To Terminate or Not

This is more of a personal rant than anything. I work at a clinic and I am finding it hard to be around people that think this that terminating a pregnancy is the right thing to do. I was talking with some co-workers and they all believe that if they knew ahead of time that their baby was going to be down syndrome they would terminate it without a doubt. Although, I feel deep empathy for the parents of down syndrome children, I don't feel it is our place to make this decision of terminating the pregnancy. I met a lady who was ostracized for not having the necessary tests to determine this.

A few years back I met a couple who had a grown daughter with down syndrome. The mother told me that when she was a baby she would never cry. So she knew that something was wrong. After it was confirmed, the couple had a very hard time dealing with it especially the mother, but overtime and prayer they were stronger than ever. They said that they wouldn't want her any other way and that their daughter brought them great joy. I saw them in the grocery store one time and I guess she got away from them. They found her in the next isle on her knees with her mouth open trying to catch sugar that was pouring out of a torn bag. She was very excited as if she came across a gold mine. We all kind of laughed and she was told to come back to where the shopping cart was.

There are some things or beliefs that I am having a hard time with at work. I maybe just having a hard time with the people that believe this way. I don't understand how they just think that they are more intelligent for believing this way. They have even refused an autistic girl from getting her lab work done there. The reason was because she was scared and had a little fit afterwards. She swore and gave us the thumbs down. I totally didn't mind that this happened, maybe because I used to work with students who had special needs.

Is it just me or is everyone getting colder hearted by the day?


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aka-dj 4 years ago from Australia

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I can't really comment on the topic, since I am not around any children like this. I do know some, but rarely socialise with their families.

For a long time I was scared of them, because I had no social skills to use in relating to them. I still don't I guess, but love compels me to be gracious and kind as best I know how.

I visited a severely disabled children's home in Malaysia last year, and was almost moved to tears. These kids are 100% dependent on care, 24/7. If it were not for their carers, they would surely die. I felt such compassion for them.

They broke down a barrier in me that day.

As to your question; "Is it just me or is everyone getting colder hearted by the day?"

I recon people are getting way more self absorbed (myself included). Life, and social pressures these days seems to push us into less interaction with others. We are all too busy to build and maintain strong relationships. We all just work at getting ahead, or just get by.

Many churches I have been to in the last 5-6 years regularly announce their friendliness from the pulpit, yet, I leave there without anyone engaging me in conversation. (With the exception of a 2 min chat during the "greeting time").

If the church is like this, what hope does the world have?

I suppose my answer is "yes", but only by implication, since I don't know more than what I have experienced. (Sorry for the rant.)

Blessings. :)


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Sky321 4 years ago from Canada Author

aka-dj this was such a great comment. I can tell you are a honest and caring person. I think you are right people are getting more self absorbed and yes myself as well. It is unfortunate as well about the churches. I haven't been to church for a while now but I remember that there is nothing in place to make new comers want to come back. In the smaller churches they are a bit more welcoming. Take care and thanks for the interesting comment.


smokinchick37 4 years ago

I agree it was not always my belief that abortion should be outlawed. As of where I stand today I think it should.Medically speaking if you body feels the pregnacy should be terminated it will do so on its own. It is a soul if feel from the first beat of its heart to its last

Great article


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Sky321 4 years ago from Canada Author

Thanks for reading and the great comment smokinchick37. I will have to check out what you have been writing lately. I know I haven't been on here for awhile now.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

Since I work with children with special needs, I come across negative attitudes towards them quite often. I find that most of these attitudes come from a lack of knowledge and a fear that they or their children will "catch" whatever the disorder might be...when I have been able to educate people, they are more understanding of the children and their special needs...


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Sky321 4 years ago from Canada Author

Good point justateacher, educating does help but some people I guess don't want to be educated. Thanks for reading and keep on educating.


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happymel 4 years ago from Salt Lake City, UT

I am shocked that people still feel this way about children with downs syndrome, or any other disability for that matter. My sister in law has downs and is nothing but a blessing to us. She shows us so much about life that "normal" people do not. As for the parents faced with these decisions, if the child will be neglected or abused, I agree they shouldn't parent. However, there are always options. I hope a new job falls in to your lap soon. Sounds like a negative environment. Good luck!


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Artin2010 4 years ago from Northwestern Florida, Gulfcoast

Rest assured its not just you. A touching personal view. Thank you for sharing. Whether we like it or not, we all are in this life together and some peoples views aren't exactly what we would want to call acceptable, but life is unforgiving at best and people, well I think you know the story there! Thank you for sharing. Blessings


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Sky321 4 years ago from Canada Author

Thanks for reading and your comment happymel. I am sure that your sister in law is such a blessing to you. I am also hoping for a new job soon. Blessings


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Sky321 4 years ago from Canada Author

Aritin2010, Thank you for reading and your interesting comment. I am now following you to.


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Dave Mathews 4 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

Sister sky: You have a lot of courage to be working is such a place. It must be stressful seeing thes folks that desire to terminate the life of their yet born child. I couldn't do that.

May God be with you dear sister.


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Sky321 4 years ago from Canada Author

Hi Dave, Although the actual termination of pregnancies is not being done at the clinic I work at, the patients who are pregnant come in for blood work. That is what I actually do. I just take blood tests and process the information. What surprises me is that most doctors and clinicians all think it is just fine. Furthermore, they think that they are more intelligent for believing this way. The one lady who kept her baby I went to her home to visit her and give her some encouragement. I got to hold and feed the baby.


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einron 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario, CANADA

No child should be aborted. Life is in the hands of God and to abort is another term for "murder". Life does not belong to us. We are keepers in this world, not judges.


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jonnycomelately 4 years ago from Tasmania

Sky, I come to this Hub a bit belatedly, (again, lol), and have just a couple of thoughts. As you will probably understand, I don't have a religious leaning and try to be more practical in approach to the questions you have put.

First, I was involved with medical radiography for many years. I recall about 1975 examining a girl of about 13 or 14. She had no arms below the shoulders. Her legs were severely short. Her body was distorted - as a result of Thalidomide. At the time, I remember thinking, "Thank goodness they did not abort her!" Because out of that ugly, deformed little body came a beautiful personality, that was communicating with us "normals" with so much brightness and enthusiasm for life.

Just shows, I think, that we cannot generalize on the best way forward usually. Each situation needs the there-and-then decisions appertaining at the time. Maybe we should not be judging and condemning people for the decisions they do make, when "we" are not totally familiar with the situation. A little moral support, patience, kindness, empathy might go a long way.

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