Toss Loneliness Under The Bus
No one has ever captured the nuances of loneliness like Hank Williams. He had a talent for mirroring the highs and lows of a life driven by compulsions that in the end swallowed him whole.
His raw-edged twang shocks the ears of those accustomed to today’s syrupy sounds, but the man’s songs remain emotional powder kegs.
If one gives his music a fair chance, the initial negative reaction quickly turns to empathy, for his country blues force the listener to crawl up inside that empty place within.
In his classic ballad, I’m So Lonesome I Could Cry he reflects his isolation onto us and we reluctantly experience it: “Have you ever heard a robin grieve…When leaves begin to die?...That means he's lost the will to live…I'm so lonesome I could cry.”
No One Is Immune
An elusive sense of aloneness is as ordinary as hiccups. No one is immune to its creeping advance along our inner corridors. We can’t figure out the whys and wherefores of it, but the tears still come to dampen our cheeks.
We attempt to escape the sneaky feelings with pleasures and pursuits, but none of our efforts change anything.
We seem destined to struggle with a haunting hollowness that refuses to be subdued. At one time or another we have all heard a robin grieve.
All of this is true unless of course one resides in some fantasyland where denial is the main attraction. To be candid, many people prefer the comfy confines of that residential area because the action on reality lane can sometimes be overwhelming.
To be human means coming to terms with seclusion; to be human is to know a type of solitary confinement for we are each caged inside flesh and blood that segregates us from others.
Adjusting Our Perspective
We are what we are, but loneliness does not have to dominate us. In our overloaded lives governed by a ticking clock of deadlines, we have a tendency to become so self-involved we get lost. The universe can be reduced to the size of our problems and concerns; nothing else matters except me and mine.
In our egocentric cosmos, we race around like glassy-eyed mutants fixated on the urgency at hand. Maybe, just maybe those times of being alone are our heavenly Father’s attempt to get our attention.
Perhaps lonesome moments are actually gifts from God to be used to cultivate spiritual growth; a special invitation to focus our vision on an ever-expanding horizon.
A positive response to loneliness has transformational power: If we intentionally engage in an introspective evaluation, then our perspective can be adjusted and fine tuned in prayer.
We will come to appreciate the wondrous blessings to be enjoyed as we stand shoulder to shoulder on the common ground of our humanity. Making friends is one of the highest privileges we have.
Recognizing our need to be connected to others we must endeavor to examine our lives through the eyes of those ostracized by the mainstream. Loneliness can be kicked to the curb when we embrace the realization that we have a never-ending responsibility to reach out to those who are marginalized.
There is great encouragement in the knowledge that our Creator is sensitive to our dilemma. We were not brought into existence to spend our days contending with doubts and fears quarantined from others. We were created for friendship. We were created to be in relationship with God and with each other.
Sin is the debilitating factor. The reality of sin is that it destroys friendship with God and friendship with those around us.
"Come to me, all you who are
weary and burdened, and I
will give you rest. Take my
yoke upon you and learn from
me, for I am gentle and
humble in heart, and you will
find rest for your souls."
~Jesus of Nazareth~
Encourage One Another
Those of us who claim to follow Christ are without excuse. We should be continually involved in reconciliation because God’s Word assures us that the sin issue has been settled:
“For our evil consciences have been sprinkled with Christ's blood to make us clean, and our bodies have been washed with pure water. Without wavering, let us hold tightly to the hope we say we have, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds.”
I'm so lonesome I could cry. Many of our neighbors or those we pass on the street have more than a nodding acquaintance with the sting of those words. Part of what it means to “encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds” is to work at alleviating loneliness by being a friend at every turn of the road.
In doing so, we toss loneliness under the bus.
- Wanted Man
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