need you much more than you need them. You start noticing their clinginess and neurotic side, and realize how much of yourself you have given them with not much in return. After breaking up with them usually you still remain friends, and years later you are still the one they call for encouragement every time they feel lonely, or are in trouble, or change jobs, which reinforces the fact that all they have been after was your energy. Water needs fire in order to get warm and alive, but fire only gets extinguished when in contact with water.

- Scorpio – could not agree more with your comments.

- Leo – this relationship is like a perpetual motion, you don’t know what makes it work, but it just goes on forever without any of you getting bored or having to spend too much energy maintaining it. They are very caring souls, larger than life characters, and best fathers ever.

- Pieces – Amazing love making. Nobody, and I mean nobody, will touch you in a more unforgettable, gentle, romantic way. And they will simply adore you. Years later, their lovemaking will still remain the standard you will judge others by. What makes this relationship break? I have no clue… probably because it is so dreamy, and because every dream has an ending. Oh, and they are profound intellectuals too.

- Aries – mixed reviews. I was unfortunate enough to date an Aries Snake, who is different from other Aries men. This one is too full of himself to pay attention to you. His needs are way more important than others’. Even in bed, I can’t say they are impressive - it’s still a “me first” attitude on their part which is extremely off-putting. But I also dated an Aries Monkey, and I must say that with this one you can finally get a feel of how amazing a truly Aries man can be – energetic, smart, uncomplicated. You just can’t escape his charms, if he wants you.


Hannah 4 years ago

I've dated a virgo male and this was completely true. Couldn't have explained our relationship better


Chandrakanth 4 years ago

I am Taurus man,just into mind(not probably heart ) of an aries girl but, if possible surely i will soon into her heart with the kindof bosting this PAGE gives me;)

This page even makes me understand her more than i did since i have been with her .

Thank you thanks a lot for this WONDERFUL PAGE


J~ 4 years ago

I'm Pisces male interested in a younger Aries female... Thanks for the compliments. So true, we are quite the dreamers! :)


Jay 3 years ago

As an aries female I could not have written a better description. This is so spot on. I'm currently chasing a very self centered Taurus, but I cannot get my mind off of him. He's stubborn and selfish, but he is also intelligent and sweet. I need him to want me back. It's a curse.


3 years ago

Lool i felt so busted when i read "If you're reading this, I would happily bet $25 that you are either another Aries woman"


3 years ago

I am an aries lady. After plenty of time wasters and failed relationships (mainly geminis, leos, cancers) I took a decision to find THE BEST match out there and true love for the lifetime - a saggitarius male for myself! So i joined dating sites and picked out only finest and fittest saggis i could find and went out with them one by one. I have to admit I fancied couple of them but didn't get much interest in return. And there was this 1 whom I did not fancy but who kept on messaging. We met up and I still didn't like him. He somehow kept txting every once in a while but not often enough to become too annoying (otherwise I would have blocked him for sure). So half a year later on a lonely evening we went for a drink again and some magic happened - he managed to win over my heart!! And now 2 years later we are still together and better than ever! Two very impulsive people - there has been plenty of occasions at the beginning when we both deleted each other numbers and almost went our separate ways but somehow I have always went back to find peace or he comes to apologize when he has been too harsh. The relationship seems to grow stronger with each day I believe it is because both signs are very opened to new acquaintances but do not actually open up their hearts that easily. But once you are in you are there forever. I have to admit I feel luckiest and happiest to have him in this unconventional relationship. He is the most attentive, generous, caring gentleman with great body and great energy. We always have the best of fun together :)


3 years ago

I am sooo glad this post is more realistic to ones that I have read tonight (which almost makes me want to avoid myself!). Yes I'm an Aries woman and I feel that most times guy's are afraid to approach me. Yet if there are brave enough to they would find that I am a really friendly person and got a great sense of humour! And yes I hate stuck up their own backsides guys and find kindness in a man to die for but he has to be a man's man. If a guys too into you I hate it, just the thought of marriage scares me, as I see my independance flushed down the tolet as he talks about having kids! Noooooooo!!! Lol But that's not saying I can't be reasoned with, if he puts a good reason why but does it in way that he respects my decision, even if it is final, he could very well turn things around in his favour, use tact guy's.

Thanks for the post, had a great laugh reading it!!


guest 3 years ago

I am also an aries monkey and everything that you say above is so true of me. Great post, well written! :)


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bizchickblogs 3 years ago from Tucson Author

Thanks everyone for the thoughtful comments! Sorry it took me so long to approve them. I really appreciate your notes.


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bizchickblogs 3 years ago from Tucson Author

Thank you!


Rauxanne 3 years ago

I am an Aries Dragon and honey.... YOU HIT IT ALL ON THE NOSE!!!! Thank you!


Dragon 3 years ago

I'm a Libra Dragon that has my heart and mind set on an Aries Monkey. Our first meeting was nothing short of explosive. She told me about all this zodiac stuff and I have to admit, I know more about myself now than I could have imagined. Not so for my knowledge of her, but I am reading all I can. I see no mention of Libra here.


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bizchickblogs 3 years ago from Tucson Author

Hi Dragon - So what I know of Libra-Aries is that they make a great pair, at least friendship and probably more. They are exactly across from each other on the Zodiac and Libra's love to bring balance when Aries leans too far to the left or right. No experience here with dating Libra's but for friendship, it's a great match. Good luck!


Dragon 3 years ago

There is that word again, the word that no guys wants to hear. Friends!! :)


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bizchickblogs 3 years ago from Tucson Author

Ha! I'm sure in your situation it's not like that! :)


King_Hermy 3 years ago

Ahh.. the brutal truth. The life of a Virgo is a struggle.


monas1418 3 years ago

OMG!! you nailed me April 14th, To the Tee!! I'm all of this independent loving, intelligent, headstrong, need my space for me no one else, very free spirited. I love Leo men and Sags, but my problem with Sags, we can only be friends nothing else they are more independent than I am, a Taurus man tried to mold me into their image of what a woman is supposed to be, not having it, Scorpio I had to leave it was either kill or be killed.. excellent hub!!


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moonlake 3 years ago from America

Interesting hub I am an Aries woman. Most of what you say on here is right. I came by your hub by accident when you accidentally put a comment on my bird hub. Voted up and interesting.


JB 3 years ago

Hi there - I came across your site by coincident - trying to crack the aries female code. Im a taurus man who's been with an aries woman for 1,5 years now - that is if we haven't split up again today. Cause that's the way it is with us. She's by far the most hysterical woman I've been with. She will be upset over nothing really - and she is so jealous that its actually a bit psycotic! And this jealousy will show itself over and over again - and without reason. But as the aries she is she wont admit it - well sometimes in a weak moment ;-). She's also iranian (I'm danish)which means that she will have it her way all the time - iranian girls are known for being very diva like and yes its true! But still - I love her - even though I think I should not. She puts some much drama into my life that it can be hard to focus on other things at times. She's also very beautiful and will attract a man faster than you will be able to blink your eye and our sex is fantastic. Us taurus men need beauty - sorry - but that's the way it is. She's also very lovely when she is balanced - her emotions is usually all over the place and she often thinks that Im cheating on her even though I can solidly prove that Im not. Its really veird believe me. Being from another culture than me she is also i a rush of being married NOW. And now has been since we've known each other for two months. I'm 40 and she's 30 so the timing should be perfect and right - right? But what puts me off is her jealousy and eternal accusations of not being true to her and her insane hot temper and being hysterical over little things. She's also the type of woman who thinks she can anything better than a man - including driving and parking. Did I mention that she bumped, scratced and even crashed her car so many times that her father who's a mechanic is losing his hair over it? But still she thinks she's so damn fly at driving and parking. Every time she does it - its always somebody else's fault and she couldn't help it ... Lol! I really like her when she is calm - then she is mature and realaxed in her thinking - but she is way too often a hot head blaiming everybody on her way - including me. Maybe she' ll grow out of that - or maybe she just need to find another man who's willing to put up with her . And by the way - all you write to describe the aries female is pretty spot on - and I just can't figure out why I'm still with her. My friends and family thinks Im crazy. Oooh the wonderful world of lov. But hey ......yes they are also very sweet ......sometimes ;-).


lady gaga 3 years ago

JB, not sure you realize but your descirption of your Aries girl is so inconherent that you can drive anyone crazy, let alone an Aries. By the way, nothing wrong with her trying to do things better than men. A sensitive and caring man would appreciate that, even if she fails. Trying to convince her that she's not as capable or worthwhile as she thinks she is can indeed and rightfully result in her not trusting you. And from there ... anything is possible - temper tantrums, jealousy, you name it - including the inevitable end to the relationship .


lady Gaga 3 years ago

Oh , and you also sound as if you're doing her a favor by dating her. Geez... I hope she doesn't know that - it may work with other signs, but with Aries women it's recipe for disaster.


3 years ago

Lady Gaga - my discription on her is spot on trust me. And what part of the the trying to be better than a man did you not get? I have absolutely no complaining when the opposite sex does the job so to speak. But as I wrote she rams her car into anything - still she is shouting that she drive better than - well the rest of what's on the street. And when she make a dent or whatever she always blaim everyone else - and gets really upset when confronted with it. It seems like you didn't actually read what I wrote. But - lets just leave it. I was trying to contribute to this thread by telling how my experience with an aries woman is - and no - I certainly don't hope - nor do I believe that most aries women are like this. But I do read many places that aries female can be really really jealous - and this one is to the point where its actually a discease. And that's a sure recipe to disaster for a relationship - no matter what sign couples are. Regards j


3 years ago

I find is so weird that i don't really come across to many aries dating aries. I am and aries male and I been talking to an aries female for about 2 months now we haven't made anything official yet but I have asked if she like me and she wants to see what things go with us. I love talking to her. It kind of makes up day worth while at times. she is able to open up to me and tell me her problems and but wants to take thinks slow. I show her I care and send her surprise flowers and I love it when things I do it puts a smile on her face because if make me happy to see her smiling but for some reason she doesn't show much affection and that really confuses me and make me think is she interested at time. I adore this women and really want things to work out between us any advice from me aries ladies please help and Aries man out lol thanks much. :)


TrueScorp 3 years ago

My lab partner is an Aries. She suggested I do the Tango as a project. No way I say and the professor thinks it's a great idea. The Aries then proceeds to inviting me over to her place to learn. Now I'm realizing she planned this successfully. After reading this blog I shall dance and leave. Seems Scorpios are always the problem according to you Aries ladies. I'll take your word for it...


April Rae 2 years ago

Great article! I love that it's written from your personal experiences. I love that you call us out by saying if you're reading this you're probably an Aries woman.. Haha, so us. Although we are a crazy bunch, I would not ever want to be any other sign.

Another horrible sign for Aries to date - CANCERS... Yuck! Aries women like things to be straight forward and dealt with while the Cancer man disappears into his shell instead of dealing with the issue proactively. That's my experience after dating 5 of them in a row!! (Glad to have broken that cycle..)

APRIL born on APRIL 13TH


Matt 2 years ago

capricorn man trying to woo an aires women . Patience isn't the word .but really think shes the one Im 35 she is 32 thanks some of what you wrote makes real sense . but also not all capricorn men are like the ones you must have been out with :-)


Jayne Lambert 2 years ago

Lol! I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this:) I agree with it for the most part. It's true we are assertive sometimes. We only get aggressive with mean hater type people! It was interesting to find out that Sagittarius is our best match for a date or life partner. We are take charge people with A lot of energy, loves excitement and fun...work hard, play hard. All in all good assessment but we're a little bit sweeter than you might think:) Sometimes the tough act you see is just an act....sometimes not:):)


Rabes 2 years ago

I think that All Aries that I know me being one myself are Very family oriented. We love ourselves as well as our family and loved ones. I seem to only attract water signs. It drives my crazy but just recently I became friends with a male Aries and we are perfect together.


HMalsbary13 2 years ago from Mesa, Az.

O'Tay, Being also a Aries/Monkey , but being an Earth Monkey. A lot of what you said with Virgo male, I have found to be true also. I had live with two different ones, at different times. I will have to say, I have found , that Virgo men are quite emotional ! What do you think ? To me, It was like they got more Estrogen. LOL

Have a Good one ;-)


8House 2 years ago

I'm Scorpio and I've personally experienced the relationship between those two signs as if they were made in heaven. Now I know that the risk of WWIII is higher than 99.9%, being with an Aries or even getting close to one.

But that doesn't make me stop from trying - Especially not, if this is my one and only dream and always was.

Nothing can defeat true love. I promise you.


GEMini 2 years ago

I am a Gemini, in love with an Aries woman born April 4th just like you. She is so amazing and I try to impress her and make her happy. I want her to feel like the luckiest and happiest woman in the world when she is with me, but the problem is she doesn't pay that much attention to me. she rarely calls or texts me and I wish she would communicate more. she frustrates me. She is currently in love with a virgo and I feel heart broken maybe I should just give up. We are a much better match for each other and always have fun together. I just wish she would see that.


Aries/Tiger female 2 years ago

Spot on!! It's interesting, I meet a lot of Virgos, Sags, and Aries. My experiences with them have been nothing short of frustration and distrust. I'm a straight shooter, despise phony and liars. You would think that these signs would be a great match. Not true in my case. I'm a very secure person and find them to be insecure and whiners. They talk a lot of smack about ppl, including their own family members and that sends a red flag for me to keep my mouth shut and not open up to them. They beat around the bush "Virgos" being the worst and can never keep a promise. Let me make it clear, I'm speaking from my experience only and not bashing all of them.


Old capricorn 2 years ago

I'm a 50 cap male. I started dating a 35 Aries. We got along right from the start. Long ittelectual conversations we exercised together ( I don't know until how competitive she was being as we ran on the treadmill ). Then I had a family trama that got really emotional for about a month. It was never the same after that. She distanced herself and then just cut me off. It was heart breaking and she seemed so indifferent about it. But I've moved on. Just got back from a date with a 43 year old. She has good energyand I like that and want that for myself. I don't want to a slow cap. So I'm willing to be open to changing. I just don't know if I keep this to myself, share it with her or just step up my game. I've read most blogs out there and they all same I'm doomed. But they don't say why. But I love a good challenge and I'm willing to break my own heart to try to succeed. One thing I did learn is keep my emotions to myself I'm already a mans man but us caps have an emotions side that normally works well with other signs. Any straight forward advise on what the problems with caps is. I'm not cheap. Intellectually and no longer emotionally engaged. Strong male persona. Don't be clingy but show a continued interest I think. That's a tough one to know what's enough but not too much. I'll send her a good morning text, one at lunch then maybe a smiley later and then in the evening. Too much?thanks for any help.


Old Cap 2 years ago

Update on my 43 year old aries. Thanks to everything I've read we are now dating. I find her full of energy and exciting. Im hoping she will help me change the boring side of myself. We are very open and honest with each other. It's nice to be with someone who is in touch with their feeling and is able to articulate them. It's also true she doesn't get suttlies or innuendo. Its much more direct conversation which is nice but takes some of the playfulness out of it for now. I'll figure out how to keep it fun. I think we have potential but it's really on me to keep her interested. She's just what I needed to to jump start what was becoming a boring life.


alma 2 years ago

I've been busted! I owe you $25. Spot on. On point. Extremely accurate. lol


Old Cap 2 years ago

43 aries woman up date

Sex. Incredible!!!! Being a cap, I can be a little slow at initiating sex ( even though I want it really bad) because I'm thinking about when is the time right to make the move. I love my aries woman. She just comes right out and says " let's go to bed" this one action takes away all the pressure I have built up in my mind. In bed, I have not had better but in her words, either has she. I am by no means a selfish lover, and take great pride, being a cap, in pleasing my fiery queen. We both know what we like and are able to relate that to the other either in words or reactions. It's also different at times. It's a blend of my slow, sensual cap passion and her exploration of the different ( which I willingly follow) and constant desire. In the end it's complete body and mind satisfaction. If you are a cap male, leave most, not all, of your need to dominate. It will pay dividends.


Ana 2 years ago

I'm an Aries, and I've had some experience with dating Aries and Aquarius men.

I've discovered that dating an Aries man is a disaster as he tends to be too temperamental for my liking. There's always a drama involved in dating an Aries man. Also, I think an Aries man is too much of na alpha male, and an Aries woman is a strong alpha female, so the two strong personalities tend to clash.

On the other hand, dating an Aquarius man is a dream come ture. In fact, I married one. They are calm, intelligent, dynamic and vitty. They also have a great ability to calm an Aries woman down when she's nervous or even histerical. An Aquarius man will give an Aries woman enough space for her to breath and to express her individuality. He will also let her feminist side bloom in the best possible way - an Aquarius man is a gentleman, and he is confident enough not to be intimidated by her individuality.


Jacob 2 years ago

so if your an early 30's humble country virgo boy who likes his hair/ dirtt work hat messed up by an aries that likes dishin it back & digs my music, humor,/caring of the lil things what's that tell yah..? / maybe I'm just a DICK../ wont work out... ??haha..


Aries/Dog 2 years ago

Oh my god this is spot on!!! I dated a cancer in high school. Then I married and divorced two other Cancers! Two! Neither worked they couldn't keep up with me on any level and were very sensitive and not motivated enough. Met a guy recently and asked him his sign, Cancer! I ran fast! I've been seeing a Virgo for about a year. We have a love hate relationship. It's super sexy but annoying all at the same time. I've never been more addicted to someone but it doesn't work. Holy cow these comments are so exact, he is frustrating to no end, he always beats around the bush as someone mentioned above. And the article is so true we can just sniff out the lies and deception. Why can't people (virgos) just be upfront and honest? Then I dated a Capricorn it felt sluggish like a slow chemistry hard to explain. But I'm currently dating a Pisces and I was weary of water signs because they always put out my fire but this one is amazing! He calms me but it's not off putting because he really supports my endeavors and energy! He's super funny which is great because I love to laugh a lot! He's very assertive as the article mentions. Hmmm so curious if this Pisces will be the right match :)


Norma ruiz 2 years ago

My birthday it's also 4th haha just had to say that =D


David 2 years ago

I am a cusp Pisces and just started dating a much younger Aries lady. I loved everything I read here. If all that has been said about Aries ladies is true, I'm in. I love independent woman who can be affectionate, are driven but not rude, enjoy competing and can win some times! We've had our third date and now are going on a fourth. I love the statement, "if she didn't want to be with you, she wouldn't be there". Right now that is really all I need to know. And to Aries/Dog, I know the type of Pisces man you mentioned. I would describe myself in the same terms. There are a few of us around. To all above, great article and feedback!


he 2 years ago

Whatttt!!! You don't know us caps...just erase what you wrote...thanks


Old Cap 23 months ago

Up date on 43 aries female

It's been four months now. We are both completely and totally in love with each other. This is the best relationship either of us has ever had. Im constant with doing the little things. I open the car door for her. I buy her flowers every week. I pay for dinner when we go out. There are times she insists and I let her. Aries are easy to read. They are usually telling you straight forward what they want. I interject my point of view if I think it's needed She sees reason and is able to adapt her point of view. We communicate very well and always come to a desire able outcome for both of us. There are times I can see she wants to take the lead and I just let her go. She is a smart, intelligent and independent woman sometimes to her own detriment. She often acts first and thinks about reprocussions when it's to late. That's where I come in. I'm a very forward thinker. So me pointing out the possibilities to her has become a benefit for her.

Our passion for each other is boundless. We have both taken our sex life to an utterly out of this world level. We are both eager to please, willing to explore and feed off of each other's pleasure. We can not get enough of each other. She has brought to my life that which I was looking for. A woman who would energize my life. For her I am a strong capable man who is caring, loving and attentive. What we have is what everybody is looking for That one person that just makes being with them so easy. It took me 50 yeas to find her. I'll do whatever it takes to keep her


Revolver 21 months ago

Guess im the first Leo.. I was approached by a gorgeous, sweet Aries.. its going good but fibding it gard to adjust to her aries ways and life style, though im willing and trying, its becoming easier day by day, we are going kn our 3rd month... thing that kinda hurts me is when she doesn't say hello for a long time, like almost a day but I get she has friends and family so i try to get over it. But i do miss her.. I have this uncanny ability to care so much, maybe even to much and i have a large heart.. anyway, just checking to see if the author still pays attention.. so far im learning a lot about her, my beloved aries. I sincerely hope we withstand the test of time, id like that.


revolver 21 months ago

^ guess not.. she abadoned ship.. :(


Shawnie 21 months ago

isn't that funny - I was born on April 4th too -


not funny.. 21 months ago

No, its not funny..


Rick 20 months ago

We are not judgmental but if you are a Capricorn or Scorpio forget about it and nothing bugs us more than stay at home moms who pop out kids. (not judgmental?) . You have to do this, you have to do that, we like real men not feminine, be assertive, we'll pay for ourselves but you have to pay, compliments cover a multitude of sins but we want you tell us we're girly even if we don't thinks so, we're impatient but don't rush us.

Ok ok, If I read this a couple years ago and actually believed it then I would definitely pass on dating an Aries woman - sound way too complicated for my hectic and busy life. Fortunately for me I didn't read it and don't believe in stereotyping people based on when they were born and am now engaged to one of your kind. Just my opinion. But was definitely a fun read!


Tamara 19 months ago

I'm an Aries lady, April 2nd, I'm an Ox Aries. Most of what you said is very accurate. I'm a Tom boy, I like getting dirty, trying new things, I've dated every sign except Aries, and Virgo. I'm a jealous vindictive girlfriend, when I feel threatened. Otherwise I'm to a tee of your experience. Thanks really enjoyed your post.


Aries 16 months ago

I'm an Aries who got out of a 10 year long relationship with a Leo. I'm now 6 months in to a relationship with a Scorpio and it's amazing! We both need space and adventure. He says I'm the best girlfriend he's ever had. It's been tough getting him to let me in, but I know I'm the same way, so it's required patience from both sides. We both work well as a team and understand the goal we work towards.


MD 15 months ago

Any advice on how to approach relationship with Leo man?

- madly in love aries woman


Ro 15 months ago

dating a cap man and he makes me so happy( I'm an Aries through and through). While he makes me crazy he is the most stable and secure man. He balances out my craziness and helps me focus. If he read this he'd probably say that I'm his silly girl. But this is the perfect discription of an Aries woman


aries women 14 months ago

Im a aries women birthday april 9 .iloved it very well spoken and the truth..im still waiting on that right sign


Spartacus 14 months ago

Hi, I am a 40's something year old Aries male, and really enjoyed the post !Well done ! :-)

A younger Aries female friend helped me discover who I really am, without even trying...and although I am NOT a quitter or schemer or cheater, after 15 years of a mostly unhappy marriage I finally decided its time to LIVE again...and be what I believe I am created for.

I've lived apart from my wife and kids (because of practical work circumstances) for about 3 years....the most trying, emotionally crushing time I've ever experienced as I miss my kids so, so , SO much. My wife wanted to separate before, but I kept on trying to make it work over and over and over again. Yet, I now realize that I've actually internally mourned and grieved for 3 years already, without knowing it.

I was not looking...I have my own faults and could've done certain things better, this I know, I am a faithful person and have litterally locked myself up for 3 years. Never even so much as TOUCHED another woman...its just not my thing.

But this younger ram woman opened my eyes and captured my heart...it was like looking in the mirror seeing my own soul...and all started innocently goofing off with a few texts on FB. I didn't realize it at the time, but I was already hooked.

The ensuing exercise consisted out of learning as much as I can about the female RAM, and it's something I have thoroughly enjoyed thus far. It made me laugh, and laugh...to read all the various articles on line from "experts" and other "gurus" and although most of it is copy and paste from other sites, there are just some undeniable traits and quirks that makes us who we are....ARIES forever !

Now that I've encountered this incredible force of nature (and many sites talking about the Aries woman will tell you that ;"I'm not sure if I should congratulate you or feel sorry for you !" ) I think its impossible for me to be happy with any less...the bar has been raised so much, and in turn I believe I have raised the bar quite a bit for her as well. There is just nothing on Gods earth I want more, and so help me I'll die trying, because she's worth it...and she needs someone like me, I just know this already.

We work for the same company, both in music....but we’re in different countries ...and so I get to see her once a month for now. This month ( a few days from now) will be the first time I see her again after making my feelings VERY clear an known, the impulsive and upfront person that I am !! hahaha So far no "bugger off's" or anything, which I suppose is good news at least? We’re going for a “night on the town” when I go visit…ooooh help me, I have no expectations as I don’t want to push too hard or corner her in any way (deal breaker !)…but man, I am excited and SCARED as hell at the same time !

She's coming out of a major storm herself, and so seems naturally cautious at the same time....and oh my, peeling that onion layer by layer is not only the most thrilling adventure yet, but also very, very intriguing and keeps me guessing...which I guess is what keeps us rams in the chase, right?

I have been out of the dating game for a looong time, I feel like kid and hope I'm not going to make a fool of myself around her. Our texts are full of fun, teasing and dare I say tension...(the good kind) but oh my...I know we Rams are supposedly easy to figure out, but THIS one is certainly playing her cards close to her chest and it drives me insane, although deliciously so at the same time !

I guess if I ever had to have a question it would be: HOW to know when not to push TOO hard with this ram girl, who by nature is also a pusher...we Aries all are. The challenge is something I thrive on, the distance makes it hard to read her at times....and she's cunningly skilled at all things we rams pride ourselves on. This is in my view as equal a partner as one could ever want or get...I just can't imagine anything less exciting and/or thrilling.

She just oozes, and I MEAN oozes everything our sign dictates and then some. She brightens my day with a few "innocent" WhatsApp texts....and the back and forth Audio notes with the laughter, audible smile while she speaks is just well....makes me want to pop like a popcorn kernel !

I so, so, SO know I can make her happy, and she me....we connected very deeply...even though I don't think she realises how much herself. She can "give" only what she can right now in our still-only-friendship of about 2 months or so....although she is giving a lot more than I think she realises...all water to my bruised and beaten down soul.

In the shortest of time she understands me more than anyone I've ever known...and the only explanation I can come up with is that it has to be that mysterious real primal instant recognition of a soul mate....it’s very hard to describe,but you just KNOW.

I'm trying to keep things light and fresh...like a smiley face pasted on her office desk tissue box (using my inside gal at the HQ office) all the way in the middle East...she seems to really like that kind of thing, so I'm very thrilled...and she still has the previous smiley I left ! (saw it in a photo of her desk space posted on FB by someone else LOL) . Is there something there to be had?? Ladies?

God I hope I'm on the right path. Lots of smiles, laughter in our banter, sometimes easy 2 hours of texting...but I usually initiate because of my what…? Well,yes...pent up impatience ! haha. These days I can’t go a day these days not hearing from her in some way or another, although I'm trying to control myself...it’s like a drug, I swear !

I am the typical ram myself, ME , I, Moi, MYSELF when it comes to wants and needs, although I think I'm one of the most unselfish people I know ! LOL (I hope) I've put myself last for so many years, putting others needs first ALWAYS, and now EVERYTHING in my screams, BREAK OUT, take what is YOURS ! ...and although it feels natural and right...because it’s the real me revealed, its still somewhat foreign territory to me.

I don’t mess around, I know what I want....THIS I want, and THIS is a lifelong keeper. I already can't imagine my life without her, and as dreamy, poetic and romatic us rams are…I’d like to think I have my head on straight and have some years and experience under my belt.

She's of course incredibly gorgeous (like most ram girls), spirited, outgoing, a cello player no less....loves kids, family, her work...SUPER independent (as I am also) everything, just perfect, perfect...the epitome and personification of the "hotness grrrl" (aka ram) whilst being so down to earth and seemingly totally unaware of the force of nature that she is...which just ADD fuel to to flames ! LOL

Oh God please help me ! LOL I try to lift her up and compliment and do what I know she’d need as best I can from aaaaall the way over here, I can see it has the desired effect, although I’m yet to know what REALLY goes on in her mind and what she feels…if ANYTHING !?

All I know is that typical friends don’t quite do what we’re doing already….or rather HOW?! we’re doing it? If that makes sense..I don’t think anyway. I feel privileged to be her friend, I;ve told her so….thanked her for being there for me knowing what I’m stil going to go through and I can see that I have touched something deep inside her…and she said so once before.

So, my final question: This “date” (just going out for fun night) we’re going to have….what should I do? It’s going to be in her city or “backyard”….so do I let her come up with whatever and will THIS perhaps give a clear indication of what could perhaps be?

Do I “handcuff” the ram in me and stop myself from grabbing this woman and kiss her till her head spins off, or will the ram inside HER dictate if there is something to be had there…and LET her take the lead. I’ve perfected the art of sharing and taking turns, for a lack of a better expression…but not so sure WHEN !?), if it ever comes to that?

Tell me oh first ladies of the Zodiac !


Taurus Male 13 months ago

Curious why you mentioned Taurus males would not be reading this….I am dating an Aries Woman- Why would I not be interested in reading this???

Where’s my 25$....


Jmp40 8 months ago

Wow! I could have written that myself! I am a 40 year old Aries woman, and also have a Sagittarius son(11/22), who is the light of my life! He is 10, and he reminds me everyday of myself, a male version of me! I still experience pain and grief from the relationship I have with my oldest, a Virgo, only daughter, who turns 21, 9/9/16, but none of this changes the fact that I would lay down my life for either on ed of them!:)


Lew0049 4 months ago

Great article so I hope you can help. I took an Aries on a date(I'm an Aquarius) and really need some insight as I am clueless about her behavior - I'll try to summarize.

She reached out to me in a dating site, we talked for about a week, opened up about parental issues we both had which we never share, and after a week I took her to dinner. Long story short: we had an unbelievable date, had dinner and drinks(although she confessed her original plan was to have a dinner/beer then drive home as she lives 30 min away), went to a bar where we had a few drinks, 100% obvious she was very into me as we were very affectionate/kissed, said she never expected 'this' and it was better than she could have ever expected, stayed at my place instead of driving home bc she was being responsible(and no we didn't do much), and took her to her car in the morning. Basicslly, it was incredibly obvious she was very attracted to me physically and intellectually(and not to sound cocky but we are both equally attractive). She seemed to have trust issues before and I made it clear I am only interested in her.... So the next night over txt I asked her if she had plans a few nights later and if she like Guns N Roses, she was like omg yes I love GNR, and so I purchased 2 tickets without asking her(Thought it would be a cool surprise). Sent her a pic of the tickets I bought and basically have not heard from her since. If we didn't know we both hit it off 100% then I wouldn't be asking what in the world?! Essentially, she went from being supper excited to saying 'Ok I'll see if I can get someone to cover for me teaching a class that night. Basically, I have no idea what's going on and why she is ignoring my basic texts? I'm by no means blowing her up but I've never seen a girl do a 180 like this and the concert is in 2 days. We are both mid 30s and I know she went thru a complicated divorce a yr ago(they have a kid). Any ideas or advice? As much as I have no desire to at all, those are pretty expensive tickets so if I don't hear something I'll try to find someone else to go. And if I wasn't 100% certain of her interest prior to dropping her off at her car then I wouldn't be on here, it's rare to click with someone you know. But I don't play games. Sorry for the lomg msg and I really hope she's not on this site to read this haha. Thanks for any insight as to her actions and what I should do.


huhuhaha 4 weeks ago

I am a lunar Aries (Tau sun), and I can relate to this 100%. I am a horse in Chinese, so you can guess how important my independence is to me. I am dating another Tau sun (Cap moon) and its been good. But I feel something is missing and his neediness annoys me. Its like that Cap u described. I am attracted to him , but also keep wondering if I should break up with him. He's a great guy and everything, but he suffocates me every once in a while, and also I hate the fact that I am emotionally stronger than him. -_-

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